Making Her Like You More - MTP 531

Co-Host Jonathan Van Viegen (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/choosingus) My first time guest Jonathan Van Viegen is a couples therapist and coach, and author of The Chosen And Cherished Method along with his new book Choosing Us. The topic he suggested is one that doesn't get talked about nearly enough in the world of dating and relationship advice, especially amongst us men. That's being likeable. Now, it seems simple and obvious how important this is to attracting women and building relationships with them, so why is it so often overlooked? What's the best path to becoming a better man that's actually going to lead to women liking you more? (Hint: it's not always so obvious.) Jonathan admits he didn't used to be very likable to his wife. How exactly did he turn that ship around? What's the difference between a woman being attracted to you and actually liking you? Is the mental image many men have of "masculinity" actually likable? Here's how and why those two traits don't have to be mutually exclusive. What's one simple habit that makes you more likable immediately, especially to women? Is there a likable way to earn respect? What is the skill many people have lost since COVID that makes them far harder to like? It has been said that attraction isn't a choice. Is liking someone a choice? What's the hard truth about likability that everyone should learn...especially if they want to stand out in a crowd? On the other hand, why are needy people pleasers so unlikable? And finally, what's the one question men should write down and ask themselves over and over? The website has just been updated with new, cool stuff: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===We've all heard the alleged statistics about how 2nd marriages fail at a higher rate than first marriages. But did you know there's no actual study to back that up? The truth is very different. Nevertheless, I've got a significant plot twist for you when it comes to any and all studies that talk about dating, relationships and attraction. Sometimes the alleged "red pill" is still just the "blue pill". In this brief episode I reveal the best mindset you can have in the face of these studies. More importantly, we get down to the bottom of what really matters when it comes to successful second marriages. What are the "make or break" factors there that go outside the numbers? Visit the newly refreshed site and take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Cora Boyd (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cora) One of the biggest stumbling blocks for men is flirting. After all, in our minds it's all about revealing sexual (or at least non-platonic) interest in a woman, and rumor has it that sort of thing is flat-out dangerous in today's world. Well, my first-time guest Cora Boyd is the host of Pillow Talk Radio and heads up Magnetics Love School. To say she's the perfect guest to clear up any confusion or frustration about this topic is an understatement. Just when so many guys are cynical enough to go "redpilled" and swear off women, along comes Cora to restore hope in female humanity. Right out of the gate, Cora proves she knows exactly what we as men are feeling--and facing--out there nowadays when it comes to flirting. She not only knows what is going on, she knows why, and she's all about empowering you to flirt with women they way they crave being flirted with. So, what is Cora's take on "establishing normalcy" when meeting a woman for the first time? Why do we as men really shy away from flirting with women? And how do we clear up our psychology so flirting really does become as fun for us as it is for most women? How can we master the male/female vibe when interacting with a woman? Why does trying to come up with the perfect move or the perfect line always seem to backfire? What are "flirting flavors"? What should men do instead of trying to "close the deal" with women? And what is there to be said for improving your entire social outlook--and your social life with it--as a direct way to get comfortable with, and therefore better at flirting? What encouragement does Cora have for men who are still cynical about all of this? And what if flirting is actually an act of service toward women? The newly-refreshed website features lots of free goodies: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===What happens when someone asks you to envision the "woman of your dreams"? Well, you likely have a mental picture almost immediately. She's exactly your type and/or what society projects as the "perfect woman". But here's the thing: when the  woman who really "does it for you" shows up in real life, she might not be who you envisioned. What's up with that? Are you settling? The surprising answer is actually the most normal, natural one...and nearly everyone can relate to it. And by the way, the same principle has massive ramifications on how we understand women's stereotypical "preferences" for the man they say they want. Can we all get over ourselves, stop over-analyzing and let authentic attraction happen? Visit the newly refreshed site and take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Scotte Burns (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/scotte) My first-time guest Scotte Burns and his wife have spent nearly a decade and more than 100,000 miles on Harleys asking one question: What is love...especially in a language like English which infamously only has one word to cover the whole concept? They got many answers along the way, but which one changed Scotte the most?  I mean, what makes a man spend ten years and a hundred thousand miles asking what love is? What were some of the most memorable or transformative encounters they had on the road? What did men they talked to say about love? How did it differ from what women told them? What do most people get wrong about love? And how about marriage on the road? Ten years in close quarters with his wife. How did that work? Scotte says love is not merely an emotion, but something more fundamental. What does he mean by that? And what does it actually mean to love yourself first? (i.e. not a mere platitude) At what point did his search for the meaning of love become a deeper inquiry into consciousness itself? And here's a good question: How does love really relate to masculinity and femininity? Why do men struggle more with articulating what love is? How are love and attraction actually related (contrary to conventional wisdom), and is attraction is a prerequisite for love or merely a distraction? Catch up on all the previous episodes you've missed on masculinity and being better with women: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===Oh man, it's the most frustrating thing ever, isn't it? Getting banished to the dreaded "Just Be Friends" Zone is bad enough. But what if she is spending time with you, but at the same time it's crystal clear that things are going nowhere with her? Either way, we're talking about a woman who doesn't have a romantic interest in you. So what's the difference that makes the difference as to whether you get hit with the "JBF Talk" or just don't get talked to at all? The truth will surprise you. And wait...all of this sucks, so how can we make sure to never have to sort through any of this madness with women ever again? Take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Robbie Kramer (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/kramer) My returning guest Robbie Kramer joins me for this wide-ranging episode on the journey from PUA-era men's coach to husband and father. What's more, Robbie is a "girl dad"...just a month and a half in. So what, if anything, changes in us as men once we get married, and especially when we become a parent? And what are the specific mind shifts and wake-up calls that happen when we become "girl dads"? So-called conventional wisdom says that the more we "play the field" as single men, the harder it is to commit to one woman long-term and the family life that goes with it. Find out why both Robbie and I believe the opposite is true. So was Robbie ready to be a dad? What happened for both he and I when our respective first-born kiddos came along? What's the unexpected (and by far the most irrefutable) argument for choosing a hot wife? What keeps a good marriage and parenthood from feeling like a trap? What kind of true freedom and therefore real autonomy unexpectedly comes with being a family man? What are the marketing shenanigans that some former PUAs are up to nowadays...now that they've actually become husbands and dads themselves? (Hint: No, you're not a "simp" for wanting to be a father and actually live with your own kids.) When it comes down to it, the healthiest and most powerful evolution from player to parent is to consciously and intentionally create the life you REALLY want with the partner you REALLY want (yes, including physical attractiveness) and raise your kids the way you REALLY want. The problem, is most men either don't realize these options are available, or else they just fail to deploy. Get the free report "Flip The Switch: 5 Things You Can Do Right Now To Get Better With Women" when you go to: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===Have you been hit with the term "Divorce Glow-Up" yet? Basically, a bunch of divorced women are going around on social media bragging (or is that perpetrating) how they're hotter, healthier and even happier after a divorce. Sure, women are going to flex some "girl power" with each other once in a while. But is there a deeper and more troubling message here? And how does it matter to us as men? Take the quick Reality Check Survey to get clear on where you really are and what to do about it next:  https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

Co-Host Dr. Kyle Hulsebus (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/40over40) My first-time guest Dr. Kyle Hulsebus is a health and human potential specialist, author, and third-generation chiropractor. All of that has focused his attention on a theory that should be of extreme interest for any man who wants to be at his best when relating to women. Indeed, his 40over40 longevity series claims sex after 40 is a health signal. Kyle's work redefines health as an internal mind/body state where purpose, relationships, work, and physical well-being function together. He argues that most midlife decline starts with a loss of direction, long before a lab test catches it. Although there is definitely both a spiritual and a metaphysical side to it all, Kyle's approach is 100% practical. No scripts, no supplements pitch, just what actually keeps a body working past 40.Tip #20 out of his 40 is "make love". Kyle explains it's less about sex for sex's sake and more about connection, honest communication, and what happens in the body when people stop hiding their desires. He raises a real question: are people talking openly with their partners about desire, or carrying it privately, or unpacking it anonymously somewhere else entirely? So, why is making love after 40 is part of your health, not an optional extra? Why are so many over 40 are in silent health decline? (hint: it's not testosterone) Why is it some people can connect almost immediately, but others can go years with no connection at all? Get the FREE special report "Flip The Switch: 5 Ways To Get Better With Women Right Now" when you subscribe to my daily newsletter at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.

===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT===For millennia men and women have been trying to figure each other out. But the ironic part is both genders think they're easy to figure out. What's actually going on there? Well, that's the part nobody ever stops to think about...until now. As it turns out, when we stop thinking of the other gender as from some other planet, or even as some other species, that's when the picture becomes crystal clear. The ramifications of figuring this out are massive for not only how attractive you are to women, but how successful your relationships with them will be (and vice-versa, of course!) Take the Reality Check Inventory quiz for FREE at: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/realitycheck === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.