20: What every husband and wife must do after the inevitable conflict happens

How is the immense amount of stuff you need to get done every day impacting your marriage? How much quality time do you and your partner actually get to spend together? Research shows that most couples spend and average of 3-5 hours together per week, and even that time is mostly taken by practicalities or filled with switching-off time in front of TV to fight exhaustion. To-do lists are part of everyday married life, there’s no escaping them. But there’s a different way to go about making a to-do list that can transform the day from feeling too full and exhausting to doable and fulfilling. And most of all by using this method we share with you in this episode, your to-do list becomes easy to go through, giving you space for quality time with your partner. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.If you liked this episode, go straight to episode 10👇3 steps to generate deeper intimacy couples must knowEpisode 10 YouTube Follow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3. #marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Despite how much husband and wife try to avoid conflict by improving communication, fights happen. We can repair. We can say sorry. We can tell the other what they should do better next time. None of it will truly help to make your marriage a truly exceptional one. When inevitable conflicts happen in relationship they brings more and more pain unless you do this...In this episode we share the proven to work process we apply after a conflict happens, transforming what could be a failure in marriage into a precious learning opportunity that fuels more connection and emotional intimacy. Following these 3 principles will turn the post-conflict debrief from a long, exhausting process to a simple conversation you can have over a cup of coffee together. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship. If you liked this episode go straight to episode 6👇The #1 Tip to Stop Fighting in Relationship - This Will Make All the DifferenceEpisode 6 YouTubeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcastTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

How does the conditioning on being “the perfect wife” women have received impact your relationship? There are 3 things women are told they need to do in order to be the “perfect wife” and all 3 are lies!The impact of this conditioning that is fed to every couple through media, movies and society at large is that most wives are deeply unhappy in their marriage. They shrink to fit the box of the “perfect wife” suppressing and repressing their capacity to thrive within the relationship and in life. A wife that tries consciously or unconsciously to limit herself to these 3 things, will always feel unseen and unsatisfied in her marriage. In this episode we challenge these 3 lies and offer 3 empowering traits wives can cultivate instead to transform their marriage and feel happy. Any husband listening in, there’s one thing you can do to support your wife in this. Listen till the end to find out. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Related episodes:Episode 18 The 3 lies husbands have been told about married lifeEpisode 18 YouTubeEpisode 5 The One Thing Women REALLY Want in Marriage – This Will Surprise YouEpisode 5 YouTubeFollow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcastTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlife

Do you want to know why most husbands feel trapped in their marriage? Because they’ve been lied to… There are 3 fundamental lies every husband has been told about married life and about how to be the "perfect husband". Society and conditioning through generations tell men that there are 3 things they need to do to perform well and be a “good husband”. As a result of these lies most husbands feel trapped and most wives feel unfulfilled within their relationship. Seeking to escape the marriage is not always the solution. In this episode we debunk these lies and offer a solution that will support both husband and wife to transform their relationship, feeling satisfied and fulfilled again. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Also listen to:Episode 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode 12 YouTube Follow us on Instagram @he.wants.she.wants.podcast#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage #everydaymarriedlifeTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.

Do you want to know why autopilot marriage happens despite your best intentions? Because in relationship good intentions are not enough.With never-ending to-do lists, work, parenting, commitments with in-laws and more on the table in everyday life’s chaos, your relationship suffers. For husband and wife it’s easy to get caught in the day-to-day routine and forget to prioritise each other. It’s no one’s fault and yet it has a massive impact on emotional connection, intimacy and communication which becomes less and less fulfilling. If you don’t feel seen and prioritised in your relationship, it’s not because of lack of good intentions by your partner, but those intentions may not be enough. You may feel frustrated and think you need to hack most of what you do every day to have the time to dedicate to your marriage, but that’s not realistically possible in most cases. In this episode we share the #1 thing that when implemented will transform your intentionality in an actionable step, bringing connection back on in your relationship, without having to stop doing everything else that is important in your to-do list. Chapters:00:00:00 Good intentions are simply not enough in marriage00:03:26 Where your attention goes matters00:06:32 The cost of distraction in relationship00:10:10 Do this to reclaim your focus - your partner will love it00:13:26 This will make reclaiming your focus easier00:19:55 This is the best way to stay connected through the day00:23:55 How to start a new moment differently00:27:17 Transform your marriage doing this together Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Related episodes:Episode 10 - 3 steps to generate deeper intimacy couples must knowEpisode 10 YouTube#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriageTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.

Do you want to know why 85% of stonewalling happens in men? Research shows that between husband and wife the husband is more likely to fall into the pattern of stonewalling. With that said, research also shows that when the wife stonewalls it’s a real red flag signalling the risk of divorce. Stonewalling often follows when there’s a pattern of contempt in communication. And although in some cases stonewalling can be used intentionally as a manipulation tactic within abusive relationships, this is not what is actually happening in most cases. But whatever the reason for stonewalling, this emotional shutdown always communicates a message of rejection to your partner, and this is why in this episode we share how couples can consciously communicate to eradicate stonewalling as a pattern and transform the marriage together. By following the four steps we share in this episode you will be able to catch the partner before it escalates in conflict and turn the situation around so that no partner is feeling rejected or hurt anymore.  Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Other episodes in this series:Ep 11 The 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act now — Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Episode 11 YouTubeEp 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode12 YouTubeEp 13 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3Episode 13 YouTubeEp 15 3 phases to eradicate contempt in marriage – couples not doing this risk divorce – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 4Episode 15 YouTubeTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage

Do you want to know why most marriages fails?  The most common answers could be infidelity, financial issues, lack of love, having picked the wrong partner and so on. And yet most of the most common reasons for divorce are the symptoms of an underlying pattern that erodes the relationship and that is contempt. When husband and wife have left the cycle of defensiveness and criticism go on unchecked, this leads to a building of contempt which is the greatest predictor of divorce. The good news is, it’s never too late to turn your relationship around by transforming your communication and rebuild connection. In this episode we share the antidote to contempt so that you and your partner can transform your marriage together.Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Chapters:00:00:00 Contempt: the number 1 predictor of divorce00:05:14 The most potent antidote to contempt00:08:11 Phase 1: see the perfection in the present00:13:34 Skilfully reclaim your past together00:20:20 Reclaim the potential for your marriage's future00:25:30 Listen to the full marriage Apocalypse SeriesRelated episodes:Episode 11 The 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act now — Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Episode 11 YouTube videoEpisode 12 How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Episode 12 YouTube videoEpisode 13 4 steps to avoid defensiveness from hurting communication in your relationship – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 3Episode 13 YouTube VideoTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage

Do you want to know why most marriages fail to keep the flames of intimacy and connection going? Because life gets busy and most couples forget to fuel the flames, so those flames slowly die. And with them so do emotional intimacy, sexual connection and overall happiness in marriage. Spring renewal is not all about spring cleaning your house and refreshing your wardrobe. It can also be a very effective way to spark life back in your marriage and bring that connection back online. In this episode we share 5 relationship hacks to help you fuel the flames in your marriage. This is an opportunity for husband and wife to get together and transform their relationship this spring! This is your time to bloom together!Chapters: 00:00:00 Harness spring energy for deeper couple connection00:05:20 Celebrate your shared victories00:07:40 Fuel this to fuel the flame00:12:46 Remove what drains your energy00:16:04 The best way to make it happen00:18:57 The environment is important tooRelated episode:Ep4: If your partner ignores your dreams use these 3 stepsEp 4 YouTube videoShare this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together! If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching #consciousmarriage

Do you want to know why most communications in relationship end up with a fight? This happens when unchecked criticism and defensiveness rule interactions with your partner. What comes first? Does feeling always criticised by your partner cause you to be defensive? Or is your default defensiveness that causes your partner to up the volume of their criticism? The answer is: both. Criticism and defensiveness will bring more and more conflict between husband and wife to the point of every communication ending with a fight or stonewalling. In this episode we are sharing the 4 steps that will help any couple to transform the way they communicate, eradicating the need to get defensive and creating more emotional intimacy and connection.Chapters: 00:00:00 Understanding defensiveness00:01:34 How defensiveness impacts communications00:04:51 Childhood trauma and the cycle of criticism00:09:25 The 4 steps that will change everything00:14:49 The transformative power of owning your inner state and resistance00:18:50 Using mirroring and labelling to disarm resistance00:29:19 Implement these actions to achieve change00:36:58 Empower your marriage with these communication tools Related episodes:Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Ep 11 You Tube videoEp 12: How to stop toxic criticism from ruining your marriage – Marriage Apocalypse Series Part 2Ep 12 YouTube videoTrack 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching

How is criticism impacting your relationship? Has feedback become a game of who shouts the loudest in your marriage? Do you feel ignored in your relationship when you give feedback? And do you feel in turn constantly criticised when your partner speaks to you? The thing is, your partner is probably ignoring your feedback, leading you to turn up the volume and falling into criticism. And you might be doing the same too. And this table tennis of criticism between husband and wife puts a real strain in communication. Common marriage advice is to transform toxic criticism into constructive criticism. But this only gets you so far. What we know is that all criticism is toxic and that there's a different, more effective way to transform communication in your relationship so that instead of feeling unseen you both get to be listened. No need to shout anymore! In this episode we offer simple and clear examples of how to transform toxic criticism into constructive feedback that truly lands, forever transforming your relationship from a war of unmet needs into a happy marriage. Share this episode with your partner and unlock even better results together!If you enjoyed this episode follow, subscribe and leave a review. It truly helps us reaching more listeners that, just like you, want to unlock the full potential in long-term relationship.Chapters:00:00:00 is all criticism toxic?00:04:25 Transforming Explicit criticism with "A part of me..."00:08:26 Overcoming "Always" and "Never" as unhelpful way of communicating00:13:05 Stop comparing: communicate your needs directly00:18:48 Eliminate "Should" statements for deeper connection00:25:11 The damage of sarcasm and hidden humour in relationship00:27:48 The formula to transform communication in your marriageRelated episode: Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1YouTube video Ep11: 4 traits that will doom your marriage if you don’t act – Marriage Apocalypse Series, Part 1Track 1253823– Monetization ID: 9HWIVQATIQUJECP3.#marriagepodcast #relationshipadvise #bethehusbandshebragsabout #emotionalintimacy #intimacy #husbandandwife #relatioshipcoaching