Why Men Stop Giving To Women

Q&A ABOUT UPCOMING RETREAT IN AUSTRIA - AUGUST 5-11, 2025.1.  WHAT IS CONTAINMENT?2.  CHALLENGES OF EROS BETWEEN HUSBANDS AND WIVES3.  SELF-INTERESTED REASONS FOR DOING HIERARCHY4.  BDSM PLAY THROUGH THE CHAKRAS5.  WOMEN’S HESITATION IN EXPLORING THIS MATERIALCOURSE PAGE : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WHY MEN SHOULD ATTEND MY TRAININGS — BECAUSE WOMEN ARE INDEED SCARY!Many men out there follow my writings and podcasts.  They write to me expressing that they are benefiting from my material.  They express desire to deepen their mastery and to learn more and go deeper.  When it comes time to show up for a workshop I’m offering, many of those same men hesitate, stall and disappear.I can be pretty hard on men when I coach them.  My first inclination tends to be to yell at them for not following through.  But this phenomena of not showing up has been going on for so long that I’ve had the opportunity to talk to many of the men and gain some understanding of what is happening for them underneath the surface.  The more I see and understand, the more I sympathize.What keeps men from showing up to be trained in sensuality in a class alongside women is FEAR.  It not just one fear, it is a stack of fears.  It is a layer-cake of fears.And these fears the men are facing are nothing to scoff at.  This is tender stuff.  I will list three main categories of their fears:They fear getting a report card from women that they, the men, have always been mediocre lovers.2.  They fear getting a direct and live confirmation from women in front of others that the women don’t prefer this particular man.  That the women prefer other men over him.3.  They fear being publicly humiliated by being publicly evaluated as sexually incompetent and undesirable.This is a pretty scary list!  I feel like hiding under the covers when I read.I can’t completely assuage these fears for men.  I know they are real and they are brutal.  What I can try to do is express some counterpoints to these concerns in this video.  I have the follow 3 counter propositions for you:1.  LET WOMEN INITIATE YOU!2.  ENTER THIS HUMILIATION SCENE VOLUNTARILY!3.  KNOW THAT ANY FAILURE IS NOT FINAL!Hope to see some of you in class.Next Course : Austria, August 5-11.Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-coursewww.OmRupani.org

WHY WOMEN SHOULD COME TO MY BDSM TRAININGI see the men and women who come to my training benefiting slightly different from what I offer.  I wanted to make two videos sharing what benefits I see my students gaining.  Men’s video to follow soon.1.RECEIVE GOOD CONTAINMENT2.GET IN TOUCH WITH YOUR LITTLE GIRL3.YOU WILL KNOW HOW TO VET A DOM GOING FORWARD Or truly, how to vet any man you are considering of taking as a lover or a partner.— —AUSTRIA - August 5-11; 2025Course Page : https://omrupani.org/bdsm-principles-dom-sub-exploration-courseDOMINICAN REPUBLIC - February 8-14; 2026Course Page : https://omrupani.org/tantra-bdsm——Both retreats are $3200 per student.  Room & Board included in course fee.www.OmRupani.org

UNDERSTANDING WOMEN’S FUCKING ENERGYI believe women have at least two distinct modalities of turn-on or arousal.  I believe there is a particular ‘frequency’ of women’s arousal that is their fucking energy — where they want to be penetrated.Men’s erections occur in response to this energy.If this observation is correct, the implications that come out of it are many.This is a starting conversation on this topic and on this premise.  Others to follow soon.— Om RupaniCourse Mentioned In Video : https://omrupani.org/eros-in-her-handswww.OmRupani.org

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5 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T PARTNER WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE NEGATIVE PEOPLE ACTUALLY DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO RELATIONSHIPS.A successful relationship is two are more people coming into agreement.Chronically unhappy people tend to be out of agreement with life itself.They are ungracious.They are ungrateful.They have no appreciation for the good that is around them.Such a person has true inclination to be gracious towards other humans, to be thankful for the good that others bring into their life.  If a person seem determined to not come into agreement with you or with life, you will not have a successful connection with them.2.  NEGATIVE PEOPLE ARE DREAM KILLERSTo be negative is to be negative about the future.I would in fact define whether a person is officially negative or not by this particular metric : WHAT’S THEIR ATTITUDE TOWARDS THE FUTURE — THIER OWN FUTURE AND THE WORLD’S FUTURE?If a person is future-forward, they are not negative.Those who are negative people by this definition — don’t ever share your future plans with these people.  They will do their utmost to snuff your flame.3.  YOU WILL FAIL AS A ROMANTIC PARTNER WITH THEM.This particular point applies even more to men than women.  We all have the desire to please our partner, but men feel this metric at an even deeper level.  When our woman is happy, we feel like kings.  When she is unhappy, it lands in us as failure.Pick a woman who is chronically unhappy, and you set yourself to being and feeling like a chronic failure.4.  THEIR NEGATIVITY IS OFTEN MALEVOLENTMaybe there is a small number of negative and pessimistic people who just live their sully ives in the corner, but most people who are future-negative are deeply envious of others who are optimistic, future-forward, creative, endeavoring, taking chances, succeeding.Be double careful of inviting such malevolent energy into your creation and production circle.  They are saboteurs.5.  AS YOUR PARTNER, THE NEGATIVE PERSON IS ROOTING FOR YOUR FAILUREA truly negative person cannot tolerate progress and success anywhere.  They won’t make an exception for you even if you are married to them.The very core purpose of a good relationship ought to be that the two people are rooting for each other.  You are a stand for each other.  You want the other to succeed and thrive.  If you can’t say this about yourself, you suck as a partner and your other will suffer because of it, and vice versa.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

THERE ARE 2 TYPES OF WOMEN IN THE WORLD1.  Those who believe that their full SOUL EXPRESSION can only occur independent of any   man, independent or any relationship with a man, independent of any marriage with a man.  That taking her full soul journey as a woman is a solo path, independent of men and relationships with men, and that men and relationships with men are distractions, detours and obstacles to that true SOUL journey of hers.2.  Women who believe their SOUL JOURNEY can only be completed through the archetypes of wife and mother.  That only in a deep partnership with a man, only in a deep marriage with a man, in going through all the ups and downs that a marriage entails, in upholding and living out all the marriage vows of sickness and in health, for richer or poor, that only in that life-long journey can she realize and make her SOUL JOURNEY.My prompt to women is that they examine their belief system and see what programming they are carrying in their system.  Be true to the belief you are carrying.  If you are in the first category, please stop trying to pair bond with men, please stop seeking long-term partnerships with men; please don’t even cohabitate with a man, and most certainly, please don’t get married.  It wont’ work out for you.  You yourself will sabotage your relationships, because your core belief is not in agreement with long-term bonding with a man.— Om Rupaniwww.OmRupani.org

PODCAST WITH KELLY BROGAN - BDSM SCENE CONSTRUCTIONS FOR CATHARSISTimestamps:[00:00] Introduction[03:05] How BDSM intersects with trauma, pleasure, and healing[05:12] Understanding the father-daughter dynamic in relationships[06:08] How childhood experiences shape adult desires[07:20] Why reenacting childhood wounds can be healing[08:14] Common father-daughter wounds and their emotional impact[09:05] Revisiting painful childhood memories in a controlled way[10:18] How a dom can rewrite past trauma[11:10] Why people internalize childhood neglect as self-blame[12:02] How reenacting childhood wounds can change self-perception[13:15] The role of theater and psychodrama in BDSM[14:09] How women can relive and heal rejection from their fathers[15:30] Why BDSM scene design is structured like a play[16:22] Examples of how childhood wounds show up in adult relationships[19:02] The impact of revisiting parental rejection in scene play[20:10] The emotional release that comes from reenacting past pain[21:04] The psychological effects of feeling preferred or not preferred[22:15] The deep-rooted nature of childhood wounds in adult life[23:09] How re-experiencing childhood emotions can reframe memories[24:03] The importance of acknowledging that parents are human[25:12] Using BDSM to address self-worth issues rooted in childhood[26:08] Why people carry childhood pain into adulthood[27:00] The difference between memory, narrative, and reality[28:15] The role of the dom in guiding emotional catharsis[29:05] How the body holds onto past trauma[30:10] The connection between physical sensations and emotional healing[31:12] How BDSM can address and release stored trauma[32:20] The impact of feeling powerless as a child[33:08] How physical expression can help process past pain[34:04] Why talk therapy alone cannot resolve deep trauma[35:10] Jealousy as a common relationship challenge[36:02] How BDSM can be used to work through jealousy[38:00] How playing out jealousy can lessen its intensity[41:08] Why understanding your fears can give you more agency[42:04] How women can shift their perspective on their partner’s attraction to others[45:02] How body shame impacts relationships and intimacy[46:10] How BDSM can help heal body insecurities[47:15] Why body shaming is common in BDSM play[48:02] How men and women experience different types of body shame[49:08] The role of worship and cherishment in healing body shame[50:05] Why aftercare is essential in BDSM scenes[51:10] How physical play can anchor emotional healing[52:02] Why BDSM is not just for “kinky” people[53:08] How scene play can be an effective tool for personal growth[54:12] Why BDSM should not be stigmatized in therapeutic settings[55:05] How this approach can complement traditional therapy[56:02] The importance of embracing taboo topics for healingLearn more about Om Rupani’s School for Dominance & Submission on his website, YouTube channel and Instagram.Listen to the Om Rupani Podcast on Spotify or AppleInstagram: @kellybroganmdWebsite: kellybroganmd.comwww.OmRupani.org

ANSWER YOUR CALL!  OR GET OFF THE POT!Lauren and I giving some tough love to you women who are on the fence about answering your call.  We wholeheartedly urge you to take courage and step towards the bit of uncertainty that might be the start of an adventure.With love.Om & Lauren.Priestess Training : https://omrupani.org/practitioner-masterywww.OmRupani.org