How to Get out of Your Own Way: Navigating Self-Sabotage with LauraAura

This is your Friday affirmation. Let's pause for a breath you didn't know you were holding. Exhale.This week's Soft Landings affirmation is for the woman who's been spring-cleaning everything except her exhaustion.Today's affirmation: "My body knows what's good for me."Every Spring, you're told to declutter your wardrobe, your habits, your goals, your mindset, and if you don't feel the urge, something's wrong with you. But what if the constant push to optimise is exactly what's keeping you from the rest your body is actually asking for?This week: less doing. More listening.Save. Share. Come back when you need the reminder. 🤍CRAVING A SOFTER LIFE?Soft is my monthly newsletter — reflections, small insights, and the occasional nudge toward a gentler pace. No productivity tips. Just something you can open when you want a little more space.Subscribe to softSend me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

Every spring, you're told to declutter your wardrobe, your goals, your relationships, and your mindset. And if you don't feel the urge? There's a low hum of guilt that says something's wrong with you.This week on The Scenic Route, we're asking: what if that impulse isn't wisdom, and who actually benefits from the story that your whole life needs a seasonal audit?For many women in midlife, spring-cleaning pressure hits differently. You're already navigating a season of your own — one that doesn't come with a tidy checklist. The last thing you need is Instagram telling you to declutter your chakras, too.We trace spring cleaning back to its roots — sacred, communal rituals in traditions around the globe — and follow how it was stripped of that context to become a personal productivity obligation. We look at who the "spring-clean your life" message lands on most heavily (and why that's not a coincidence). And we get into how self-care went from a radical political act — rooted in the work of Audre Lorde — to "buy this candle."Plus: what my body is actually doing in spring and why the in-between, messy, not-yet-blooming feeling might not be a problem to fix.You'll come away with: A reframe on why you feel behind every springThe cultural and gendered history behind domestic "renewal" pressureOne small invitation to try spring subtracting insteadIf this made you see spring cleaning differently, share it with someone who needs permission to not optimise their way through spring.References mentioned:Audre Lorde, A Burst of Light (1988)Inna Michaeli, "Self-Care: An Act of Political Warfare or a Neoliberal Trap?" (2017)Laurie Penny, "Life-Hacks of the Poor and Aimless," The Baffler (2016)Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________ 🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation ⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

It's Friday. Pause for a breath you didn't know you were holding. Exhale.This week's Soft Landings affirmation is for the woman who keeps mistaking her patterns for her personality. For every midlife woman who's been fighting the thing she does instead of getting curious about why she does it.Today's Affirmation: "My patterns kept me safe. I get to thank them and want something different."The thing you keep doing – the overfunctioning, the over-explaining, the keeping yourself small, the white-knuckling your independence, whatever yours is – it wasn't a mistake. It was a solution. A really smart one, for circumstances that once required exactly that response.It kept you safe. It kept you steady. It did its job.The problem isn't that you're broken. The problem is that the pattern is still running the same programme for a situation that no longer exists. Like a smoke alarm going off because you forgot your bagel in the toaster.So today, instead of fighting it or shaming it or trying to think your way out of it – what if you just said thank you? Thank you for protecting me when I needed protecting. I'm okay now. You can rest.You don't have to dismantle a pattern to be free of it. Sometimes you just need to stop treating it like an enemy and start treating it like a part of you that was doing its best with what it had.That's not giving up. That's actually where the shift begins.Save. Share. Come back when you need the reminder. 🤍CRAVING A SOFTER LIFE? Soft is my monthly newsletter. It arrives in your inbox with reflections, small insights, and the occasional nudge toward a gentler pace. No productivity tips, but my personal favourites of the month, a fun meme, and just something you can open when you want a little more space.Subscribe to soft Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________ 🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation ⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

You've done the therapy. You've journalled. You can explain your patterns with real precision — where they came from, what they're protecting, why they formed.And yet. There you are. Doing it again.This episode is about the gap between knowing something and actually being free of it. Insight is a beginning. It's not the destination. And once you really accept that — not as a defeat, but as genuinely useful information — it completely changes where you look.What we cover:Why self-awareness isn't the destination (and what is)The intention-behaviour gap — why 75% of behaviour change has nothing to do with conscious thoughtWhere patterns actually live in the brain and bodyThe verbal mind's blind spot — and why you literally cannot see it from inside your own headWhat actually reaches the parts that words can'tThis one is for you if you're in midlife, you've done serious inner work, and something still feels stuck. You haven't failed. You've just hit the ceiling of one particular approach.WORK WITH ME:→ Colour Signature (€37): jenniferwalter.me/aura-soma-colour-signatureThe Scenic Route — weekly episodes on midlife transitions, burnout, and mental health. No shortcuts to the truth. Just slowing down enough to see what's going on.Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________ 🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation ⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

It's Friday. Pause for a breath you didn't know you were holding. Exhale.This week's Soft Landings affirmation is for the woman who's tired of measuring herself against someone else's yardstick. For midlife women exhausted from the endless performance of worth.Today's Affirmation:"I release the belief that my worth is defined by what I've been taught to buy, do, or become."You don't need the right house, the right body, the right title to matter. You don't need to achieve enough, accumulate enough, or transform enough to be worthy.Your worth isn't a product. It isn't a performance. It isn't a before-and-after photo.This weekly self-worth affirmation for women in midlife is a gentle reminder: you're already whole. Worthy without the purchase. Worthy without the productivity. Worthy without the perfect transformation.What would it feel like to stop chasing someone else's definition of enough?Not because you've proven anything. Not because you've earned the right. Just because you're already whole.Save. Share. Come back when you need the reminder. 🤍CRAVING A SOFTER LIFE?Soft is my monthly newsletter. It arrives in your inbox with reflections, small insights, and the occasional nudge toward a gentler pace. No productivity tips, but my personal favourites of the month, a fun meme, and just something you can open when you want a little more space.Subscribe to softSend me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

You've been propagandised today. Probably in the last hour. And I'm not talking about political ads or conspiracy theories—I'm talking about ideas that feel so obvious, so natural, so true that you'd never think to question them.In this episode, we explore what propaganda actually is, how it works in modern society, and why the most effective propaganda doesn't look like propaganda at all.Here's what surprised me most while researching this episode:The best propaganda isn't loud. It's not flashy. It's quiet, repetitive, and boring. It blends into the background until you forget there were other ways to think. And the language we use every day, from news headlines to social media, is doing more work than you realise.We dive into:Why billionaires buy newspapers (and what that has to do with your morning coffee routine)Why does how we talk about certain things matter more than you thinkHow "both sides" became propaganda itselfA trend you've definitely seen on social media that's actually a masterclass in normalisationThe question that changes everything: not whether you're influenced, but whether you're awareYou'll hear from: Jacques Ellul, Antonio Gramsci, Stuart Hall, Michel Foucault, and Paulo Freire, but don't worry, I make it actually interesting.Fair warning: Once you hear this, you'll start seeing propaganda everywhere. Your social media feed. Your work culture. Maybe even in this very podcast description. There's no going back.Listen, if you've ever wondered:Why certain ideas feel "obviously true"How the media shapes what we think is normalWhat makes something "extreme" vs. "reasonable"Whether you can actually think for yourself (spoiler: it's complicated)See you on the Scenic Route!Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

Exhale. TGIF This weekly affirmation is for you if you've been told that you need a five-year plan when you can barely figure out what you want for lunch.This week's affirmation:"I release the belief that I have to earn my rest."New Soft Landings every Friday. Save this. Share it. Come back to it when you need the reminder. 🤍About Soft Landings:Every Friday on The Scenic Route, one grounded affirmation to help you rest, reset, and remember you're way back home to yourself.Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

"Everyone has ADHD now."You've heard it. Maybe someone said it to you — with a half-joke, half-accusation edge. Like, neurodivergence is just the trend of the season.But what if that reaction tells us less about ADHD and more about the systems we're living in?In this conversation with Kristina Kyser — psychotherapist, educator, and creator of the Neurodivergent Rising course — we pull apart the "ADHD superpower" narrative that's everywhere right now. Because yes, there are gifts: innovation, nonlinear thinking, deep passion, hyperfocus. Those are real.But who benefits when we only talk about the parts of capitalism that it can extract?What We Cover:ADHD masking: the invisible labour of appearing "normal" From childhood, neurodivergent people — especially women — calibrate to a world that says: you're too much, you're wrong, you're different. Kristina breaks down what masking costs and why perimenopause often unmasks ADHD in midlife.The construction of "sanity" and who it was built to serve Normalcy isn't neutral. The DSM, psychiatry, the witch burnings — all of it is tangled with patriarchy, colonialism, and capitalism's need for compliant workers. Kristina traces the historical roots of how neurodivergence gets pathologised.The superpower question: what's true, what's missing, who profits Yes, ADHD comes with strengths. But when we only celebrate the traits capitalism values (innovation! hyperfocus! productivity!) while erasing the lows, the burnout, the 13-year shorter life expectancy, the systemic barriers — who does that serve?Why ADHD is a disability under capitalism — and that's not your fault ADHD isn't a medical deficit. But in a society built for neurotypical brains, it is disabling. Kristina explains the difference between individual healing and systemic change, and why we need both.Meet Kristina Kyser:Kristina (she/her) is a late-diagnosed AuDHD educator, former psychotherapist, and course creator with a PhD in English Literature and over 13 years of clinical experience. Her work bridges trauma healing, animist practice, and systems-level critique. She creates initiatory spaces that blend science, soul, and lived neurodivergence in service of collective remembering and repair.Learn more: Neurodivergent Rising Course Connect with Kristina on InstagramRecommended Resource: Unmasking Autism by Devon PriceSend me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

Exhale. TGIF This weekly affirmation is for you if you've been told that you need a five-year plan when you can barely figure out what you want for lunch.This week's affirmation: "I release the pressure to figure out my purpose. I start with listening inward what I need in this moment."You don't have to have it all mapped out. What you need right now matters more than what you think you should want five years from now.New Soft Landings every Friday. Save this. Share it. Come back to it when you need the reminder. 🤍About Soft Landings: Every Friday on The Scenic Route, one grounded affirmation to help you rest, reset, and remember you're way back home to yourself.Send me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.

Here's the thing nobody tells you: the way you order at a restaurant says A LOT about how you move through life.Are you the person who waits to hear what everyone else is getting before you decide? Do you need everyone's opinion before you can choose? Are you picking what you want, and it feels weirdly vulnerable?Yeah. We need to talk.In this episode, I sit down with Jillian Reilly, author of Ten Permissions: How to Stop Waiting and Start Living, to talk about why so many of us can't make the smallest choices for ourselves, and what that says about the bigger life we're (not) living.We dig into:Why approval-seeking starts at lunch and ends with your whole identityThe terror of wanting something no one else validatesHow to build choice-making muscles before you blow up your lifeWhy pleasure isn't selfish (and might be the most strategic thing you can practice)What happens when the old rules stop working, and there's no new manualThis conversation is for the overthinkers, the people-pleasers, the ones who've spent decades being "good" and are now sitting in the rubble of what that actually got them.About Jillian ReillyJillian Reilly is a founder, author, and keynote speaker. Having spent her 30-year career working in social, organisational, and individual change across Africa, Asia, and Central Europe, Jillian’s focus is on helping people unlock their ability to navigate change and accelerate growth and learning. Jillian’s book, The Ten Permissions, guides readers in permitting themselves to update how they operate in the 21st century and design lives that fully leverage the possibilities of this disruptive world. Jillian is a TEDX speaker and podcast host who has been published on international affairs in the Washington Post, Newsweek and the LA Times. Find JillianWebsite: tenpermissions.comSend me a DMSupport the show_____________________________________________________________________🔮 DAILY DOSE OF WOO The free Scenic Route Affirmation Card Deck is your online invitation to trust your inner voice again. What does your card say? 👉 Pull your daily affirmation⭐ LOVE THE SHOW?If this episode resonated with you, please leave a rating and review. It helps other midlife women find their way to the Scenic Route podcast.