How Mainstream Dating Advice Misleads You

Join Our 5000+ Members At Charisma University:https://bit.ly/3T5MrOxSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeSmall talk can be a drag - but it’s possible to turn those boring everyday conversations into a meaningful ones where you learn about and really connect with people.That’s why in this video we’ll explore what you can learn from some of the best conversationalists of our era about moving from small talk to deep connection so you never worry about being boring. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro.0:17 - #1: Let people know that you're happy to speak with them.1:59 - #2: Steer towards deeper conversational contexts.3:01 - #3: Use "parroting".3:59 - #4: Advocate for things people are ashamed to have felt or done.5:25 - #5: Pause to acknowledge vulnerability and courage.6:14 - #6: Reveal your own vulnerabilities and unflattering truths.--------------------------------------------------------------------------------#JoeRogan #HowardStern #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Check out Charisma University:https://bit.ly/3ejuNYWSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeAlmost all of our expectations about love and relationships have been set by Hollywood.The problem is that these movies are putting absurd ideas into your mind about what love really looks like, which can lead to some boneheaded decision making, maybe even ruining what could have been a great relationship. So in this video we’ll look at 8 ways Hollywood ruins your relationships. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:32 - #1: Movies train us to substitute emotional intensity for emotional quality.2:09 - #2: The perfect person will magically take interest because they see the real you deep inside.3:20 - #3: Love at first sight4:13 - #4: Love, in Hollywood, is proven by ignoring explicit rejection.5:43 - #5: Giving large unrequested gifts as a way to make amends.7:14 - #6: Pursuing someone who is currently in a relationship is romantic and not at all doomed to failure. 8:12 - #7: Suffering, dependence and self sacrifice are all treated as indicators of love.9:22 - #8: A romantic relationship is the solution to the problem of life.-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #CharismaOnCommand #DatingMistakes--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How To Stop Caring What People ThinkDiscover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2nNVCa0Have you ever lied about an odd hobby you have? Or maybe your job status? Or your height? Or even just avoided putting yourself in a situation in which you knew you were likely to fail?Why did you do that?Short answer: because you were embarrassed. Embarrassment comes from trying to control how other people perceive you. So instead of just showing the world your nerdy hobby, say you collect Beanie Babies, you go “I don’t want people to think I’m a dweeb.” and you pretend you don’t have one. The same process plays out with hobbies as it does with mistakes we’ve made, areas in which we are weak, and areas where we might get publicly rejected. We hide what we don’t want people to know about us. We conform to what other people would like us to be. But that doesn’t have to be the answer:Because there is another, more empowering mindset:Instead of focusing on other’s perceptions and feeling embarrassed about what they may think…Focus on whether or not you live up to YOUR OWN values.That's what this video is about and that's how you'll learn to stop caring what people think about you.Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupertAnimations by RSDF Studios, Jakarta (http://rambatansaddhadhika.co.id/)Art: Bonni Rambatan, Dwinanda EdoEditing: Bonni Rambatan Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join Over 14,000 Members At Charisma University:http://bit.ly/42wvVy5Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeWe’ve all had conversations that started out friendly, then suddenly turned into an argument that made us feel attacked. The other person twists your words and uses little tricks to try to make you look dumb.So today we’re going to break down a conversation just like that between Andrew Tate and Piers Morgan, to show you how to defend yourself in any argument, even if the other person is determined to make you look bad. This video is NOT endorsing either of these people, it’s simply an analysis to teach you the tactics some people use to assert dominance in an argument. ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:00 - Intro0:30 - #1: Spot when they enter "fight mode"1:14 - #2: Watch for misquoting2:49 - #3: Beware of derailing interruptions4:41 - #4: Don't steamroll concessions5:57 - #5: Catch any logic gaps7:34 - #6: Draw a conversational boundary8:39 - #7: Acknowledge any common ground9:40 - #8: Give yourself permission to change your mind10:30 - Improve your confidence-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #AndrewTate #PiersMorgan #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommand Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Discover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2w0FiJyFollow us on FB to join the Q&A tomorrow: https://www.facebook.com/CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see me playing music - Instagram: @CharlieHoupertToday in this video, we share six tips of psychological tricks to make people like you immediately. We don't always realize it but it is often in very small moments that people decide whether they like us or whether they don't and that is why in this video, I want to give you 6 things that you can use to make people like you immediately. Starting with the first one, a very specific type of compliment because you're not going to compliment people on what they have, you're going to compliment people on what they've earned and worked for. The truth about compliments is, yes, it feels amazing when people compliment us; of course, we like that. But when it comes to compliments, it often turns out to be that people are hearing the same ones over and over. For instance, maybe they have really nice eyes or they have a good sense of style and when they start to hear that over and over, it can become something that doesn't mean much to them. If you can be the person that finds out what they are working on and notices that while they're still working and struggling and then compliments them on that, it will hit them so hard. 0:19 Compliment people on what they've earned2:05 Get them to talk about what they love3:09 Share a truth that is to your detriment4:56 Open body language5:47 Exceed expectations without asking permission7:46 Be the first person to jokeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommand Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Philip DeFranco: How To Make People Trust YouDiscover The 4 Emotions You Need To Make a Killer First Impression:http://bit.ly/2Eu4uLBPhilip DeFranco is probably the most trusted newsperson on YouTube. And in an era where mainstream news is suspect and allegations of fake news fly even from the President’s mouth, that might make Philip DeFranco the most trust newsperson in America.In this video I want to talk about what you can learn from Philly D in terms of generating that kind of trust and respect, even when you’re talking about really controversial topics. And let me warn you, this isn’t always going to be easyAs Phil says, let’s just jump into it.0:31 Philip DeFranco delineates between facts and his opinions1:25 No hiding of biased opinions in Philip DeFranco Show 4:52 Philly D knows his principles and in DeFranco EliteSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-SubscribeConnect With Us Further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: https://www.periscope.tv/charismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get our best tip to turning on confidence in just 60 seconds: http://bit.ly/COC-ConfidenceYTDSo I made an early resolution that I hope you'll like: more YouTube videos!!Specifically I am going to create and release a video at least once a week. Let me know in the comments if there is something specifically you'd like me to cover.Happy 2016 - excited to make these videos a serious priority :-)Subscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us.Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: @CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Join our 5000+ members over at Charisma University!http://bit.ly/4mkfcoMSubscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Craig Ferguson has a reputation as one of the most fun, charming flirts in Hollywood.  Some female celebrities would go on his show just for the chance to flirt with him.While Craig has clear advantages, like being a famous TV host, a lot of what he does can be done by anybody who wants to be more attractive in conversation. Specifically, Craig has 7 habits that can help you build chemistry with anyone.  Learning just a few of these habits will let you go into any conversation with confidence, knowing people are going to love flirting with you.⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:50 - #1: Start your conversations in a fun, positive way.1:53 - #2: Use over the top teasing.3:59 - #3: Be playfully absurd.4:51 - #4: Create a safe environment for people to be flirty and sexual.10:23 - #5: Flirt with the world.11:13 - #6: Have leaned back body language.12:02 - #7: Get comfortable with your worst case scenario-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #CraigFerguson #CharismaOnCommand--------------------------------------------------------------------------------Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

How to approach and flirt with women that you like without being creepy.Get The 3 Ways To Start A Conversation: https://goo.gl/YcTueWThe first ever study of creepiness was done just a few weeks ago, and it had a really interesting result that men and women think of creepiness differently. Men think of creepiness as taxidermy, scary movies and clowns. Women have those same associations plus one more... Women also associate creepiness with men. Somewhere in the course of every mans life while he was flirting he has done something creepy. The reason is that men don't have the same understanding of creepy that women do when flirting.How to Flirt Time-Stamp Guide:0:47 The Goldilocks rule of eye contact when flirting and approaching2:04 Warm Up to social interaction (start making brief eye contact with everyone)2:44 Add a smile, wave or high five and speak to the women who smile back 3:50 When flirting combine your compliments with jokes to release tension5:05 1-3 Second touches on the arm are enough to indicate interest without being creepy 6:25 Pay attention to how receptive she is to physical contact and respond accordingly8:05 Critical Flirting tip avoid making her feel trapped by positioning your own back to the wallLink to Russell Brand Flirting Breakdown:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0kaR6-MIV8kSubscribe to Charisma On Command: http://bit.ly/subscribeCOCConnect With Us:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandPeriscope: https://www.periscope.tv/CharismaonOr if you want to see my personal stuff (my regular life + me playing music):Instagram: @CharlieHoupertPeriscope: @CharlieHoupert Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Get your first audiobook and two Audible Originals for free when you try Audible for 30 days. Visit https://www.audible.com/charisma or text "charisma" to 500 500! Subscribe to Charisma On Command’s YouTube Account: http://bit.ly/COC-Subscribe Emotional maturity creates strength and resilience in the face of life's obstacles, but pinning down what emotional maturity looks like and how it's developed can be hard to do. In this video we're going to cover 7 specific signs that you're emotionally mature, and if not, 7 things you can do to begin working on it.Animation by Zeino:http://youtube.com/zeino ⏰TIMESTAMPS⏰ 0:16 - #1: Emotionally mature people do not demonize exes.0:48 - #2: Recognize that they contribute to bad experience.1:43 - #3: Do not take responsibility for other people's feelings.2:38 - #4: Get angry, sad and anxious.3:27 - #5: Don't need to dwell or wallow.4:02 - #6: Can speak about emotions without getting emotional.4:31 - #7: Can pause. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- #CharismaOnCommand #Animation #Zeino-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Connect with us further:Website: http://www.charismaoncommand.comFacebook: http://facebook.com/charismaoncommandInstagram: @CharismaOnCommandOr if you want to see our personal stuff:Instagram: @CharlieHoupertInstagram: @IamBenAltman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices