Have you heard of love languages? The book by Gary Chapman goes into a theory that we express love in 5 different ways:
- Words of affirmation;
- Quality time;
- Physical touch;
- Acts of service;
- Receiving gifts.
Now if your partner is an "acts of service" kind of person, and you're a "words of affirmation" kind of person, you may get into situations where your partner is doing all these great things for you to help around the house etc, but they don't land as "love" to you because you need to hear the words being said.
It's the same for money!
We all have blocks and blindspots about money, and often this comes from how we were brought up.
When getting into a relationship, you're combining the net sum of both couple's money issues, and when you don't communicate about it, that's where trouble can begin.
I hope this helps.
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