Ep #328: Knowing What You Want vs. What Others Expect

#334: Have you ever looked at your life - your career, relationships, achievements - and wondered why success doesn't feel as fulfilling as you thought it would? You’re not alone. Through the relentless pursuit of more, many of us have unknowingly built ourselves beautiful cages instead of the freedom we were seeking.In this week's powerful episode, I sit down with certified executive coach, speaker, and author Keren Eldad to discuss her new book Gilded: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism, and the Relentless Pursuit of More and explore how overachievement can become a trap rather than a path to fulfillment.Join us today to hear how to recognize if you're living in a gilded cage of your own making and how to break free. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/334Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#333: The phrase "no one is coming to save you" gets thrown around social media like gospel truth, wrapped in empowerment packaging that sounds like it should light a fire under you. Maybe it even worked for a moment when you needed to snap awake and take charge of your own life. But there's something deeply problematic lurking beneath this seemingly motivational message.Join me this week as I unpack why this messaging is particularly dangerous in times of rising fascism and manufactured division.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/333Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#332: This episode is for the folks who look like they've got it together, who've checked most of the boxes: the career, the home, the relationships. You're productive, responsible, kind, maybe even the one people come to for help. But when it's quiet, really quiet, there's this persistent low buzz of disconnection.This week, I want you to know that you don't need to earn your healing or wait for a crisis to change. You’ll hear why this is one of the most dangerous ideas patriarchy has sold us, and how growth comes from wanting more - more presence, more peace, more pleasure, more days that feel like yours.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/332Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

I had the most amazing conversation with Busayo Ayodele, who was in Anchored last year, and I just couldn’t wait to share it. We had such a fun conversation, and everything she shared about her experience was just so inspiring, so moving, made my heart feel so explode-y. The way Busayo grew in Anchored is everything I dream of. It's the reason why I built Anchored. So, in case you’re thinking, “I can’t change. I will never stop living with these codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits. I’m just stuck in this forever. I was born this way. I’ll die this way. I am inherently defective.” I want to say a big, “Not so fast.” These are survival skills. They’re habits. They’re changeable. And please, listen to Busayo. If you are moved and want to join Anchored, there are a few spots left for the group starting very soon and I cannot wait to have you join us: https://beatrizalbina.com/getanchored/Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#331: After over a decade of coaching women through codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I'm seeing a heartbreaking pattern: the people who most need community support and nervous system regulation are talking themselves out of the very programs designed to help them.Whether it's the fear of being a burden, worrying you'll fall into old patterns of over-functioning, or believing you need to fix yourself before deserving help, these barriers could be keeping you trapped in a life you already know you don't want to live.Tune in this week to discover how healing happens in community, why you can't overcome relational trauma in isolation, and what it actually feels like to be witnessed, supported, and loved without having to earn it through performance or perfection.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/331Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#330: If you've ever found yourself constantly scanning other people's faces for approval, shapeshifting to keep the peace, or feeling completely disconnected from what you actually want, this episode is for you. You might call this people-pleasing or being too sensitive, but something much more profound is going on here: you’re living with emotional outsourcing.Tune in this week as I break down how emotional outsourcing develops early, gets reinforced by cultural systems, and shows up in our bodies as chronic anxiety, exhaustion, and disconnection. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/330Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#329: This week, I sit down with Carey Cramer, an Anchored program alum, to explore their transformative journey through attachment healing and relational growth. Over the past two and a half years since completing the program, Carey has developed a completely new way of showing up in relationships - one marked by presence, trust, and authentic connection.Through our conversation, Carey shares how the combination of thought work and somatic practices helped them move from a place of constant relational dysregulation to being able to maintain healthy relationships. Carey's story demonstrates how doing this work ripples out to positively impact not just our own lives, but our entire community as we learn to show up with greater integrity and authenticity. Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/329Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

#328: Do you struggle to make decisions, not because you're unsure of your desires, but because you're constantly weighing everyone else's? This isn't just indecision; it's emotional outsourcing, a pattern where we disconnect from our own authentic wants in favor of what others expect.Tune in this week as I share how, through practical somatic practices and nervous system work, we can begin reconnecting with our authentic desires and rebuild trust in our own internal wisdom.Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://beatrizalbina.com/328Mentioned in this episode:Download Your Free Guide to Conversational Consent!Ever find yourself holding space you didn’t mean to offer... or unloading your feelings without being sure the other person’s actually available? This Free Guide to Conversational Consent gives you clear, kind language to check in before diving into venting, advice, emotional processing, or big feels. You’ll learn how to ask for what you want clearly, how to make sure the other person’s a true yes, and how to honor both of you in the conversation. It’s about mutual care, real respect, and dramatically reducing the chance of quiet simmering resentment later. Consent in conversation is love. It’s clarity. It works. Click here to grab it: https://feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/conversational-consent-podcastConversational Consent Guide

If you’re ready to break away from anxiety and codependent relationships so you can have a life full of joy and confidence, Anchored is for you.We start on July 7th. Click here to sign up: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/anchoredI can't wait to see you there!

In this free, final workshop of the series, you'll learn how to make nervous system change actually last, how to stop backsliding when life gets chaotic, and how to create the kind of internal safety that sustains healing long term. It's happening on Wednesday, May 28, at 8pm eastern on Zoom. Click here to grab your spot: feminist-wellness.captivate.fm/workshop-podcastP.S. If you missed the other workshops in the series, there are limited-time replays available!