The hidden cost of people pleasing. How to stop abandoning yourself in your romantic relationship with family constellation specialist Caitlyn Cook

In this powerful episode, we dive into the deep roots of people pleasing—how it shows up in romantic relationships, how it’s entangled with your family system, and why healing it isn’t just about setting boundaries… it’s about reclaiming your truth.Caitlyn shares her personal and professional journey through family constellation work and the sacred rites of passage within the Bwiti tradition.We explore:The hidden cost of people pleasing in intimacyHow inherited family dynamics shape your love patternsWhat true healing looks like when you move beyond performative self-careThe spiritual depth of Bwiti and its initiation rituals for polarity and intimacyThis conversation is for those ready to stop abandoning themselves in love.🔥 Want to go deeper?→ Apply for one of 3 limited 1:1 Discovery Calls→ Join our free Monthly Masterclass & connect with other conscious, high-performing couples💌 Modern Couples Linktree with all current offers bio.site/marcellaannabrebaum#ModernCouples #Love10x #FutureFitLove #EmotionalMastery #RelationshipHealing Caitlyn Cook is international practitioner and facilitator in mindful-somatic healing informed by Internal Family Systems. She works with people to heal trauma and knotty issues in their mind, relationships, family dynamics, se.uality and purpose. Her influences include Bwiti (an African spiritual tradition), Tantra and mindfulness. She's also a facilitator with ISTA, an international school for sacred se.ual shamanism.→ Join our free Monthly Masterclass & connect with other conscious, high-performing couples💌 ⁠Modern Couples Linktree with all current offers⁠ bio.site/marcellaannabrebaum

This episode is a masterclass in modern love, vision, and courage.Franzi & Ted Gonder are international impact entrepreneurs, high-performance coaches, and parents of three boys. They've just completed their fourth international move—and they’re still dreaming bigger.We dive into what it really takes to build a legacy together—the mindset, the rituals, the alignment it demands.Inside this episode:How to lead with vision and stay connected as lovers and parentsThe energetic codes of high-performing partnershipHow they navigate risk, family expansion, and international transitionsWhy legacy isn’t built someday—it's built in your daily decisionsThis is for any couple seeking inspiration and ready to rewire their brain, soak up new empowering beliefs and start building a love that thrives while embracing life and its different flavors to the fullest.🔥 Ready to uplevel your love and legacy?👉 Secure one of 3 limited 1:1 Discovery Calls to explore how we work with modern, visionary couples or those who want to become.👉 Join our next free Monthly Masterclass—connect, reflect, and meet Marcella (Founder, CEO, Coach @Modern Couples and TEDx Speaker)💌 ⁠Sign up to our Newsletter⁠ to find out about all upcoming events: Check out our ⁠website: www.modern-couples.com⁠Follow us on instagram @marcellaannabrebaum#ModernCouples #Love10x #FutureFitFamily #LegacyLove #HighPerformanceParenting #VisionaryPartnership #ImpactCouples

Welcome to Modern Couples—the podcast for high-performing individuals and ambitious couples who are ready to evolve love into its most powerful form.In this episode, we dive deep into the unpopular truth about modern love: P*orn is omnipresent. This episode contains no shame or judgement. The purpose is to raise awareness, speak clearly and give both - men and women language to speak up about this and potentially evolve together, surfacing the subconscious patterns and healing stronger together. Modern Couples is your antidote to traditional couples therapy. Sure we are talking about successfully navigating conflicts and how to “communicate better”—but it’s about so much more! We are raising the standards, and rewiring your brain to 10x your love. 🔥 Ready to go deeper?👉 Secure one of 3 limited 1:1 Discovery Calls to explore how we work with modern, visionary couples ready for 10x growth in love.👉 Join our next free Monthly Masterclass—connect, reflect, and meet other high-performing couples on the same path.💌 Sign up to our Newsletter to find out about all upcoming events: Check out our website: www.modern-couples.comFollow us on instagram @marcellaannabrebaum#ModernCouples #Love10x #FutureFitLove #RelationshipEvolution #ConsciousPartnership

In this episode of the Modern Couples podcast, Marcella dives deep into the world of open relating with Jerry and Nicky, an inspiring couple who are redefining relationship norms. Jerry and Nicky share their personal journey, offering a candid look at the dynamics of their non-traditional and open relationship and emphasizing the power of growth, communication, and creating a safe space built on honesty. You will gain valuable insights into:- How open relating can evolve- Practices and the crucial lessons learned along the way- The complexities and joys of open relationships, especially concerning parenting, children and community The significance of emotional awareness, skill-building, and trust in navigating non-traditional relationships Jerry and Nicky's mission is to empower others to cultivate fulfilling and resilient partnerships, and to shift the relational culture. They believe that relationships can be a path to profound transformation and growth. About the Guests:Nicky: With a background in Neuropsychology, Nicky is a certified yoga teacher and breathwork coach. She integrates ritual, women’s work, embodiment, and emotional intelligence to create spaces where individuals feel deeply seen and safe. Jerry: A facilitator of transformational spaces, Jerry specializes in breathwork, psilocybin ceremony, shadow work, and men’s work. His approach combines psychological insight with somatic awareness to create a safe environment for self-exploration and relational healing.Connect with Jerry & Nicky to deepen your conversation on open relating:Website: ⁠www.numinouslove.com⁠Instagram: @love.numinous, @jerry.a.mattox, @nicky.being

In this episode, Marcella sits down with GS Youngblood—author of The Masculine in Relationship—to explore what it truly means to embody masculine energy in today’s world, especially as an entrepreneur or ambitious man.If you're building a company, leading a team, or showing up powerfully in the world—you’ve likely mastered the art of business leadership. But what about emotional leadership in your relationship?This conversation unpacks how high-performing men can create deep, sexy, and emotionally safe partnerships without losing their edge. Together, they explore the intersection of leadership, polarity, and emotional mastery—bridging the gap between business brilliance and relational depth.🎯 For ambitious men ready to lead in love like they lead in business.📌 Chapter Guide:00:00 – Welcome to Modern Relationships02:58 – Masculine Energy in Today’s World06:14 – The Dance Between Two Strong Partners08:48 – What is Leadership in Love?13:54 – Conflict, Communication & Emotional Safety22:53 – The Need to Feel Understood24:35 – Men’s Work as a Catalyst for Growth27:28 – Heart & Clarity as Anchors30:58 – Masculine Blueprint & New Masculinity35:16 – Spirituality Meets Practicality39:20 – Sexual Leadership & Deepening Intimacy44:36 – The Journey of Erotic Evolution💌 If this episode speaks to you:→ Share it with a high-performing man in your life→ follow @marcellaannabrebaum→ To find out more about our signature program love10x, send us a message with title "love"

This episode is a transmission! I am feeling so much excitement to share it with you!It's fierce, funny, and wildly honest. In this raw and wide-ranging episode, I sit down with the iconic Dr. Christiane Northrup—author, women’s health pioneer, and spiritual firebrand. We explore what it truly means to live and love in today’s world: navigating modern medicine, trusting your body, healing the feminine, and the soul-deep journey of becoming fully yourself in and outside of relationship.We speak about:The unspoken truths about healing and relationship traumaWhy real love heals, and how to recognize itThe rise of the feminine and what wisdom we’ve lost (and can reclaim)Redefining aging, womanhood, and attractionOnline dating in your 60ies and beyond—and how to do it in styleThe cost of staying in relationships that diminish your lightThis conversation touches truth, tenderness, and trailblazing!What Dr. Northrup wants every woman to know?Don’t become another snack for a narcissist.Prioritize your self-worth, your joy, and your spiritual power.Resources mentioned: Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom by Dr. Christiane Northrup Dodging Energy VampiresGoddesses Never AgeThis one is for every modern woman—and man—on the path to 10x love and radical aliveness.Tune in. You’ll laugh. You’ll cry. You’ll walk away changed.→ If you're ready to upgrade your relationship life, check here if this is for you! The Modern Couples Archtype

In this profound and deeply moving conversation, Marcella sits down with Dr. Stuart Sovatsky, a pioneering transpersonal psychologist, tantra teacher, and relationship expert with over 50 years of experience. Together, they explore the lost wisdom of intimacy, fertility, and conscious conception, weaving in ancient tantric practices, neuroscience, and cultural perspectives on love & relating.Stuart shares powerful insights on how intimacy and reverence can transform modern relationships— this episode offers a new lens on love, embodiment, and connection with surprisingly easy practices to adapt.What You’ll Learn : The hidden power of conscious touch and how it impacts relationships.The neuroscience of love & oxytocin—how intimacy affects our brain chemistry.The forgotten masculine fertility cycle and its significance in relationships.How to rekindle passion and reverence in long-term relationships.🔹 [00:00] – Introduction to Stuart Sovatsky & his groundbreaking work in relationships and intimacy.🔹 [02:30] – A transformative tantric exercise: conscious touch and its deep impact.🔹 [10:00] – The science & spirituality of oxytocin—how love hormones shape our relationships.🔹 [20:00] – Masculine fertility cycles: what most people don’t know.🔹 [30:00] – Tribal vs. modern relationships—how cultural shifts impact love and trust.🔹 [45:00] – The power of admiration in healing conflicts & transforming relationships.🔹 [1:00:00] – Stuart’s life-changing realization: what it means to lead with love in a disconnected world.About Our Guest:Dr Stuart Sovatsky is a Princeton Academic, luminary in transpersonal psychology and tantra. His career spans over five decades, from pioneering yoga therapy in prisons to co-directing Ram Dass’ Prison Ashram Project. He has worked with over thousands of clients, blending Eastern mysticism, neuroscience, and psychotherapy to transform relationships. His books include Advanced Spiritual Intimacy and Words from the Soul.More about Stuart: https://princeton.academia.edu/StuartSovatsky, https://www.facebook.com/stuart.sovatskyConnect with Marcella & Modern Couples Coaching:✨ Instagram: @marcellaannabrebaum✨ Website: www.modern-couples.comLove10x: [email protected]

In this episode, Marcella speaks with Victoria Rose, a world-leading expert in conscious conception, pre & peri natal care and education, to explore the unseen forces shaping relationships—long before we enter the world. They dive deep into how birth imprints shape love, connection, relational patterns and focus especially on entrepreneurs, and their business lifestyle. What you'll discover: How your birth experience influences your love & business blueprint Why unresolved birth trauma can create recurring, draining relationship patterns The connection between emotional regulation, love, and leadership How reclaiming your story will transform the way you relate to yourself, others and business The power of conception energy in shaping future generations - what can you do differently as you embark on the journey of parenthood and conception.One thing to do after listening:Take 10 minutes to reflect on your own birth story and how it might have shaped the way you attach, trust, or relate in love.SPECIAL Offer in Feb-AprilI feel honored and proud to be contributing teacher in a one-of-a-kind preconception programm created and curated by Victoria Rose. Luminessence is aa 12 week journey for women, men, and (soon to be) parents with world renown authors, teachers and trailblazers. For more information click here: https://luminousbirth.earth/luminescence-2025?affiliate=marcella20 the affiliate link comes with a special bonus!For more information on Victoria and Luminous birth: @luminousbirth Get in contact with Marcella, Modern Couples and Love10x: www.modern-couples.com or @marcellaannabrebaum

In this episode Marcella speaks with language and brain coach Phil Arsenault about how to rewire your brain for improved relationships.We talk about: How brain hacking and memory optimization can improve your relationships and personal growth. The connection between learning languages and developing different relational archetypes. The science of memory, how to retain information better, and how it applies to deepening connections. How mastering memory can help in business, leadership, and love. Why storytelling is key to building strong connections and remembering crucial details about your partner. The role of intention and focus in communication—how truly seeing and hearing your partner creates emotional safety. How practicing memory techniques in daily life can enhance emotional intelligence and relationship dynamics.If you want to learn a new language fast, check out speak like a local with Phil Arsenault. https://speaklikealocal15.com/If you want to rewire your brain for love10x, Modern Couples is your home for growth.If you want to take your relationship to the next level, let’s connect! Modern Couples Coaching helps ambitious individuals and power couples develop the skills for deeper connection, emotional intelligence, and relational success.Tag along on social media and if you are ready for your coaching experience, send me a message with the title "love10x". [email protected] via https://www.instagram.com/marcellaannabrebaum/

✨ My most personal recording yet. After 60+ interviews, where I get to ask the questions, this time we change the seats. Answering the most asked questions I received in 2024. This interview clearly carries a "Girl Talk Energy", mett us there!In this episode, I take you along my reflective journey through this transformative 2024. We talk about: ✨the highs and lows of TEDx and family matters ✨ambitious life and juggling emotions ✨Bali & Portugal experience✨intentional dating ✨How solitude enhances relationships✨coregulation in a relationship ✨Human Design and relationships - entering with the correct mechanicsAND: breaking patterns with human designThank you Charlotte for spontaneously joining me for this session, so much appreciation for the way you interviewed.🎙 Are you curious about what makes some relationships flow effortlessly while others feel like an uphill battle? Are you interested in finding out how HD can help you upgrade your relationship and resolve your challenges? HD is part of our Modern Couples Coaching approach! Send me a dm with the word "upgrade" and get started on upleveling your relationship. All current offers: https://bio.site/marcellaannabrebaumhttps://www.instagram.com/marcellaannabrebaum