364. The 6 stages of any relationship ft. Thais Gibson

Something we may not know is that relationships typically follow a fairly similar life cycle. Author and relationship expert, Thais Gibson has articulated this idea in her new theory on the 6 stages of relationships, and how to know which you're in and when to break away. We discuss: How long should you date before you ask for a label? Why the honeymoon phase can’t last (and why that’s a good thing) Why does every couple need to have that one “big” fight? Why do so many couples break up at the 2-3 year mark? When do you know someone is right for you for the long haul? What the longest married couples know that we don’t.... Plus so much more! Follow Thais HERE!  Take the quiz HERE!   ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

These days it's easy to feel observed and, therefore, judged by everyone for everything, whether that's online or in real life. Eli Rallo is an author and creator who understands this experience better than most of us and today we chat about her journey from a hardworking, theatre loving child to a nearly three time author and the Carrie Bradshaw of this generation. Our discussion includes topics like:  Why is it so difficult to let people misunderstand you? How our core wounds effect how we handle criticism The power of delusional thinking How to manage comparison in hyper-competitive spaces The truth about influencer culture What it takes to become an author How do you know you’re with the right person? That and so much more! Listen now! Buy Eli's book HERE! Follow Eli HERE! *The views expressed by guests are not necessarily shared by our host! We invite open discussion and differing viewpoints, experiences and information.    ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Brittney Saunders is the founder of Fayt the Label, one of Australia's biggest clothing brands and empires. She launched the business from a shed in her backyard in her 20s and has grown it into a multimillion dollar brand. Before Fayt, she launched a number of other businesses as well, and today she tells her story and gives her best advice. We discuss:  Britt’s journey from influencer to business owner Why it took her 4 years to start paying herself The most costly mistake when starting a business Should you hire your friends and family? How to actually make a product that people want? How to try again after failing The power of doing things a little bit scared Plus so much more!  Watch on Youtube Follow Brittney HERE!  Shop Fayt HERE! *Please note the views of guests are not necessarily shared by our host. We invite open discussion and differing viewpoints, experiences and information.    ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Plastic surgery rates are on the rise, especially amongst people in their 20s, so what drives people to get plastic surgery? How does it intersect with psychology, insecurity, confidence, class, social media? In today's episode we are joined by Dr Rady Rahban, a board certified plastic surgeon operating out of Beverley Hills to discuss:  What drives people to get plastic surgery? Why are we seeing more and more extreme surgeries? The role of social media, filters and AI When is plastic surgery not just about insecurity? Can you be truly body positive and still get plastic surgery? How common is surgery addiction? What you REALLY need to know before you get plastic surgery! Plus so much more! Listen now!  Dr Rahban's podcast HERE  Follow Dr Rahban HERE    ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]  *Please note the views of guests are not necessarily shared by our host. We invite open discussion and differing viewpoints, experiences and information. The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In your 20s you're told to be as ambitious as you can be, go after your dreams, work hard, be delusional, pursue your passion at any cost. How can we do that without our lives and health crumbling? What is the balance between ambition and appreciation? In today's episode we bring on Amina AlTai, author of The Ambition Trap to talk about:  Why having more ambition doesn’t always make you more successful How a scarcity mindset can ruin your 20s How to find your ‘zone of genius’ When to say ‘no’ to something you really want to do How to lean into the slower seasons of life The miserable paradox of success When do you need to ‘lock in’ & when do you need to have fun? If you've ever struggled with balancing your big goals with your desire to enjoy life, this episode is for you.  Buy Amina's book HERE  Follow Amina HERE   Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We can be so fixed on a job, a person, an outcome that we fuse our identity to it – and, crucially, forget that we’re okay without it. In today’s bonus episode, we unpack detachment: why we cling so tightly to people and outcomes, what over-attachment does to our mind and mood, and how to loosen the grip in a way that feels calm, kind, and clear.We explore: •        Why we become attached to certain people or outcomes•        The impact of becoming overly attached on our behaviours, thoughts and emotions•        The Buddhist concept of ‘non-attachment’•        How detaching from the outcome can keep us grounded•        The value of the Stoic mindset Listen now! ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

There is a huge emphasis on treating romance as the main marker of a successful life – from questions from family, to seemingly perfect online couples – it’s hard to believe anything else when society celebrates this kind of ideal. In this episode, we look at how romance is often seen as the main focus of our 20s, what it can distract us from, and how we can start to approach it differently. We explore: •        The social script of our 20s•        The role of milestone anxiety and FOMO•        How this can lead to us neglecting other areas of our lives, including our goals•        Emotional bypassing and avoiding the deeper work•        What a healthy approach to love looks like•        5 tips to decentre romantic love If you’ve ever felt like your life is on pause until your relationship status changes, this episode is for you.  ORDER MY BOOK: https://www.psychologyofyour20s.com/copy-of-book Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbegFollow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcastFor business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’ve all been there - telling ourselves that ‘life is short’ as we click add to cart. Whether it’s an expensive dinner, a holiday you can’t quite afford, or another ‘little treat’, doom spending has become the defining financial habit of our generation. In this episode, we unpack why we spend when the world feels uncertain - the psychology, the emotion, and the cultural forces behind it. From dopamine and control to social media, fatalism, and escapism, we’ll explore how uncertainty reshapes our relationship with money and why buying things can feel like the only way to feel better. We explore: •        Why spending can feel emotionally soothing and self-regulating•        How financial stress, uncertainty, and global instability fuel impulsive habits•        The rise of ‘little treat culture’ and the illusion of control•        The role of social media in pairing crisis with consumption•        Signs that your coping mechanism has turned into doom spending•        How to break the cycle - from doom saving to mindful spending If you’ve ever felt the urge to spend when everything feels out of control, this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]    The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Going through a breakup is always going to be devastating. Heartbreak is one of the most gut-wrenching human experiences: it affects our brain, our body, our routines, our identity, and our sense of the future. Why does it hurt so much, and how do we actually get through it? In this episode, we break down the psychology of surviving a breakup: the science, the emotions, and the practical tools that help you heal, find clarity, and eventually believe in love again. We explore: The story of my TWO big breakups  Why heartbreak activates the same neural pathways as physical pain The three psychological “waves” of a breakup and what to expect in each Why “what ifs,” longing and mind-pops keep us stuck How to support your healing with five research-backed strategies The psychology of rebounds, moving on, and knowing when you’re ready to date again If you’re feeling lost, devastated, or convinced you’ll never love again, this episode will help you understand your pain, soften it, and slowly rebuild your sense of self. ORDER MY BOOK Watch on Youtube Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Our 20s are sold to us as the decade of peak desire - full of passion, spontaneity, and effortless intimacy. But for so many of us, that isn’t the reality. When libido dips or fluctuates, it can feel confusing, isolating, and even shameful. In this episode, we ask why it is so common to struggle with libido in our 20s, what’s actually happening beneath the surface when desire feels distant, and how to make sense of the emotional and physical shifts that come with it. We explore: •        How it feels when our libido fluctuates•        Why so many of us struggle with this in our 20s•        The dual control theory of sexual response•        Libido as a reflection of safety•        The role of hormones, stress and mental health •        Identity development and the impact of shame•        Tips to reconnect with pleasure If you’ve ever wondered why you don’t feel the same drive as others seem to, this episode is for you. ORDER MY BOOK Follow Jemma on Instagram: @jemmasbeg Follow the podcast on Instagram: @thatpsychologypodcast For business: [email protected]  The Psychology of your 20s is not a substitute for professional mental health help. If you are struggling, distressed or require personalised advice, please reach out to your doctor or a licensed psychologist.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.