Episode 109: The 6th Love Language – Self-Work

The 6th Love Language, while Gary Chapman’s five love languages—Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts, Acts of Service, and Physical Touch—have helped millions build stronger relationships, this episode reveals why none of them can truly thrive without mastering the 6th and most essential love language: Self-Work.   What Is the 6th Love Language? Love is often seen as an exchange—what we give and receive. But the 6th love language shifts the focus inward. Self-work is about becoming the best version of yourself, not for perfection’s sake, but to create space for deeper, more authentic connections. Laura and Adam challenge listeners to reflect on their patterns, asking: How do your habits and reactions impact your relationships? Who do you want to become for the people you love—and for yourself? Self-work is the quiet, transformative act of growth. It’s about healing wounds, breaking old patterns, and choosing to evolve.   Why Self-Work Is an Act of Love   Self-work isn’t just a personal journey—it’s a gift to those you care about. When you grow, you create a ripple effect that strengthens your relationships. For example: Imagine a relationship where criticism triggers defensiveness. Over time, this creates distance. Now, imagine choosing to explore why you react this way, addressing the root cause, and learning healthier responses. This process builds trust, safety, and deeper connection. Self-work says, “I love you enough to grow. I love you enough to show up as my best self.”   The Challenges of Self-Work   Growth isn’t easy. It requires courage to face uncomfortable truths and take responsibility for your actions. It’s tempting to say, “This is just who I am,” but love demands evolution.   Key challenges include:   Sitting with Discomfort: Growth often feels vulnerable and uncomfortable.   Taking Responsibility: Owning your actions without self-blame.   Breaking Patterns: Replacing old habits with healthier ones.   Despite the challenges, the rewards are profound: a love that’s rooted, expansive, and unshakable.   Practical Steps to Embrace the 6th Love   Language Ready to start your self-work journey? Here are actionable steps to guide you: Practice Self-Awareness: Notice your triggers and patterns. Ask, “What am I feeling, and why?” Take Responsibility: Recognize where you have the power to change. Avoid self-blame; focus on growth. Seek Support: Growth doesn’t have to be a solo journey. Lean on therapy, trusted friends, or supportive communities. Celebrate Progress: Acknowledge small wins. Be gentle with yourself when you stumble. Communicate with Love: Share your journey with loved ones. Let them know your growth is for them, too.   The Beauty of the 6th Love Language Self-work isn’t about fixing yourself or striving for perfection. It’s about embracing the messy, beautiful process of growth. It’s about loving yourself enough to heal and loving others enough to share that healing.   When you choose self-work, you’re choosing: To break old patterns. To create new possibilities. To build relationships that thrive—not just survive. Whether you’re just beginning or well along your self-work journey, remember: You’re not alone. The love you’re cultivating—for yourself and others—is worth every step.   Thank you for joining us on this transformative episode of Magic Seeds. Let’s continue to grow together. For more insights, visit: Awakenings Online Awakenings Health

In this episode of The Magic Seed, we explore the transformative power of silence and boredom, likening it to the stillness of savasana in yoga or the discomfort of holding your breath underwater until you find the "magic portal" to breathe. Hosts, Laura & Adam share personal stories of how embracing boredom led to incredible creativity and growth in her family. From her children writing stories and lyrics to reading novels in record time, Laura reflects on how waiting out the discomfort of boredom can lead to magical transformations—for kids and parents alike. They also dive into practical strategies for navigating a non-outsourced summer with kids, offering a treasure trove of ideas for independent activities, creative projects, and family adventures. Whether you're looking for ways to keep your kids engaged, foster their independence, or simply survive the summer without camps, this episode is packed with inspiration and actionable tips.   Key Takeaways   The Magic of Boredom: Boredom is not the enemy; it’s the birthplace of creativity and transformation. Laura shares how her kids moved from fidgety and ornery to inspired and productive, creating stories, lyrics, and art. Parents, too, must embrace the discomfort of their kids’ boredom to witness the magic unfold.   Practical Summer Strategies:   Daily Frameworks: Chore lists, bead reward systems, and mini-goals to create structure without rigidity. Independent   Activities: Ideas like writing stories, building forts, or creating art projects to keep kids engaged.   Outdoor Fun: Nature scavenger hunts, backyard obstacle courses, and water balloon fights for active play.   Creative Challenges: DIY workshops, science experiments, and journaling to spark imagination.   Family Adventures: Explore local gems like Marbles Kids Museum, Pullen Park, and Dorothea Dix Park in Raleigh. Plan quick weekend getaways to Wrightsville Beach, Asheville, or Jordan Lake for a change of scenery.   Mindset Shift: A non-outsourced summer is an opportunity for connection, creativity, and growth—not just for kids, but for parents too. Embrace the slower pace and celebrate the small wins, like a child’s first story or a family bike ride.   If you enjoyed this episode, share it with a fellow parent who might need some summer inspiration. Don’t forget to subscribe to https://awakeningsonline.net/  and https://awakeningshealth.com/  

Do you find yourself holding on too tightly or stepping back too much in life? This episode of Magic Seeds dives into the delicate balance between taking control and letting go, a skill that's essential for parenting, relationships, the workplace, and beyond. We’ll explore red flags that signal you might be over-controlling or too hands-off, practical advice for finding a healthy middle ground, and inspiring examples to help you reflect and grow.   A standout moment features Laura’s analogy of using a baby or puppy pen. She shares how setting up a defined boundary, filling it with designated toys or items, and giving the baby or puppy the freedom to play within that space fosters growth. By later reflecting on how the environment served its purpose, you can tweak the setup for even better results next time. This example beautifully captures the trifecta of control, trust, and reflection for continuous growth. Whether you’re navigating parenthood, your personal relationships, or professional challenges, this episode is here to plant seeds of wisdom and help you flow with life’s highs and lows.   Key Topics Knowing When You’re Over-Controlling: Red flags like exhaustion, perfectionism, and micromanagement in parenting, relationships, and at work.   Parenting Insight with Laura’s Pen Example: The power of controlling the environment but giving freedom within boundaries for true growth.   The Balance of Trust in Relationships: How to avoid crossing boundaries while fostering love and collaboration.   Workplace Wisdom: Tips to shift from micromanaging to empowering others through delegation and trust.   Practical Takeaways : Strategies to reflect on your approach and refine your balance of control versus surrender. \   Key Takeaways Control the Environment, Not the Choices - Laura’s baby/puppy pen example highlights the importance of setting clear but flexible boundaries. Think of boundaries as the pen and trust as the act of stepping back to observe growth.   Reflection Leads to Growth - Afterward, take a moment to evaluate the experience. What worked well? What didn’t? Use those insights to set up an even better “pen” next time.   Trust Builds Resilience - Whether it’s your kids, partner, or colleagues, trusting others to explore their freedom within defined boundaries helps them learn, contribute, and grow independently.   If this episode spoke to you, share it with a friend or family member who might need encouragement to find their balance between control and surrender. Don’t forget to follow Magic Seeds on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or Google Play, and leave a review to help others discover the show. Also, be sure to check out Awakeningsonline.net and Awakeningshealth.com for resources to support your personal growth and wellness journey.   Thank you for tuning in and planting seeds of growth with us!

Welcome to the Magic Seeds podcast! Life’s challenges often feel like endings, but they can also be opportunities for growth. This episode explores how to transform setbacks into stepping stones, using a unique framework inspired by the Chinese medical seasons.   Key Themes   Personal Story of Resilience: Hear about the emotional lessons learned from starting and closing a nonprofit and the courage it took to rebuild. Seasons of Transformation Framework: Harvest: Reflect on what your setbacks have taught you. Autumn: Release guilt and limiting beliefs. Winter: Find clarity through stillness and introspection. Spring: Set a goal and take one bold step forward. Summer: Celebrate your growth and live authentically.   Actionable Takeaways   Use a journaling prompt to uncover lessons from your experiences. Try a visualization exercise to release negativity and make room for growth. Start your renewal journey with one small yet impactful action today.   Don’t forget to check out AwakeningsOnline.net and AwakeningsHealth.com for more tools and resources to support your personal growth journey! Tune in, reflect, and plant your own magic seeds for change.

Welcome back to another insightful and uplifting episode of Magic Seeds! This week, Laura and Adam explore the powerful connection between what you eat and how you feel in their episode, “Food for Mood.” Have you ever noticed how a sugary snack can give you a quick high but leave you feeling drained, cranky, or foggy soon after? It’s not just in your head. What we eat affects our emotional and mental well-being just as much as our physical health. This episode dives into how simple changes to your diet can boost your mood, balance your energy, and nourish your mind. Tune in as Laura and Adam break down the science behind the food-mood connection, share real-life examples, and give you practical tips for choosing foods that support your mental health without sacrificing satisfaction. Whether you’re at home, on the go, or taking time for yourself, you’ll walk away from this episode feeling inspired and equipped to make small, positive changes to your diet that have a big impact on your life.   What You’ll Learn in This Episode   Introduction Laura and Adam set the stage for the day’s topic and discuss how food plays a bigger role in mental health than most of us realize. The Science of Food and Mood. The gut-brain connection explained. How serotonin, a mood-boosting brain chemical, is largely produced in the gut. The critical role of nutrients like omega-3s, magnesium, and probiotics in emotional balance. Healthy Swaps for Common Cravings Laura and Adam offer simple, accessible alternatives to tackle those everyday cravings, including late-night comfort foods and mid-afternoon energy slumps.   Actionable Tips to Improve Your Food-Mood Balance   Start small with manageable changes, like adding nutrient-dense ingredients to your meals. The importance of hydration and “eating the rainbow.” Why meal prep can save your mood and reduce stress.   Closing Thoughts   A reminder of the power of food to nourish both body and mind. Laura and Adam leave you with an empowering message to take small but meaningful steps toward healthier food choices.   Visit https://awakeningsonline.net/ https://awakeningshealth.com/  for more information.

Parenting transforms us in countless ways, but what happens when dads begin to feel like the "odd men out"?   In this heartfelt discussion, Adam and Laura sit down to explore the emotional and relational challenges that can arise after the birth of a second child. Inspired by a recent conversation Adam had with a group of dads, they take a deep and honest look at how partners can sometimes grow distant as family dynamics change.   Together, they unpack the difficulties of feeling unseen, navigating the complexities of marriage, parenting, and finances, and finding ways to reconnect amidst exhaustion and shifting priorities. For the first time, the Magic Seed is not about a perfect answer but about the power of open communication, conflict resolution, and the shared desire to rebuild connection.   Join Adam and Laura for a raw, meaningful, and hopeful discussion about the realities of parenthood and how to nurture love and partnership through the ups and downs of family life. Tune in now to be part of this honest and inspiring conversation.   For more information, click https://awakeningsonline.net/ and https://awakeningshealth.com/

Welcome to another empowering episode of Magic Seeds! This week, we’re flipping the script on weaknesses and learning how to turn them into strengths. We all have areas where we struggle, but what if we could see those weaknesses as opportunities for growth? Join us as we deep-dive into self-improvement, face our vulnerabilities, and arm ourselves with tools to transform.   Owning Your Growth Journey Recognizing our weaknesses as the first step toward growth. Why facing flaws isn’t about shame but empowerment. Facing Pain Points The discomfort of confronting our weaknesses – vulnerable, raw, and sometimes cringeworthy. Common hurdles we all deal with when it comes to self-improvement: Reminder: Baby steps lead to big leaps. Keep going! Laughing at Self-Sabotage Why learning to laugh at ourselves is key to growth. Instead of dwelling on missteps, refocus on productive habits. Strategies to Turn Weakness into Strength Actionable tools to start working on your weaknesses today: Accept and Acknowledge: Leverage Strengths: Break It Down: Systems Over Goals: Find Accountability: Celebrate Progress: Mindset Practices:   Inspiring Stories   Host shares a personal story about fearing vulnerability yet taking small steps toward self-improvement.   A reminder that everyone has their own hurdles, but we all have the power to rewrite the narrative.   If this episode resonated with you, we’d love to hear from you! Share your thoughts, DM us, or spark a conversation with a friend who could use a little encouragement on their self-improvement journey.   Stay connected with us for more episodes and resources: Awakenings Online Awakenings Health   Remember, every step you take toward self-growth matters. You’ve got this! See you next time.

Welcome to Magic Seeds, where we provide a reliable roadmap, guided practices, live coaching, and powerful tools to achieve mental clarity, emotional balance, and physical vitality while feeling a sense of peace and happiness. This week, we’re exploring the fine line between building healthy boundaries and constructing walls that isolate us. While boundaries are essential for protecting your peace and defining how you want to be treated, they can sometimes unintentionally evolve into walls built out of fear, hurt, or ego. When that happens, we risk losing connection, growth, and love.   Episode Highlights:   The Pain of Misunderstood Boundaries   Many of us have experienced pain that leads us to retreat. But are we truly protecting ourselves, or are we letting ego and fear isolate us? Learn how to recognize the difference between self-care and self-isolation.   Boundaries vs. Walls   Healthy boundaries are flexible, empowering, and rooted in self-respect. Walls, in contrast, are rigid, defensive, and fear-driven. Discover how to identify whether you're building bridges or fortresses in your relationships.   Actionable Takeaways to Build Healthy Boundaries:   Check Your Intention – Are your boundaries rooted in love for yourself or fear of others?   Communicate with Clarity – Boundaries speak; walls block. Foster connection while protecting your peace.   Allow for Flexibility – Boundaries can evolve as your needs grow.   Practice Receiving – Open yourself to help, compliments, and trust to reconnect with others.   Final Thoughts:   Healthy boundaries are not about shutting people out; they’re about creating the space you need to thrive while maintaining meaningful connections. Take time this week to reflect on whether you’re building boundaries or walls, and start making small, intentional shifts toward more balanced, fulfilling relationships.   Join the Conversation:   If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need it too! Connect with us on social media or explore more resources https://awakeningsonline.net/ https://awakeningshealth.com/   Remember, you're worthy of love, respect, and connection. Thank you for tuning in to Magic Seeds. See you next week!

Join hosts Laura and Dr. Adam Gries in this heartfelt and invigorating episode of Magic Seeds, where they explore one of the most personal and universal experiences we face: the loss of identity and the process of rediscovering ourselves. Whether it’s navigating life transitions, overcoming unexpected challenges, or finding new purpose in an unfamiliar chapter, this episode is filled with compassion, wisdom, and actionable advice to help you reclaim your sense of self.   What to Expect in This Episode   A Story of Strength and Rediscovery at 70 Laura and Dr. Adam share the inspiring story of a vibrant woman in her 70s who, after separating from her husband and losing him shortly after, found herself facing life alone for the first time in decades. With a grown son living far away, she bravely began the process of rebuilding and redefining who she is. Through small yet intentional steps like reconnecting with friends and exploring new passions, she reminds us all that it’s never too late to start again.   Laura’s Personal Journey Laura opens up about her own experiences with identity loss. She shares her story of resilience after a devastating car accident left her paralyzed at 18. She speaks about her years-long process of rehab and rediscovery, as well as the existential crisis she faced transitioning from a full-time, stay-at-home mom to finding new purpose as her children grew older. Her story serves as a beacon of hope for anyone navigating uncertain times.   Actionable Tips to Start Rediscovering Purpose This episode doesn’t just leave you inspired; it gives you the tools to take action. Laura and Dr. Adam discuss practical steps like reconnecting with yourself, trying new things, and leaning on support systems to guide you toward joy and fulfillment. They also share how small, consistent actions like practicing gratitude can help lay the foundation for a renewed sense of identity.   Key Takeaways Rediscovery isn’t limited by age or circumstance. It’s never too late to reinvent yourself. Identity is fluid and evolves with life’s changes. You’re not defined by one role or phase of your life.   Healing and moving forward happen one small, brave step at a time. Whether you’re grappling with a loss of identity in your 20s, 40s, 70s, or beyond, this episode is filled with encouragement and gems of wisdom to uplift you and help you reclaim your spark.   Release Details Finding Yourself Again will be available soon on Apple, Google Play, and Spotify. Stay tuned for its release in just a few weeks and make sure to subscribe so you don’t miss this beautifully inspiring conversation.   Connect with us Do you have your own story of rediscovery? We’d love to hear from you! Leave a comment or reach out to us on social media. Tune in to Begin Again Take 45 minutes for yourself and listen to this heartfelt episode that will remind you that wherever you are in your life, you’re not alone, and your best days are still ahead.   Subscribe now and don’t miss future episodes of Magic Seeds – where we plant tiny seeds of inspiration and watch them grow into beautiful transformations. Don’t forget to check out our online and local programs! https://awakeningsonline.net/ and https://awakeningshealth.com/  

This milestone episode of Magic Seeds is here, and it’s one you won’t want to miss! Join Laura and Dr. Adam Gries as they celebrate their 100th episode with heartfelt reflections on the podcast’s beginnings, their shared mission, and the incredible community that has grown around their work. For years, Magic Seeds has been your trusted source for life guidance, offering inspiration and tools to live a healthier, happier, and more balanced life through every season of change.   What to Expect in This Episode   A Look Back at the Beginning Laura and Dr. Gries reminisce about the origins of Magic Seeds, sharing what inspired them to create a platform that delivers meaningful guidance to people around the world. They discuss their passion for coaching and counseling individuals in life skills and how the podcast became a natural extension of their professional mission.   Why Magic Seeds? Learn why the podcast is rooted in the timeless wisdom of Chinese medicine and how its seasonal framework reflects the cycles of life. From harvesting lessons to celebrating new beginnings, the podcast offers a roadmap for personal growth that resonates no matter where you are on your life’s path.   Behind the Mission Laura and Dr. Gries are more than just podcast hosts; they’re committed professionals who guide others toward physical, mental, emotional, and social well-being. They discuss how Magic Seeds has become a powerful tool for delivering simple yet profound messages of hope, resilience, and joy.   A Season-by-Season Evolution This episode revisits the podcast’s unique approach to growth and transformation, reflecting the wisdom found in the seasons of the year: Harvest: Take stock of your life, your achievements, and the areas needing change or renewal. Fall: Release what no longer serves you, shedding old habits and thoughts to make room for new growth. Winter: Sit in the stillness, reflect in the quiet, and wait for the spark of inspiration to ignite within. Spring: Plant the seeds of hope and renewal, fostering fresh ideas and possibilities. Summer: Celebrate your growth, your achievements, and the fruits of your hard work and resilience.   Key Takeaways Reflection is a powerful tool for transformation; taking stock of where you’ve been helps pave the way for where you want to go. Personal growth doesn’t happen in a straight line. It’s cyclical, much like the seasons, and each phase has its purpose. Building a joyful, balanced life is possible with the right tools, mindset, and support. Release Details This special 100th episode will be available in just a couple of weeks on Apple, Google Play, and Spotify! Subscribe now so you don’t miss this celebration of growth, gratitude, and the transformative power of life’s seasons.   Connect With Us Have you been inspired by Magic Seeds? We’d love to hear your favorite moments, episodes, or personal growth stories that were sparked by tuning in. Join the conversation on social media or drop us a comment where you listen to podcasts!   A Celebration of Community and Transformation This isn’t just a milestone for the podcast; it’s a moment to honor the incredible listeners who have joined us on this beautiful, messy, and rewarding adventure. Thank you for being part of this community, and here’s to planting even more seeds of inspiration for the next 100 episodes.   Subscribe to Magic Seeds today and keep growing through life’s seasons with wisdom, grace, and joy. Don’t forget to check out our online and local programs! https://awakeningsonline.net/ and https://awakeningshealth.com/