Why did we stop hanging out?

We’ve heard a lot about the loneliness epidemic in this country, but it might be worth asking: Do we even like spending time with people anymore? Derek Thompson, staff writer at The Atlantic, joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the phenomenon where we’re on our phones but digitally surrounded by people, and how this isolation is rewiring us to be more anti-social – including in both our personal relationships and political lives. His article is “The Anti-Social Century.”This episode originally aired February, 6th 2025. Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

The manosphere is an undeniable force right now, and there are people who will teach you how to join it. Charles Bethea, staff writer at The New Yorker, joins host Krys Boyd to discuss immersive camps that teach men how to become alpha males, what that actually means, and the surprisingly emotional reaction men have once they dive into the grueling physical activities asked of them. His article is “How to Become an Alpha Male.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

In dating, finding “the one” might be easier if you stop assuming “the one” will be a perfect match. Paul Eastwick is professor of psychology at UC Davis, where he serves as the head of the Social-Personality Psychology program and the director of the Attraction and Relationships Research Laboratory. He joins host Krys Boyd to discuss why we need to look past imperfections when choosing a mate, why what we know about evolutionary biology has been exaggerated, and the pros and cons of dating apps. His book is “Bonded by Evolution: The New Science of Love and Connection.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

If the definition of “green” is yellow plus blue, how do you define “yellow” and “blue”? Kory Stamper is a lexicographer who has written dictionaries for nearly 30 years at Merriam-Webster, Cambridge Dictionaries and Dictionary.com. She joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the difficulty of defining colors, why they are nearly indescribable, and why it took the help of scientists to create descriptions of everything around us. Her book is “True Color: The Strange and Spectacular Quest to Define Color – from Azure to Zinc Pink.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Even in our darkest moments, we can build the skills to keep our spirits up. Deepika Chopra is a psychologist, visual imagery expert and founder of Things Are Looking Up, a consultancy devoted to the intersection of science and soul. She joins host Krys Boyd to discuss how to develop optimism, how it’s a key to optimal health, and why this isn’t about toxic positivity. Her book is “The Power of Real Optimism: A Practical, Science-Based Guide to Staying Resilient, Curious, and Open Even When Life Is Hard.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

 Nobody enjoys paying taxes, but how would our nation function without them? Vanessa S. Williamson is a senior fellow in Governance Studies at Brookings and a senior fellow at the Urban-Brookings Tax Policy Center. She joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the history of taxation in this country, why your hard-earned tax dollars are critical to a functioning democracy, and why low taxes might mean lower interest in getting your civic needs met. Her book is “The Price of Democracy: The Revolutionary Power of Taxation in American History.”  Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

 There’s got to be a happy medium between free-range parenting and helicoptering. Simon Lewsen writes for Maclean’s, Toronto Life and Report on Business, and he teaches at the University of Toronto. He joins host Krys Boyd to discuss the courage parents must drum up to allow children to have age-appropriate autonomy – when they learn independence and problem-solving skills – and also where to draw the line on that freedom. His article “Is It Dangerous to Let Kids Be Free?” was published by The Walrus.  Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Constitutional law is a different animal than civil or criminal law — and a president can subvert it. Duncan Hosie is a fellow at Stanford Law School, and he joins host Krys Boyd to discuss why the judicial branch shouldn’t be the end game for dealing with a president’s executive orders, why the legislative branch needs to get more involved, and why hoping that the Supreme Court will definitively decide hot-button issues is a mistake. His article in The New York Times is “The Courts Cannot Save Us from Trump.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Screen time and junk food offer dopamine hits — and our kids are not immune. Michaeleen Doucleff reports on children’s health for NPR’s science desk, and she joins guest host Courtney Collins to discuss misconceptions about dopamine, why it’s making kids lonely and anxious, and ways to introduce healthier habits into your family’s lifestyle. Her book is “Dopamine Kids: A Science-Based Plan to Rewire Your Child’s Brain and Take Back Your Family in the Age of Screens and Ultraprocessed Foods.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices

Social security benefits help children and spouses survive after a death — but accessing them is a Sisyphean task. Chabeli Carrazana, The 19th’s economy and childcare reporter, joins host Krys Boyd to discuss how DOGE gutted the Social Security Administration so there’s not enough staff to process claims, the hours on hold families must wait and how women and children are impacted disproportionately by these failures. Her article is “Widows are waiting months for the benefits meant to help them after loss.” Learn about your ad choices: dovetail.prx.org/ad-choices