239. Why You Keep Snapping Back to Your Old Identity

Do you ever feel like you're making progress only to blink and find yourself back where you started? Snapping back to your old identity is frustrating as hell, especially when you're doing the work! I've had this exact conversation with my clients countless times. They ask, "Beck, we've looked at this belief, we worked through it, so why do I keep snapping back to my old identity?" In today's episode, I'm going to tell you exactly why!Your identity isn't just a label – it's a frequency your subconscious recognises and protects. Think of it like a radio station your brain keeps tuning back to, even when you try to change the dial. I'll show you why your subconscious creates a set point and then snaps you back like a rubber band when you stretch too far. But don't worry! I'm sharing micro-actions that will rewire your nervous system without triggering that safety alarm. These aren't big, showy moves – they're tiny daily practices that compound into massive shifts. Ready to step into your next-level identity without bouncing back? Let's go there!Topics covered on Why You Keep Snapping Back to Your Old Identity:Why do you keep snapping back to your old identity even after making progress?What makes your old identity like a favorite radio station you can't stop listening to?Why does success feel so scary to your subconscious?How do micro actions rewire your brain faster than big leaps?How can you make your nervous system feel safe with a new identity?How can you practice being your new identity during everyday activities?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-you-keep-snapping-back-to-your-old-identity

Are you in the middle of your launch feeling like you want to burn it all down? Don't light the match yet! It might be one of the signs you're uplevelling.In today's episode, I'm talking about what's really happening in your subconscious when everything feels foggy, overwhelming, and off-track. The truth is, sometimes the most uncomfortable moments are actually proof that you're expanding beyond your comfort zone. So, if you've been showing up, doing the work, challenging yourself, and suddenly everything feels misaligned - congratulations! You're likely in the midst of a powerful uplevel. Join me as I walk you through the seven distinct signs that show you're growing even when it feels like failing, and how to tell the difference between true sabotage and necessary shifts. I'll share micro-subconscious actions that will help you stay anchored while moving through this challenging but necessary phase of growth. Don't abandon that version of you that's trying to lead right now - she's here, even if you cannot fully see her yet.Topics covered on Signs You’re Upleveling:Why might sudden inner chaos actually be a sign of your biggest business breakthrough yet?What is a neural mismatch, and how is it affecting your business?What are the seven signs you’re uplevelling?This is how you spot if you’re self-sabotaging or genuinely shifting your identity.What to do next when you notice signs you’re uplevelling?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/7-messy-signs-youre-upleveling

What if your next level didn’t feel like a leap… but your new normal?In today's episode I take you deep into what it actually looks like to normalise your next level not just from a mindset perspective, but from a neuroscience and subconscious lens.If you’re chasing bigger goals, higher income, deeper impact but your results aren’t matching your energy, this episode will show you why and exactly how to shift it.Inside this episode:Why upleveling often doesn’t feel like success (and what it does feel like)What “neural mismatch” is and how it causes self-sabotage even when you’re doing “all the right things”The subconscious reason why strategy alone isn’t working (even if it’s a good one)Why emotional safety is the secret to sustainable success5 powerful micro-shifts to anchor your next level internally before it arrives externallyConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFor full show notes & more resources head out to https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/what-it-really-looks-like-to-make-your-next-level-feel-normal

In this episode, I’m walking you through exactly how I help clients collapse ten years of mindset noise in just one conversation and how you can learn to do the same.We’re talking about what actually rewires your subconscious (hint: it’s not another pep talk or affirmation), the real reason you keep spiralling post-launch or tweaking your content again and again, and why NLP has been the #1 tool I’ve used to scale my business sustainably without burnout.If you’ve been circling NLP, curious about what it actually does, or wondering if this is the next evolution for you… this episode will land deeply!Topics covered on Subconscious Reprogramming with NLP:Why traditional mindset work often doesn’t stick and what doesThe exact questions I ask to shift a subconscious block in one conversationWhat makes NLP such a powerful tool for lasting transformationFive unexpected ways becoming NLP certified helped me scale my businessHow to know if NLP Practitioner training is your next stepConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Join the NLP Practitioner & Masters Certification waitlistShould I Get Certified In NLP - Free MasterclassCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFor full show notes and more resources visit www.rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-nlp-helped-me-build-a-multi-6-figure-business

Did you know the NLP techniques I use are working on your subconscious even right now at this exact moment? Those "throwaway questions" I ask? That colour we keep talking about? The random conversation when you're spiralling? None of that is bloody random! Your subconscious is being rewired completely on the sly, and it's working because you don't even notice it happening.In today's episode, I'm spilling my favourite NLP techniques – from the Milton model (the deliberately vague language that makes your subconscious fill in the blanks) to pattern interrupts (why I sometimes call you mid-meltdown) to timeline therapy (how we change meanings without reliving trauma). Your business cannot outgrow your mindset, which is why I'm so cheeky with these techniques. Because they're getting you results while bypassing your logical brain entirely.This episode will show you how your subconscious is being influenced in ways you didn't even realise. Let's tune in! It'll blow your mind!Topics covered on NLP Techniques:What’s really happening in your subconscious mind when I ask those seemingly casual questions?Why do I so often use vague language when speaking to your subconscious mind?What’s the misconception about NLP techniques that actually makes them more effective?How am I using these NLP techniques on this very podcast without you noticing?Which NLP techniques do clients love the most?How can these NLP techniques help you grow your business and smash your goals?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:NLP Waitlist - https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/nlp-waitlist Apply to work with meCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/sneaky-nlp-techniques-i-use-on-you-without-you-noticing

In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of one of the biggest business decisions I've ever made - starting a second company: The Subconscious Institute. From a mindset blog in 2019 to signing my first five clients, to becoming a globally recognised subconscious expert, this is the honest, unfiltered story of how a vision turned into a legacy. You'll hear the full backstory of what led to the creation of my NLP certification school, why the industry needed a new standard, and what’s coming next as I redefines how subconscious work is taught.Topics covered on Starting a Second Business: The origin story: from blog posts to subconscious breakthroughsThe moment I realised the NLP industry needed to changeWhy I decided to build a certification school from scratchThe emotional process of building a second businessWhat to expect in the upcoming NLP podcast seriesHow The Subconscious Institute is creating a new standard for transformationJoin the waitlist for NLP Practitioner Certification: https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/nlp-waitlistGet your FREE ticket to our launch party : https://www.rebeccahaydon.com/nlp-launch-partyConnect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/starting-a-second-business-the-real-story-behind-my-nlp-certification-school

Are you tired of carrying that emotional backpack up your mountain of scaling your business? Avoiding your emotions might feel like a smart thing to do so you don't get overwhelmed, but I'm here to tell you it's actually keeping you stuck. In today's episode, I share exactly what happens in your brain and body when you push those big feelings away – from how they physically get stored in your connective tissue to how they create those frustrating patterns of self-sabotage that won't budge no matter how much mindset work you do. Plus, I'll guide you through a simple but incredibly powerful exercise to feel and release emotions safely – right here on the podcast! You'll see for yourself that feeling your feelings is never as scary as your mind makes it out to be, and how just 90 seconds of emotional processing can create the space needed for new beliefs to take root. Ready to drop those stones from your backpack? This is the subconscious breakthrough you've been waiting for!Topics covered on Why Avoiding Your Emotions is Blocking Your Next Level:How does your brain physically process emotions, and where do they get stored when avoiding your emotions becomes a habit?What happens in your limbic system when emotions become stagnant, and how does this create repetitive triggers?Why does your subconscious create stories around strong emotions, and how do these become limiting beliefs?Guided emotional clearing exercise to safely process feelings that have been holding you back.Why is feeling your emotions actually safer than you think, and how can you build this practise into your daily life?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/why-avoiding-your-emotion-is-blocking-your-next-level

How do you know if the missing piece in your business is strategy or subconscious? Honestly, it's rarely one without the other. In today's episode, I'm breaking down a question straight from one of my clients that might be the missing piece to why you keep spinning your bloody wheels.When your launches don't convert or your audience feels quiet, your first instinct is to tweak your messaging, niche down, or completely overhaul your offer – but here's the truth... You cannot see strategy clearly when operating from a dysregulated nervous system.So I'm going to walk you through how your prefrontal cortex (the CEO of your brain) literally goes offline when your subconscious perceives a threat, leaving you making decisions from your emotional limbic system. You'll learn how to identify if you're in "self" (calm, confident, capable) or being run by a protective part, plus questions to ask yourself when you feel stuck. Your subconscious is the operating system, and your strategy is the map – now let's get them to work together!Topics covered on Strategy or Subconscious:Which common subconscious patterns might be disguising themselves as strategy problems?How can you tell if you're operating from "self" or being led by a protective "part"?What questions should you ask yourself when you feel stuck or uncertain in your business?Why do most business challenges involve both strategy and subconscious work?How can you create subconscious safety around visibility, rejection, and success?How can you lead your business from clarity rather than conditioning?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/how-do-you-know-if-the-missing-piece-is-strategy-or-subconscious

Did you know that self-consistency is the hidden reason why you're working your arse off without seeing the results you want? I'm going deep today, honey pie – way deeper than just talking about being consistent with your content or your to-do list.We're diving into why your subconscious fights to keep you exactly where you are, even when you desperately want more. Your brain would literally rather be RIGHT about who it thinks you are than SUCCESSFUL! That's why you can have the perfect strategy, show up consistently, create killer offers – and still not get the results that match your effort. It's not because you're doing anything wrong. It's because your subconscious identity doesn't match your goals.Join me as I show you how to spot where your self-concept is holding you back and give you the exact steps to rewire your identity from the inside bloody out. You'll learn to make your next-level self feel SAFE to your nervous system, so your subconscious stops sabotaging your success. This is the missing piece to becoming the CEO who leads powerfully, scales with certainty, and sells effortlessly.Topics covered on Self-Consistency:What is self-consistency, and why is it blocking your business success?How might you be unconsciously sabotaging opportunities that do not fit your current identity?Why do you struggle to scale even when you are doing all the "right" actions?Why is making your new identity feel "safe" crucial for your subconscious acceptance?What steps can you take to rewire your identity and create self-consistency with success?How can you recognise when your self-consistency is pulling you back to old patterns?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/self-consistency

Shedding your old identity might sometimes feel like absolute death rather than the euphoric buzz everyone promises. In today's episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on the uncomfortable reality of identity shifts that nobody talks about.I call it "the void" – that disorienting space between who you were and who you're becoming. Your old self operated on survival, panic, and hustle, so when you finally create safety, your nervous system freaks out! That calm, focused energy can actually feel boring compared to the adrenaline you're used to. This isn't regression – it's recalibration. Join me as I walk you through why your subconscious tries to pull you back to familiar chaos and give you my four favourite subconscious practices to anchor into your next-level identity when the old version whispers "come back."Your higher self is closer than you think – you just need to navigate the void first, and I'm here to guide you through it!Topics covered on Shedding Your Old Identity:Why does shedding your old identity and stepping into your higher self feel like death instead of the expected euphoria?What exactly is "the void" and why does it make so many people quit the subconscious work right before their big breakthrough?How does your nervous system react when you are shedding your old identity?Why might your new next-level identity feel strangely boring after you've done the subconscious work?What subconscious techniques can you use to anchor your new identity when old patterns try pulling you back?Connect with Rebecca Haydon:Apply to work with meThe Subconscious MembershipCome say hi on Instagram  | Facebook | YouTubeFind the full show notes & more resources at https://rebeccahaydon.com/podcast/shedding-your-old-identity