EP. 411: Why People-Pleasing Is Quietly Destroying Your Self-Respect.

In this rewind I walk you through four of my go-to journal prompts for checking in with your energy — your most valuable and finite resource.I share my own honest answers to each one, explain why judgment has no place in this kind of self-inquiry, and show how these simple questions can become a powerful weekly ritual for staying rooted in yourself.In this Roxy Rewind:Why energy, not time, is the resource that matters mostThe four prompts: what's inspiring me, what's challenging me, what's giving me energy, what's draining meWhy self-judgment blocks real self-inquiry — approach it as the student, not the criticReframing "problem" as "challenge" to open up growth instead of resistanceWhy naming what drains you is the first step to protecting your energyThis episode was originally aired on 02/21/2023.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

This talk will make you rethink everything you've been taught about attracting real love. In this special episode, down again with Christine Hassler—Spiritual Psychologist, Master Coach, Facilitator, Speaker, and a Best-selling Author who doesn't do surface-level—nor do I. Together we get into why women get so exhausted searching for love, why being told you're 'too much in your masculine' almost always means something else entirely, and why desire itself was never the problem—attachment is.Christine breaks down her theory of magnetism, the difference between an expectation and a desire, the important connection between inner child work and relationships, and the real meaning of being called "intimidating." We also get into her own love story, fawning as a hidden trauma response, and her upcoming Love Magnet workshop with her husband, Stefanos. In This Episode:Why so many high-achieving women feel exhausted in their search for loveThe difference between being in your masculine and being in hypervigilanceWhy desire isn't the problem — attachment to outcome isHow family of origin and inner child patterns shape who we're drawn toThe difference between an expectation and a true desireWhat fawning looks like in relationships, and how to recognize it in yourselfI loved every minute of this conversation with Christine. I am so excited for you to listen to this one, AND if you feel called, come join her extraordinary FREE LIVE WORKSHOP with her husband, Stefanos Sifandos. You never know what saying YES will offer your relationship with yourself—and to your love life. Believe✨Claim Your Spot for Christine’s and Steph’s Free Workshop:LOVE MAGNET ⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADSFIND CHRISTINEIGiTUNES📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

In this rewind I break down five of my personal power moves for developing real, lasting self-confidence.I share the practices I've used throughout my life — from betting on myself with no real plan, to why my health habits directly shape my confidence — and how each one connects back to the relationship you have with your own word.In this Roxy Rewind:Why self-honesty is the non-negotiable starting point for real confidence"Competence creates confidence" — the role of preparation and repetitionBetting on yourself in the face of uncertainty, even without a planWhy integrity — being fully of your word — fuels self-respect and self-trustHow health and vitality directly shape your confidence and clarityThis episode was originally aired on 02/14/2023.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

Self-betrayal doesn't always look like weakness — sometimes it looks like kindness, patience, or being a team player.Today I break down five common ways people betray themselves without even realizing it, from saying yes when you mean no to constantly outsourcing your own judgment. I get into why repeated self-betrayal turns into full self-abandonment, and how fear — not love — is usually running the show underneath it. If the title of this episode caught your attention, there's probably a reason for that.In this episode:What self-betrayal actually is, and how it differs from self-abandonmentWhy saying yes when you mean no (or no when you mean yes) erodes self-trustHow constantly seeking outside opinions hands your power awayWhy breaking promises to yourself quietly destroys your self-worthHow minimizing your own feelings is a form of self-rejectionHow to start repatterning self-betrayal using your future self as an anchor⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

In this rewind I dive into one of my favorite core values — integrity — and why it's one of the most powerful attributes you can build.I share a real story from behind the scenes of the podcast, unpack why integrity is directly tied to self-trust and self-respect, and offer a self-accountability practice for the moments you're not fully living up to your own standard.In this Roxy Rewind:Why integrity means being "whole and undivided," not just honestHow misalignment between your words and actions erodes self-trustWhy you're always the witness to your own actions, conscious or notSelf-accountability as an empowering practice, not a punishmentA real story of showing up with integrity when it wasn't easyThis episode was originally aired on 02/07/2023.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

Dolly Parton didn't just leave us music—she left us a masterclass in knowing exactly who you are. This episode is a tribute to a national treasure who turned self-knowledge into an art form. I walk through five lessons from her life, her career, and one iconic 1977 Barbara Walters interview that still gives me chills—on Self-knowledge, Self-love, magnetism, refusing to be underestimated, and never saying yes to less than what you're worth. This one will boost your Self-empowerment BIG TIME. Rest in power, Dolly.In this episode:Why knowing yourself has to come before the world tries to define youThe difference between being underestimated and being underpoweredWhy you don't have to be reduced to just one thing or one labelWhy Dolly turned down Elvis over her publishing rights, and what it teaches about knowing your worth—and honoring itWhy true magnetism comes from fully showing up as yourself, not performing for approvalReflections on Dolly's 1977 Barbara Walters interview and what her composure reveals about Self-possession⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

This rewind is a conversation with my dear friend Nicole Vignola, a neuroscientist, keynote speaker, and author who reaches millions with practical, science-backed tools for mental well-being.We dive into the neuroscience of habit formation, why the brain can't fully tell the difference between something real and something vividly imagined, and what it actually takes to interrupt a pattern instead of just white-knuckling through it.In this Roxy Rewind:Why neuroplasticity depends on attention and emotional charge happening togetherThe 1995 study showing imagined practice can shape the brain like real practiceWhy repetition builds identity, whether the pattern serves you or notHow to interject a new pattern instead of trying to erase the old oneWhy sleep is the most underrated tool for consolidating changeThis episode was originally aired on 01/24/2023.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

"You have to feel worthy" gets thrown around in manifesting circles constantly — but almost nobody explains what it actually means. Today I break worthiness into two parts: the inherent worthiness that gets you the thing, and the functional worthiness that determines whether you can actually keep it. I get into why so many people can manifest something and then watch it slip through their hands, what your nervous system has to do with all of it, and why capacity — not deserving — is the real work. In this episode:The difference between inherent worthiness and functional worthinessWhy manifesting something is different from being able to keep itHow responsibility is the overlooked part of every manifestation conversationWhy your nervous system can block you from receiving what you say you wantHow to use micro-actions and body-based practices to build capacityJournaling prompts to identify where you're blocked in each type of worthiness⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

In this rewind I dive into the real why behind gratitude — the science, the spirit, and why it's so much more than a nice idea.I share the daily rituals I use to keep gratitude alive in my own life, offer a reframe that moves beyond the obvious things we're grateful for, and walk through simple tools to turn gratitude into an actual practice instead of a passing feeling.In this Roxy Rewind:The neuroscience behind why gratitude is a trainable, real biological stateWhy the hardest days are the most important ones to practice gratitudeGoing beyond the obvious — gratitude for your grit, resilience, and courageLooking at life through the eyes of the heart instead of the inner criticTools to build a real practice: rituals, a gratitude jar, vision boards, and voice notesThis episode was originally aired on 11/22/2022.⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle

There's a version of you already living the life you keep circling back to in your mind — and today I'm talking about what it actually takes to become her. I get into why the degree we thrive is tied directly to how comfortable we get with being uncomfortable, why courage always has to come before confidence, and why your nervous system needs its own permission slip before real change sticks. I also talk about desire — why it's not the enemy, and why suppressing it costs more than chasing it ever will. If you've been standing at the edge of a decision, this is your sign.In this episode:Why the life you want is already being lived by a future version of youThe link between comfort with discomfort and how far you'll go in lifeWhy courage has to come before confidence, not afterHow your nervous system holds you back even when your mind is readyWhy suppressing your desires costs more than pursuing themHow to start making decisions as the person you're becoming, not the person you've been⭐️YOUR SUPPORT MATTERS: Please: Subscribe + leave 5⭐️Star rating +review HEREEnjoy! xRxFIND ME ON:️INSTAGRAMSUBSTACKYOUTUBEXTHREADS📘 BUY My Guided Illustrated Journal: https://www.roxannesaffaie.com/journal FREE RESOURCES: 🌟 Download my FREE Decisive Woman Playbook to learn how to trust your intuition more + make sharper decisions you feel confident making: https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/next 🌟 Join my SUBSTACK for thought-provoking transmissions on all things Self-mastery + personal growth and Self-directed living, laced with Sensual Intellect + FEMININE edge: https://roxanneroxysaffaie.substack.com 🌟 Join my book launch waitlist to lock in your spot for an exclusive, intimate, transformative virtual event I’m hosting. https://roxannesaffaie.myflodesk.com/thewomanwhodoesntsettle