How Parenting Triggers Past Trauma?

I get triggered every time my child doesn’t listen to me. Why do I get SO triggered when I’m not heard? Is it because I’m overwhelmed with my parental responsibilities? Or does it go deeper than that? Do my triggers flow from the past- from a time when I wasn’t heard by my parents?In the 24th episode, hosts Dr Meghna and Devishobha discuss how our childhood and how we were raised can continue to impact us and how we choose to parent our kids.The hosts discuss how to utilise our triggers in cultivating self-awareness about our past and go on to heal ourselves. Through real-life therapy examples, the hosts discuss how to recognise that we’re triggered and how to then work to stay in the present.The hosts share everyday practices to avoid the tripwire: acronymed CONSC= Practising self-compassion and empathyO=Imaging and practicing a different outcomeN= Fulfilling unmet needsS= Seeking supportBig Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.If you wish to learn more, check out:How not to pass on your own trauma to your kids: YouTube video by The Therapist Mommy The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der KolkWaking the Tiger: Healing Trauma: The Innate Capacity to Transform Overwhelming Experiences by Peter Levine and Ann FrederikWhen the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress by Dr Gabor MateTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, hosts Dr. Meghna and Devishobha throw light on the 4 major styles identified by psychologists and the major factors of your personality determining your parenting style. Why is this important? Because Parenting Styles can predict a large part of the parenting outcome. Simply put, parenting style is the style of communication, response and discipline parents use to raise their children. Devishobha and Meghna share the details of the 4 major parenting styles- Authoritarian, Authoritative, Permissive and Uninvolved. They go on to discuss the distinct characteristics of the parenting styles, what makes the best parenting styles, what influences parenting styles, what to do to adopt the best parenting style, and finally how to reconcile parenting styles with your partner. This week’s mnemonic: EARIf you wish to learn more, check out:PARENTING STYLES: THE HANDY ULTIMATE GUIDE FOR THE MILLENNIAL PARENTParenting style quiz Books: The Battle Hymn Of The Tiger Mother(Authoritarian parenting)Running with scissors (Uninvolved parenting) Podcast episodes: How to stop yelling at your child Difficult children are just strong-willedParenting consciousness summit Tune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development. You can listen to this and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favorite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

It’s very easy to spot a new parent – the droopy exhausted eyes, the forced smile, the marginally low display of patience, and the auto-parent mode that is enabled at all hours of the day. As the parent and child battle this stretch, parents build on their ‘sleep debt’, which is very hard to pay back. If this debt persists over time, it can have serious ill effects on the parent’s health. Fortunately, parents’ sleep deprivation eases once their precious little one begins sleeping through the night (six to eight hours), starting at around three months of age. According to the Nemours Foundation, this starts at around three months of age for most babies.If your child is five months or older and you have not found respite from your sleep-deprived state, there is one woman here in India who can help you. She specializes in sleep training babies to snooze through the night. And no, it has nothing to do with the cry-it-out method! Meet Ajita Gopal Seethepalli – Child Sleep Consultant, a Child Eating Habits Consultant, and a Women’s Mental Health Coach. Just like any new mom, she entered a state of deep sleep deprivation with her firstborn, but unlike most parents, she refused to accept sleepless nights as a side effect of raising her kid. Over nine months that were filled with research and trial and error, she managed to successfully erase her dark circles and find a permanent solution to her son’s irregular sleeping habits. She formulated the Sleep Right Program, which she uses to guide parents into sleep training their children to achieve the bliss of a good night’s sleep. Listen to the episode where we discuss the deets of sleep training- what is it, and why is it a buzzword now? Ajitha also throws some light on the things that she wishes every parent knew about sleep, but sadly, many don’t and continue to be sleep-deprived. Big Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.Resources: Nemours FoundationAJITA GOPAL SEETHEPALLI: BRINGING BACK JOYFUL PARENTING WITH HER SLEEP TRAINING SUPERPOWERS4 POWERFUL SLEEP TIPS FOR KIDS STRUGGLING WITH A SLEEP ROUTINECheck out the previous episodes hereTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programmes on parenting and child development. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox, or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The birth of a baby brings with it a roller coaster of mixed emotions ranging from joy to fear. But, one unexpected state could be depression. And, what's more, any new mother is susceptible to it!In the 21st episode, hosts Dr Meghna and Devishobha talk about Postpartum Depression (PPD)- what it is and why it happens, how PPD is different from postpartum blues, and how new moms experiencing it can cope with it.The hosts discuss how new mothers, already grappling with a host of biological, emotional, social, and financial changes, can recognize that they’re experiencing PPD. They also discuss the causes of PPD and why it’s a condition that is being heard about more these days. The hosts also discuss how families can support a new mother experiencing PPD. They also highlight the importance of seeking professional help in treating PPD.The hosts share 3 buckets of strategies for dealing with PPD, acronymed SAD. S= SupportA= Activities for the well-beingD= Daily activitiesBig Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.If you wish to learn more, check out:What my Postpartum depression taught me about supporting other mothers (https://kidskintha.com/postpartum-depression/)Traditional weaning group on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/twindiaBreastfeeding support for Indian mothers on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/breastfeedingsupportforindianmomsTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programmes on parenting and child development.. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/ .You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is growing research on the effects of video games on children. Studies of children exposed to violence have shown that they can become immune or numb to violence, imitate the violence they see and show more aggressive behavior with greater exposure to violence. Studies have also shown that the more realistic and repeated the exposure to violence, the greater the impact on children. Kids can become overly involved and even obsessed with video games, which I've been seeing a lot lately, especially in kids who are doing only online learning. As you try to create a shift in your family’s relationship to the screen—and hopefully also in yourself—you must go into the endeavor with an appreciation that you are fighting a colossal battle. You are up against forces that have spent billions to ensure that your loved ones, and millions of others, fill their corporate coffers. They spend little to nothing on raising awareness of the dangers. Join us in this episode as the hosts Devishobha and Dr. Meghna cover ground on what the brouhaha about video gaming is, whether video games do have a positive impact, guidelines for parents to know about the quality of video games and sift through them, the precautions parents can take before their children get addicted to gaming, what are the symptoms of video game addiction and what can parents do to get their child out of the vicious addictive cycle of video games. This week’s mnemonic is: PACKS Plan, Action, Challenge, Kick out Tech, Support References:Cyber Junkie: Escape the Gaming and Internet Trap.Get Off that Game, Now!: The Essential Family Guide to Healthy Screen Behavior (p. 75). Cultural Integrators. Kindle Edition. Big Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show. Tune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes!If you wish to learn more, check out:- The Raising Assertive Kids podcast episode to help children set healthy boundaries and develop body anatomy, healthy relationships and beat anxiety and toxic energy-draining patterns.- The Family Meal Matters podcast episode to model family conversations.- The Grandparents Vs. Parents podcast episode to learn how to reconcile differences in parenting styles and values between generations.- The Talking to Children about Death episode to learn how to help children process grief over the loss of a loved one.- The Container baby syndrome Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development.You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favorite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Your child asking you, “Where did I come from?” is usually a milestone moment in parenting- since it signifies that your child has started wondering about their identity. But many of us squander away this opportunity by either avoiding answering this question altogether or covering it with euphemisms. In the 19th episode, hosts Dr Meghna and Devishobha discuss why talking about sex and sexuality and bodies with even young children is not just important but can be very comfortable too. It sends the message to your child that talking about sex in an open and honest manner is essential to having healthy relationships with others. The hosts discuss how to utilise teachable moments in having these conversations with children, and how talking about sex doesn't only mean talking about sexual intercourse. What respectful relationships look like, what are healthy boundaries in relationships, how we can keep our bodies safe, how to navigate consent in relationships, how to prevent sexual victimization….ALL of this is ALSO talking to kids about sex and sexuality.The hosts also discuss what’s missing from our school in sex education. The hosts share their guidelines on how to have sex conversations in an age-appropriate manner: BIMB= Talking about BodyI= Talking about IntimacyM= Talking about MediaBig Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.If you wish to learn more, check out:TARSHI https://www.tarshi.net/It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends by Robbie HarrisTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programmes on parenting and child development.. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/ .You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, hosts Dr. Meghna and Devishobha talk about why child sexual abuse is more common than we would like to believe, and the top misconceptions parents have about making their children aware of the abuse and preparing them to deal with it in an appropriate manner. Devishobha and Meghna share real-life incidents where simple, regular communication could have prevented abuse and trauma for the child. They go on to discuss why teaching them about ‘safe and unsafe touch's better than ‘good touch bad touch’ to educate kids about sexual abuse, what questions to ask before you send your child for a summer camp or even school, why using euphemisms for body parts is detrimental to children, and finally some curated strategies to prepare your child to be alert and aware to prevent incidents of child sexual abuse, and also deal with them appropriately, should an unfortunate experience befall them.This week’s mnemonic: KERNELS.If you wish to learn more, check out:Preparing Kids for EmergenciesChild Sexual Abuse -KidskinthaChild HelplineChild sexual abuse and protection laws in IndiaTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes!Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development..You can listen to this show and other fantastic shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favorite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In the 17th episode, hosts Dr Meghna and Devishobha talk about how in a world where we have unbridled internet access, countless children are consuming porn from an unbelievably young age. Research has shown that having age-appropriate conversations about pornography with children and adolescents helps them develop a healthy and respectful view of relationships and sex. Despite this, most parents don’t have these conversations with their children, due to fear of embarrassment. The hosts discuss the current trends in children consuming sexualized online content and why it’s important to provide age-approrpiate sexual health information to our children. They also discuss how parents can ideally respond when they catch their teens watching porn, and how to use ‘teachable’ moments to talk to their teens about porn.The hosts share their guidelines on how to have porn conversations in an age-appropriate manner: PORNP= Prevent shamingO= Open questionsR= Rational discussionN= No connect with real lifeBig Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.If you wish to learn more, check out:YouTube video by The Therapist MommyThis mom caught her teen watching porn: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKaa7vnHhNsBook ‘Stoned, Shamed, Depressed: An Explosive Account of the Secret Lives of India's Teens’ by Jyotsna Mohan Bhargavahttps://www.amazon.in/Stoned-Shamed-Depressed-Explosive-Account/dp/9353579473/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Tune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, hosts Devishobha and Meghna discuss why yelling is so prevalent, the psychology behind yelling, and a 5-step action plan to move away from the habit of yelling. The hosts share common everyday scenarios that usually trigger yelling, the long-term and short-term effects of yelling, and what to do after an episode of yelling. The episode also features 5 key actionable strategies to redirect the habit of yelling into a habit of self-awareness and measured responses to situations. The mnemonic this week is TRACE. T- Track your triggerR- Find Reinforcements A- Create an action plan C- Change the scenery or allow for a time-in E- Evaluate long-term goals( meaning model conflict resolution skills) Listen to the episode to find out more. Big Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.Resources: Exposure to parental verbal abuse is associated with increased gray matter volume in superior temporal gyrusThe Long-Term Health Consequences of Child Physical Abuse, Emotional Abuse, and Neglect: A Systematic Review and Meta-AnalysisPsychological stress in childhood and susceptibility to the chronic diseases of aging: moving toward a model of behavioral and biological mechanismsThe Orange Rhino Trigger Tracking Sheet SampleThe Orange Rhino Trigger Action Plan WorksheetTune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development.You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox, or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, hosts Devishobha and Meghna discuss the difference between sibling conflict and sibling rivalry. Listen to the episode to learn strategies to help you recognize simmering patterns of sibling conflicts, the psychology behind sibling conflicts and rivalry, how parents might unconsciously be fueling sibling rivalry and strategies to nip it in the bud before they turn into damaging, repeating patterns in the family. This week’s mnemonic: BBBB. B- Breathe B- Bucket B-Boundaries B- Behaviour Listen to the episode to find out more. Big Talk About Tiny Humans is India’s first research-based podcast for parenting and educators, hosted by Devishobha Chandramouli and Dr Meghna. Visit https://ivm.today/tinyhumans to learn more about the show.Reference: SIBLINGS: 5 Pleasant Effects of Growing Up With Them! - KidskinthaPodcast references: : Family Meal Time Matters Raising kids with compassion Books: How To Talk: Siblings Without Rivalry Paperback Tune in to Big Talk About Tiny Humans every Wednesday for new episodes! Have a question or topic you’d like to see covered on the show? Follow and DM the hosts on Instagram at @kidskintha and @thetherapistmommy and the hosts will address them in future episodes. Visit https://kidskintha.com/ and https://raisingfamilyacademy.com to learn more about the hosts’ ongoing programs on parenting and child development. You can listen to this show and other awesome shows on the IVM Podcasts app on Android or iOS. Subscribe to the show on your favourite podcast platform to never miss an episode! You can check out the IVM website at https://shows.ivmpodcasts.com/.You can also listen and subscribe to the podcast on all podcast platforms. If you’re on Apple Podcasts or Spotify, don’t forget to leave the show a rating and a review. You can also find the show on Google Podcasts, Amazon Music Podcasts, JioSaavn, Castbox or elsewhere. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.