336. Painful In-Laws and How to Deal with Them

This episode is for anyone experiencing that feeling of 'Bed ROT' - where all you want to do is lay in bed (or the couch) for HOURS on end, scrolling on your devices and having no drive or motivation to do anything else. How to know what is happening here and how to TURN IT AROUND. Brain Fact : Why smell is the strongest trigger for emotions and memories of all the senses. Life update - MEEEE in Paris! and the Paris bean catch up! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

This episode is an encore of one of my favourite episodes of all time, where I dive deep into the minutiae of memory, how false memories are formed, how we can implant memories and how memories can be manipulated, and how you can improve your own memory. In this episode I’ll discuss how memories form, how consolidation happens, the difference between short term and long term memory, what happens to your memory when you get lesions or accidents or certain brain conditions like strokes or brain damage. At the end I'll touch on ways that you can actually improve your memory and I think it's important because memory is one of the major causes of stress and depression. So pay attention! LINKS Watch Netflix’s Memory Explained – Trailer at https://bit.ly/vox-memory Listen to How Memory can Be Manipulated with Elizabeth Loftus at https://bit.ly/manipulated-memory . Listen to Ep 313 ‘The Neuroscience of Memories: False, Implanted and Repressed Memories’ at https://pod.fo/e/225a7a Listen to ‘Ep 88 The Incredible Benefits of Sauna on Brain Performance and Health’ at  https://pod.fo/e/206895 . Listen to ‘Ep 50 Stress on The Brain and How To Reverse Its Effects’ at https://pod.fo/e/1f8306 . Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My lovely BEANS I’m currently on vacation in Europe, so we're diving into the back catalogue to revisit one of my favourite episodes all about self-confidence and self-assurance. It's a topic that I get asked a lot about a lot, and I think it's important to touch on this topic. And I think that self-assurance is something that needs to be worked on all the time just like a muscle, just like your health. So, what is self-assurance and where does it come from? A lot of us struggle to assert ourselves in certain situations, especially when we feel pressure from ourselves, society, our parents, our friends. If you’re always trying to please others at the expense of yourself then this episode is for you! I've got 7 points for you to follow for what to do to increase your self assurance. Let's do it! LINKS Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

A difficult in-law relationship can really make your life haaard. It puts pressure on your romantic relationship, strain on your mental health and can make your home life more stressed. I go through some questions asked by you about your in-law relationships and give my advice on how best to manage those tricky dynamics and keep your sanity. LINKS Listen to Episode 247. Narcissistic parents and in-laws: How to spot them and deal with them at https://bit.ly/Dyfm-247-narcissists .  Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you want to have a child at this point in your life, or do you want to wait? Do you yearn for a relationship or are you feeling stuck? Have you considered moving countries, quitting your job or doing a completely new degree to change the trajectory of your life? If you're struggling to make a decision that you feel is right for you, this episode will help you get the confidence to make those tough choices. They might even help determine whether it goes well for you or not! LINKS Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.com  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

How do you stop caring about what people think of you? How can you let go of the things that keep you from living the life you want? This question is so crippling for so many of us, but there IS a simple solution. In this episode we’ll learn how to deal with these feelings in a way that don't consume you and stop you from going on with your life. Plus I'll give you my 7 steps to overcome falling into the trap of caring what people think about you! BUT FIRST! BRAIN FACT:Central Sensitization and chronic pain: the phenomena when there is an enhancement in the function of the neurons and the circuits that are involved in nociceptive pathways causing an echo or remembered pain. It happens because of an increase in membrane excitability and synaptic efficacy. It’s a great example for how neuroplasticity works in a negative way and has been linked to chronic pain. LINKS Read about Central Sensitization and Chronic Pain https://bit.ly/centralsensitization Latremoliere A, Woolf CJ. Central sensitization: a generator of pain hypersensitivity by central neural plasticity. J Pain. 2009 Sep;10(9):895-926. doi: 10.1016/j.jpain.2009.06.012. PMID: 19712899; PMCID: PMC2750819.    Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR .  Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group .  Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG   Follow @alexispredez on IG    Follow @listnrentertainment on IG   CREDITS.   Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

My brand-new audiobook HOW TO CHASE CHANGE is the ultimate guide to shifting your mindset to become your best self. This 30-day program covers everything from turning aspirational goals into action and increasing self-confidence to overcoming heartbreak, eliminating negative self-talk, and so much more. LINKS Pre-order my audiobook ‘How to Chase Change’, on sale September 10th https://bit.ly/44xwszR . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Do you let the outside world take control of your happiness? Does it feel like you’re always at the mercy of what’s happening outside your control? In this episode we’ll find out how to become more intentional and less passive when it comes to creating your own Happiness. BRAIN FACT:HIIT – High Intensity Interval Training, cortisol and over-training syndrome. Read about Overtraining Syndrome here https://bit.ly/overtraining-syndrome . LINKS Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Beans I'm taking a much-needed long weekend so I thought it was a perfect time to bring up one of my most listened to episodes. It's a perfect place to start if you're new to the pod and a great reset if you're a long-time bean. I'm diving into discipline, and how reframing how you view it could be the ticket to a more free and enjoyable life. LINKS Listen to Ep Being Better: Do These 4 Things for 30 Days and Watch Your Life Change at https://pod.fo/e/2130c1 . Listen to Ep 66. Top 4 Discipline Hacks and More Brain Science at https://pod.fo/e/2043ff . Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

First up I’m going through your ICKS – you loved when I did it in episode 322 so thought I’d pick more of your hilarious icks to read out. And then I get into Head Noise where I answer your questions – this week it’s all about heartbreak in long term relationships. How do you handle a relationship when your mind is telling you to run but your heart says otherwise? Me and my boyfriend are in our 20s and have been dating for a few years long distance.  Early on there was some lying and deception and we broke up, but I gave him a second chance as I thought he needed time to adjust from his single life to being coupled. I thought we were in a loving truthful relationship since then. But I have recently found out he has been texting 2 women. I feel it’s disrespectful, and my lack of trust from the previous lying has come back. He also follows Twitter pages with sexually explicit content. I’m a very trusting and open-minded person but I feel this relationship has made me insecure and untrusting particularly because we are long distance. Blind or Blindsided: Last night my bf of 3 years came home from work and said we needed to talk and that this wasn’t working and he didn’t love me anymore. I didn’t see this coming at all. We recently opened a business together. We regularly have sex, said I love you, planned for the future, and last week got back from a holiday together. He said he hasn’t felt a connection for some time due to my negativity and that he said he wanted kids (I’m 41 and have had ovarian failure. We’ve gone through a round of IVF together). How was he able to completely blindside me without me realising anything was up – he has gone to a new place to live so he’s clearly had time to plan this without my picking up on it. LINKS If you want me to answer your question just email me at [email protected] Join the DYFM Facebook Group https://bit.ly/dyfm-group . Follow @dyfmpodcast on IG  Follow @alexispredez on IG   Follow @listnrentertainment on IG  CREDITS Host: Alexis Fernandez       Executive Producer & Editor:  Elise CooperDigital Producer:  Zoe Panaretos DYFM Social Producer: Shania MaguaManaging Producer: Sam Cavanagh  Find more great podcasts like this at www.listnr.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.