31. Career Pauses And Changes: Identity Loss And How To Derive Self-Worth Outside Of Your Job

As Jessica prepares to welcome baby # 3, she shares details from the third trimester of her pregnancy, how she is thinking about the postpartum period and other life updates. She also discusses the rite of passage she just completed to mark her entry into the “wisdom years” and a recent mothers circle she hosted in celebration of Mother’s Day and to honor the new moon. She is excited to unveil her brand new website, www.howimetmyself.me. Check it out to learn more about how to work with Jessica one-on-one or in groups. Her offerings include: Motherhood Mentorship Program Mothers Circles Breathwork Intuitive Healing Custom group offerings You will also find Jessica’s story of how she came to do this work after leaving the corporate world and her journey through motherhood. I’d love to connect with you on Instagram: @_howimetmyself⁠. Post a screenshot of the episode or DM me! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]

In this solo episode, Jessica delves into the subject of voice, sharing her personal story healing her voice and using it to live out her purpose. She examines common patterns that begin in childhood that can inhibit your ability to fully express, and she offers insights from her own experience on how to unwind these patterns and find your authentic voice. In this episode, you will learn: How to heal patterns that have kept you from speaking your truth The connection between voice and self-worth How the tone of your voice creates an energetic signature  The power of the words we speak and how we speak them in creating our reality Practical exercises to help you speak more consciously and authentically Jessica shares how your voice is the bridge between who you are on the inside and how you show up in the world, encouraging listeners to nurture their voice and use it as an instrument to influence their overall well-being and success. Did you love something about this episode? Share it on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]

Writer, yoga educator and mother of two, Sarah Ezrin, joins Jessica on the podcast this week to discuss her book, The Yoga Of Parenting. In her book, which was released in 2023, she applies the teachings of yoga to parenting and offers practical advice for how we can stay grounded, connect with our kids and practice self-compassion throughout parenthood.  During their conversation, they discuss how Sarah came to write this book and many of the tools she employs as a mom of two toddlers to help her stay present, nourish her nervous system and care for herself so she can show up for her kids in the way she wants. They get real about the struggles of modern-day motherhood. In spite of the inadequacy of our systems, Sarah offers suggestions for how we can replicate aspects of “the village” to better support ourselves in the raising of our children. In this episode, you will learn: Why we must prioritize ourselves in order to be better parents Ways to nourish our nervous systems and why this matters in parenthood How to become more present when spending time with your children Why parenting is an opportunity for personal growth How becoming a parent expands us - both materially and spiritually The importance of developing an identity outside of your role as a parent Did you find this conversation with Sarah inspiring? If so, take a screenshot of the episode and share it on Instagram, tagging @_howimetmyself. And don’t forget to “Follow” the show on Apple or Spotify, so you never miss an episode! Thank you! – Connect with Sarah Ezrin (Guest) Website: https://sarahezrinyoga.com/  Instagram: @sarahezrinyoga TikTok: @sarahezrin YouTube: @sarahezrinyoga Book: The Yoga Of Parenting by Sarah Ezrin – Connect with Jessica Patterson (Host): Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me  Email: [email protected] — Resources: Jon Kabat-Zinn books Buddhism for Mothers of Young Children by Sarah Napthali  Hunter Clarke-Fields - Mindful Mama Movement Fair Play by Eve Rodsky Mother Brain: How Neuroscience Is Rewriting The Story of Parenthood by Chelsea Conaboy Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans by Michaeleen Doucleff Dr. Dan Siegel books

In this episode, Jessica explores the concept of initiation - a major transformation that occurs when we experience radical change. She focuses specifically on the initiation into motherhood, discussing the changes that occur in pregnancy and how these help women integrate important lessons that will serve them in motherhood.  Although our culture tends to demonize the physical changes that come with pregnancy and puts pressure on women to prove that they haven’t changed, Jessica explains that there really is no “going back” nor is that desirable because of the immense growth that occurs in motherhood. What you’ll learn in the episode: The basics of an initiation and what happens in the psyche during an initiatory process Why the physical and non-physical changes experienced during pregnancy are opportunities for personal growth How motherhood softens us to the feminine and helps us strengthen qualities like creativity, acceptance, and intuition Through personal anecdotes and insightful reflections, Jessica illuminates the transformative power embedded within the journey of motherhood, inviting listeners to embrace it as a pathway to personal growth and empowerment. Did you love something about this episode? Share it on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]

In this empowering episode, we delve into how to make self-care a top priority in your life and how to get the most out of your self-care practice. The host introduces five prerequisites that are essential to prioritizing self-care and three categories of self-care - nourishment, rest and use of energy - to help listeners identify the practices that fill their cups the most. This episode offers a fresh take on self-care and serves as a comprehensive guide to nurturing your well-being. What You'll Learn: Why self-love should be the driving force behind self-care How to set boundaries to make space for self-care The importance of trusting others, so that you can take time for self-care How to advocate for your needs and ask for help How to use self-care as a way to safeguard and increase your energy The power of saying no and why this is one of the greatest acts of self-care Why depriving ourselves of nourishment and rest is an act of self-loathing Tune in for an insightful journey towards mastering the art of self-care and cultivating more self-love. Remember, your self-care journey is unique, and this episode serves as your personalized guide to making it a priority in your life. What are your favorite self-care practices? How has this episode changed the way you think about self-care? I would love to hear what inspired you. Share it with me on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]

Ceremonialist, anthropologist, mother of two and founder of Rituel, Eve Gaines, joins Jessica on the podcast this week to talk about motherhood and the lost art of ritual. During this profound conversation, Jessica and Eve discuss why we need to place more value on motherhood and how, contrary to what patriarchal society tells us, motherhood actually serves women in achieving their dreams and stepping into leadership roles outside of the home. Eve and Jessica share some of the preconceived notions that they had going into motherhood and how their experiences proved to be the complete opposite of what they expected. In this episode, you will learn about: The wisdom years when our disparate life experiences begin to synthesize Why so many women find their true calling in their 40s and 50s The skills, perspective and wisdom we gain in motherhood How motherhood helps us meet our own mothers with greater understanding and compassion Why having a career portfolio vs. a career path allows for more creativity, depth and personal expansion How to honor and prepare for the transition from maiden to mother and how to think about it differently if it’s your first born vs. adding another child to your family The importance of building your soul team to support you in motherhood  How to incorporate ritual order to live with greater presence and intention Did you find this conversation with Eve inspiring? If so, take a screenshot of the episode and share it on Instagram, tagging @_howimetmyself. And don’t forget to “Follow” the show on Apple or Spotify, so you never miss an episode! Thank you – Connect with Eve Gaines (Guest) Website: https://rituellife.com/  Instagram: @rituellife – Connect with Jessica Patterson (Host): Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me  Email: [email protected]

The spirituality space is so vast and can be intimidating if you aren’t sure where to begin. Jessica talks about her own journey getting started and shares her favorite resources from books to podcast episodes and techniques to help integrate spirituality into your life. In this episode, listeners will learn: Where to start if you’re just beginning on your journey to spirituality Jessica’s top book and podcast recommendations How to establish a morning ritual Ways to cultivate your intuition through meditation and journaling This episode will help you establish a foundation in spirituality, so that you can begin exploring what it is that you are really passionate about. Where are you going to start exploring spirituality? I would love to hear what inspired you whether it was a book or podcast I recommended or one of my tips to start integrating spirituality into your life. Share it with me on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]  –  Resources: Manifestation: Creative Visualization book by Shakti Gawain Think And Grow Rich book by Napoleon Hill Infinite Possibilities book by Mike Dooley The Secret book by Rhonda Byrne Astrology: Pam Gregory Astrology YouTube Channel Intuitive Astrology With Molly McCord podcast Tarot: Episode 22: Demystifying The Tarot | w/ Jessica Kruskamp, founder of TarotMalibu Seventy-Eight Degrees of Wisdom: A Tarot Journey To Self-Awareness book by Rachel Pollack Human Design: My.humandesign account on Instagram Episode 12: Human Design Decoded | w/ Jenni Johnson Enneagram: The Buddhist Enneagram book by Susan Piver  Ten Percent Happier with Dan Harris podcast episode, “Why is Everyone Talking About the Enneagram? And What the Hell Is It? | Susan Piver” Cultivating Your Intuition Episode 2: How To Tune Into Your Intuition So You Can Move Toward Your Purpose Episode 6: How Journaling Can Help You Become The Most Authentic Version Of Yourself | w/ Shana Rehwald, founder of the Me-Est Me Journal Spirituality Podcasts: Almost 30 podcast The Balanced Blonde // Soul On Fire podcast

This episode focuses on connection and opening your heart. Jessica shares how she creates meaningful connection with her husband, including rituals and activities they do together as well as tips that help them maintain a strong and healthy relationship. She also explains what it means energetically to open your heart and how to generate self-love - a necessary foundation for exchanging love with others. She offers practices you can do to dissolve the protective walls you’ve built around your heart that hold you back from feeling self-love and from giving and receiving love with others, In this episode, listeners will learn: How to create mini-moments of connection with your partner, especially if you are a parent Rituals you can do with your partner to build connection Heart-opening practices such as yoga and breathwork How to generate self-love Why self-love is the currency of the universe that affects every aspect of our lives How do you connect with your partner? What practices will you try to help you open your heart? I would love to hear what aspects of this episode you are incorporating. Share it with me on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]  –  Resources: Episode 29: Conscious Relationships: Attachment Style, Shadow Work, Breaking Patterns, Healing With You Partner | w/ Leigh-Anne LoPinto  Alexis Smart Flower Essence: Whole Hearted

Oftentimes during the early years of motherhood, women feel called to take a career pause or make a career change. In both cases, they fear the loss of identity they will experience and worry they will feel a lack of self-worth without the recognition they are used to receiving at work. In this episode, Jessica discusses how to overcome these fears. In this episode, listeners will learn: Where these fears come from and how to detach from the “lean in” narrative How to generate self-worth from within How to deal with the loss of identity and how to gain a new one How to begin the process of exploring alternative career paths How to derive self-esteem in your role as a mom Why motherhood offers women new skills that serve them in roles beyond motherhood Whether you are a mom or not, if you are considering a career change or pause, this episode offers tangible steps to support you through the transition and help you make a decision that’s right for you. Did this episode inspire you? Please support the podcast by sharing it on Instagram. Simply take a screenshot, post it to your stories and be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected] – Resources: For women considering taking a career pause or for those already on one, Mother Untitled is an excellent resource with a library of relevant articles and a directory of trusted experts to help you navigate this season of motherhood.

In this solo episode, Jessica explores the transformative power of surrender and deepening into faith in the face of uncertainty. She reflects on her current pregnancy, revealing the challenges, fears, and profound lessons it has brought. While the health of her baby remains uncertain, Jessica is focusing on gratitude and continues to hold the faith that no matter what happens, everything will be ok. In this episode, listeners will learn: The importance of surrender and faith in the face of uncertainty Practical tips on how to actually surrender How motherhood is the ultimate lesson in surrender Why letting go of control helps to liberate us from living in a state of fear How gratitude can be a powerful tool to transcend fear A sneak peek into Jessica’s new program, the Expanded Mother Mentorship Whether you are a parent or facing uncertainties in life, there's something valuable for everyone in this episode. If you found this episode inspiring or applicable to your life, share it on Instagram by taking a screenshot and posting it to your stories. Be sure to tag me @_howimetmyself⁠, so I can say hello and thank you! You can also support the podcast by rating and reviewing it on Apple or Spotify. Thank you! –  Connect with Jessica: Instagram: @_howimetmyself Website: https://howimetmyself.me Email: [email protected]