The Sacred Path Through Trauma | Dr John A. King - E22

Why is it often so hard to clear up physical pain and dysfunction, despite years of treatment?I sat down with Nick Dawe, a chiropractor, co-creator of the BioTra approach and inventor of the Soma Bag, to ask why some aches and pains just won't go away, whether they're physical or something deeper. He shares three reasons persistent symptoms stick around: it's become part of your identity, your body can't mount a healing response, or you keep scratching the cut. And he explains why he says a felt sense of safety comes first.We also get into Nick's own story. He spent nearly 20 years developing deep movement strategies, then saw them stop working as well as they had in 2024 and 2025. He knew he needed a new approach, so he invented one, from a giant water bomb, an inflatable shark and his mum's old tablecloths. It became the Soma Bag.About NickNick Dawe is a chiropractor and sensorimotor integration specialist, and director of ALTR, a functional neural chiropractic practice. He sees patients at pH Clinic in Balgowlah on Sydney's northern beaches. He is a co-creator and co-founder of BioTra, with Nathan Siles and Ryan Barraclough, an approach that combines modern biophysics, evolutionary biomechanics and psycho-spiritual understanding, and he co-wrote the BioTra book. He also co-founded OOVIT and OOV Education. A multiple-time Australian champion and national representative as an athlete, he has taught medical practitioners around the world since he was 25. His aim is to put simple, practical health tools back in people's own hands.This is Nick's own model, not medical advice. If you have ongoing pain, please see a clinician.Soma Safe - A Guide to Finding Safety Within | Book and Soma Bag: Somabag BioTra - An Approach to Healthy Living in a Modern World: https://biotra.com.au/More from Cian and Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderChapters00:00 Is pain inevitable with age? Questioning aches and pains01:27 How to heal: create the right conditions, don't fix the body05:29 Remembering safety: the felt sense of safety in the body09:21 Why we regress under stress (nervous system and safety)14:49 Chronic pain root causes: why pain won't go away19:39 How the body and mind develop: the nervous system map26:19 The fluid body: foundations of movement and healing29:25 How the Soma Bag was invented when his methods stopped working38:12 How the Soma Bag works: womb-like safety and the nervous system45:11 Soma Bag progression: from passive to active movement52:33 Muscle tone through safety: the brainstem and vagal tone52:54 Why rigid posture backfires53:42 The BioTra step ladder: a simple path to healthy movement56:10 Posture myths: why forcing good posture backfires58:37 The BioTra three pillars: biomechanics, biophysics and spirit01:02:04 Spirituality and the body: balancing the paths01:09:23 Oneness, love and the body as a gateway01:17:44 Daily health practices: a gentle toolkit01:23:44 Gentle self-honouring: one small change at a time01:33:11 Where to find Nick's work: BioTra, Soma Bag and the clinic01:35:18 Closing thoughts

In this conversation, artist, content creator and business mentor David Boland and I talk about how to be yourself, find your unique edge and bring spirituality into everyday life.Most of us learn early that fitting in is how you stay safe. So we copy what works, sound like the people we admire and sand down the parts of us that might get rejected. David did this with his videos. He spent hours editing them to look like everyone else's, and mostly they didn't land. Then he sat in a chair on a piece of land in Wicklow, filmed one take in about 30 minutes, and it blew up and skyrocketed his business.We also get into the spiritual side. In his early 20s David lived in a yoga centre, meditated for hours, visualised money in his bank account and ended up miserable with nothing to show for it. What shifted things was seeing that everything is a spiritual practice, even a sales call.And then there's the Torquay story: 50 quid, a guitar and cleaning toilets for a bed. David stopped fighting where he was, and two days later he was offered film work with his flights and accommodation covered.Along the way we talk about confidence and evidence, pricing, rejection, separating failure from self-worth, and why being yourself might be easier than you think.If you want to be yourself and fulfill your dreams, press play.Follow David: Instagram @justdavidboland or YouTube @thedavidboland or join his Skool Earn With ContentMore from Cian and HumanKinder: Linktree or Free Purpose Blueprint Session00:00 How to be yourself: why authenticity is so hard01:55 Why most creators start by copying others03:50 How a viral video showed him his unique edge05:55 The one-take video that grew his business08:10 Copy-paste vs finding your unique edge09:55 Why confidence comes from evidence11:15 Inner wealth and the gap between where you are and where you want to be14:10 Why the journey between point A and point B feels so uncertain15:55 How to package what you offer as a transformation17:05 How to raise your prices and charge what you're worth18:00 Are your actions coherent with your goals?20:35 How to handle rejection (and why a no means impact)23:40 Separating failure from self-worth25:10 The abusive email that shook his self-worth30:55 Creating your life instead of reacting to it34:55 How to be creative in any job or career37:40 Dress code, joggers and meeting CEOs as yourself39:55 How to make content you actually enjoy45:00 Spirituality vs action: meditating, manifesting and getting nowhere48:55 Missing the bus and choosing your response53:30 Everything is a spiritual practice (even sales calls)55:00 How to run a sales call as service, without needing the yes58:55 Spirituality in business: your actions, not the fruits1:00:00 Why we worry about the future and try to control it1:02:15 If you had everything you wanted, you'd still feel the same1:04:05 Surrender: 50 quid, a guitar and a big opportunity1:06:00 Spirituality for the householder and living it in ordinary life1:08:00 What "ignore your reality" really means: act like the person you want to become1:11:05 Any state is accessible now1:12:50 Gurus, spiritual teachers and what to keep1:14:50 Compassion for yourself, and being kind in a productive way1:17:00 The woo-woo phase, burnout and the surfing metaphor for life1:19:50 Shadow motivation vs light motivation: doing it from love1:23:15 Authenticity and radical honesty: the thread that ties it together1:24:00 Where to find David Boland

When we look at the world today, it can be easy to feel overwhelmed. Ecological collapse, war, economic instability, division, mental health struggles — there is no shortage of reasons to feel afraid. And yet, beneath all of that, there is still beauty. There is still wonder. There is still the possibility of living with an open heart.David has held CEO roles at organisations including Weleda and GoVita, and has spent much of his life exploring the intersection between business, consciousness, service, and personal transformation. In this conversation, we explore what it means to “tend your garden” in a chaotic world — to take responsibility for your inner state, practise awareness, and choose how you want to show up.We speak about fear and insecurity, the practice of awe, spiritual seeking, conscious leadership, random acts of kindness, and the quiet power of doing what you can from where you are.This conversation is a reminder that loving life is not about ignoring suffering. It is about staying open enough to see the beauty, honest enough to face the pain, and grounded enough to take the next small step.I hope you enjoy this one.More about David: https://www.linkedin.com/in/david-johnston-867b1245/More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderShow Notes00:00 Falling in Love With Life01:48 Tending Your Inner Garden04:06 Early Encounters With Death07:30 Seeking Through Youth13:17 Life Inside an Ashram14:26 Three Pillars of Practice16:24 Random Kindness and Ego17:44 Soul Alignment Break18:51 Head Heart and Gut23:05 Rumble Strips and Life Lessons25:02 Journaling and Emotional Tracking31:54 Leading Culture Change at Work35:46 Spiral Dynamics and Society42:12 Future View Leadership Method44:27 Leading With Honesty45:50 Stepping Through Fear49:57 Coaching And Support51:11 Awe Wonder And Work53:46 Spiral Dynamics Explained01:00:16 Living Strategy One Page01:02:59 Future Questions For Society01:08:10 Circle Of Influence01:11:17 Workshops Warm Data01:20:06 Purpose Chair Story01:21:43 Ubuntu And Boardrooms01:26:07 Final Reflections And Contact

Trauma is often spoken about as a psychological problem to be cured.But in this conversation with Dr John A. King, we explore it through a deeper lens: as a sacred path of remembering, reconnection and surrender.John’s story begins with unimaginable childhood sexual abuse, a total life implosion, and years of fear, shame and survival. But it also becomes a story of grace, love, country, lineage, God and the slow return to himself.We speak about what trauma does to the nervous system, identity and relationships; why healing cannot happen in isolation; and how reconnection with partner, community, ancestors, place and the divine can become part of the journey home.This is not a conversation that minimises the darkness.It is a conversation about what can be found inside it.More from Dr John: https://drjohnaking.com/More from Cian and Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderShow Notes00:00 Life Implosion After Recall01:10 Podcast Intro and Guest Setup02:55 John 1.0 to 3.0 Framework05:25 Early Abuse and Trafficking07:22 Fear Spiral and Isolation08:30 Men and Trauma Blind Spots11:51 Indigenous Lineage and Empathy15:47 Self Love and Healing Tools18:03 Building a Recovery Toolkit22:59 IRAT and Lifestyle Discipline27:39 Progress Over Perfection32:24 Melissa and Support Networks38:11 Soul Friends and New Identity40:18 Reconnecting to Deeper Self41:04 Identity And Exclusion41:46 Cherokee Roots Challenge42:58 Guided Homecoming Australia44:49 From Orphan To Tribe46:51 Why Lineage Matters48:20 Place DNA And Belonging52:11 Support The Show Break26:12 Inner Ancestor Connection56:21 Faith Spirituality Integration01:02:26 Christ Coffee Cigars Ritual01:08:05 Raft Dream Surrender01:14:28 Daily Compass Trust01:18:50 Programs Legacy Farewell

It's kind of strange to be human...We move through life with all of these patterns, reactions, fears, longings, defences and desires operating inside us — and so often we think they are us. We try to fix ourselves, improve ourselves, analyse ourselves, shame ourselves, and somehow become the kind of person who never struggles, never reacts, never gets triggered, never feels messy.But what if there was another way?In this episode, I speak with Carey Davidson, author of The Five Archetypes, about an ancient map of human nature rooted in the five elements of Traditional Chinese Medicine: Fire, Earth, Metal, Water and Wood.Carey explains that we all carry these five archetypes within us. They are not simply personality types, but living patterns of body, mind, emotion, relationship and spirit. Each of us has one primary element — a gift, an Achilles heel, and a doorway into deeper self-understanding.For Carey, and the people she works with, discovering this primary element brings transformation and relief: a way to stop fixing oneself, understand our patterns, and meet them with more humour, compassion and freedom.In this episode, we explore how we can see ourselves more clearly, stop identifying so tightly with our patterns, and return to balance so we can grow spiritually in our own unique way. Take the 5 archetypes questionnaire : https://www.fivearchetypes.com/questionnaire/More from Carey: https://www.fivearchetypes.com/More from Cian: https://www.humankinder.com.au/Cian’s work with the Soul Alignment Method and upcoming Remember your Soul Purpose course: https://thesoulalignmentmethod.com/remember-soul-purpose-course

What if your purpose is not something you need to find, but something you are here to remember?I sit down with Soul Alignment Method founder Myles Treanor and psychotherapist Shane Murphy to explore soul purpose, spiritual alignment, and what it means to live from the light.As someone now training in and working with clients using the Soul Alignment Method, this conversation is close to my heart. It has changed the way I understand purpose, not as a vague idea or a career choice, but as something that can be felt, clarified, and lived through every part of life.Together, we explore how your soul purpose can express through your career, relationships, health, lifestyle, creativity, and service. We also speak about how your wounds are often connected to your gifts, and how the struggles we move through can become the very material we transform into healing, teaching, connection, and contribution.Shane shares his experience of moving from uncertainty into a life that feels more effortless and aligned. Myles shares the deeper philosophy and practical structure behind the method. And I share why, after years of psychological and spiritual work, this path helped me listen to something deeper within myself.If you feel like there is something more you are here to do, express, or become, the Soul Alignment Method is here for you. Our 6 week ‘Remember Your Soul Purpose Course’ starts on the 17th May 2026. Learn more here:https://thesoulalignmentmethod.com/remember-soul-purpose-courseShow Notes00:00 Soul Purpose 01:19 Podcast Intro02:28 Myles Origin Story07:26 Purpose As Light States11:11 Shane Turning Point17:09 Cian Meets Myles20:13 Remember Not Find24:27 Blueprint With Structure28:58 Letting Go Effortlessly32:07 Spiritual Structure Matters33:28 Phases of the Method35:50 Alignment Equals Happiness40:12 Purpose Research and Attention44:53 Redefining Success48:35 Staying in the Light Practice50:54 Soul Aligned World Vision55:09 Purpose Compatibility Relationships01:01:59 Course Structure and Dates01:03:15 Final Reflections and Farewell 

In this conversation, I sit down with Mark Edwards to explore what it really means to stay awake in ordinary life.Mark has spent decades working in high-level consulting, helping large organisations drive results and lead change, whilst also walking a deep inner spiritual path. What I loved about this conversation is that it refuses the false split between spirituality and the rest of life. We explore how the very conditions we often imagine are getting in the way - work, pressure, relationships, uncertainty, responsibility - are actually the most fertile ground for practice.Mark shares a beautiful framework for understanding his own journey through three phases: pre-belief, belief, and post-belief. We speak about the movement from striving for validation, to seeking spiritual frameworks, to slowly embodying a deeper way of being. We also explore self-love, awakening, leadership, and what it means to bring presence into systems that still need to function, perform, and meet the demands of everyday life.The deeper invitation of this conversation is simple: to stop waiting for a more spiritual life, and to begin meeting this one with more presence, honesty and love.More about Mark: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-edwards-consultant/More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderInterested in a Free/Donation based Purpose Blueprint session? Contact Cian via website: https://www.humankinder.com.au/contactShow Notes00:00 Awake in the Real World01:30 Welcome and The Double Life06:35 Three Phases of Awakening10:17 Letting Go in the Boardroom13:06 Mentors and Self Worth17:41 Soul Alignment Break18:56 Falling in Love With Self24:29 The Gardeners Path29:29 What Awakening Really Means32:46 Channels of Consciousness35:40 Neurodivergence as Strength47:09 Joy and Spiritual Superpowers48:18 Joy And Attention48:37 Reading Leaders Clearly50:41 Neutral Presence Superpower54:58 Pre Room Rituals58:48 Honoring Human Systems01:04:24 Judgment And Open Heart01:13:03 Practices For Self Love01:20:10 Spiritual Closet Discernment01:27:03 Compassion With Boundaries01:28:51 Humility And Closing 

Modern dating has given us more options than ever, yet many people feel more disconnected, burnt out, and frustrated than ever before.In this episode, I’m joined by Ilana Orlievsky and Esha Thaper, founders of The List, a curated group of people who want to meet other intentional, emotionally-aware people for connections, romance, or something more meaningful. We explore why so many conscious, kind, successful people are struggling to find meaningful connection in a world shaped by dating apps, endless choice, and misleading identities.This episode is about creating a space for love to thrive, both internally and externally. We talk about why real connection cannot be optimised, why self-awareness and vulnerability matter so much in dating, and why the future of dating may depend on getting back to real-life human connection.You’ll leave with a fresh frame for dating and practical things you can try this week.Learn more about The List: https://www.jointhelist.co/More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderShow Notes00:00 AI Matchmaking Myth01:13 Welcome and Guests01:54 Modern Dating Crisis04:07 Who Is Affected07:45 Apps Changed Culture10:49 App Fatigue and Dehumanizing16:19 Using Apps Intentionally20:51 First Dates and Social Atrophy24:48 Grounded Dating Mindset29:56 Know Yourself and Needs35:13 Women Want vs Need38:45 Vulnerability and Feedback44:08 Advice for Men Today50:05 Bring Back Flirting55:22 Playful Flirting Abroad56:32 Friend Zone Transition57:53 Compliments And Date Setup01:02:23 Courting And Chivalry01:03:53 Touch Without Awkwardness01:10:57 Honest Rejection Not Ghosting01:14:53 Sex Myths And Porn Impact01:22:55 Better Bedroom Mindset\01:27:41 Why Build A Dating Community01:37:09 AI Dating Versus Real Life01:42:00 Hopeful Closing And Poem

What if the future of work is not just better strategy, better systems, or better leadership training, but a deeper shift in consciousness?In this conversation, I’m joined by Mirjana Boznovska to explore the quiet spiritual revolution unfolding inside our organisations. We speak about burnout, disengagement, and the growing sense that modern work is no longer nourishing the human spirit, and we ask what becomes possible when workplaces begin to value inner alignment, authenticity, self-awareness, and human connection as much as performance.Together, we explore the move from doing to being, the difference between external success and inner truth, and why so many people are exhausted from living and working in ways that are out of alignment with who they really are. We also look at self-awareness, self-responsibility, and self-leadership as practical foundations for a more human workplace.This is a conversation about work, but it is also a conversation about worth, authenticity, trust, surrender, and the possibility that organisations can become places of real healing, transformation, and awakening.More from Mirjana: https://onebeyondsuccess.com/Email: [email protected] More from Human Kinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderShow Notes00:00 Escaping the Doing Treadmill01:24 Capitalism’s Double Edge03:28 Burnout and Disconnection at Work05:49 Inside Out Future of Work11:13 Be Do Have Reversed15:31 Radical Responsibility and Goals18:33 Inner Audit and Guidance26:13 Fear Versus Alignment36:54 Radical Honesty at Work50:35 Self Love Without Conditions57:12 Responsibility Toward Others59:02 Authenticity Over Competition01:01:17 Human Connection In AI01:01:50 Authenticity Drives Results01:03:48 Self Determination Needs01:07:44 Needs As Inner Practice01:16:40 Trust And Surrender01:29:25 Personal Awakening Story01:38:56 Higher Power Connection01:44:53 Alignment In Workplaces01:48:15 Future Of Work Priorities01:49:59 Closing And ContactInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/human_kinder/Website: www.humankinder.com.au

There is one word that has inspired more love, more compassion, more division and more violence than almost any other: God.In this conversation, Matthew Gregoroski shares his deeply personal journey through faith, anxiety, loss, success, spiritual disillusionment, and ultimately, a direct inner experience of the divine. Growing up in apartheid South Africa as the son of a preacher, Matt was shaped by religion from an early age. But over time, inherited belief gave way to a deeper search: one that led him through suffering, questioning, meditation, and the longing to know God for himself.Together, we explore suffering, prayer, ego, forgiveness, awakening, and the possibility that beneath the many paths, traditions, and stories of humanity, there may be one truth waiting to be remembered.This is a conversation for anyone who has wrestled with faith, questioned religion, felt the ache of searching, or sensed that the answers we seek may be closer than we realise.Find out more about Matthew: https://www.themangotree.me/More on HumanKinder: https://linktr.ee/humankinderChapters00:00 Cosmic Oneness Experience01:09 Why God Divides Us03:02 Childhood Nightmares and Prayer05:59 Strict Upbringing and Moral Compass13:28 Faith, Flaws, and Forgiveness17:15 Family Strain and Resilience22:34 Apartheid and Church Activism26:04 Talking in Tongues Explained32:11 Leaving Home and Corporate Success34:55 Thailand and Human Trafficking Wakeup38:34 Rock Bottom in Australia39:58 Transcendental Meditation Begins42:06 Retreat Euphoria and God Realisation48:21 Writing as Channelling and Faith54:17 What It Takes to Awaken56:34 Hunger for Fulfilment57:42 Meditation and Breathwork59:54 Prayer and Inner Practice01:03:34 God and Suffering01:08:06 Afterlife and Mediumship01:13:38 Chasing Spiritual Highs01:17:17 Ego and Daily Growth01:21:31 Forgiveness and Mandela01:28:56 Heaven Within01:41:21 Spirituality in Corporate Life01:49:13 Connect with Matt