We’re Dropping the Judgment on Our Way to Unity Consciousness

It’s deeply natural to deeply desire deep connection. In fact, we are physiologically wired for it. But when our nervous system is out of whack, we struggle to find resonance—and end up in fawning, transactional patterns that drain our life force.  This week, Danielle is talking about the connection between your nervous system and your relationships. Because when you balance your nervous system, you have better relationships.  She’s sharing the how-tos for getting balanced and exploring what your nervous system has to do with your emotional intimacy with everyone in your life.  In this episode: The difference between resonant relationships and fawning—and why faking connection costs you your life force How to know when you’re in true heart-to-heart connection The guiding question to create resonance MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: REGULATE TO RELATE Masterclass—heal your nervous system to heal your relationships Infusion Sessions—One-on-one prosperity consciousness mentoring with Danielle Follow + Subscribe to Danielle on Substack for weekly essays + more Join The Heart Centered Collective Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

Danielle has never talked publicly about this.  In her 20s, she was channelling “guides”—a term she uses very loosely. It all started with a Ouija board. Friends were messing with it, and she got in on the action.  It’s a story about feeling special, getting in too deep, and discovering that “just because a disembodied energy comes through from the ‘other side’ doesn’t mean that it’s higher vibration than someone on the Earth plane.” It’s a story that may change how you think about spiritual guidance.  In this episode: How to tell the difference between guidance and spiritual deception The question that will help you discern real wisdom from spiritual BS Why being psychic doesn’t automatically make someone enlightened What your nervous system knows that your mind doesn’t MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Infusion Sessions—High-ticket, high-value 1:1 business mentoring with Danielle The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

I think judgment of others can be a byproduct of spiritual bypassing. All us self-helpers… lean in. Basically, spiritual bypassing is when we paint negative experiences as "spiritually positive” before we’ve actually felt the very human, negative feelings. Because we are secretly judging ourselves for having not very pretty or “spiritual” emotions and experiences. And the offshoot of self recrimination is that you become really f*cking JUDGY with others. That’s one of the most harmful parts of spiritual bypassing—that everything gets categorized as either “spiritual” or “not spiritual.” TV? Not spiritual. Resentment? Very unspiritual.  But when you start loving your human, “negative” behaviours more… you become MUCH COOLER to other people. It’s pretty simple. LOVE THE GNARLY WITHIN—and you know what happens? You become a more Loving person. So… get in, loser. We’re dropping the judgment on our way to unity consciousness.  In this episode:  How judgment stems from spiritual bypassing The difference between discernment and judgment Community is medicine The cost of categorizing everything as “spiritual” or “not spiritual” A compassionate look at why judgment might just be self-rejection in disguise MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Why AI is Not Your Best Life Coach. READ | LISTEN Infusion Sessions—1:1 business mentoring with Danielle The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

The theme in my Heart Centered Collective this month is prosperity consciousness. And I don’t talk at all about money. And I barely touch on manifestation principles. Because… you can visualize and budget your butt off, but mental methods only work well if they ride on higher consciousness. Mentality is not consciousness.  Consciousness is pure life force, prana, divinity. Consciousness is always there before we think, feel or do. Higher consciousness (“feeling” closer to the Divine, you could say,) results in better thinking and doing. So my approach to prosperity at the moment is less strategy, more energy. Get your thoughts set to a higher frequency and two things will happen: better attraction and better decisions. Inner and outer. Energy AND strategy. You’ll attract abundance and you’ll know the best moves to build on it. THE ABUNDANCE AFFIRMATIONS I trust in divine timing. I am aligned with majestic overflow. I welcome deep abundance into my life in all forms. I am deeply supported. My needs are met. I thrive wholeheartedly and completely at all levels and elements. Abundance flows to me freely, and I circulate it openly with love. All that I am, and all that I have, is for appreciating the good in all. In this episode: Spoken abundance affirmations (offered 3x as a full set) Breathing cues to support presence Heart centered awareness—always MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: For more Heart Centered practices + classes: The Heart Centered Collective. This month’s class is all about ABUNDANCE ENERGY—feel it out for just $7. FREE DOWNLOAD: The Abundance Affirmations  

What happens when you pause, sunset, phase out, bless + release everything that’s draining your life force? More joy. More prosperity. More clarity.  This episode is a full download of Danielle’s Stop Doing List—two years of deep renovation inside her business and life—and how those decisions brought in more success and alignment than ever.  From saying goodbye to platforms, programs and partnerships that didn’t vibe… To completely overhauling the editorial process to bring in more creativity and collaboration… To scrubbing a 220,000 person email list down to 65,000 loving, active subscribers… To shifting from hustle-mode launches to always-open invitations… And so much more. This is the companion episode to “I Stopped Obsessing Over Rapid Financial Growth. Here’s Why…”  It’s not about doing more. It’s about doing what matters—and having the courage to stop what doesn’t. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: I Stopped Obsessing Over Rapid Financial Growth. Here’s Why. LISTEN | READ The Fire Starter Sessions (audio version) Infusion Sessions—High-ticket, high-value 1:1 business mentoring with Danielle The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

Danielle loves bold goals and quantum leaps. But not at the expense of wellness—or sanity.  In this week’s episode, she’s sharing the reason she hit pause on chasing rapid financial growth—and how she rebuilt her business around calm, clarity, and a new definition of prosperity.  She introduces her Be Well Number—a formula that balances revenue goals with nervous system regulation—and explains why weekends, joy, and purpose are more valuable metrics than just the bottom line.  This is heart centered 10x’ing—business strategy through the lens of Love. In this episode: Why “10x” isn’t just about money  What Danielle’s Be Well Number is—and how to calculate yours How nervous system regulation saved her business (and lifestyle) Why her team chose NOT to chase rapid revenue growth this year The emotional benefits of right-sized goals How to create a business that supports your wellness MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: INFUSION: High-impact strategy sessions with Danielle + Team 10x Is Easier Than 2x by Ben Hardy + Dan Sullivan Face yoga faves: @trinhgeorgg + @face.fitness.club The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

Waiting for karma to bite someone back? Here’s the twist… In the final installment of the What In the Woo? series, Danielle dives deep into one of the most misunderstood concepts in spirituality: karma. Far from being a cosmic punishment system, karma is the Soul’s invitation to restore balance—and it’s way more compassionate than most of us think. In this episode, Danielle unpacks the true essence of karma: the ego generates the negative, the heart creates the positive, and every experience—no matter how painful—is a chance to come back into alignment.  This episode is for anyone who’s ever wondered, “Why is this happening to me?” or tried to tally their spiritual “points.” Expect clarity, compassion, and a whole lot of energetic truth. In this episode: The truth about negative karma (it’s not personal punishment) How the ego creates energy knots—and how the heart unravels them Why “bad” karma is really your Soul calling you home What real positive karma feels like (hint: it’s selfless and freeing) How the Universe always bends toward balance, no matter what MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: What in the Woo? 3-part podcast series → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE. The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

In some particular order, here’s how I attempted to entrain my only child into higher consciousness, mostly by example, but often by preaching in the kitchen while making burritos.  Turns out that the kid incarnated as a wise soul, and my hot air was just some wind beneath his wings.  This is for the parents, the kids, and the divine relationships that shape who we become.  In this episode: Why relationships > everything The power of posture The no-BS rules around money + media How beauty, rock n’ roll, and boredom raise consciousness Oversharing, emotional fluency, and saying sorry fast MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: What in the Woo? 3-part podcast series → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE. How to Be Loving  The Business of Being Born Ina May’s Guide to Natural Childbirth Hold On To Your Kids - Gabor Maté + Gordon Neufeld Raising Cain by Dan Kindlon + Michael Thompson The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

Today is Part 2 of the 3 part What In the Woo? Series—offering a fresh perspective on how to work with the term “Inner Child.”  The Inner Child is not your younger self—it’s the wounded, emotional, shadowy part within, asking for healing. Your Inner Child isn’t you when you were 8 years old. Inner Child is a really effectual term for the part of us that hasn’t healed yet—the wounded self, the fragmented self. Interchangeable with the ego or shadow self.  The part of you that gets triggered, goes into fight, flight, freeze, or fawn? That’s your Inner Child asking for attention and love. The gift of the Inner Child is that they’re always pointing to what’s unresolved within us.  Anxiety attacks before big events, losing your phone while hustling, getting sick when you’re pushing too hard? Those aren’t accidents—they’re calls for compassion, not "tough love." True spiritual growth happens when we hold space for our Inner Child reactions—gently, lovingly, without judgment. Reparenting our unmet needs into creative power... and that’s Inner Child work. In this episode: How the Inner Child represents your unconscious self Why Inner Child healing transforms emotional triggers How self-sabotage moments are really spiritual SOS signals The power of gentleness vs. tough love How to spiritually grow up through reparenting MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: What in the Woo? 3-part podcast series → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE. What The Sphinx Told Me: LISTEN | READ The Archives: Read on Substack Join the Inner Child class inside the Heart Centered Collective Catch up on Part 1 of the What In The Woo? Series: Are you ego’ing? What IS the ego? Do you DO it, or does it do you? Next week: A look at “following the money” for Mother’s Day. Subscribe so you don’t miss it. Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz

The ego… your shadow… is a POWER PORTAL. For years, I thought I had to punish all my ego-centric’isms—manipulating to get my needs met, constant striving to burn my karma, pretending to behave. But actually? I’ve needed to assimilate… embrace… and talk sweetly to my shadows. The ego is the unhealed part of us. More precisely, “it’s the way our unhealed self acts.” It’s not a villain—it’s a pattern. And that “pattern” is always trying to protect you from heartbreak or rejection. What if, instead of saying That’s my ego I need to get in check… we just said: “Whoops, I was ego-ing. I can get back to Loving.” Because ultimately: Light, shadow, light. In this episode: A liberating definition of the ego (that’s not outdated personal growth dogma) Why bravado and deep insecurity are both ego disguises “Ego’ing” vs. Loving—how to tell the difference Why ego is not your enemy—and what it’s really asking for MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: What in the Woo? 3-part podcast series → Subscribe to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE. What The Sphinx Told Me: LISTEN | READ The Archives: Read on Substack Join The Heart Centered Collective for just $7/month Take the free Stressed to Blessed Quiz