Sharing the Mental Load

Are you dating? Or back in the dating game? Are you having trouble deciding what you want in a partner or finding someone who checks all the boxes and doesn't have any 'red flags'? Science can help. New research is showing that what people want in relationships is changing from what was important 20 years ago or more. In this episode, Randy and Beverly discuss the growing importance of emotional intelligence in dating. These days, it's more important than what you earn, what you drive and whether you go to the gym. And stick around for the list of things people say they definitely don't want in a relationship. #HeartVersusHead #couplesgoals #datingishard #findingapartner #redflags #greenflagsSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Marriage is boring. That's the gist of a recent Reddit post we saw where a Heart partner was complaining about her Head partner and the loss of spark in the relationship. He was, she said, a great husband, dad, provider etc. But it was boring. Well... is that Redditor wrong? In this episode, Randy and Beverly try to make sense of all of it and offer some different perspectives to get you and your partner talking about how to keep that spark lit... without burning down the house. #HeartVersusHead #MarriageIsBoring #randomreddit #couplesgoalsSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

No... this isn't about the Festivus episode of Seinfeld. This episode is about an article in The Atlantic that shared how some couples only hash out their disagreements at scheduled quarterly or even yearly meetings where they sit down for just the purpose of resolving conflicts. Could you as a couple put off arguing over why the trash didn't get taken out for a year? What would waiting change? What are the situations where this kind of arrangement might work and what are the situations where it won't. Laugh along with Randy and Beverly as they share why their relationship couldn't do it this way but how there are things to learn from the idea of a scheduled airing of the grievances. #HeartVersusHead #TheAtlantic #Seinfeld #AiringOfTheGrievances #couples goalsSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Have you ever been in a wonderful new relationship and everybody around you minimizes it or warns you that the wonderful will surely end? What if that isn't necessarily true. In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about how to keep the good going when it's going good. #HeartVersusHead #HoneymoonPhase #CouplesGoalsSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Why do Hearts seem to always be going back... back to the bad relationship... back to the person from a few years ago... or just back into the messy breakup? And why do Heads always seem to be so angry on the way out? As you'll learn in this episode, it's how they are each protecting themselves. Are you a recycler? Do you cling to the hope that the love you've felt in the past was as good as it can get? Or do you jump back in to fix what might be wrong with you? Listen as Randy and Beverly help you see that there is no right or wrong ... just Heart and Head and a lot of work to do. #HeartVersusHead #recyclingRelationships #youagain #unbreakingup Send us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain what's happening when couples experience stressful situations together. So often, the things that create stress in a relationship are outside of the control of anybody in the relationship. From politics and climate change to war and economic downturns, the outside world seems to have us in the crosshairs sometimes. What should both of you be watching for when moments of panic hit you as a couple? #HeartVersusHead #couplesgoals #whenstresshits #StressedAndAloneSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Is one partner in your relationship handling all the mental work to run the house? Who remembers what groceries to buy? Who remember to take out the trash or when the kids have that thing? In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the ways that their relationship fell into bad habits and ways to get out again. If you're feeling overwhelmed, maybe it's time to discuss a redistribution of your relationship's mental load. It's a dangerous topic for Head partners so laugh along on this one and find out that you're not alone. Send us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Does your Head partner want to be celebrated for taking out the trash? Once? In their life? Are you an unappreciated, unnoticed Head partner who is doing everything you can and still finding that it isn't enough for your Heart parnter? In this episode, Randy and Beverly explain why Heads want a celebration and why Hearts push back at the imbalance of it all.  #HeartVersusHead #ParadePlease #HeadsNeedAParade Send us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Have you ever felt like giving up on your relationship without actually leaving the relationship? Do you have those days where you think, "why try if my partner won't try?" In this episode, Randy and Beverly talk about the trend of "quiet quitting" in marriage. Oprah Winfrey brought it up in her podcast recently and her guests focused on the growing number of (mostly) women in their 40s who stay in a marriage but become emotionally detached from their partner. Instead of giving up, learn how you can both change your perspective and get back to focusing on building an amazing home with your partner - safe, strong and filled with connection.  #HeartVersusHead #QuietQuitting #Oprah #WhyTry #CouplesGoalsSend us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).

Retirement? Promotion? Laid off? New baby? Change is hard, especially on couples. In this episode, Randy and Beverly help you understand the transitions that you're going through. You'll learn how the Head partner is doing math and the Heart partner is writing poetry - no wonder it's so hard to get along. Each partner does it differently and understanding that can make the changes you go through easier to survive. Together. #HeartVersusHead #PoemsVersusMath #Transitions #DraggingYourPartnerThroughChange Send us Fan MailHeart Versus Head is a podcast about relationship styles and how those relationship styles influence communication in the most important relationships. The hosts - Randy Hampton and Beverly Craddock - are a married couple who are sought-after relationship coaches, award-winning authors and regular people who (like everyone in relationships) are just trying to stay connected through all the noise of life in the modern world. You can learn more about the couple and their work at HeartAndHeadCoaching.com, where you'll learn to fight better and connect again. Or check out their relationship books: Heart Versus Head: How to Communicate and Connect When Nothing Else Works (2026) and The Couples Rulebook (2019).