"Women In Unhappy Marriages Are 4x More Likely To Die" We're Talking Trauma with Gabor Maté

In honour of Baby Loss Awareness Week, Paul sits down with Perrie Edwards, Myleene Klass, and Katherine Ryan, who share their personal stories of grief and resilience. Miscarriage and baby loss are more common than we think, yet remain one of society's most unspoken struggles. From the uncertainty of pregnancy to the heartbreaking reality of loss, they discuss what it means to grieve, to speak up, and to advocate for better support. Their stories remind us that no one has to face this alone. This is a space for honesty, healing, and hope. You are not alone. We're Talking: Baby Loss Awareness Support charities: Tommy’s: https://g2ul0.app.link/yiLgVePdnVb Sands: https://g2ul0.app.link/1c7K7WVdnVb Baby Loss Awareness Week: https://g2ul0.app.link/ye2qd7YQiXb  Baby Loss Awareness Week is an opportunity to bring us together as a community and give anyone touched by pregnancy and baby loss a safe and supportive space to share their experiences and feel that they are not alone. Sponsored By: Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Beauty powerhouse Lou Teasdale opens up about life on the road with One Direction, her close friendship with Caroline Flack, and her mission to change the conversation around mental health. Content warning: This episode includes discussion of self harm and suicide. From styling the world’s biggest boyband to navigating the intense scrutiny of fame, Lou shares what life was really like behind the scenes with Harry Styles, Zayn Malik, Niall Horan, Louis Tomlinson, and Liam Payne - from fans chasing cars to quiet one-to-one moments in the chair, where conversations often felt like therapy. Lou reflects on her friendship with Caroline Flack - from the qualities that made everyone adore her, to navigating mental health challenges under the eyes of the world. Today, Lou channels her pain into purpose through her work with suicide-prevention charity Body & Soul, determined to ensure others get the help they need and to show that kindness can truly save lives. Lou shares: ◽ How she became One Direction’s hair stylist ◽ Her favourite One Direction hairstyles ◽ The truth about working on The X Factor ◽ The reality TV transformations they weren’t allowed to do ◽ How mental health support is often left to “unqualified people” ◽ Insights from her close friendship with Caroline Flack◽ Why we need to do more on mental health awareness ◽ Her relationship with footballer Andy Carroll Lou Teasdale, We Need To Talk If you’re struggling, you don’t have to face it alone. We’ve included support charities below: Samaritans - call on 116 123 or visit https://g2ul0.app.link/xghDmmYV4Wb  Body & Soul - https://g2ul0.app.link/yoNKZXDYeXb Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM): https://g2ul0.app.link/npaQKXUV4Wb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Lou here: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/Wt22ItOYeXb TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/QmcImVJYeXb  (00:00) Intro (02:31) Why Lou wanted to join us (04:07) How Lou became a make-up artist at 16 (05:51) Lou's choice to work as a make-up artist for boybands (07:17) The role of a make-up artist outside aesthetics (10:57) Lou's time on X-Factor (15:20) How Lou met Caroline Flack (16:51) How Lou ended up working with One Direction (19:49) How did One Direction change as they found fame? (22:00) Life on the road with One Direction (25:52) Lou's most influential look whilst being with One Direction (28:00) Lou reflects on the year anniversary of Liam Payne's death (33:21) Adobe Express Ad (34:19) Love Better Tour Ad (35:27) The popularity of Caroline Flack (39:35) What was most misunderstood about Caroline? (42:27) The events in 2019 that impacted Caroline's life (48:06) Caroline’s mental health struggles and navigating media coverage (51:00) The role of friends and family in supporting Caroline’s well-being (56:20) The events leading up to Caroline’s passing (58:22) Lou's experience of discovering Caroline (01:01:45) The '#BeKind' social media movement (01:04:49) Lou's charity work with Body and Soul (01:09:09) Lou's relationship with Caroline's mother (01:11:34) Lou's relationship with Andy Carroll (01:14:55) The tabloid treatment of Andy Carroll (01:17:02) Who's the celebrity that's most surprised Lou? (01:17:54) Which celebrity currently has the best hairstyle? (01:18:54) Most memorable conversation (01:23:02) A letter from Lou's sister (01:26:35) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Adobe Express: https://ADOBE.LY/PAUL Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Gabor Maté explores what trauma really is, how it shapes who we become, and why so many people are living disconnected from their authentic selves. From attachment styles to emotional wounds, Paul and Gabor break down how childhood experiences affect our adult relationships - and what it takes to truly heal. Whether you're navigating your own trauma or trying to better understand someone you love, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a path toward deeper connection. We're Talking Trauma with Gabor Maté (00:00) Intro (00:53) How Does Gabor Define Trauma? (03:40) How Many People Today Are Living in Trauma? (05:46) How Do We Heal Our Trauma? (08:21) How to Become Your Most Authentic Self (14:02) Love Better Tour Ad (15:07) Attachment Styles (20:23) How Do You Earn a 'Secure Attachment'? Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Strictly Come Dancing’s head judge Shirley Ballas joins us for an exclusive conversation about her extraordinary life on and off the dance floor. She also reflects on the loss of her brother David, and why she now campaigns to raise awareness around men’s mental health and suicide prevention. From her early years on a Merseyside council estate to global fame, Shirley shares the resilience, heartbreak, and lessons that shaped her. She opens up about her family heritage, the bullying she endured through school years and beyond, and the sacrifices she made to rise to the top of the dance world. She speaks candidly about her relationships, turbulent love affairs and lifelong struggles with body image. Shirley also takes us behind the scenes of Strictly Come Dancing - from a “disastrous” first audition to navigating the highs and lows of being on one of the biggest shows on television. Shirley shares: ◽ How discovering her family heritage reshaped her identity ◽ The bullying that left lasting scars - and how she found strength through dance ◽ Walking away from a marriage at the peak of her career - and the regrets that followed ◽ The pressures of body image in the dance world and her experiences with surgery ◽ The moment her Strictly audition went wrong - and how she turned it around ◽ The toll of online trolling and public criticism as head judge ◽ Why championing men’s mental health is so important to her ◽ What happiness means today  Shirley Ballas, We Need To Talk If you’re struggling, you don’t have to face it alone. We’ve included support charities below: Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM): https://g2ul0.app.link/npaQKXUV4Wb Samaritans - call on 116 123 or visit https://g2ul0.app.link/xghDmmYV4Wb  Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Shirley: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/EGAa8y0V4Wb TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/rAaQ8f3V4Wb  Best Foot Forward: https://g2ul0.app.link/So4hbb5V4Wb  (00:00) Intro (02:08) Otto and Shirley's Heritage (06:49) Shirley's Upbringing in the Wirral (09:15) Shirley's Experience of School (12:10) How Shirley Became Obsessed with Dance (15:06) Moving to London at 16 (18:40) Moving to Manchester and Starting Her Latin Dance Career (22:13) Class in the UK and How It Relates to the Dance Industry (29:56) How Shirley Met Corky Ballas (35:46) Does Shirley Regret Leaving Sammy for Corky? (44:42) Why Shirley and Corky's Relationship Came to an End (48:16) Tinder Ad (49:16) Adobe Express Ad (50:34) How Shirley Came to Be on Strictly Come Dancing (55:10) The Enduring Popularity of Strictly (01:00:37) Would Paul Go on Strictly? (01:01:41) Who Is Shirley's Fantasy Strictly Contestant? (01:03:05) Who Is the Biggest Surprise During Shirley's Time on Strictly? (01:04:32) The Importance of Shirley's Brother David to Her Life (01:14:41) Shirley's Battle With Body Image (01:22:12) Shirley Reads a Letter to Her Younger Self (01:25:44) Most Memorable Conversation (01:31:16) Shirley and Celebs Go Dating (01:37:38) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Adobe Express: https://ADOBE.LY/PAUL  Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Three of the UK’s biggest online creators - TommyInnit, DanTDM, and Talia Mar join Paul to explore what it really takes to build a streaming career. They share how they grew their platforms, stayed creative under pressure, and built communities that reach millions. We’re Talking Streaming. (00:00) Intro (00:53) How Tommyinnit started his streaming career (01:40) Tommy is one of the most followed people in the world (02:50) How Tommy built his streaming following (07:30) Tommy's Guiness Records (10:35) How DanTDM became a full-time YouTuber (13:22) The grind that led to Dan's success on YouTube (17:00) 2017 Forbes Article about Dan (18:58) Love Better Tour Ad (20:03) How Talia Mar started streaming and built her following Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Love Island star Shakira Khan breaks her silence in her first ever podcast interview. In this exclusive conversation, Shakira opens up about growing up mixed-race in Burnley, the beauty standards that shattered her confidence, and the behind-the-scenes reality of life inside the Love Island villa. For the first time, she spills the tea on her fellow islanders, lifts the lid on the villa “divide,” and reveals where things really stand with Harry today.Shakira reveals: ◽ How bullying and identity struggles forged her confidence ◽ The surprising truth about Love Island casting and how she got on the show ◽ Why she broke down in tears to her chaperone before entering the villa ◽ Her unfiltered take on Harry and the accusations of gaslighting inside the villa ◽ Why she won’t judge another Love Islander again ◽ The truth about the villa “divide” ◽ Why she now feels proud of her mixed-race identity  ◽ Where her relationship with Harry really stands - and if she sees a future with him Shakira Khan, We Need To Talk. Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Shakira: Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/XSsa2GZORWb TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/icWRTO7ORWb (00:00) Intro (02:16) Why is Shakira Ready to Tell Her Story Now? (02:53) Growing Up In Burnley (09:06) Shakira's Mixed Heritage (13:56) How Did Religion Impact Shakira's Upbringing? (19:04) Shakira's Young Social Circles (23:04) The P Word and Racism (25:54) When Did the Tide Change? (27:13) Romance and Racism (28:53) How Did Shakira Gain Self Worth? (31:50) Did Shakira Ever Have a Healthy Relationship? (34:20) Why Love Island? (40:04) How Did Shakira Get on Love Island? (52:41) Treatwell Ad (53:56) Tinder Ad (54:59) Shakira's Relationships on Love Island (01:00:57) Shakira Talks About Ben (01:04:27) Shakira Talks About Connor (01:07:28) Shakira Talks About Harry (01:13:08) Shakira Talks About Megan (01:14:54) The Divide in the Villa (01:22:49) Harry and Shakira's Mum (01:27:09) Perceptions of Shakira, Toni and Yasmin (01:31:11) What Did Shakira See in Harry? (01:37:30) What's Next for Shakira? (01:38:33) Most Memorable Conversation (01:40:29) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Treatwell: http://Treatwell.co.uk with code PAUL20 - T&Cs apply Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Three Strictly legends pull back the glittery curtain on the UK’s biggest dance show. Oti Mabuse opens up about breaking down in the shower during the show’s most intense moments, and the pressure she felt to represent Black women in the spotlight. Karen Hauer reflects on dancing with her ex Kevin Clifton after their breakup - and gives an honest take on the “Strictly Curse” - why emotional connections form, and how it changes relationships forever. Ashley Roberts shares how appearing on Strictly became a tribute to her late father, and why dance remains deeply personal for her. These are the stories behind the sparkle - raw, real, and rarely told. We're Talking Strictly! (00:00) Intro(00:38) Oti breaks down the ‘Strictly Curse’(05:31) Karen’s take on the ‘Strictly Curse’(15:30) What is something the audience don’t know about Strictly?(17:52) Love Better Tour Ad(18:49) How intense is being on the show?(21:40) Being on the show whilst going through the break-up of her marriage(24:47) How was it for Ashley returning to dance on Strictly?(26:34) Ashley’s favourite dance on the show Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

They fell in love in 7 days, got engaged without ever seeing each other, and married on national TV. In this Love Is Blind UK exclusive, Kieran and Meg reveal the full story: what the cameras showed, what they didn’t, and what really happened during the year they kept their relationship a secret. They offer a rare behind-the-scenes look at how the experiment really works - from living arrangements and dating prompts to why they focused on building a genuine connection rather than chasing screen time. From their first 8-minute pod date to a real-life wedding, their love story defied the odds. But it wasn’t all smooth sailing. Kieran and Meg speak candidly about trust, drama, and the emotional toll of navigating love on camera while staying true to each other off screen.Kieran & Meg share: ◽️ Why their first 8-minute date changed everything ◽️ How Kieran almost ended up on Love Island ◽️ What it was like keeping their marriage secret for a year ◽️ The real story behind the on-screen drama  ◽️ How their past shaped their present-day relationship ◽️ Why they’re renewing their vows  ◽️ What Love Is Blind taught them about dating with intention Kieran & Meg, We Need To Talk. (0:00) Intro (1:51) Why Meg And Kieran Are On We Need To Talk   (4:35) Meg And Kieran's Relationship History Prior To Being On Love Is Blind   (10:31) How Did Meg And Kieran Come To Be On The Show?   (16:48) What's The Living Situation Like On Love Is Blind?   (18:50) How Does The Initial Dating Work On Love Is Blind?   (20:21) How Did Meg And Kieran Know They Had A Connection From The First Date?   (30:43) How The Next Stage Of The Experiment Works   (37:11) When Did Kieran Know He Loved Meg?   (43:33) The Proposal   (53:29) Adobe Express Ad   (54:29) Tinder Ad   (55:34) How Did The Dramas On The Show Affect Their Relationship?   (01:03:35) Masculinity And Men's Behaviour On Reality TV Shows   (01:10:06) Kieran And Meg's Fashion   (01:12:47) The Marriage Circumstances On Love Is Blind   (01:17:22) Meg's Relationship With Her Father   (01:23:42) Paul's Letter To Meg And Kieran   (01:31:16) Most Memorable Conversation   (01:37:02) Paul's Takeaways  Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Follow Kieran and Meg: Kieran’s Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/2mJiQVEyGWb Meg’s Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/RrGKc3IyGWb  Sponsored by: Adobe Express: https://ADOBE.LY/PAUL  Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB  Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

TW: This episode discusses suicide and mental health in detail. In this week's episode for World Suicide Prevention Day, we’ve brought together some of the most powerful moments from past conversations on We Need To Talk - featuring Jordan Stephens, Ella Morgan, and DanTDM - who’ve all spoken bravely about their mental health journeys. These are not just stories of pain, but of survival. Of reaching out. Of finding light in the darkest moments. By revisiting their words, we hope to break the silence around suicide and remind anyone struggling: you are not alone. Together, they unpack the silence around suicide and why honest conversations matter more than ever (00:00) Intro (01:27) Jordan's Experience of Suicide and Suicidal Ideation (07:28) Jordan's 'Break-Up' with His Mother (14:06) Ella's Experience of Suicidal Ideation at 16 (17:00) Ella Coming Out as Trans to Her Mum (20:12) Dan TDM's Experience Suicidal Ideation (22:00) Telling His Wife How He Felt (23:45) How Therapy Helped Dan (27:46) Love Better Tour Ad Please take care watching. If you or someone you know needs support, please see support charities below: Samaritans - https://g2ul0.app.link/1CRhatR7mPb  CALM - https://g2ul0.app.link/YvmzhM17mPb  MIND - https://g2ul0.app.link/d72yzu7jJOb  Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Kerry Katona opens up about some of the most shocking and transformative moments of her life in the spotlight. From turbulent relationships and public scandals to finding love again, Kerry shares the truth behind the headlines. In part 2 of her raw and unfiltered conversation, Kerry speaks candidly about the chaos of her marriages, her infamous appearance on This Morning, and the devastating impact of addiction on her family. She reflects on the abuse she endured in her relationship with George, the trauma of his passing, and how she rebuilt herself in the aftermath. Kerry also reveals the reality of her financial struggles and why she turned to OnlyFans, before sharing the unexpected love story that unfolded on Celebs Go Dating with Paolo, and what it’s like navigating a relationship under the glare of the media. Kerry shares: ◽ How her relationship with Mark began and ended in heartbreak ◽ The media’s betrayal and stories sold at her expense ◽ The home invasion that shook her family to its core ◽ The moment she realised she needed to end her addiction ◽ The painful truth of her marriage to George and his tragic passing ◽ Her experience of bankruptcy and finding new ways to survive ◽ How she found love again with Paolo on Celebs Go Dating despite the age gap ◽ Her hopes for the future and what’s next for her career Kerry Katona, We Need To Talk, again! This episode includes some difficult conversations. If you’re impacted, we recommend the support charities below:Survivor's Trust: https://g2ul0.app.link/yh0NrvNsvTb      Refuge: https://g2ul0.app.link/td2zqEPpGTb  CALM: https://g2ul0.app.link/uULaUXcM3Nb  MIND: https://g2ul0.app.link/gbuRaxjM3Nb Follow me here: https://www.instagram.com/needtotalk  https://www.tiktok.com/@weneedtotalkpod Support Kerry here:Instagram: https://g2ul0.app.link/otKjdok9cWb  TikTok: https://g2ul0.app.link/391l8Vg9cWb Kerry & Katie’s Tour: https://g2ul0.app.link/6dGc2te9cWb Mamma Mia Tour: https://g2ul0.app.link/ubKU5P88cWb  (00:00) Intro (02:20) How Did Kerry's Relationship with Mark Begin? (07:00) Stories Sold to the Papers About Kerry (11:57) Kerry's Experience of Home Invasion (16:52) Kerry's Infamous Appearance on This Morning (27:36) Kerry's Wedding to Mark (29:29) Kerry's Epiphany About Her Drug Taking and the End of Her Relationship with Mark (35:00) Kerry's Difficult Conversation with Her Children About Her Public Image (39:06) Adobe Express Ad (40:21) Tinder Ad (41:22) How Kerry Entered into Her Relationship with George (46:17) George's Abusive Behaviour During Their Marriage (52:55) George's Psychotic Break (57:31) George's Passing and How It Affected Kerry (01:01:37) The Double Standard Between Genders in Showbiz (01:03:36) Treatwell Ad (01:04:37) How Kerry Met Ryan (01:07:57) Kerry's Various Bankruptcies (01:11:54) How Kerry Got into Doing OnlyFans Content (01:14:53) How Did Kerry's Relationship with Ryan End? (01:16:15) Kerry's Experience of 'Celebs Go Dating' and Meeting Paolo (01:20:56) Kerry's Feelings on the 11 Year Age Gap Between Her and Paolo (01:22:12) How Kerry's Feelings for Paolo Developed Over the Course of Shooting 'Celebs Go Dating' (01:28:20) How the Media Will Portray Kerry and Paolo's Relationship (01:31:58) Kerry's Biggest Takeaway from 'Celebs Go Dating' (01:35:06) Kerry's Upcoming Projects (01:36:34) Most Memorable Conversation (01:40:11) Paul's Takeaways Sponsored by: Adobe Express: https://ADOBE.LY/PAUL Tinder: https://tinder.com/en-GB Treatwell: http://Treatwell.co.uk with code PAUL20 - T&Cs apply Get Your Tickets to the Love Better Tour: https://bit.ly/lovebetter-YT  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices