Ep. 205 - How to Stop Arguments Before They Start

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Have you ever felt like your body is working against you and it’s affecting your marriage, your parenting, and your mental health?In this episode, I am joined by functional gut health coach and family nurse practitioner Lola MacLean to explore the gut-brain connection and how your gut health might be the hidden cause of irritability, emotional instability, fatigue, and even communication breakdowns in your marriage.Tune in to hear us chat about:What gut health really is and why it matters for your physical and emotional well-beingSigns and symptoms of poor gut health (that we often normalize)How gut imbalances can mimic or worsen ADHD, anxiety, and depressionHow your digestive health affects youWhat perimenopause and hormone changes do to your gut microbiomeHealing your gutWhether you're dealing with bloating, mood swings, or you’re just plain exhausted—this episode is a must-listen. Discover how improving your gut health might just be the thing that transforms your marriage, parenting, and peace of mind.Connect with Lola!Instagram - @lolamacleandnp Website- www.haelanempowered.comThank you for listening!If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Are you and your spouse just navigating a rough patch—or is your marriage calling out for help?This is one of the most common questions I get from couples, especially after kids enter the picture. When things feel hard, it can be difficult to know whether to wait it out or to take action.In this episode, I walk you through the signs of a rough patch vs. deeper issues in your marriage. I break down what each looks like, what questions to ask yourself, and how to tell if your marriage would benefit from getting outside support.What's covered in this episode:What qualifies as a “rough patch” in marriageSigns your marriage may be strugglingKey questions to help you figure out where your relationship standsWhat to do if you realize you need helpWhether you’re tired, checked out, or just not sure what’s going on—this episode will give you clarity on what to do next.Ready to feel like a team again and set your marriage up for success?Book a clarity call to get the support you and your marriage deserve!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Do you ever feel guilty for working, yelling, taking time for yourself or just wanting a break?If so, you’re not alone. You’re a mom living with a whole lot of pressure from invisible rules you never actually agreed to.This week on the podcast, I’m joined by intuitive coach and author Alysia Lyons to explore a powerful new way to look at mom guilt — not as something to get rid of, but as something to listen to.Instead of trying to silence the guilt or shame yourself for feeling it, what if you could decode what it’s actually trying to tell you?We dive into:Why guilt shows up even when you know you're doing your bestThe hidden "Good Mom Rules" you're probably following without realizing itHow guilt can silently affect your relationship with your kids, your marriage, and yourselfThe two key tools for turning guilt into clarity, alignment, and peaceThis episode is for you if:You’re tired of hearing “don’t feel guilty” when the feeling won’t go awayYou want to stop living reactively and start feeling empowered in motherhoodYou’re ready to rewrite the rules you inherited and create a motherhood experience that fits youConnect with Alysia!IG: @coachalysialyonsWebsite: www.alysialyons.comThank you for listening!If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!In this episode, we’re diving deep into a topic that often gets misunderstood—boundaries in marriage. If you've ever felt resentful, disrespected, or just plain burned out in your relationship, there's a high chance that a boundary is either missing or unclear.Tune in to hear me share:What boundaries actually are (hint: they’re not ultimatums or punishments!)Why healthy communication boundaries prevent recurring conflict5 key types of boundaries every couple needs:EmotionalTimeConflictFamily & In-lawDigital & PrivacyReal-life examples of what healthy vs. unhealthy boundaries look likeHow to tell if a boundary is missing (and what to do about it)Tips for setting boundaries without starting a fightWhether you’re feeling like roommates or are simply ready to level up your relationship, this episode will help you reconnect and protect your peace.Ready to get support? Book a clarity call with me here!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!If you are raising gluten-free kids or suspect your child may need to transition into the gluten-free lifestyle, in this episode I chat with Carrie Saunders from The Gluten-Free Engineer to discuss how she has navigated life learning she has Celiac late in life and as a mom of 3 boys who all have Celiac disease.During the episode, she shares her personal and parenting journey from years of misdiagnosis to becoming an empowering resource for families navigating the gluten-free lifestyle.If you’re a busy mom dealing with mystery symptoms in your child (or yourself), or just starting to suspect gluten could be a culprit, this episode will give you clarity and practical tips to help you thrive in this new lifestyle.What We Cover:Signs and symptoms of Celiac in both adults and childrenWhy gluten may be affecting your child’s mood, sleep, skin, and behaviorHow going gluten-free changed their family’s health (and their entire kitchen!)Navigating school events, parties, and restaurants as a gluten-free familyThe emotional side of diagnosis: grief, overwhelm, and reclaiming joyEasy gluten-free swaps and Carrie's crowd-pleasing chocolate cake recipeConnect with Carrie!Listen to her podcast The Gluten Free Engineer!Join her FB Group The Gluten Free Engineer!Subscribe to her YouTube channel for delicious recipes! I personally recommend checking out her chocolate cake, it is SO good!Download the Find Me Gluten Free App!Thank you for listening!If you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Are your kids the center of your world—but your marriage feels more like a roommate situation?In this episode, we're talking about one of the hardest but most important truths for moms to hear: your marriage has to be a priority—even after kids.It’s so easy to pour everything into motherhood and assume your relationship can wait. But the truth is, every time you put your marriage on the backburner without circling back to reconnect, you're creating more distance—and that gap only grows with time.Tune in to learn:Why your marriage should come before your kids (yes, really)How society glorifies child-centered parenting and why it's hurting your relationshipWhat your kids actually need from you and your partnerIf your marriage has lost its spark and you’re ready to shift the dynamic, this is your sign to do something about it—starting now.Create your marriage vision here! Book a clarity call to get personalized support here!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Can you be a high-achieving woman and still have a thriving, supportive marriage? Absolutely. In this episode, I am joined by Christian Life Coach Melanie Birkey to talk about what it really takes to balance ambition and marriage in a modern relationship. Melanie shares her personal journey of overcoming burnout, healing limiting beliefs, and redefining what partnership looks like when both partners are driven and raising a family.Whether you're trying to balance entrepreneurship, motherhood, marriage—or all three—this conversation will give you the mindset shifts and practical tools to break free from outdated roles, create your own family systems, and honor both your success and your softness.What You’ll Learn:Common marriage challenges ambitious women face—and how to overcome themHow to stop performing old roles that no longer fit youThe key to partnership when gender roles are reversed or redefinedHow to master yourself to improve your marriage—without waiting for your partner to changeWays to manage energy and burnout through receiving and softeningNavigating judgment from your community and choosing authenticity over approvalConnect with Melanie:Facebook group: Faith, Freedom & FulfillmentWebsite: www.melaniebirky.comSign up for her Changing the Relationship with Yourself Challenge here!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Tired of conversations with your partner turning into arguments? In this episode, I break down one of the most powerful marriage communication strategies: pivoting. Discover how to recognize when things are going sideways and exactly what to do instead. This skill is a game-changer for couples who want respectful communication, a stronger partnership and deeper connection.This episode gives you a sneak peek into the tools my coaching clients learn to break the argument cycle.If you’re a married mom who’s ready to improve communication and feel more like a team again, this is a must-listen.Download the Conflict to Connection Guide to start transforming your communication today!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Add understanding your period to the list of things I wish I learned before my 30s.In this episode I was joined by Anna Sneed, co-founder of The Agenda Period, to talk about the revolutionary tool every woman should be using: cycle syncing.If you've ever felt like you're a different person each week or wished your husband just got what you needed—this episode is a must-listen.Anna explains how understanding your cycle isn't just helpful for personal wellbeing—it’s a marriage-saving, self-awareness, self-acceptance tool! In this conversation, she breaks down the four phases of your cycle, how each one affects your energy, communication, productivity, and emotional needs—and how you can use that knowledge to set your partner and family up for success.Resources Mentioned:Get the Cycle Syncing StickerDownload The Agenda Period AppFree Period Planning GuideConnect with Anna:IG: @annasneed_empowermentcoach/@theagendaperiodThank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!

Let us know how you enjoyed this episode!Do you ever walk away from an argument with your husband thinking, “Why did I say that?” or “Why didn’t I speak up for myself?” In this episode, I’m sharing the #1 shift that helps you feel more confident and calm during arguments—so you can stop reacting and start communicating in a way that creates a deeper connection and strengthens your partnership. Whether you tend to shut down, blow up, or over-accommodate, you’ll learn how to ground yourself before engaging so that you can advocate for your needs without escalating the situation.Tune in to hear:Why you may feel disempowered during conflict—and how it shows upThe 3 common responses (attack, withdraw, people-please) and their impactHow to feel grounded, clear, and confident before you speakHow empowered communication helps you argue less and connect moreDownload the Conflict to Connection Guide to help you put this into action!Thank you for listening!If you resonated with this episode and you're ready to break the cycles you've noticed in your marriage, reach out by booking a clarity call to become a client! https://michellepurta.as.me/clarityConnect and send a message letting me know what you took away from this episode: @michellepurtacoaching and follow me on threads @michellepurtacoaching!If you would like to support this show, please rate and review the show, and share it with people you know would love this show too!Additional Resources:Ready to put a stop to the arguments in your marriage?  Watch this free masterclass - The #1 Conversation Married Couples Need To Have (But Aren't)Want to handle conflict with more confidence? Download this free workbook!Wanna make communication feel easy and stop feeling like roommates so you can bring back the romance and excitement into your marriage? Learn more about how coaching here!