Myth Busting

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss why children can behave so differently for their Nanny compared to their parents. They explore whether certain aspects of a child's behaviour are easier to manage for one caregiver than another, and why there should never be any competition between parents and Nannies.The ladies consider whether a Nanny's experience might be influenced by having had a full night's sleep, more consistent boundaries or simply a different approach. They discuss how differences in expectations, parenting styles and consistency can influence a child's behaviour and responses to the adults around them.They also share advice for Nannies who want to support parents who are struggling with their child's behaviour or finding it difficult to get them to listen. The discussion explores how Nannies can demonstrate what a child is capable of without making parents feel undermined, and how much parents can learn by simply observing their Nanny's interactions with their child.Millie shares her own experience of being told that her son wasn't behaving during his swimming lesson, reflecting on how this made her feel as a parent and whether it changed her perspective on how she would give feedback to employers in the future.Charlotte’s DMsI work part time, 30 hours a week in fact. My employer messages me the day before with my hours for the day. I have to change all my plans and cancel appointments. Is this normal and am i being unreasonable to ask for schedule ahead of time?Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

On this week’s episode, Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss where helping out ends and being taken advantage of begins. Being flexible, accommodating and willing to help is often what makes us good at our jobs. However, as Nannies, our desire to be helpful can sometimes lead to a gradual expansion of our responsibilities. Parents may happily relinquish a task because their Nanny has offered to do it, without realising that the Nanny never intended for it to become a regular part of their role. They simply noticed it needed doing that one time!How do we recognise when the little asks become regular expectations? It can be helpful to keep track of how often we're being asked to do something outside our job description. Is it happening more frequently than we realise, or perhaps less often than we feel it is? Keeping a record can help us recognise patterns and distinguish between the occasional favour and an expectation that has quietly become part of our role.When is it time to sit down and have a conversation with our employers? How do we recognise the warning signs that our willingness to help is turning into frustration, resentment or burnout? Addressing concerns early, before they begin to affect our wellbeing or our relationship with the family, is essential. Having an honest conversation about boundaries and expectations can help prevent small frustrations from becoming much bigger problems.And finally… whatever you do, don't give Charlotte any cardboard boxes to fold and recycle!Charlotte’s DMsI was shored in a temporary basis for 6m. Now I’ve decided I absolutely love the family and they want me to stay. How do I ask them about their long term plans before I make any major commitments.Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss what is and isn’t included in a Nanny’s job description, and how the little asks can gradually become part of the everyday workload. How do nannies suddenly find themselves walking the dog, doing the family washing or cooking for the whole household?The ladies explore how a one-off favour can quietly become an ongoing responsibility, how small requests can snowball, and how this can leave Nannies feeling frustrated, overwhelmed and demotivated by work that falls outside their agreed role.The conversation looks at how Nannies can navigate these requests, negotiate boundaries and feel confident enough to speak openly with their employers when the workload becomes too much. Charlotte, Charlie and Millie also discuss the importance of talking to other Nannies to gain perspective, share experiences and recognise when the little asks have become too much.Charlotte’s DMsAt what age do you ask the children to clean up after themselves?Podcast Links:Your Nanny Network Contract: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryYour Nanny Network Event: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/networking-eventsGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss how being treated like a member of the family can be wonderful, but can it also be a poisoned chalice. In a fully staffed household, is there something to be said for simply being able to do your job, feel respected and maintain professional relationships with the parents and other staff, without the complications that can come with blurred boundaries?Being treated as family can create genuine bonds and a greater sense of belonging. When parents show their nanny love, trust and appreciation, it can strengthen the nanny’s relationship with the children and help create a more secure base for them. But where do we draw the line between being a valued member of the household and being an employee whose professional boundaries need to be respected?Does being treated like family sometimes lead to blurred lines and job creep? Does it become harder to say no to extra responsibilities, longer hours or requests that fall outside our job description because we feel emotionally invested in the family? And can that sense of obligation lead to resentment over time?The ladies discuss how we all strive to be respected; how/what can that respect be shown. Is it about being listened to, having our professional advice taken seriously and seeing parents follow through on agreed strategies? Or is it about the more tangible gestures, such as thoughtful gifts, being included in family occasions and feeling remembered? Perhaps it is a combination of both, but can material gestures ever compensate for a lack of professional respect?When a relationship that once felt warm and trusting becomes awkward or strained, it can be incredibly difficult to navigate.And what are the consequences of not being able to speak up? Unspoken frustrations, unrealistic expectations and a lack of boundaries can lead to resentment, burnout and the breakdown of a once-positive relationship.Charlotte's DMs:Hello, as an employer I would be very grateful to hear your opinion in this please. Our Nanny is absolutely wonderful nd great and our children adore her. Shem’s been with us for a couple of years However Recently she has started to eat a lot of food and I am starting to notice the cost. Should I say something if so how? Is it just part of the deal of having a nanny because I want her to feel at home.Podcast Links:Your Nanny Network Contract: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryNetworking Event Tickets: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/networking-eventsGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie chat with Olivia West about children’s mental health and emotional wellbeing.With a father who was a social worker, Olivia went on to study, amongst other things, child psychology, childhood depression and children’s emotional development.We discuss the importance of naming emotions, teaching empathy and modelling healthy emotional behaviour, and how Nannies can support children’s emotional development while remaining firm but fair.Olivia also explores the value of natural consequences and why talking things through with a child after a meltdown, once they are calm, is so important.Charlotte and Charlie also learn that they might be much more gentle carers that they 1st thought!Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss the art of negotiation — a skill that can, and should, be learnt.Nannies are invited into someone’s home, but they are there in a professional capacity. That makes it essential to understand your value, know your numbers and feel confident having professional conversations.One of the biggest lessons is never feel pressured to agree to something on the spot. Don't accept important terms verbally or make decisions under pressure. If you need time to think, it is perfectly professional to say, “Let me think about that and get back to you.”And negotiation isn't just about salary and holiday. It is about the whole package and, increasingly, about work-life balance. Expectations need to be clear from both sides, and potential employers should be willing to give more than vague answers. A successful working relationship is a two-way street.Whether the negotiation is about something big or something seemingly small, having the conversation matters. Avoiding difficult discussions can allow frustration and resentment to build, and over time that can begin to corrode the relationship.Ultimately, good negotiation isn't about one person getting everything they want. Compromise has to come from both sides. Open, honest conversations from the beginning can prevent misunderstandings, protect the working relationship and help both the nanny and employer feel valued and respected.Charlotte’s DMsI've been asked by Nanny family to join them on next year’s sky holiday. Can I ask for time off to ski for myself? An hour or 2 a day.Podacst Links: Interview episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5n6tEH5uPggO38JONW7vZR?si=LzFjG2vxTGWXQ54ojMFssQBudget planner: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie explore some of the biggest myths surrounding Nannying and childcare and put the truth out there!Are Nannies just babysitters? Do they simply play with children all day? And is Nannying really a career?The answer to all three is a resounding no.Nannying is a skilled profession that requires knowledge, judgement, experience, responsibility and a genuine understanding of children and their development. And while some people believe that being a good Nanny is simply something you are born with — an innate quality that cannot be taught — there is so much more to it. Professional development, experience and learning all play an important role.They also look at something that makes Nannying quite unique: what other career allows a parent to continue practising and developing their professional skills while taking a career break to raise their own children?Then we get into some of the more fundamental issues surrounding the profession — from whether Nannies need a contract, to why Nannies resign from jobs and what can ultimately make a nanny-employer relationship work or fail.And, of course, we tackle the judgement that surrounds Nannying. Much of it comes from people who have never employed a Nanny themselves — sometimes people who don't have children at all. So where do these assumptions come from, and why are they still so prevalent?Charlotte’s DMsI have been looking for a new job and have finally been offered 1 i absolutely love. There is a long story behind this that i sharnt go into but they need someone asap. This means I’m unable to honour my current family’s notice period. Should i go amd start or think of my current family, stay, and potentially lose out? I do know for a fact that there is someone else waiting in the wings that I know can start immediately.Podcast Links:Your Nanny Network Contract: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/resource-libraryGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely. Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie chat to Claire, the Wedding Nanny.What started with one family asking Claire to nanny at their wedding has grown into a thriving business through social media and word of mouth.Claire gives us an insight into navigating a high-pressure wedding day, where everything needs to run seamlessly while caring for a child she’s never met before.She shares the hacks and tricks she uses to keep her working day running like clockwork, from meal and sleep times to safeguarding and risk assessments.And, of course, Claire delves into the less glamorous side of the job too… including the dreaded poo-namis!Podcast Links:Claire The Wedding Nanny: https://www.clairetheweddingnanny.co.uk/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/claire_theweddingnanny/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61555269519422&locale=sr_RSGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

As Charlotte, Charlie and Millie celebrate 100 episodes, they reflect on the journey so far — from the last 99 episodes to the growth of Your Nanny Network and the incredible community they have created along the way. They explore their shared passion for the podcast, the nanny profession and creating a space where nannies feel seen, understood and connected.The ladies reflect on how their own relationships and dynamics have evolved throughout the podcast. They discuss the confidence they have built in one another, how their differing opinions have challenged and changed each other’s perspectives, and the personal and professional growth they have each experienced along the way.Charlotte, Charlie and Millie then take listeners through ‘100 hours in the life of a Nanny’ — a tongue-in-cheek, honest and relatable look at what nannying really involves. From hearing children screaming at 6am from the other side of the front door, to Weetabix removal hacks, discipline, emotional highs and lows, endless laughter and the moments that make you wonder how you got through the day, they unpack the reality behind the job.At the heart of the episode is the unique connection between Nannies. There are experiences, challenges and inside jokes that only another Nanny can truly understand — the kind of things our friends, family and partners simply cannot relate to in quite the same way.Finally, they reflect on the privilege of being a nanny and the lasting impact nannies can have on the children they care for. It’s about more than looking after children; it’s about being part of their formative years, watching them grow and knowing that the relationship, care and influence you provide can stay with them for life — shaping not only the children they become, but the adults they ultimately grow into.Podcast links:Stikins: https://www.stikins.co.uk/‎WhatsApp Group: https://chat.whatsapp.com/IfRMqKnrhZ47z5O8QlSIkP?s=sh&p=i&mlu=4&ilr=4Get in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Charlotte, Charlie and Millie discuss how we can help raise resilient children and how nannying and parenting have evolved over the years.Have we become too quick to step in? Are children being given enough freedom to make mistakes, experience disappointment and sit with difficult emotions? The ladies discuss the importance of allowing children to learn through doing, rather than constantly rescuing them or jumping in too soon.They explore why we should not underestimate children. Often, children know their own capabilities and limitations and deserve to be trusted to try, fail and try again. The girls discuss praising and acknowledging the process, effort and learning — not just the end result, especially when the outcome is not what the child had hoped for.They also explore how we can support children in developing the skills to eventually regulate their own emotions, rather than becoming dependent on constant external reassurance and intervention.Finally, the ladies discuss whether Nannies may sometimes be in a unique position to help children develop resilience. With a different and, in some ways, less emotionally intense attachment than a parent, can Nannies sometimes find it easier to hold firm boundaries and support children through difficult emotions without immediately trying to fix them?Charlotte’s DmsI am about to take a child I look after to the airport, fly with them, solo, to their destination long haul by the way, and then turn on my heal and fly back to the UK. How do I invoice them for this?Podcast Links:Dr. Becky Kenedy https://open.spotify.com/episode/01wUW6WogsKV1pDwAiXYDX?si=C2BxHWCKR-ivHLUUkI1gOQ&utm_source=whatsapp&nd=1&dlsi=0741c1dc02c24ecdGet in touch:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/your_nanny_network/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/145513705160641Email: [email protected]: https://www.yournannynetwork.co.uk/YNN Disclaimer:The content on our site is provided for information only. Whilst we ensure that it is, as far as possible, correct, it is not intended to amount to legal or other advice on which you should rely.  Although we make reasonable efforts to ensure that all advice and content provided on our site is legally valid, you should obtain professional or specialist advice before taking, or refraining from, any action on the basis of the content on our site. You are permitted to download, modify and amend any documents that We offer for the purpose of you amending or adapting to suit your individual needs as necessary. This is provided to you on the basis that you accept full responsibility for any modifications or amendments made to the content or documents and your assessment of their suitability for the intended purpose. If you choose to rely on any information or materials provided, you do so at your own risk and we accept no liability for any consequences arising from such reliance. You are solely responsible for ensuring that any materials used or adapted are suitable for your particular circumstances. We make no representations, warranties or guarantees, whether express or implied, that the content on our site is accurate, complete or up to date. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.