Do you feel stuck in a tug-of-war—like you have to choose between two things that both matter? In this Secret Sangha episode, Diana Hill shares on the topic of paradox, and how the tension you’re trying to “solve” may actually be the place where growth happens. Drawing on examples from relationships, parenting, work-life balance, and her own struggle between service and making a living as a therapist, Diana explores Marianne Lewis’s “both/and” approach—shifting the question, seeing interdependence, and rethinking outcomes so you can walk the tightrope with more ease.
Listen and learn:
- The three core features of paradox
- Why trying to eliminate a paradox often keeps you stuck in struggle
- How to shift from “either/or” to “both/and” thinking
Share this episode with someone who feels forced to choose—and practice holding both sides with wise effort.
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