launching our children: joy and heartache

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send us a text via Fan Mail!As the nest is emptying, what does that look like and what does that feel like? This is a little opening up of my own heart, sharing my own experience. Looking to the positive side of things despite the sorrow that accompanies change. ContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

send us a text via Fan Mail!“Chastity means the successful integration of sexuality within the person and thus the inner unity of man in his bodily and spiritual being.” (CCC 2337)  John Paul Meenan, assistant professor of theology at Our Lady Seat of Wisdom College joins me to help deepen our understanding of the virtues of chastity, purity and modesty. We discuss guiding principles for approaching these difficult topics with the young adults in our lives.  2:05 - Defining and understanding chastity 7:31 - Sublimation of our good and God-given passions 20:11 - Invasive thoughts and proper way of dress 32:44 - Guiding young people to live a chaste life 43:01 - What does a chaste dating relationship look like? 50:39 - Reclaiming chastity IS possible 56:17 - Challenges that young people face 1:03:41 - Closing thoughts on parenting young adults Our Lady Seat of Wisdom CollegeApostolic Letter Dilecti Amici of Pope John Paul II to The Youth of the World (March 31st, 1985)Encyclical Letter Centesimus Annus of Pope John Paul II, paragraph 39 (May 1, 1991) Jason Evert - Chastity Project As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Love and Responsibility by Karol WojtylaPride and Prejudice by Jane Austen Hans Christian Anderson Fairy Tales Summa Theologiae by Saint Thomas Aquinas (The Aquinas Institute Edition) ContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

send us a text via Fan Mail!https://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/where-has-my-sweet-child-gone-the-challenge-of-holding-on-to-our-young-teenshttps://www.neufeldinstitute.org/editorials/the-counterwill-storm-making-sense-of-adolescent-resistanceContact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

send us a text via Fan Mail!Our final segment in this mini-series, Dr. Deborah and I discuss what discipline is, understanding the developmental milestones of the child and viewing discipline in the context of connection, dignity and growth in maturity.00:53 - Giving a definition to discipline 4:05 - How do we learn our lessons?5:04 - Different perspectives and the root issue 6:15 - Does pain teach you?8:27 - Trust or fear based discipline 10:37 - Take the long view 12:23 - Vulnerability and dignity in relationship  16:42 - Emotional regulation programs, do they work?   22:31 - Big discipline issues and reclaiming the relationship 25:05 - When our caring is gone // taking care of ourselves  Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website)As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor MateRest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraNourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraTry these titles on audiobook with Audible free trial here. if not carrot and stick, then WHAT (blog post)growing things (blog post) Contact On Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] Search podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.ca Shop my recommended resources Thanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast!

send us a text via Fan Mail!fret and regret, two bad dogs  building resilience, cultivating joy (blog post)   micro listing (blog post)ContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

send us a text via Fan Mail!How do we make dealing with our kids behaviour easier? Dr. Deborah and I discuss key principles for strengthening connection and compliance in our children.  1:21 - Resilience is the fruit of good development 4:32 - Tears, sadness and facing futility7:15 - Make it safe to feel 11:46 - How our brain is shaped 15:22 - Show up, care and decide 20:06 - It's a relational problem 24:43 - Avoid coercion // Come alongside the resistance 27:33 - Kids who struggle with transitions 29:54 - Who's in charge? When a child tries to take the lead40:57 - Emotions, instinct and deep capacity to care 42:25 - Working ahead of a problem Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website)As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Nourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraRest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamara Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor Matecarrot and stick: letting go (blog post) With Audible Standard you can now select one audiobook a month for only $8.99/month and enjoy a free 30-day trial. More on that here.ContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

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send us a text via Fan Mail!In this first episode we focus on nurturing and loving relationships with our children. With very practical wisdom, Dr. Deborah helps us to care, connect and lead our children with grace.  1:12 - Dr. Deborah's work 3:53 - I need to know what to do with this child! 5:04 - Email from a mom : concerns about 4.5 year old  12:02 - When parenting feels like a nightmare // always tip toeing 14:50 - How can parents take the lead better? 18:14 - What do I do with a temper tantrum? 19:14 - If you're stuck  26:13 - Staying in the moment with your child // caring 29:04 - Adapting our language to attachment 33:55 - Curiosity to connection and care 37:20 - Simple strategies to connect and build relationships Dr. Deborah MacNamara (Website) As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases.Rest, Play, Grow: Making Sense of Preschoolers (Or Anyone Who Acts Like One) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraNourished: Connection, Food and Caring for Our Kids (And Everyone Else We Love) by Dr. Deborah MacNamaraHold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers by Dr. Gordon Neufeld, Dr. Gabor MateMore podcast episodes featuring Dr. MacNamara: Rest, Play, Grow: Interview with Dr. Deborah MacNamara Nourished: an interview with Deborah MacNamara on her new book ContactOn Instagram at @make.joy.normal By email at [email protected] podcast episodes by topic www.bonnielandry.caShop my recommended resourcesThanks for listening to Make Joy Normal Podcast! 

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