How To Stop Pain from Turning Into Suffering

My Friends… “Brain” and “mind” are not interchangeable terms. Your brain is the complex organ that controls thought, memory... every process that regulates your body. Your mind is the conduit of your CONSCIOUSNESS. We talk a lot about rewiring neural pathways in the brain for wellness––and that’s essential and powerful work. But I think we should first focus on reorienting our minds. ENERGY FOLLOWS THOUGHT.  Raising our consciousness raises the quality of our thoughts… which helps govern our gray matter. Eps 111 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is ready for you. You’re going to get tips on re-wiring your real mother board.  🥰My favourite how-to involves paying attention to the attitudes of the key 7 people in your life. You’re not going to hear that from a brain scientist, but it’s what the mystics know works. 🤩And I have a really cool “ENERGY FOLLOWS THOUGHT” exercise for you, with this life-lifting question, “What might happen if you allow this thought to continue?” Free your mind and the rest will follow. MENTIONED IN EPISODE 111 Join me for the LAST publicly-available live workshop for the rest of the year. Use code POD111 to save your seat in my May 2 workshop BIG ENERGY: Inner Child Work That Will Change Your Life for just $25 USD. NEW! Are you a fighter, flighter or freezer? Take the Stressed to Blessed Quiz to find out the default survival strategy that throws you off centre… and counter-moves to get back you center. The Heart Centered Membership is a support system for your body-mind-spirit…and your work in the world. A monthly workshop + audiobook series, with some self-help in the front and business in the back. Get on the wait list for when doors open in June.  Sacred Weekends is my (always free) newsletter for devotion + lifestyl’ish. 220k subscribers are digging it! 2 Fridays a month.

A question we all want the answer to: If we can’t rush the healing, how do we handle the pain? Learning to not push away my pain—the physical and emotional, has been one of my greatest-hardest-most luminous learnings. It’s walking toward Acceptance––capital “A” Acceptance, the Soul Quality,  And it really has upleveled my LIFE. Here’s a highlight from our HOW TO HEAL FOR REAL WORKSHOP. V.S., our metaphysical practitioner and I built out a teaching about resistance and dis-ease. This was my most highly attended and embraced class to date. I’ll walk you through a powerful metaphor for how the mind spins pain into full blown suffering. And how we can keep our emotional waters cleaner, more stable and able to handle emotional and health storms. Attachment plays a big role in our pain…and healing. WITH LOVE, DANIELLE (Eps 110) is ready for you… to heal. What people are saying about HOW TO HEAL, FOR REAL Workshop: "Thank YOU for this powerful heart to heart. I feel really nourished and touched by the wisdom." — Nailia "I am reminded that I AM so powerful." — Nancy "Reminder I'm taking with me: that I have the healing within me already if I acknowledge my ego and resistance." — Jacinda MENTIONED IN EPISODE 110 The Nourish System is a holistic approach to regulating your nervous system and steadying your relationships. You’re not the wound, you’re the healer. Get instant access to the How To Heal, For Real workshop + audiobook to shift your relationship to pain and dis-ease. NEW! Are you a fighter, flighter or freezer? Take the Stress Reaction Quiz to find out the default survival strategy that throws you off centre… and counter-moves to get back you center. The Heart Centered Membership is a support system for your body-mind-spirit…and your work in the world. A monthly workshop + audiobook series, with some self-help in the front and business in the back. Come check it out.  Sacred Weekends is my (always free) newsletter for devotion + lifestyl’ish. 220k subscribers are digging it! 2 Fridays a month.

Hi Friends, I talk about this is consciousness circles AND business masterminds: Are there metrics for enlightenment?  Yes, yes there are! It’s like being spiritually cool…which comes with a heap less ego. You might not be saintly or levitating, but…like… You don't need to defend yourself after every argument. (Or do you? ☺️)  You don't have to go to everything you’re invited to. (Right?) You’re in touch with your nervous system. (It’s that internal network that controls your response to EVERYTHING.) Come on over to WITH LOVE, DANIELLE (Episode 109) and I’ll affirm how truly rad you are––you monk amongst us, you, or… we can aim a bit higher. Together. DO NOT LISTEN TO THIS EPISODE IF YOU’RE ENLIGHTENED. It’ll be a total waste of your time. Otherwise… I’ve got 8 beautiful indications of spiritual maturity to roll through with you. We got this. MENTIONED IN EPISODE 109  Has your self-help become self-criticism? White Hot Truth is a wise and often (hilariously) relatable exploration of the conflicts between spiritual aspiration and our compulsion to improve. The world––and your nervous system––needs you to make this counter-culture move…it’s not forceful, it’s POWERFUL. Download and listen into Episode 108 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE—10 Ways That Being Softer Makes You More Powerful NEW! Are you a fighter, flighter or freezer? Take the Stress Reaction Quiz to find out the default survival strategy that throws you off centre… and counter-moves to get back you center. The Heart Centered Membership is a support system for your body-mind-spirit…and your work in the world. A monthly workshop + audiobook series, with some self-help in the front and business in the back. Come check it out.  Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

My Friends, Inner battlefields (which are so painful.). Global battlefields (too many to count.) Bravado that’s cruisin’ for a Dark Night of The Soul. Adrenal fatigue and fried nervous systems.  Look where hardlines and forcing ourselves to endure have gotten us. Keep in mind: Antidotes are the OPPOSITE of the poison. So… I’m building a strong case for softening.  These 10 Ways That Being Softer Makes You More Powerful are not just about flexibility. You’re going to see how apologies (the sincere kind) and self protection (without being brittle) and radical responsibility (KEY quality for being a heart centered leader) actually serve to make you a more gentle––and very powerful being. I’m also suggesting that we compromise on some promises we made. And that we make holistic health and Self Compassion top priorities.  We’re also going to refine our definition of “intimacy.” A strong possibility: Power up your gentle qualities and you will have more energy to do what your SOUL wants you to do––because you won't be wasting your life force on the push-pull drain-train. The world needs you to make this counter culture move. There’s a much easier way to do life and work…it’s not forceful, it’s POWERFUL. Episode 108 of WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is planting seeds for the new earth. Your heart intelligence is the fertile ground. MENTIONED IN EPISODE 108 The Heart Centered Membership is a support system for your body-mind-spirit…and your work in the world. A monthly workshop + audiobook series, with some self-help in the front and business in the back. Come check it out.  The Heart Centered Leadership Program coaching tools + templates. Lifetime access to exercises, workshop outlines + business support for your work in the world. Sacred Weekends is my (always free) newsletter for devotion + lifestyl’ish. 220k subscribers are digging it! 2 Fridays a month. The Nourish System is a holistic approach to regulating your nervous system and steadying your relationships Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

I’m never contrarian for the sake of it. I’m good to go with the conventional flow. But not today, friends, not today! We have higher realms of consciousness to traverse. And those higher states are not in our guts. or lower chakras, or low vibe stories from our past. Old adage: "Trust your gut.” New way: Nah.  Pay attention to your gut, but don’t let it make your plans. There’s both spiritual and scientific sense to this.  In WITH LOVE, DANIELLE Eps 107 I’m talking about decisions, intuition, direction, and how to figure out your next best move....and it’s NOT about “following your gut.” Higher Love, babes, Danielle MENTIONED IN EPISODE 107: The Heart Centered Membership: A place you can come up for air. We meet LIVE 2xs/month. You have access to ALL of our classes, spiritual practices + rituals, meditations, playlists, mantras. Ready to go where the love is? Come on in! ($25 USD/month. Or drop in for $37 USD) Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Friends… After 4 weeks of the Healing With Anxiety series, maybe we need a palate cleanser, yes? Like so: If you could do a “do over” what would it be? Talk about starting over after divorce. What’s in your bag? What’s in your fridge? Why do you think our peers aren't’ talking about… certain world issues? And how to shift? Lite, deep, lite, lite, and way deep. I’m so glad we’re in this together. It’s Wednesday! So WITH LOVE, DANIELLE is ready for you and Episode 106 “Do overs + What’s in my bag? It’s Q+Awesome!” Lifestyle, heartbreak and always…healing. See you in there! With Love, Danielle MENTIONED IN EPISODE 106: The Samara Mini: https://samarabags.com/collections/accessories/products/the-mini?variant=32967433584674 Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Oh hi, high achiever! I know you can do ALL OF IT. You ALWAYS pull it OFF.  But… at what cost? Crappy sleep, anxiety meds, cortisol levels whacked, extra pounds, skimmed savings, minimal alone time… too much alone time? Let’s heart to heart this out. Because this is a collective story and we need to rewrite the script. WITH LOVE, DANIELLE Eps 105 is for the polished, solid, achieving, doing, driven, types who are also actually the worrying, perpetually dissatisfied, unable to relax, fretting about what others think of you… types. This is part 4 in my 4-part podcast series on Healing With Anxiety and I’ve got your number… because I myself have had these behaviors on speed dial for years. Listen in, Love. I have a Lot of clarity and Compassion for you. And some solutions. MENTIONED IN EPISODE 105: The Nourish System: reduce stress + restore your nervous system The Heart Centered Membership: A place you can come up for air. We meet LIVE 2xs/month. You have access to ALL of our classes, spiritual practices + rituals, meditations, playlists, mantras. Ready to go where the love is? Come in! ($25/month. Or drop into any class for $20) Get my (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hello Friends on the path… I’ve known about the struggles of some of my favorite philosophers…Krishnamurti suffered from terrible migraines. Ram Dass had a massive stroke. Yogananda had crippling pain from apparently taking on the karma of his devotees.  Anyone in a physical body suffers. Facts. But the accounts I found most helpful were those of teachers who struggled with anxiety and panic. Teachers of mind mastery who had to face these kinds of inner hurdles struck me deeply. Two of whom helped me relax into deep self compassion: Adyashanti and Mingyur Rinpoche, and I’ve found a way to loop their teaching back to one of Audrey Lourdes’ pillars: “Nothing I accept about myself can be used against me to diminish me.” I’m sharing their enlightening humanness in today’s WITH LOVE, DANIELLE (Eps 104) as part of my 4 part series on Healing With Anxiety.  It reminds me of the very simple Buddhist prayer, “May my suffering be of service.” Please tune in and… give yourself a break. Your fellow aspiring human… With Love, Danielle MENTIONED IN EPISODE 104: In Love With The World by Mingyur Rinpoche Adyashanti The Nourish System: reduce stress + restore your nervous system The Heart Centered Mastermind: Support for your business + career-ing. Business masterclasses with Danielle + guest experts each month. Community + business strategy huddles with Team Danielle leadership.  Get my (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month. Think: girlfriend vibe meets deep thinking. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlie Brown's famous words "My anxieties have anxieties!" is a reality for people with anxiety “disorders.” Anticipating, forecasting and predicting …worry, unease and nervousness. All of which create symptoms that create a fear that the symptoms will last forever. This is part 2 in my 4 part series on Healing With Anxiety and I embed an anxiety quiz for you in this episode (#103). We’ll see which lifestyle areas have some anxiety chatter for you.  The What and WHY of anxiety… and how do you know how long it will last? What does it look like to have a healthy relationship with our thinking? How do we use appreciation as a psychological tool to diffuse anxious thought looping? I’m sharing a story about an intensive with my psychotherapist… at my wit’s end. What are your current “WHAT IFs” and fear scripts? 6 very practical ways to heal anxiety… it’s entirely and totally doable. Anxiety is not a lifelong condition. It’s a way through to our personal and divine power.  Healing happens, my friends. Please tune in for some proof and practicality. With Love, Danielle Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Our 4 part series on How To Heal with Anxiety starts here, with Love. With some help from conventional sources, the metaphysical practitioner on our team, V.S., and my own experiences with anxiety and healing, I’m setting the stage for us to look at basic anxiety “disorders” and to move toward healing measures. You will see yourself, and/or your loved ones and the world at large in this list of anxieties types. NAMING struggles is an important part of healing, and… I’m encouraging us to NOT OVER-IDENTIFY WITH LABELS. Especially when we’re talking about anxiety disorders. I prefer to say, “imbalances” over “disorders.” And “natural” over “normal”––because we could argue over what’s normal in a world that's flailing and waking up. But the heart and the nervous system know what’s natural. This episode (number 102) is thorough. We’re covering a lot of ground and then the following 3 episodes will get lighter (kind of.) The foundation looks like: Types of anxiety disorders, as outlined by the National Institute of Mental Health. Physical, psychological AND metaphysical explanations of anxiety imbalances The relationship between your nervous system and anxiety healing The distinction between anxiety and panic. They are quiet different. Definitions of our energy bodies (Etheric Body, Astral Body, Mental Body.) 24 causes of anxiety that you’ll probably relate to. 6 ways to dissolve anxiety that are physical, simple and immediate. What IS the vagus nerve and why is loving on it so important to our wellness? Then we open the conversation to spiritual resilience and more meta-physical ways to heal with anxiety SAVE THE DATE: This is all leading up to Thursday, April 4, 2024, at 12 PT | 3pm ET, for a live class, HOW TO HEAL FOR REAL. Mark it in your cal to attend live if you can. Anxiety is stirring in our collective and individual psyches. We’re still recovering from the global health bootcamp that started four years ago, and with raging wars and buckling economies… we might be… frayed. Naturally. Anxiety and all of it’s presentations aren’t a permanent condition. It’s our unhealed content asking for attention.  Anxiety is Resilience + Compassion training. Come step it up with me. MENTIONED IN EPISODE 102: The Nourish System: reduce stress + restore your nervous system Spiritual Business Mastery Bundle: The Heart Centered Leadership Program: Coaching tools + templates. The Heart Centered Mastermind: Support for your business + career-ing. The Heart Centered Membership: A place you can come up for air. Get my (free) SACRED WEEKENDS email 2 Fridays/month SIGN UP HERE. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.