229. Overcome the Self-Coaching Trap: Why Action is Essential for Coach Growth

I've been surprised by how many people have questioned my decision to offer quarterly one-on-one coaching spots through 2025, suggesting I might be "going backwards" in my business. This couldn't be further from the truth.   In this episode, I share the strategic and personal reasons behind my decision to add customized one-on-one coaching back into my business model. Whether you're considering adding one-on-one coaching to supplement group programs, or you need to pivot temporarily for financial reasons, there's nothing about this that constitutes "going backwards. This episode is all about making responsive, strategic decisions that align with your values and business needs.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/236

I’m pulling back the curtain on the thoughts that plague even experienced coaches like me. From wondering why I have to work so hard, to fantasizing about quitting my business and getting a “regular” job, I’ve been there. But here’s the truth: These thoughts aren’t signs of failure or incompetence- they’re completely normal. Every coach and entrepreneur faces them at some point.   By normalizing these thoughts, we can begin to strip away the shame and guilt that often hold us back. My hope is that by the end, you’ll realize you’re not alone- and that understanding these common struggles is the first step toward overcoming them and moving forward.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/235

Have you ever felt disconnected from your creative side? That spark of imagination and self-expression that once came so naturally might be buried under years of criticism, busy schedules, and societal expectations. In this episode, I'm joined by the delightful Amanda Gold, a life coach for heart-led creative weirdos, to explore reigniting our innate creativity.   Tune in to hear some practical ways to weave creativity into your daily life, even if you only have five minutes to spare. From Amanda's ingenious "celebration drawer" filled with sensory treats to strategies for overcoming creative blocks, this conversation is your permission slip to play, create, and celebrate yourself without judgment.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/234

Are you holding yourself to an impossible standard as a coach? I've noticed a troubling pattern among coaches—this underlying belief that because they're coaches, they should somehow transcend the human experience. They think they should have all the answers, never struggle, and be immune to the very challenges they help clients navigate.   In today's episode, I'm diving into why coaches often feel they should "know better" or "be better" than they currently are. I share specific examples of how this shows up in my coaching containers and explain why embracing your humanity actually makes you a more effective coach.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/233

Have you ever noticed how when you're trying to change something about yourself, you often swing from one extreme to the other before finding balance? This fascinating pattern is what I call "the pendulum effect" in coaching. Just like a physical pendulum that swings back and forth before settling in the middle, our behaviors and beliefs often follow this same trajectory when we're working on personal growth.   The beauty of understanding this pendulum effect is that it helps normalize what can otherwise feel like an uncomfortable or even alarming process. Today, I'm sharing how to recognize this pattern in yourself and your clients, why it happens naturally, and how you can intentionally use this concept to create powerful transformations.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/232

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, "I can't believe I'm back here again" or "I should be further along by now"? This belief that we're somehow starting over or regressing in our progress is one of the most common and damaging thoughts I hear from coaches. It's a sneaky mindset trap that not only makes you feel terrible but actively prevents you from solving the very problems you're facing.   Today I'm breaking down why this belief is so harmful, what's actually happening instead, and how to shift your perspective when these thoughts arise. I'll share real examples from my clients, hypothetical scenarios you might encounter with your own clients, and even my personal experiences with this mindset trap. By the end of this episode, you'll have practical tools to recognize when you or your clients are caught in this thinking pattern and know exactly how to move forward without the weight of shame or frustration.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/231

Have you ever caught yourself feeling like you need to have all the answers as a coach? That nagging pressure to solve every client's problem with the perfect strategy can be overwhelming, even for experienced coaches.   In this episode, I address one of the most common challenges coaches face - the belief that coaching alone isn't enough and that they must be experts with solutions for every situation their clients bring to the table. Hear how this mindset can impact your coaching confidence and effectiveness, and how to shift into a more powerful coaching approach that serves both you and your clients better.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/230

I share my insights on why coaching yourself without taking action can actually hold you back. While self-coaching is a valuable tool, there comes a point where you need to step out of your comfort zone and put your skills into practice. Only by taking consistent action can you truly grow as a coach and build the business you desire.   Discover how to identify when you're stuck in a cycle of over-coaching yourself and learn practical strategies for breaking free. Whether you're a new coach or a seasoned pro, this episode will inspire you to embrace the discomfort and take bold steps forward in your coaching journey.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/229

I reveal five key traits shared by top coaches and successful business owners. You'll see how skills like curiosity, compassion, and innovation translate seamlessly from coaching sessions to running your business.   Discover how to leverage your innate coaching strengths to create a coaching business perfectly aligned with who you are. Plus, stay tuned until the end for an exciting announcement about a brand new opportunity to get the business support you need to succeed.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/228

I dive deep into the science behind why humans are not meant to learn and grow in isolation. From the social learning theory to the power of deliberate practice with feedback, there is overwhelming evidence that working with others accelerates our progress and helps us achieve mastery faster.   I explore real-world examples, fascinating research studies, and personal anecdotes that demonstrate the magic of collaboration and coaching. By the end of this episode, you'll have a newfound appreciation for the importance of seeking support and guidance on your journey to success.   Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://www.lindsaydotzlafcoaching.com/227