Sober even when it's not trendy | Episode 63

Day 3 is filled with PRACTICAL advice you can take into your dates. These tips may seem simple, but they can make all the difference in you looking like a laaaaaady or you looking like a monster eating a GIGANTIC size piece of lettuce 🥬 A big shout out to Bianca for spending time filming this series with me and pouring into me the entire boot camp and BEYOND! B, you are truly an amazing human and I am lucky to know you! 💛 M As always let's take a look at Bianca's show notes because they are chef's kiss: Do you struggle with how to plan a date? Do you know what to do, where to go or who’s going to pay? Today, we round up this Dating Bootcamp series by giving you practical handles that will help you be more prepared before you go out on a date.  The goal of this series has always been for my single friends to go out on a date. Initiating a hangout with someone you are interested in is a good place to start. Remember these things before you go out:  • Set healthy boundaries in advance  • The person who asks is the person who pays  • Come prepared to have a conversation  • Give hints not heaps?  • Listen to the other person  • Be mindful of the type of food you order  • Have no form of physical intimacy  So, if you do the work, put your best foot forward, and take yourself seriously you can find a potential candidate and eventually end up in a real dating relationship. Who knows, you might end up finding your life partner in the process! 

Welcome to dating bootcamp day two! Meagan is busy taking notes and cracking a few jokes during this session and you should too! Bianca wrote the show notes best, so here they are ✨ Do you know where to meet people online? Have you created a dating profile? On a scale of 1 - 5 where does your dating profile score? If your answer is low, we’re here to help!  Has it been difficult for you to run into single people lately? Are you wondering where to go, what to do, or who to ask out? I want you to assess 2 things today: 1 Your community - Where are you hanging out? Who are your friends? What are your hobbies?  2 Your sparkle - Are you going out of your comfort zone to intentionally let others know that you are single like a pringle and ready to mingle?  Dating is like a taxicab light; if the light is on - you’re signaling that you are ready to date! But before you go out on a quality date, you need to spruce up your profile. That is what Meagan and I will be focusing on today. Listen in to learn more on how to create a dazzling dating profile. Remember, dating is a season that we move through. The intention is to meet the person who you will hopefully spend the rest of your life with.  Please if you do this tag @meaganherself and @biancaolthoff, we have been LOVING the stories that have been rolling in!

I mean welcome to a front-row seat of Meagan being open real and honest with you. Meagan was hesitant to be this REAL with you, but she knew there were SO many other women and men out there who feel the same way, and what does staying quiet help anyone else? Now Bianca Olthoff and her team have their ish together, so here are the show notes from the original show, because I couldn't have said it better! _________________________________________ Have you gone through some type of trauma in past relationships and are hesitant to put yourself out there again? Are you experiencing frustration with your dating life? What if I told you that I want to challenge you to go on a date this month.  We all know that dating can be risky and uncomfortable but if we're not willing to take a risk there will be no reward. So today, I enlisted the help of Meagan, a courageous listener who has volunteered herself as “tribute” to take a 30-day dating challenge. (Yes, yes I did) In this first episode of our Dating Bootcamp podcast series, we will be challenging you to:  • Give yourself permission to go dating again  • Not get tangled in “Situationships”  • Get ready to test the waters again  Let’s get ready for the dating journey! But first, I want you to dig deep and answer the following questions honestly:  1 Am I ready to date?  2 Why do I want to date now?  3 What is my list of 50 qualities I look for on a date? 25? 10? • What are my 5 non-negotiables? • Of the 5 non-negotiables, which ones am I holding loosely?  4. Do I know the risk of love and am I willing to take a risk for the reward?  5. What are my sexual, financial, and spiritual boundaries?  6. What information am I sharing too much of?  7. What are my boundaries regarding time?  This list might seem like a lot but trust me it’s not. You are creating a baseline, a guideline, a roadmap to help you get more comfortable with who you really are and be confident next time you go out on a date.  RESOURCES/LINKS  Follow Bianca Olthoff - @biancaolthoff Follow Meagan’s Dating Journey - @meaganherself, Meagan’s website - or Season of You Podcast How to Have Your Life Not Suck: Becoming Today Who You Want to Be Tomorrow FREE Love Is Resource  Ben Stuart: Single, Dating, Engaged, Married: Navigating Life and Love in the Modern Age TFHOC: The Sex Talk || Pastor Bianca Olthoff TFHOC: Who's In Your Bed // Married Sex // Bianca Olthoff

Meagan has been juggling a lot of craziness and in the midst of the craziness, she was able to witness a beautiful unfolding within her life. She challenges YOU to do the same with something you are passionate within YOUR life! 

On today's episode, we have guest Hannah Rose. Hannah gets vulnerable and walks us through her season of dancing within strip clubs, idolizing money, men, and drugs, and leaving it all behind to fully walk with God. Hannah shares how her first YES, lead her into a lifestyle that continued to impact her for eight years. Hannah shares how she is all in on Jesus, and what it took for her to get there. Enjoy this real and honest conversation, and tag us and let us know you listened! Follow Hannah: https://www.instagram.com/itshanrose/ Follow Meagan: https://www.instagram.com/meaganherself/

Have you ever gone to the store and then wanted to cry the second you couldn't zip the zipper? Have you decided that you just weren't going to eat because the number on the tag was too high and you needed to squish your body isn't a smaller size to follow suit with the number you've always been? If so this episode is for you. Meagan shares a recent experience jean shopping and a checklist you can do before, during and after your shopping experience. Follow Meagan on the gram: https://www.instagram.com/meaganherself/

Meagan has been alchol-less for about 9 years. She has been through many phases of sobriety and now she is at a healthy balance of living life to alcohol ratio. If you are just starting out, knowing your why behind cutting down alcohol, will make the biggest difference between sticking to your guns through the process. When you respect your boundaries, you respect yourself. 

Adult friendships are HARD and no one is talking about it. Lo joined the podcast today to work through and have some hard conversations about letting go of friendships that are no longer bringing life and joy into your life. Follow Lo: https://www.instagram.com/mommysbluntblog/ https://mommysbluntblog.com/

Listen, even though you spend hours, days, or even weeks preparing it doesn't mean that you are guaranteed success. Meagan spent a hot minute preparing for an interview and it did not go as planned, and that is okay. Learning to roll with the punches, ride the ebbs and flows builds a stronger sense of bounceback within you. 

It's a whole bunch of NEW in Meagan's life. Welcome to the current happenings of Meagan's new year approach and her reflections on 2022, which you may resonate with. It has been a tough season for Meagan and she is so grateful to kick off the new year with you and your goals! Listen here to find your word of the year: https://www.accessmore.com/episode/BONUS-Ep-101-Reflections-Casting-Vision-and-A-Strong-New-Beginning-for-the-New-Year