Ep 5 On Boundaries and Having a Strong "Internal No"

In this episode, we chat: What it really looks like to have a strong internal "no"—the kind that doesn't wobble when it comes to your standards and principles—and why some of our no's feel clear while others feel… negotiable. What you'll learn in this episode: What it looks like when your "no" isn't fully decided—and why you find yourself going back and forth on things you already said were standards. The subtle difference between being led by your feelings versus being led by your principles—and how that shows up in your tone, how quickly you're able to respond, and your overall clarity. The four ways people with a strong internal "no" move—what makes it easier for them to stay solid in their decisions and boundaries without going back and forth. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Why we keep saying "let's see how it goes", what it costs is to ignore the GLARING red flag when something feels.... off, and how to start thinking and moving differently. You'll hear how to spot where you're taking on unnecessary misery and CONFUSION and how to make decisions that actually serve you—without going back and forth, without the noise, and with a whole lot of clarity. What You'll Learn in This Episode: "Let's see how it goes" can be costly—learn to notice the red flags before they cost you. Focus on what you can control: your actions, your standards, and your energy-- and invite God into the process Make a departure with self-negotiation and begin to lead with choices that protect your time, peace, and future. IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: An HONEST conversation about how delivery MATTERS when it comes to honesty inasmuchas the message itself and how it can either strengthen or erode trust when it comes to relationships both romantic and platonic What You'll Learn in This Episode: Navigating "I was just being honest" conversations Honesty that controls and manages vs. the honesty that edifies Stewarding and sharpening your own relationship with honesty- both in how you give it and how you receive it from the people you trust IG: @clearernotlouder

In this episode we chat: Stewarding your voice when it comes to handling conflict, frustration, and points of contention with people without stepping out of YOUR character and simultaneously, without being a doormat. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How to handle situations where you're frustrated with someone and even tempted to lash out at them without giving into your ego/into your flesh Where you might be getting into God's business when it comes to handling people in confrontation and points of contention Being "nice" vs. being kind and why being nice does NOT work in boundary setting How to set boundaries with people who are frequently defensive, offended, and inflamed in conversation. IG: @clearernotlouder

Welcome to the FIRST epsiode of Clearer, not Louder with Beatrice Kamau (formerly known as the Self Love Fix Podcast)! In this episode we chat: The difference between presence and performance—and why leaning into presence can cause effortlessly shift your ability to connect to others in everyday conversation and in relationship EASILY and in a RELAXED manner. Think dropping the act of APPEARING a certain way and being HYPERVIGILANT to how others are perceiving you. What You'll Learn in This Episode: How God slowed me down and showed me the power of presence-- inadvertently-- through two hobbies I picked up during my year-long hiatus: baking and gardening. The difference between how people experience you and how you experience others depending on whether you are oriented in presence or performance How presence vs. performance shows up in everyday life (in ways you might not even notice or think about!) Practical- and easy- steps to start cultivating presence in your life IG: @clearernotlouder

Hi friend! It's been... a while. I know. Forgive me, girl. We're back but get this... we're coming back with a NEW name, NEW vision, same voice, same vibes 3.12.26. Tune in to this trailor to find out the new podcast name and find out: The new vision for the podcast, where we're headed What we've learned from the Self Love Fix Podcast and what we're taking as we're moving forwards A mini riff giving a peek into the new podcast! The new name! See you in the FIRST episode of the new podcast 3.12.26 xx Beatrice

 In this episode we chat:   Leaning on God's wisdom and not your own understanding What's going to be happening hear on the pod for the next 2 months! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Join the FREE Valued Woman challenge 10 day challenge below to enjoy 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox!  CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat:  The Proverbs 31 woman and how she demonstrated how she VALUES herself  FINDING time to maintain and care for yourself even with a busy schedule-- it's there I promise!!  How the way you carry yourself INFLUENCES how people treat you WORK WITH BEATRICE: I'm running a free 10 day email challenge called The Valued Woman challenge eek!! Over a 10 day period I will be sharing 10 EASY to apply tips to start VALUING yourself STRAIGHT to your inbox... for FREE! CLICK HERE TO JOIN THE FREE VALUED WOMAN CHALLENGE CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat: The 30 things I've learned since turning 30! I promise these are non-generic and totally worth the listen! WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to catch the valued masterclass at $19.95 ONLY through midnight 1/23/25 in honor of my 30th birthday! Valued is:a powerful, 52 minute masterclass that takes you from EFFORTING your way into SCRAPS of attention from INCONSISTENT MEN to attracting the types of men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU through their actions CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!

 In this episode we chat: What I'm doing different in 2025 vs 2024 when it comes to goal setting and why 2024 was quite... directionless.  My yearly goal setting + executing process (and why vision is KING when it comes to goal setting)   Actionable tips all along the way on how to set, execute, AND ACHIEVE ALL your 2025 goals  WORK WITH BEATRICE: Click here to join Valued the masterclass at $77 where I  teach you how to go from being a SLAVE TO ATTENTION from a man (aka WAITING ANXIOUSLY next to your phone and putting it on DND to avoid seeing zero notifications, hinting at him to do more even though you know he won't, and feeling CONFUSED ABOUT HOW HE FEELS because he doesn't make you feel SECURE by TELLING you how he feels about you... to stepping into the SOFT, RELAXED feminine woman who attracts men who SHOW you how they VALUE YOU with your actions. CONNECT WITH BEATRICE: Be sure to connect with me more on Instagram @theselflovefix. I'd love to hear what you thought of this episode and what your major takeaways were. Make sure to tell a friend to tell a friend about this podcast!