The 5 Reasons You’re Attracted to Toxic People

Many people feel pulled toward someone who isn’t good for them, even when they know the relationship is toxic. In this episode, Jillian breaks down the five core reasons we become addicted to people who mistreat us — from erotic charge, to low self-worth, to boredom and unmet needs. She shares personal experience, clinical insight, and the psychology of desire to help listeners finally understand their patterns. This episode is about clarity, self-compassion, and choosing something better. This episode is sponsored by Olipop. http://drinkolipop.com/JILLIAN Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Is it really “embarrassing” to have a boyfriend? In this episode, Jillian unpacks the viral Vogue UK article and the cultural shift that’s convincing women to hide their relationships. She explores the deeper shadow dynamics at play — jealousy, shrinking ourselves to belong, and the fear of being judged if a relationship ends. Jillian makes a powerful case for owning your joy, celebrating healthy love, and refusing to dim your light for anyone. This episode is sponsored by Olipop. http://drinkolipop.com/JILLIAN Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this episode, Jillian breaks down ten of the most important — and sometimes painful — lessons she’s learned about love. From why chemistry without safety creates chaos, to how habits shape happiness, to the truth about readiness, accountability, and emotional maturity, she walks through the mindsets that actually build lasting connection. These lessons are equal parts grounding and liberating, helping you step into relationships with more clarity, strength, and self-trust. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In this special live coaching session, Jillian speaks with a woman who is struggling to end her 17-year marriage to a good man—and wrestling with overwhelming guilt about breaking up her family. As they unpack the story, a deeper truth emerges: the real turning point wasn’t “lack of growth” or “misaligned goals,” but a painful and confusing experience in which her husband repeatedly encouraged her to date other men in hopes of fixing their intimacy. Jillian helps her name the hurt, the rejection, and the sense of being unseen that she’s been carrying alone. This conversation is a powerful look at consent, self-advocacy, and the courage required to tell the full truth—both to yourself and to your partner. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jillian dives into one of the most confusing parts of love—telling the difference between an unmet need and an unrealistic expectation. She breaks down how projection, attachment, and self-awareness shape what we ask for in relationships, and what happens when those needs go unanswered. Plus, she answers a moving listener question about letting go of unrequited love, sharing tangible ways to find peace and move forward. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jillian dives into heartbreak—the kind that feels endless—and explains why “just move on” misses the mark. She reframes breakups as a form of living grief and walks listeners through a practical healing plan: stop romanticizing the ex, rewrite the story from multiple perspectives, and choose proactive recovery. With personal examples and grounded tools, Jillian shows how to transform rejection into redirection, rebuild self-worth, and let go without losing yourself. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jillian breaks down one of the most talked-about topics in modern psychology: attachment styles. But instead of sticking to labels, she challenges the oversimplified ways we use them—and offers a more grounded, compassionate way to understand why we love, cling, or pull away. Jillian shares personal insights into how she healed her own attachment wounds and explains the deeper influences of culture, family conditioning, trauma, and life context on our relationships. This is your guide to moving beyond “anxious” or “avoidant” and toward true emotional security and connection. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

What happens when you love your partner but the passion is gone? In this episode, Jillian dives deep into one of the most common struggles in long-term relationships — losing physical and emotional spark. She breaks down why attraction fades, what it really takes to rekindle chemistry, and how to tell if it can truly come back. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Sometimes, the hardest truth to face is that the person you love is the one you need to walk away from. Today, Jillian answers three listener letters from people stuck in relationships where love, addiction, betrayal, or avoidance are keeping them trapped. She dives deep into what it means to trust yourself again, why you can’t save someone who’s drowning, and how self-respect—not attachment—is what sets you free. Download Jillian’s FREE limerence workbook, http://jillianturecki.com/workbook  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jillian teaches how to truly manifest a soulmate—without the “woo.” She shares a proven step-by-step method that has helped thousands of people attract emotionally healthy, aligned relationships—complete with simple daily practices to calm your system, raise your standards, and date with intention. Jillian reframes manifestation as an intentional, grounded process of co-creation: She breaks down what a soulmate actually is (and isn’t), why waiting keeps you disconnected from your power, and how nervous system regulation becomes the foundation for clarity, confidence, and discernment in love. Download Bumble today. http://bumble.com  Join my community and membership, The Conscious Woman Submit your relationship question for Jillian at https://forms.gle/FbtgkGTwfnrjvHwW7  Order Jillian's book It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life at https://www.jillianturecki.com/book Download Bumble today. http://bumble.com  ~~ Follow the show on: Instagram: @jillianonlove Email the show at [email protected]  Subscribe to Jillian on Love+ on Apple Podcasts or Patreon ~~ Follow Jillian Turecki on: Instagram: @jillianturecki TikTok: @jillian.turecki X: @JillianTurecki Visit her website at jillianturecki.com ~~ Jillian On Love is brought to you by QCODE. To advertise on the show, contact us! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices