How to Stop People Pleasing and Please Yourself!

When we keep attracting relationships that drain us or hold us back, it's because there is still unresolved trauma and anxiety is driving our decisions.This can be hard to hear, especially for those who've done a lot of work on themselves.  But there's a gift in this pattern, and if we can use this as a way to get motivated to finally heal it, you CAN have the relationhip you deserve.To help us transform residual trauma and anxiety so we can receive the healthy, supportive relationship we deserve, our guest-- anxiety expert and author Silvia Araya--shares her tips.We will discuss insights from her new book “Is this what you REALLY want? How to Go Beyond Trauma into the Relationship You Deserve”, including how to heal trauma, reduce anxiety and align yourself with the relationship you want.  We cover: How to know yourself first, accept and love where you are, and exactly who you are….traumas and everything Have a better relationship with yourself How to better know what you don't and do want outside of your trauma. Don’t take anything less than what you REALLY want, because this is what you deserve.CONNECT WITH SILVIA AND GET HER BOOK:Silvia is a Clinical Trauma Professional and Numerologist. She studied Psychology, Trauma-Informed Yoga, Family Constellations, Bach Flower Therapy, among many. Her first book (Trust and live without Panic) is about her own experience with panic attacks and anxiety and how she developed her way to heal with a combination of techniques with a spiritual touch. https://www.instagram.com/silvia_araya_psy/https://www.facebook.com/silvia.araya.psyhttps://twitter.com/TrustAndNoPanichttps://www.youtube.com/channel/UCsxOAosGGwmlAaOCECKYqUwhttps://www.amazon.com/this-what-REALLY-Want-Relationship/dp/B0BP495VNVWANT FREE ADVICE? Write the show at [email protected] us on FB or IG @datingissuchadragTUNE IN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

If you're in a relationship or job that looks great on paper but feels out of alignment with your spirit, then you won't want to miss this episode!This week's guest, best-selling author and global retreat leader Cory Calvin, faced that same scenario.  After a successful 16-year finance and strategy career with global corporations, Cory left it all behind and reinvented himself to live the life that his spirit was calling for.  He tuned out the fearful warnings of people who thought he was crazy to make such a huge shift, but he listened to his heart and left his gilded cage. He became his own wing man, looking within for his truth and owning it!Now he's living his purpose as the creator of an ecosystem of transformational offerings--from retreats to books--to help people discover and achieve their dreams as soon as possible in life--and not when they retire or meet a partner.  He is the author of two best-selling books and a gratitude journal, leads inspirational and life-changing retreats around the globe, and mentors groups and individuals on personal and physical wellness. Cory plays and coaches competitive volleyball and is always finding ways to improve his holistic health - mind, body and soul. His home base is Florida, USA, but is most likely somewhere around the globe working on his goal of visiting every country. CONNECT WITH CORY:Follow his adventures on Instagram @cory.calvin.Check Out His Books & Trips https://www.corycalvin.com/linksCONNECT WITH DATING IS SUCH A DRAG:Want free advice? Submit a letter for reading on air to [email protected] us on FB or IG @datingissuchadragTUNE IN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

 Some people want to date someone wealthy because they’re not empowered in their relationship with money. Unfortunately, the less empowered you are around money, the more likely you will keep attracting others with the same issue. Like dating, you want to woo your money instead of trying to control it or avoid it out of fear.Once you get the lesson, the universe doesn’t have to keep sending it!To help you do just that, our guest expert this week on Dating is Such a Drag podcast is Susan Shloss, Certified Money Coach (CMC)®.  She is passionate about facilitating breakthroughs in her clients’ relationship with money. By combining practical financial expertise with intuitive inspiration, she guides her clients to ground the spiritual into the material, opening the door to greater prosperity on all levels.  With more than 20 years in the financial services industry, Susan has worked as an investment specialist and operations manager at Charles Schwab and built a 6-figure bookkeeping business. She is also an accomplished violinist, using her music to heal! Susan’s Music Therapy degree informs her work as a coach and musician, providing sound healing with violin to enhance the experience of her audience. She brings her longtime study of energy healing, bodywork, yoga, and a lifelong meditation practice to support her clients in the self-care at the foundation of an abundant life.FREE GIFTS FROM SUSAN:Take the Money Type Quizhttps://susanshloss.activehosted.com/app/forms/110 Sacred Practices to Amplify Your Prosperityhttps://moneywisdomcoach.com/10-prosperity-practices/Schedule Your Money Insight Call with Susan https://hello.dubsado.com:443/public/form/view/60fefc8b1550fa150b9bfd70Discography "Grateful" by Tao Theory  https://open.spotify.com/artist/71kQRdDPLHjTMCUPM8Cjrv?si=-YJANDkTQNyzSavEl3DSTg"Auspicious Bliss" with Acharya Mangalananda and Friendshttps://open.spotify.com/album/4tn56BZUeLRFGdiBlFLyrT?si=yvUNEvKcTzqdYgqroyuDjQCONNECT WITH SUSAN:https://moneywisdomcoach.com/contact/ 

So many of us have trouble receiving the love we want because we are plagued by perfection -- an unattainable goal that leaves us tense and unhappy.This week,  Jeanne and Lady Portia interview an expert who will help perfectionists let go and allow pleasure so they can receive love on a higher level.Erica Wiederlight is a confidence coach, expert, podcaster and speaker. Her work highlights sexual empowerment, dating, love, self love and body love.  She is the podcast host of the top rated show “Welcome To The Wiederlife”. Her work has been featured in NYFW, Galore & Cosmopolitan magazine. It is Erica’s mission to help her clients feel empowered, confident and with plenty of tools to navigate anything that’s happening in their lives. CONNECT WITH ERICA:You can read more about her on her website: www.wethelight.org or grab her free ebook here:https://www.wethelight.org/subscribeWant to Be a Guest or Get Advice?Write us at [email protected] TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

One of the most awkward and emotionally charged conversations couples often don't have is about mismatched libidos, frequently leading to disconnection and conflict.Sexologist Dr. Anya of TeachMeAboutSex.com prescribes healthy discussion to find balance between your libidos so you can boost intimacy and sexual freedom.  Learn her secrets in this juicy episode!Connect with Dr. Anya:https://teachmeaboutsex.com [email protected]@dr_anya_sexologist on IG Want to Be a Guest or Get Advice?Write us at [email protected] TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

People pleasing is a sure way to wind up with the short end of the stick in relationships. During the recent holidays, many people with people pleasing tendencies get triggered, wanting to get the perfect gift and be the perfect host to the point where they wind up feeling exhausted and inadequate.This week's guest, Relational Healing Coach Hari Alexandra, chats about how to stop people pleasing and start pleasing yourself so you can boost your happiness and attract or improve relationships. She touches on:How to know when you are people pleasing- learning how to be authentic with your own needs.Getting to know yourself, honouring what you feel and expressing it with loveHow to set boundaries from a loving place, rather than a last minute freak outTo start witnessing the critical part of your brain that seeks perfection and relax into loving yourself as you areSimple practices to bring you, or you and your partner back into intimacy and harmonyGet in Touch with Hari:www.sacredflute.orgInstagram: @sacred_fluteWant to Be a Guest or Get Advice?Write us at [email protected] TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

This week's guest is dating podcaster Ashley Sanders, co-host of Girls Ask Guys Show.  Ashley shares amusing stories as well as trendy advice on hot topics, such as the growing tendency of people to turn every date into a potential soul mate, or u-hauling -- moving in and getting serious way too soon.This is the perfect episode to share a lighthearted laugh while doing a gentle dating reset with the right attitude for 2023!More About AshleyFrom weekly talk radio to promoting top music talent to poscasting Ashley brings unique views and a womans perspective to dating and relationships. With over six-years of experience in the field, Ashley has tips and advice you don’t want. to miss.Connect with Ashleywww.iknowcupid.comhttps://www.facebook.com/GirlsAskGuyshttps://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/girls-ask-guys-show/id1488235978https://www.instagram.com/girlsaskguys/ Want to Be a Guest or Get Advice?Write us at [email protected] TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

One of the hardest parts about dating is knowing when it's time to call it quits on a relationship and getting the heart energy to start over again.This week our expert guest is renowned breakup coach Collette Gee, author of "Finding Happily  - No Rules, No Frogs & No Pretending," who will share her insights and tips on how to know when a relationship is really at an end and how to put yourself out there again to find a healthier relationship.In this episode she covers:1. How to release & let go2. The process of forgiving 3. Breakups hurt because it’s a loss and losses hurt 4. Why it’s harder to let go than others 5. Stages of a breakupMore About ColletteCollette is a dating & relationship specialist with numerous certifications,including as a Psychiatric Nurse, Violence Prevention Specialist, LeadershipDevelopment Facilitator and in Neural Linguistic Programing (NLP). She writes,speaks and coaches on dating and relationship issues, and has taught hundredsof women and men how to find create and sustain meaningful, healthyrelationships. Her mission is simple but profound; to teach people how to loveharmoniously and successfully. Connect with [email protected] to Be a Guest or Get Advice?Write us at [email protected] HOW TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag

What do you do if you married your soul mate but you self-destruct and are close to losing it all?This happened to celebrated Lifestyle Mentor & Executive Leadership Coach Dai Manuel, who was self-destructing many years ago and nearly lost his wife and family. In this amazingly touching and frank interview, he shares how he owned his s*!t and started dating his wife again. In that process he not only repaired his relationship with himself but also his soul mate, and now they are stronger than ever.This is a must-listen if you are struggling and need inspiration for transforming your life!Read more about Dai and get his free gifts below, and find the links to the episode!Dai Manuel is a super dad, dating his wife, with a lead-by-example way of living. He is an award-winning digital thought leader and author, Distinguished Toastmaster, TEDx speaker & edutaining keynote speaker, former partner and Chief Operating Officer of a multi-million dollar retail company, and a sought-after lifestyle mentor executive performance coach. Dai knows the struggle of the juggle and keeping his health and happiness a priority, which in turn improves your relationships. He models his work based on the 5 F’s: Fitness, Family, Faith, and Finances with an overarching roof of FUN, built on a rock-solid foundation of health.Website: www.DaiManuel.comFacebook: www.facebook.com/daimanuel TikTok: www.tiktok.com/@daimanuel Twitter: www.twitter.com/daimanuelInstagram: www.instagram.com/daimanuelLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/daimanuel/ Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/daimanuel YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/daimanuel Dai’s gifts to help you make life more awesome:Join the free 28-day Whole Life Fitness Manifesto program and learn how to maximize your body, mind, and spirit in 30 minutes a day. www.joinwlfm.com5-Day Sugar Detox Resource & Challenge - www.daimanuel.com/sugardetox Ultimate resource (no sign-up required) www.daimanuel.com/gift The 99 Bodyweight Workout Guide www.DaiManuel.com/99How to Develop a Positive Mindset www.daimanuel.com/positive-mindsetMy First 10 Clients Blueprint - www.myfirst10clients.com HOW TO LISTEN:Tune in now to the episode on various streaming platforms, including but not limited to:·        https://open.spotify.com/show/3gRkpgoU4FF5crsVmCAcpr·        https://podcasts.apple.com/podcast/id1615563572·        https://music.amazon.com/podcasts/7b77b8cc-a964-494c-98fe-5a6b98ef992d/dating-is-such-a-drag·       

Dating is stressful for most people, often stirring up our insecurities because the stakes are so high.But what if it didn't need to be that way?This week's guest, Peace Dating Coach Lauren Smith, is here to talk about PEACE DATING -- helping you navigate the process in a more stress-free way so you can make better decisions and look forward to dating. How cool is that?!Lauren Smith is an author, speaker, and mindfulness teacher who helps modern daters in their quest for love.Through her digital courses, Date in Peace podcast, MettaDate mobile app, and her book, “The Mindful Dating Journal: How to find a Healthy Love that Lasts,” Lauren empowers singles to ditch the dating struggle and claim the loving relationship they so deeply deserve.CONNECT WITH LAUREN:https://www.pinterest.com/mettadate/https://www.tiktok.com/@mettadate.mindsethttps://www.instagram.com/mettadate/This is the group coaching program I'm currently launching starting Nov.14: https://laurensmith.kartra.com/page/Shift-into-Love