Abusers & projection

Using social media for validation instead of monetisation- or even INSPIRATION!!! - love your purpose and turn it into your life’s work

When a guy tells us his wife / his ex etc never wanted sex - we assume he’s a shitty partner or a shitty lover - selfish, inconsiderate etc - and how to spot these people before you end up stuck with them

Different ways to use the spatial reframing techniques of timeline exercise - #nlp #ancestral #healing #trauma #selfhelp #spatial #emotional #freedom

How it feels for women with different approaches by men - the guy who brags but doesn’t connect with her & wonders why he’s single - the guy who is aggressive & she puts a wall up and he can’t work out why women aren’t attracted to him - so he’s MORE assertive - vs the playful one who gets them talking about what they want and makes them feel relaxed and safe to open up

How to spot #Abusers #racists #homophobes on the first date - the clues that he’s bad news - before you find out the hard way

The red flags we often overlook - a technique to spot those who trigger us BEFORE we have evidence - esp for those who have been hurt so often they don’t trust their own judgement any more

People who have money and trauma and don't understand why they are not happy Bc they have "things" but not the life skulls to give them quality of life or quality friendships

How to be kind & compassionate to yourself and others during these fragile times - why it's the easiest and most powerful way to make a difference - and holding space for others actually gets you the love you're craving

What to do with bad advice - from well-meaning people who tell you to “get over it” or “just forgive them” with no understanding or compassion - PLEASE start by forgiving yourself NOT the abuser - please focus on letting go of the story but not the lesson - and choose self love and healing one step at a time - The clients who are the most stuck are the ones who have been given awful advice by an authority figure and they’ve taken it as gospel - but, if it’s not working for you - please choose something that helps instead

Watching two friends try to play rescuer in all their relationships - made me come up with a simple (mocking) reminder, of how playing rescuer is unhealthy - not just because you are treating your partner like a helpless puppy, but you are trying to get love by forcing someone else to change - and why they often didn't ask for it, don't want it Remember when someone is playing the victim it does NOT mean that they actually want a solution - sometimes they just want attention #playingvictim #rescuers #enablers #saveyourself #boundaries