
302 š Progress Over Perfection: A Journey of Self-Discovery with Monica Packer
In this powerful conversation, Wendy Valentine sits down with habits and identity coachāand recovering perfectionistāMonica Packer to unpack why perfectionism keeps midlife women stuck on the sidelines and how to choose progress over perfection. Monica shares her 2015 āahaā moment, explains the perfectionism pendulum (overachieving ā underachieving), and shows how self-compassionānot shameācreates sustainable change.
Youāll hear practical ways to quiet the inner critic, navigate the messy middle, set healthier boundaries, and take brave, bite-sized action with Monicaās simple Do Something List. If youāre tired, busy, or overwhelmed but still want to grow, this episode gives you freeing, relatable tools to move forwardāimperfectly and authentically.
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What Youāll Learn
- The āperfectionism pendulumā and why both all-or-nothing and doing nothing are the same trap
- How self-compassion outperforms self-criticism for lasting habit change
- A 3C toolkit: Compassion, Courage, Curiosity to navigate the messy middle
- How to spot and reframe your inner critic in real time
- Why validation ā apathyāand how acceptance jumpstarts momentum
- Practical steps to start small: create a Do Something List and celebrate micro-wins
- How perfectionism strains relationshipsāand the role of boundaries and invitations to change
- Identity shifts: moving from outcome-based worth to values-aligned action in midlife
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