Episode 88: Beauty and Modesty with Rivka Malka Perlman

SummaryThis week, Jodi speaks with Pearl Lopian.  Pearl is an EFT Practitioner. Jodi and Pearl chat about how tapping can be used to unpack tramas and change one's perceptions for a better life. Tune in to also hear about how tapping can also lead to healthier relationships with other people, especially one’s children. About Our GuestPearl Lopian is a certified EFT (Emotional freedom technique) practitioner and the Executive Director of The EFT Tapping Institute. She specializes in anxiety, trauma, weight issues and surrogate work for parents to better their relationship with their children.Show Notes5:28 What is tapping?“When they [people] are tapping, changing brainwave states into the more hypnotic areas, and we get to see what is going on in our deeper mind that makes us behave the way we do.”7:30 Clearing the memory“We take memories and we move them to healthier places in the brain so that we no longer feel them, there's no need to still feel them in our body…we feel better, perceptions start to change.”9:34 Unpacking  the perceptions around  clients' issues before a tapping session“When we want something we say it, it is really important to articulate what we want then our brain wants to make it happen for us,we say the words that we want and then we use the body to notice how the body reacts to those sentences…no [we] don’t go into perception…we are accessing it in a different way12:43 Following the breath  and finding success in something you love“It's just never too late to follow a calling or make an impact and really and really feel very good about where you are and what you're doing.”Connect with Pearl Lopian:Website: efttappinginstitute.comLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pearllopian/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/pearl.lopianYoutube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWcBgwaDjEChxhtJ_wBvt0wEmail Jodi:[email protected]:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Pearl LopianEditor: Brandon Martinez

Here at the To (Mom) Life podcast, we are so lucky to have college interns who join our editing team each semester. These individuals do the behind the scenes work and work on the very content that is put out live for listeners like you to enjoy!As our previous cohort's program wrapped up, we wanted to honor the interns from our spring 2022 semester program. Tune in to hear the interns reflect on their time with us.This is a special episode. Listen in... You might learn something you didn't expect. Let Jodi know what you thought!Featured Interns in alphabetical order:Autumn MichaelsGabrielle ToppingIris Nelson 

In today's episode, Jodi speaks with Rivka Malka Perlman. The two discuss the what it means to be modest and why it matters. Rivka Malika shares how presenting oneself with modesty can still allow one to be beautiful inside and out.Connect with Rivka at:https://rivkamalka.com/Credits:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Rivka Malka PerlmanEditor: Max Suib

Episode Summary: On this weeks installment of the To (Mom) Life Podcast, Jodi sits down to give some reflections on the holiday of Passover as  well as her series of workshops for her program Power up for Pesach. She dives into an array of topics such as the importance and strength of sisterhood between Jewish women. Jodi also speaks about her journey putting together Power up For Pesach.Email Jodi at: [email protected] Up for Pesach: powerupforpesach.comCredits:Host: Jodi FriedEditors: Max Suib & Autumn Michels 

Summary:This week, Jodi chats with Devorah Sisso about fostering positivity in your home. As a professional motivator and life coach, Devorah offers key insights about the dangers of toxic negativity and offers up her own experience with overcoming a negative mindset. With all the stress and business of motherhood, Devorah explains how to conquer those feelings through gratitude.About Our Guest: Devorah is a Torah Educator, Motivational Speaker, and Life Coach.Show Notes: 1:18 Reinforcing positive habits in your children “We need to stay away from negativity because that negativity comes as energy and that energy sticks, and we end up seeing the world from a negative lens.”6:54 Fostering a positive mindset“Let’s get real, your kids are a copy paste of what you are. You and your husband, that’s what they see, that’s what they are.”9:36 Devora’s journey overcoming negativity“The steps of breakthrough are when you understand that gratitude is a must. You have to stop, every single day, and you have to sit yourself down and you have to do this. "12:11 Talking to your children about Lashon Hara (speaking badly about others) “It’s crucial that first and foremost, that your children know they can talk to you about anything, you’re literally a one stop shop for anything. Now, you’re gonna navigate them just like you navigate them with screen time and sugar and all that. You’re gonna navigate them in the way they talk.”Follow Devorah:Newsletter: http://eepurl.com/gcIAgTFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/torahbydevorahInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/devorah_sissoEmail Jodi:[email protected]:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Devorah SissoEditor: Gabrielle Topping and Iris Nelson

Summary: In this week’s episode, Jodi chats with Chani Schreibhand, the founder of www.theupliftmagazine.com, about Chani’s experience creating her magazine. Chani personally speaks about how this magazine was formed and how she used her personal experiences of witnessing women helping other women to feel inspired to create this magazine. In this episode Chani addresses how she prepares for Pesach and what she values about this time.  Show Notes:  6:22 Up-lift magazine“The uplift is about reaching out to women, I would say from the age of 35, and up. Women who are in the stage of life that have maybe a very young child at home, then a teenager, or late teens getting married, the first child getting married, or the grandmother who is at the stage of her menopause, and that stage of life. And it's a conversation that you would have about your health, about your kitchen, about doing Pesach about anything that you would like to ask a friend.”  11:13 Why there aren’t no images of people in the magazine “ I really feel that when you see a person you right away judge the person … we right away make an assumption even though we might not want to but we automatically do that. And I feel very much that articles speak for themselves and we don't have to know who wrote it.” 13:23 How did uplift evolve?“We had a charity, it was called ‘informal project’ and it was to do with education and homes and counseling … I started this Whatsapp group and the Whatsapp group was just for the women…but there's a lot of people who are not on Whatsapp or have no social media at all … and that's when I said, let's make a magazine”19:44 Some of the most inspirational stories Chani came across“This woman came to my house, and I saw that she wasn't happy. And I asked her, you know, what's the matter? She started talking and she had just experienced a really horrible thing with IVF. And she had lost the baby on that day … I said, I'm really sad. You're really sad. We'll give each other a breath. And let's hope that you'll see goodness, I'll see goodness, and we'll be fine. And it just all came together … that was really an amazing thing of how a woman could be good to another woman and how we could connect.”  22:22 Core ideals of Uplift“It was meant to be a space that another woman should recognize your need for some space … It was all little things of women just reaching out to other women.”  24:41 Pieces of advice for ladies listening and preparing for Pesach“I think you have to remember that the main thing about making a Seder, in any Pesach, is not about the cleaning. And it's not about the cooking. And it's not about making your fancy, fancy fancy. It's about the memory that you're giving your children”  Resource:Uplift Magazine: www.theupliftmagazine.com Connect with Chani SchreibhandEmail at [email protected] Instagram: TheupliftmagazineEmail Jodi:[email protected]:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Chani SchreibhandEditor: Autumn Michels & Max Suib

Summary: In this week’s episode, Jodi chats with Chana Mason who is a life coach and author. Her books are Hold That Thought and Inner Voices. In this episode, Chana shares how her childhood trauma shaped her worldview and how she has worked towards healing.Show Notes: 2:51 Chana’s mom was held at gunpoint“There was a knock at the door and five armed men barged into the house. They had my mom at gunpoint for two hours and they were trying to figure out how to embezzle money. This was a real thing that happened in Colombia. My family knew of people who had been kidnapped and never returned. They were targeting our family. They knew everything about us.”  4:51 Fleeing the country“Once people follow you and know everything about you, you basically have to flee the country. Within 48 hours, we fled the country. My father still had his factory in Colombia so every single time he had to go back he made sure his routine was different so people couldn't keep track of him.” 5:35 Traumatized and no therapy “None of us got therapy. None of us got help. I came to the conclusion that the world wasn’t a safe place. I had nightmares. Everywhere I went, I was scared I would be kidnapped or raped. There was so much anxiety and eventually depression.”  9:30 Healing“I’m a person who lives with soul and that consciousness was deep within me. Having people reflect back to me a higher level of spiritual consciousness was huge.” 11:47 Questioning beliefs “In both of my books, I teach people tools of how to look at the stories, beliefs and thoughts that they have about a specific situation or themselves or life in general and question those beliefs to shift to a different mindset.”   14:12 The Slow Poke Technique“Slow things down and figure out what the moment was before you got upset.” 20:55 Connecting to God“Deciding to connect to God no matter what, even when life looks bleak.”  22:22 Children need to learn how to heal trauma too“Kids aren’t good at interpersonal relationships when they’re younger but they get better at it every day.” 23:18 Distancing yourself from false beliefs “In questioning the truthfulness of that belief, it takes you a step away from it and it allows you to realize that it doesn’t belong to you. Embedded in that belief are lessons to teach you.” Chana's Links:Website: chanamason.com Books: chanamason.com/books/Other Links:Painless Pesach Challenge: bitly.com/painless2022Organized Jewish Life Planner: https:/amzn.to/3uZs8cJ Email Jodi: [email protected]:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Chana MasonEditor: Gabrielle Topping and Iris Nelson

Summary: In this week's episode, Jodi chats with Jennifer Lopez who is an author who writes about motherhood. Why I Cried: Tales from Hysterical Pregnant Women is her debut book. Jodi and Jennifer discuss how Jennifer became inspired to write her most recent book, Jennifer's difficulties during her  pregnancy, and Postpartum Depression.  About Our Guest: Jennifer Lopez is a mother of 3 as well as head of Digital Marketing Agency, Jalapeno Digital. During Jennifer’s 1st pregnancy she began documenting “all the fun pregnancy hormones” she was experiencing. This collection of Jennifer’s stories as well as other mom’s journeys through pregnancy can be found in Jennifer’s 1st book Why I Cried: Tales from Hysterical Pregnant Women Show Notes: 5:08 What inspired Jennifers first book Why I Cried: Tales from Hysterical Pregnant Women “I started posting these things to Facebook and my friends were just hysterical and said you need to collect all these & turn them into a book.”  8:06 Easing the struggles of pregnancy with a humorous outlook “A lot of people who bought the book were not even pregnant. Mostly moms looking back…Y’know when you're just a little bit further out of that stage all of that becomes so funny...” 10:21 The mission of Why I Cried: Tales from Hysterical Pregnant Women “To help women see the joy in pregnancy and in motherhood, and to remind them that it's okay to take time to breathe and laugh at yourself. Also finding camaraderie in other moms and finding your mom tribe...” 11:45 The indicators of Postpartum depression “If you start feeling these signs longer than a week and are more intense that’s typically the sign that you could be bordering around something like Postpartum Depression...”  16:05 Jennifer's experience with Pregnancy Rage “At one point I ... didn’t know I was pregnant yet, and I was [on] rage. That’s when I reached out to someone as I didn’t know what was wrong with me. I had so much anger and I didn’t understand why” 22:45 Jennifer's closing thoughts  “Do your research ahead of time, know the signs. Keep the door open, a lot of women think that’s not me. That wouldn’t happen. [But] You are not in control of these hormones ... planning for yourself is the best thing you can do because it can be a little bit hard under the weight of everything.” Connect with Jennifer:  Jennifers book Why I Cried: Tales from Hysterical Pregnant Women Instagram Email Jodi at: [email protected] Rebekah Saltzman's Painless Pesach Decluttering Challenge at: bitly.com/painless2022 Power Up for Pesach: powerupforpesach.com Credits: Host: Jodi Fried Guest: Jennifer Lopez Editor: Max Suib & Autumn Michels 

Email Jodi at: [email protected] Saltzman's Painless Pesach Decluttering Challenge at: bitly.com/painless2022 Power Up for Pesach: powerupforpesach.comCredits:Host: Jodi FriedEditor: Max Suib

In this week’s episode, Jodi chats with Aja Cohen who is the owner of Transcendent Active. As she developed her own career, Aja found her passion: designing modest activewear for mothers like her. In this podcast, Aja discusses her experiences balancing motherhood, owning a business, and giving back to her community. Aja also speaks about the importance of maintaining one’s own hobbies in order to feed their own self needs. About Our Guest: Aja Cohen is the founder of a modest activewear line. Through her experience as a yoga teacher and a lifetime athlete, she designs from a place of passion and shared values. Her work represents a fusion of her personal and professional pursuits. She embodies the active lifestyle.Show Notes:5:45 Aja’s experience finding her Passion and starting a small business“Sometimes (with my old job) I’d say ‘well this is good, and at least I have an income…’ and that’s good to do, but I also need to be a little realistic sometimes and tell myself ‘this sucks and I don’t wanna do this.’ ” 14:35 Giving Back to Your Community“I had just planned a hiking trip and on that trip I realized ‘oh my gosh, I’m gonna design modest activewear!’ I had designed activewear for my whole career anyway, and then I thought ‘what about activewear skirts and all these other things?’ ”25:32 Getting in Touch With Oneself“Hobbies are important. As easy as it is to keep going with the status quo, with the cooking and cleaning and mom life, having an outlet is actually so important.”29:42 Getting Involved In Your Community“With events and meeting new people, it brings a different type of experience and value to Transcendent Active and to you (Aja) on a personal level.”33:41 Concluding Thoughts“What’s so great about my brand is I get to put all of the things I’ve always loved like design, sustainability, community, travel, and movement, all of these things into one career. It’s really such a blessing.”Connect with Aja: Email: [email protected]'s FBAja's WebsiteOther links:Rebekah Saltzman's Painless Pesach Decluttering Challenge at: bitly.com/painless2022Power Up for Pesach: powerupforpesach.comCredits:Host: Jodi FriedGuest: Aja CohenEditor: Gabrielle Topping & Iris Nelson