56. Conquering Procrastination & Perfectionism: Mastering Self-Discipline with Softness

WATCH THE VIDEO HERE! This premier is the entry-point into a brand new season of Figuring Sh!t Out. There is an epidemic in our generation and throughout our society of burnout and hopelessness and a desire for something more. More and more people are deciding to pursue a new path, take a non-conventional journey, to live in alignment with their soul. There is a collective calling for truth and creativity and to live from a heart-centered place. But how? Consider Season Three, The Road Less Traveled, as a research project to help us understand that. I've quit my full time job in Tech, traveled across the world to go to Yoga Teacher Training in Bali, and leaped off a cliff to pursue Figuring Sh!t Out full time as an answer to the calling deep within my heart. On this season, I'll interview people who've done something similar, I'll share all of the beautiful lessons and tools I've learned, and I will move from the deepest place of knowing that if we will always be Figuring Sh!t Out, we might as well enjoy the process.Stay tuned for a new FULL LENGTH episode this Sunday on taking the leap.I love you. xxFiguring Sh!t Out is about navigating the chaos of coming of age and adulthood - whether you’re wrestling with a quarter life crisis, chasing elusive dreams, or trying to make sense of the world - it's about knowing that we are always growing up and giving ourselves the grace to do so. SUPPORT THE SHOWIf you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainConsider joining the community for more! The Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Some things I am learning:How to normalize the flux of knowing, then not knowing, and realizing that you never really knew anything at all.How to accept the wavering feelings of complete clear-hearted confidence followed by the indescribable uncertainty + fear of "am i doing anything right"The bliss and simplicity of the inevitable rediscovery of our childhood self as the pathway to all that we are and all that we will become.That we heal not to deal with our pain, but to learn how to accept our joy.+ All the rest in this episode.CHAPTERS:0:00 - 4:33: The Non-Linear Journey4:33: Fear, Uncertainty, Anxiety7:40: Finding Your Path10:19: What We Learn in the Hard Sh!t16:36: Dealing with Toxic People20:00: Your Deepest Self, The Ever-Unfolding25:00: Self-SoothingxxSupport the Show!If you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainxIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!38 - Unlocking Our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks20 - It is Happening For You, Not to You: Building Resilience in a World of ChangeInterested in more? Join the Figuring Sh!t Out Together Community!FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESThe Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3About FSO: SEASON TWO TRAILERSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Today's episode is a conversation with a girl after my own heart, Sian Camile.Sian is a beautiful, soulful woman who truly leads with love and creates spaces for creativity to flourish.Her presence is comforting and connected & the wisdom of her insights feel like a soothing balm for the soul.In this episode, we talk aboutThe Divine Energies: Masculine & Feminine (+ How they're Differentiated from Gender) Symptoms of The Wounded Feminine Healing the Heart + Moving from LoveBalancing the Dualities: Light + Dark Nuances of Womanhood, Dating, and Breakups How Sian curates and creates community for other people through her Writing WorkshopsHer perspective on vulnerability as a superpower and how breaking the barrier to allowing oneself to be seen is the key to bonding + relational connectivity with othersConscious living in your 20's: Finding Your CommunityWhether it's the similarities we share in both being writers, podcast hosts, or having Water, Air, and Earth in our big three (Sian: Cap Sun, Gemini Rising, Cancer Moon / Me: Pisces Sun, Virgo Rising, Aquarius Moon), this episode is an embodiment of Sian & I's kindred spirits.Enjoy <3xxVCHAPTERS:0:00 - 13:20: Introduction, The Power of Safe Spaces, Cultivating Vulnerability & Openness13:20: Masculine & Feminine Energies: The Divine Trio + Spiritual Significance16:00: The Wounded Feminine: Symptoms19:00: The Sacred Feminine + Healthy Masculine: Balancing Opposing Energies22:00: Internalized Misogyny, Reawakening our Life Force, Embracing the Heart-Led Life28:00: Love & Loving - Platonic Love, Familial Love, + What Blocks us from Love33:00: Birth, Death, Rebirth: Surrendering to Love & Loss + Accepting our Emotions40:00: Breakups, Change, & The Healing Power of Friendship47:00: Coping with the UnknownxFollow Sian <3Her Podcast: ApricityIG: @siancamilexSupport the Show!If you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainInterested in more? Join the Figuring Sh!t Out Together Community!FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESThe Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3About FSO: SEASON TWO TRAILERIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!53 - The Art of Letting Go42 - Let Yourself Bloom!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Productivity that feels nourishing is rare these days. When quantity out-rules quality, we feel burnt out by the pressure to produce. The tendency to put things off, look to our left and see something "better," and silently stay in our chamber of consumption, rather than creation is far too pervasive in today's age.So, how do we actually equip ourselves to separate what we want to do from what we "have" to do, create from a place of empowerment, and share our magic with the world? How do we resist the hustle-culture that leads to burnout while also being honest with ourselves about if we're showing up in a way that aligns with our highest self?On this episode, we take a look at the psychology of perfectionism and discuss ways to overcome the subconscious beliefs and patterns that keep us frozen. Through actionable steps and a mindset shift, we can slowly take aligned action in the every day to set our own standard for success, and silence the inner critic.(A very fun exercise is included to identify this voice + overcome it!!)CHAPTERS:0:00 - 5:35 - Introduction & Episode overview 5:35: The (Unholy) Trinity: Perfectionism, Self-Sabotage, & Procrastination7:45: Personifying our Limiting Beliefs (Ft. Bob the Blob!!)9:47: Shadow-Work + Taking Your Power Back - Why do we Distract Ourselves?11:00: Admitting what you WANT (What if you don't know what you want?) + Tactics to Overcome our Unproductive Habits12:30: The KEY to reclaiming your power over your time, attention, focus (while avoiding burnout)18:10: Get bored of your Bullsh!t!! (Lovingly <3) Practices for Self-Love & Self DisciplineJoin the Community to access the Shadow-Work Guidebook created with this episode <3 Includes a Step-by-Step guide to Transmute Past Perfectionistic Tendencies with Inner Child Healing w/ Meditation & Journal Prompts!xxSupport the Show!If you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainInterested in more? Join the Figuring Sh!t Out Together Community!The Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) MAILING LIST: FSO WebsiteFREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERIf you liked this episode, you'll like these too!18 - Burnout, Toxic Productivity, & Radical Acceptance25 - Self Love & Self Discipline - Learning to Listen to your Intuitive Cycles of Rest & ActionBook Recommendation: Atomic Habits, James ClearSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

Is it possible.. that many of our problems could be solved and doors of opportunity could open up if we just --- got out of our heads, into our bodies, and .. hit the swing-set? danced it out? allowed ourselves to BE fully in the sweet joys of life more often? The most profound lessons that lead to a fulfilling life are usually what we knew from our youngest ages. Let's talk about it.CHAPTERS:0:00-6:57 - The Importance of Play, Fun, & Reprograming The Little Voice in Our Head6:57: Learning to Be in Our Bodies: Improv + Self-Expression14:56: A Course in Joyful Living: The Artist’s Way - The Book that Changed my Life20:54: Following Your Impulses 23:05: We have Free Will!! (& An ANNOUNCEMENT on How I'm Using Mine!!!!) 27:54: Life is Made up of Little Moments, What Luxury ACTUALLY is 29:48: ENERGY IS CURRENCY.34:46: What About When "Having Fun" Is Impossible? 36:31: HAVE YOU LAUGHED TODAY? Inspirations & Resources:@greenadyofbrooklyn The Artists WaySupport the Show!If you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainInterested in more? Join the Figuring Sh!t Out Together Community!The Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) MAILING LIST: FSO WebsiteFREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!40 - Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to Be Lived!Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode is for those who have felt, at any point, like they are "too much."To dim the beautiful bright light in your being to be palatable and digestible for others is an indiscretion to your soul.We must resist the urge to give into cynicism and nihilism and embrace that life CAN be beautiful, love IS that good, and that we ARE meant to live in joy and trust that flow will guide us.During this episode, we go on a journey of understanding where cynicism and projection comes from, why we prioritize people pleasing over our own personal power, and what happens when we decide to live rooted in ourselves and connected to our joy.Life is too short to not believe that it can also be sweet. We talk:0:00 - 5:09 - The Psychology of Cynicism + Projection5:15 - 9:08 - The Negative Impacts of Dimming Your Light9:08 - 13:01 - Why Animals + Children are Magnets for Attention & Joy13:01 - 16:00 - The "OF COURSE THEY ARE!" Mindset16:00 - 19:58 - Letting Yourself Be Seen: Remaining Open to Love vs Toxic Positivity19:58 - Reprogramming your Mind & Affirmations for Inner/Outer HarmonyxSupport the Show!If you love to listen to FSO, rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts on this episode, and follow the socials to stay up to date!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainInterested in more? Join the Figuring Sh!t Out Together Community!The Figuring Sh!t Out Together community provides access to a connected space that deepens your navigation of healing, evolving, becoming. To receive some guided journey's alongside episodes, connection to the FSO Together community + Vanessa, and bonus content <3FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) MAILING LIST: FSO WebsiteFREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too! 38 - Unlocking Our Hearts Potential & Clearing Energetic BlocksSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

"You do not have to be good.You do not have to walk on your knees for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.You only have to let the soft animal of your body - love what it loves.Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.Meanwhile the world goes on.Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain are moving across the landscapes, over the prairies and the deep trees, the mountains and the rivers. Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air, are heading home again. Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting -over and over announcing your place in the family of things."'Wild Geese', by Mary Oliver xxCHAPTERS:(00:00) - Cleaning Out the Closet + Creating Space (06:59) - The Self is a Construct & Identity is a Prison (9:05) - The Art & The Power of Letting Go(14:30) - You Can't Heal What You Don't Feel(23:05) - Techniques for Embracing the Wisdom + Natural Intelligence of Our Body(27:42) - Surrendering to Flow + Allowing Blessings In(32:56) - The Unseen (40:05) - Reigniting Child-Like Wonder + Embracing New Life(Links to Resources mentioned in this episode + book titles down below <3)xx <3 IF YOU LIKE THIS EPISODE / FSO, PLS RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM + LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE! <3Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfTikTok: butterflyfountainJOIN THE MAILING LIST HERE: FSO WebsiteJOIN: FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIES YOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) FREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERxxResources mentioned in this episode: Sarah Blandin Activating Freedom MeditationHealing is Not My PurposeReadings from:“The Creative Act” by Rick Rubin "Dream Work" Poem Book by Mary OliverIf you liked this episode, you’ll like this one too! Growing & Outgrowing: You’re Not Wrong, You’re Just in the Wrong PlaceSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

At some point in our lives, we may find ourselves bending and folding ourselves into shapes that are not our own in an exhausting effort to fit in, conform, and get our return on the illusion we bought that told us we'd be happy if we just "did what we were supposed to do."And too often, when this formula doesn't work for us - we exile ourselves and internalize the confusion of being confused.We may wonder why we haven’t gotten it right, why we feel so misunderstood.What we fail to acknowledge is -- that while we try to contort ourselves into a glass half empty - our unique desires, impulses, and dreams are waiting for us to fill our glass full. Have you ever considered that maybe your life is asking of you something so unique, so particular, and so idiosyncratic to your own individual idiosyncrasies - that only you can hear the call and only you can take the action?This episode discusses the art of authentic living & the process of embracing our individuality - along with the challenges that come with outgrowing people, places, and things that may have once felt like home.There are many choices we can make in this world, but the one I can almost promise you will never regret making is choosing yourself.To choose yourself, you must learn yourself, know yourself, trust yourself - and honor the individual expression that calls in a voice only you can hear.I believe you have what it takes to do so.It is your calling, after all.xxV--<3 IF YOU LOVE TO LISTEN TO FSO, PLZ RATE THE PODCAST ON YOUR PREFERRED STREAMING PLATFORM + LET ME KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON THIS EPISODE <3CHAPTERS:0:00-10:25 - You’re not wrong, you’re just in the wrong place+ A reading from "Women who Run with the Wolves," Passage: The Ugly Duckling10:25 - FOMO isn’t Real - The Price of False Illusions of Happiness15:58 - Outgrowing what You Once Loved, Learning About + Honoring Your Individual Differences19:10 - Wanting MORE for your Life + Feeling Deserving Of It20:47 - Paralyzed by Indecision? Sylvia Plath’s Fig Tree of Choice26:27 - Your Power & MAGIC is You - You’re Not Meant for EveryoneIf you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living, or Just Surviving?SOCIALS / COMMUNITY / MAILING LISTPodcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfSpiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainJOIN: FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESJOIN THE MAILING LIST HERE: FSO WebsiteYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) FREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

This episode covers a broad range of topics from questions you guys asked via the FSO IG (@figuringshiiitout) for a special episode celebrating over FIFTY episodes of Figuring Sh!t Out! It has been an honor + a privilege to host this podcast & figure sh!t out alongside all of you. I LOVED answering these questions + learning what you guys are curious about. Because I loved it so much, I will be incorporating more Q&A's into future episodes, so if you have a burning question - feel free to reach out & stay tuned on the FSO instagram for more opportunities for this interactivity <3 (or ask in the section below this episode!)Thank you for listening, asking, and letting the light in me find the light in you. Here's to 50 more episodes!!! CHAPTERS: 0:00 - Thoughts on Religion 8:33- Exploring Astrology as a Medium of Self-Understanding 11:30 - Advice for Feeling lost in Relationships 13:47 - Forgiving your Parents / Ancestral Healing19:50 - How to Stop the Negative Spiral Loop 24:08 - Finding your Path Outside of Traditional Education 25:30 - Self-Care is Hot27:35 - How to Prioritize Time alone while Working, Seeing Friends, + Resting?30:48 - How to Navigate a Difficult Family Dynamic<3 IF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform & let me know what you think of this episode below! <3+ If you liked this episode & want MORE on the topics I covered, here are some FSO episodes you may like!Religion/Spirituality:Episode 10 - The Journey of Spiritual Awakening. Who are you, Really?Episode 38: Unlocking our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic BlocksRelationships (NEW EPISODE COMING NEXT WEEK!) Episode 4 - Access to you is a Privilege. Navigating All Types of Love + RelationshipsEpisode 16 - Are you Showing up for Yourself the Way you Want to be Shown up for?Finding your Life Path/Career: Episode 11 - Normalize Confusion - Wherever you are is okay, & You're not running out of timeEpisode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-ConceptEpisode 27 - Following your Calling + Taking the Bet on Yourself (Guest Episode w/ Wellness Entrepreneur)Episode 32: Career Confusion & Existential CrisesForgiving Parents/Healing Inner Child:Episode 19 - No one is Coming to Save You & That's a Good Thing: How to be Your Own HeroEpisode 46 - Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma (Guest Episode w/ my Sister)Prioritizing Time Alone in a Busy Life: Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living or Just Surviving?Episode 31 - Just Relax, You are EvolvingStopping the Negative Spiral: Episode 20 - It is Happening for You, Not to YouEpisode 33: How to get out of a Funk & Reclaim your Conscious PowerSTAY TUNED + Follow!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfSpiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainJOIN: FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESJOIN THE MAILING LIST HERE: FSO WebsiteYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) FREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy

As we've collectively shifted, it's clear that many are tuning into a greater spiritual awakening. This episode takes us through the intricate interplay between our ego's attachment to the physical and our soul's yearning for transcendence - the balance, the dance, and the beautiful journey of duality.CHAPTERS(00:00) - Ego vs Soul(7:40) - Connecting with Others + The Collective Consciousness(9:23) - The Impact of TikTok / COVID on our Culture's Spiritual Awakening(15:03) - Understanding Egoic Satisfaction & The Soul's Role(23:08) - Healing + Unraveling Patterns of Survival(27:46) - The Power of Choice + Alignment(30:09): "Training" the Ego + Breaking Free from Unconscious Patterns(43:19) - Inner Child Healing & Living From Love<3 IF YOU ARE A FREQUENT LISTENER OF FSO, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform & let me know what you think of this episode!! <3If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too: Fear is an IllusionSTAY TUNED + Follow!Podcast Instagram: @figuringshiiitoutPersonal Instagram: @222vgfSpiritual & Self-Help Advice -> TikTok: butterflyfountainJOIN: FIGURING SH!T OUT TOGETHER COMMUNITIESJOIN THE MAILING LIST HERE: FSO WebsiteYOU ARE YOUR OWN HERO | E-BOOK & GUIDE BY ME <3 (free w/ community access!!) FREE DOWNLOADABLE GUIDEBOOK ON INTUITION VS ANXIETYSEASON TWO TRAILERSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/figuring-sh-t-out/donationsAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy