The Problem with Boredom

Its All In The Feeling by Jacquie Forde

Women are a marvel. We juggle careers, families, relationships, and let’s be honest—sometimes entire civilizations (or at least it feels that way). And yet, beneath all the multitasking and magic-making, there’s an invisible force quietly shaping how we experience life: thought. Thought is like that friend who means well but sometimes won’t stop talking. It can uplift us, hold us back, or keep us stuck in old stories we didn’t even write. We all have a drama queen going on in our heads. If you’ve ever gone from “I’ve got this” to “I should live in a cave and never speak again” in the span of five minutes, you know how powerful thought can be. Our minds love a good soap opera. But here’s the thing: not every thought is telling the truth. Some of them are just echoes of old fears, societal pressures, and—let’s be real—your mother’s voice reminding you to wear a cardigan.

The Problem with Boredom by Jacquie Forde

Hiding In our Cells by Jacquie Forde

The Tender Space by Jacquie Forde

Your Unique Voice by Jacquie Forde

Being grounded is your secret weapon for navigating difficult times—whether you're dealing with menopause, family drama, or just the general madness of life. When you learn to ground yourself, you can face challenges with clarity, humour, and a whole lot of peace of mind. And who knows? Maybe you’ll even start enjoying the ride.

Grandma's Emotional Baggage by Jacquie Forde

Do you ever feel like no matter what you try—therapy, mindfulness, or even self-help books—there’s still a part of you that feels stuck? Maybe you’ve worked through a lot of your trauma mentally, but it’s like your body or emotions haven’t caught up. You’re not alone. Many of my clients come to me after years of traditional therapy, feeling frustrated that they still carry the weight of their past. They describe it like this: “I’ve done the work, but I’m still stuck in old patterns.” “I understand my trauma, but my body still feels tense all the time.” “I’m constantly anxious or on edge, even though I know there’s no real threat.” “I’ve been in therapy for years, but nothing seems to fully shift.” These are the common pain points I hear from clients who’ve done a lot of mental work but are still struggling emotionally or physically. If you relate to any of these, it’s important to know that this isn’t your fault—and there’s a way forward that addresses both your mind and your body. The Real Issue: Trauma Lives in Your Body, Not Just Your Mind Many people get stuck because traditional talking therapy only addresses part of the equation. It helps you process trauma on an intellectual level, but trauma isn’t just stored in the mind—it lives in your body and nervous system. That’s why, even after years of talking, you can still feel anxious, tense, or overwhelmed. Let me share some examples of how my clients found relief once they started working with me. Clare’s Story: Letting Go of "Carrying the Weight of the World" Clare came to me with constant neck and shoulder tension. She had processed her childhood trauma in therapy and understood why she felt the way she did, but her body still felt burdened. She often said, “I feel like I’m carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders.” In our sessions, we used somatic work to address how her body was holding onto trauma. Together, we explored her language patterns and began to shift her internal story from “I’m carrying everything” to “I can let this go.” As we worked through breathwork and gentle movement, Clare’s physical tension started to release. Her shoulders became lighter, and for the first time in years, she felt free in her body.

Have you ever noticed how the words we use can subtly keep us trapped in our experiences, even when we think we’ve moved on? We often use language like “I’m stuck,” “I’ll never be free of this,” or “This pain is part of who I am.” Without realizing it, these words can reinforce the idea that we are defined by our trauma. Trauma isn’t just a mental or emotional burden—it lives in the body, and sometimes, the very words we use keep us hypnotized by it. Healing requires not only addressing the body and mind, but also breaking free from the language patterns that hold us back. The Unseen Impact: Trauma and the Language of Being "Stuck" Let me introduce you to Clare. She came to me after years of traditional therapy, believing she had “processed” her trauma. But she constantly said things like, “I’m still carrying the weight of the world on my shoulders,” and sure enough, she physically felt that weight in her body—her shoulders were always tight and tense. Clare’s language kept reinforcing the idea that she was stuck in her trauma, and because of that, her body hadn’t let go of it. Once we began somatic work, combined with addressing her language, Clare’s story started to shift. Instead of saying, “I can’t let this go,” we worked on language that acknowledged her resilience. Her body responded to this new story, and the tension in her shoulders slowly released. She finally felt a sense of lightness—both mentally and physically. The words we choose matter. They hypnotize us into believing that trauma defines us, that healing is out of reach, or that we’re “broken.” When we change our language and address how trauma is stored in the body, we open the door to real, lasting healing.