503 | Gender Roles and Loving Your Neighbor | Sheila Gregoire

  On the episode this week: Aaron might be wearing a woman's sweater, and he’s ok with that.   Aaron talks to Jerrad Lopes. Jerrad is former clergy, a podcaster, dad, husband, author, and much more. He likes the weight of a blanket nearly to suffocation. Jerrad talks about his “first crisis” where he was fired from church before an implosion and nearly divorced, and how that set him on the path to healing a stumbling towards Jesus. He confesses that he ministered to avoid his own wounds and learned that God isn’t a business. His journey included a 14-day intensive and lots of counseling to heal and help him be part of a strong family. He now leads retreats, podcasts and walks with other men growing and healing themselves and their families.   Links: Dad Tired     NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit   Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402   If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.   The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Chaos to Order with Brandon Syler   On the episode this week: Aaron hosts solo and sounds really really similar to last week.   Aaron talks to Brandon Syler. Brandon is from Charolette where he has a wife, 3 kids, and 12 inches of snow. He shares how he was a “human doing,” going to school, getting good grades, and being a good boy. Brandon talks about how the human doing produced chaos at work, chaos at home, and chaos inside of himself. His journey of healing and growth includes story work retreats, Coach Steve, Jim Cress, reenactment, Chick-Fil-A, and starting One Bridge Experience. See local Samson Society celeb Justin’s testimony about One Bridge here.   Links: Brandon’s Email One Bridge Experience MP parts.com   Books: The E-Myth Revisited: Why Most Small Businesses Don't Work and What to Do About It, By: Michael E. Gerber Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy, By: Donald Miller     NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit   Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402   If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.   The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

On the episode this week: Aaron hosts solo and speaks of the tongue with his tongue. Aaron also updates on Nates wife’s cancer.   Nate and Aaron talk to Sheila Ray Gregoire. Sheila is a therapist, podcaster, author, researcher, and more. This week we discuss orgasms in church, sex drives, gender roles, and even spicier topics. Sheila also talks about faulty sex teaching in the church. We compare noticing, attraction, and lusting. And this controversial topic: who leads in marriage, and why? And finally, this bomb: sex is not connection! All this and way more.   Links: Bare Marriage Bare Marriage Podcast Spotify Bare Marriage Podcast Apple   Books: The Marriage You Want The Great Sex Rescue The Good Guys Guide to Great Sex The Good Girls Guide To Great Sex     NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit   Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402   If you have thoughts or questions and you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected].     The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.   For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.   The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Rebuke The Wise and They Will Be Wiser with Ben Bennett On the episode this week: Aaron doesn’t feel different. Nate leaves late and feels shades of covid. Nate and Aaron talk to returning guest Ben Bennett. Ben updates on Resolution ministries and how it continues to grow, helping others find the path to healing and freedom with the Bible and Science. He shares how to prevent burnout. Ben questions if you keep people in your life that Jesus would have walked away from. He discusses often misunderstood concepts in scripture. Other topics include forgiveness, boundaries vs. walls, God doesn’t have amnesia, milk toast, and Ned Flanders. Links: Ben Bennett Resolution Movement NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402 If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Ben Bennett Ben Bennett | Bestselling Author, Nonprofit Founder, Speaker, Consultant Ben Bennett is an internationally recognized voice helping leaders, organizations, and faith communities prevent burnout, strengthen mental health, and build cultures where people thrive–through a trauma-informed, neuroscience-based approach to transformation. https://benbennett.org/     Resolution Movement Resolution Movement | Resolution Movement There Is A Way Out https://resolutionmovement.org/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more apps like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub  

On the episode this week: Nate and Aaron offer assistance on planning your own retreats and considering firing up the 48 hours of frankness. Reach out to Aaron here for guidance. Nate and Aaron talk to Robb Kelly. Robb is a Texan, you can tell from his accent. Robb leads us in box breathing to get started. He shares how he lost everything to drugs and alcohol and died twice. There is discussion about how relapse happens weeks before the first drop of alcohol (or whatever is common to you), and there is neuroscience backing this up. Robb encourages us that we can be anything, even president, as we learn from fleas. Robb even explains epigenetic! There is also discussion on healing from the inside out. And you may be able to get a free book. Links: Robb Kelly NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402 If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Robb Kelly Recovery Group Addiction Solution - Robb Kelly Recovery Group IT’S NOT A DRINKING PROBLEM, IT’S A THINKING PROBLEM IT’S NOT A DRINKING PROBLEM, IT’S A THINKING PROBLEM DR. ROBB KELLY TONY ROBBINS GRANT CARDONE GERY BREACKA JENNY MCCARTHY JOHN MENDESH The Solution https://robbkelly.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/11/robbkelly.mp4 Traditional treatment concentrates on the alcohol and drugs which are a symptom of the underlying disease. We all know… Continue reading Addiction Solution   https://robbkelly.com/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more apps like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub  

For the 500th episode, Nate and Aaron sit down and talk with two men who were at the first Samson Society meeting in Franklin, went to the first 48 Hours of frankness, and travelled to California for the first large Samson event at the church where Aaron was a pastor. This episode makes everyone feel...old.

On the episode this week: Nate and Aaron update on the video portion of the podcast. And Aaron gives up plaid for a shirt with a story. Nate and Aaron talk to Jay Stringer. Jay joins the 4 timers club, the current most frequent guest! Jay wrote a new book entitled: Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How we Love, Heal, and Grow. Jay’s new book is a road map to understand identity and create a life you don’t want to escape from! He shares the five desires we all need to be healthy, with lots of useful tips. Other topics discussed include female muscle worship, image management, interpretation, self-sabotage, and how “story” is not intimacy and connection. Links: Desire: The Longings Inside Us and the New Science of How we Love, Heal, and Grow NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402 If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share          

On the episode this week: Nate had a no pants meeting and Aaron pimps the new app. Also, you can come to new comer meetings, again. Nate and Aaron talk to Mike Vaughn. Mike is a counselor and works for Bethesda Workshops. Bethesda is a non profit in Nashville, TN that has intensives for sex, porn, and betrayal trauma. They are also working on a workshops for teens, both online and in person. Mike is sharing his knowledge and experience to help us understand highly sensitive people (HSP). It is estimated that over 20% of the world population are high sensing. Mike uses the acrostic DOES(S) to define HSP and how to support yourself or others. HSP is a temperament, not something to be corrected or healed. Mike also reminds us that the way to recover is to do the thing which you are most afraid to do, which is being connected to others in community. Links: Highly Sensitive Person Test Bethesda  Workshops High Sensing NEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402 If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected]. The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   hsperson.com Are You Highly Sensitive? – The Highly Sensitive Person Take this test and find out if you're a Highly Sensitive Person.   Bethesda Workshops Home - Bethesda Workshops Bethesda Workshops is a Christian based sex and pornography addiction treatment organization that has helped hundreds adults and teens overcome their struggles. Aug 8th, 2023 https://bethesdaworkshops.org/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share          

On the episode this week: Nate and Aaron give updates on the new video podcast on YouTube, Instagram, and the new Samson website. Nate and Aaron talk to Tim Stein. Tim is a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sex addiction, partner betrayal, and trauma treatment. Tim is a resident of Santa Rosa, California who is also a recovering sex addict himself. He is also a podcaster and author of the book: Finding the Way Through: A Workbook for Sex and Pornography Addiction. Tim’s book helps both the addict and their partner understand one another from day one through years of healing and sobriety. He helps couples have vulnerability and intimacy to support one another by being a safe person. Tim also suggests that the addict and the betrayed investigate their own stories as they pursue healing together, or separately.   Links: Book: Finding the Way Through: A Workbook for Sex and Pornography Addiction. Willow Tree AFAR - American Foundation for Addiction ResearchNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson Summit   Send mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast/Samson House PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38402 If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Sex Addiction Recovery - Willow Tree Counseling - Santa Rosa Sex Addiction Recovery - Willow Tree Counseling - Sonoma, Marin, Napa County California https://willowtreesantarosa.com/     American Foundation for Addiction Research American Foundation for Addiction Research - Addiction is the single greatest public health crisis facing our country. We are losing a whole generation to addiction…illegal and prescription drugs, alcohol, porn, sex, gambling and the internet. https://addictionresearch.com/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share                

On the episode this week: Nate is reeling and Aaron is back from DFW and thinking about carrying a bat. Aaron also uses his sports expertise to make comparisons between t-ball and recovery discipline. Nate talks about upcoming video podcasts. Nate and Aaron talk to Nick Stumbo. Nick shares Pure Desire’s ongoing move from Oregon to Nashville, paving the way for In-N-Out Burger to move to Nashville too. JK, these moves aren’t really connected, but both are in process. Nick discusses the updated statistics from a partnered study with Barna Group called Beyond The Porn Phenomenon. Some stats are up, others down, many surprises. Nick also guides us on how to translate the info as well as helpful resources. Links: Beyond the Porn Phenomenon Study Pure DesireNEW Samson Community App (Apple store) NEW Samson Community App (Google Store) June 5-7, 2026 Italian/International Samson Retreat Oct 23-25, 2026 U.S. Samson SummitSend mail to: Pirate Monk Podcast PO BOX 1656 Columbia, TN 38472If you have thoughts or questions and you’d like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to [email protected] music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society.For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com. Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.   Pure Desire Ministries Pure Desire Ministries | Freedom & Healing A safe place to find hope and healing from compulsive sexual behavior. Christ-centered support groups, counseling, and resources for recovery. https://www.puredesire.org/beyond-porn-phenomenon     Pure Desire Ministries Pure Desire Ministries | Freedom & Healing A safe place to find hope and healing from compulsive sexual behavior. Christ-centered support groups, counseling, and resources for recovery. https://www.puredesire.org/     App Store Samson Community App - App Store Download Samson Community by Samson House on the App Store. See screenshots, ratings and reviews, user tips, and more games like Samson Community. https://apps.apple.com/us/app/samson-community/id6749582016     play.google.com Samson Society - Apps on Google Play Brotherhood & recovery hub https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.mightybell.samsonsociety&pcampaignid=web_share