#17 Ordinary Trauma

Tune in to learn about two types of jealousy that I have encountered over the years in my work with clients. I discuss in detail what they are and what needs to happen for each of them in order to start solving the issue at the root. Jealousy is a very complex thing where there is no one-size-fits-all solution. The more information we can get on what goes one for us individually, the easier it will be to actually make changes. So, in this episode I give you one way of getting a bit clearer on what is going on for you. *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@martina.b.booth Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

This episode is an unusual one. I received a message from someone how listened to an interview I gave on another podcast that prompted me to address a couple of things. I talk about the way I use the modalities that I have been trained in, where the definitions I use in my “dialogue and practice” come from and, ultimately, how I would love for you to use the information I am conveying to you in this podcast. This is the first episode I did not edit at all, so pardon me for some pauses and “uhms”. 😉I hope you will still enjoy it and I hope that it makes you think, as usual. *** Reference from this episode: Dr. Richard Schwartz – Internal Family Systems (IFS) *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@martina.b.booth⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I break down my views on different relationship concepts and why, in my opinion, they’re not that different after all. I also answer the question whether or not I “support” monogamy. Tune in for another episode that will probably make you think differently about relationships in general.   *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

Join me for this inspiring conversation with my friend and colleague Shanenn Bryant about all things jealousy. Shanenn is the founder of Top Self and the Top Self Podcast and she is an expert at helping people break the cycle of jealous habits, so it stops affecting their relationships. We discuss what jealousy is, when it becomes a problem and some of the crucial first steps to take in order to get your control back. Come check it out, Shanenn is amazing! And if you want more of her, here is where you can find her: Website Instagram: @topselfcoach  Top Self Podcast  *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I share an exercise with you that I do every single day with no exceptions. This exercise is meant to release any emotional build-up that has accumulated in your nervous system throughout the day. It will help you calm down, sleep better and can even dissolve physical discomfort like headaches, stomach aches or muscle tension.   *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

This episode is a must! I share my story from an anxious and emotionally dependent person going from one relationship to the next to finding true connection with my husband (and healing my anxiety in the process). If you want to know what the turning point was for me and how this business was born, tune in! *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I share my vision for relationships. I talk about how it is different from the typical non-monogamous relationship styles that you see out there, and I give you a couple of examples for what may change in your relationship if you apply this. Spoiler: Yes, you can and should have both complete freedom and deep connection in your life and your relationship. And I am going to show you how. *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I talk about the often overlooked topic of ordinary trauma. I explain what it is and why it so important. If you are someone who has been to therapy for many years for a certain traumatic event and still haven’t gotten any relief from some of your symptoms, this episode may provide some new insight into why that may be and what you can do. The topic may also open your mind a little more about your relationship with yourself and about the way you think about your past. *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@freedomandconnection Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I break down the complex topic of jealousy. I reveal what it is all about at the core (spoiler: No, it is not "just insecurity") and I explain why it is so hard for many people - including professionals - to really solve it. But don't worry, there is a solution after all and if you stay until the end of the episode, I will give you the first few steps you need to take in order to overcome this crippling problem once and for all. Sign-up link for my online course. *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠⁠@freedomandconnection⁠ Facebook: ⁠⁠Martina Booth⁠⁠ ⁠⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠⁠here.⁠⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.

In this episode I dive deep into possible root causes behind feeling unsafe in the world or being scared of losing your partner, drawing from my experiences with clients and from my own life. A lot of these possible root causes may surprise you as most people would never relate them to their relationship. At the end I walk you through an exercise that you can do on your own if you want to feel safer and less dependent on your partner. So definitely tune in! *** If you like this podcast, please give me a rating and review so that others can find it easier. Also, feel free to reach out to me directly if you are ready to take this work to the next level and want my support along the way or if you have a question or a topic suggestion for a future episode. I love to connect with my audience, so follow me on social media and say hi if you want. :-) This is where you can find me: Email: [email protected] Instagram: ⁠@freedomandconnection⁠ Facebook: ⁠Martina Booth⁠ ⁠Book a call with me directly.⁠ And if you haven't already, download my Jealousy Emergency Worksheet ⁠here.⁠ * * * Disclaimer The information on this podcast is for informational and entertainment purposes only. No material associated with The Relationship Visionary Podcast is intended to be a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding your condition or treatment and before taking on or performing any of the activities or suggestions discussed on the podcast.