Making decisions as an avoidant

Every time a talking stage ends and you come home to punish yourself, the gap you were trying to fill just gets bigger.In this episode, Lama uses a simple analogy to break down how shaming yourself over past mistakes keeps you repeating the same patterns, why the voice in your head matters more than the person in front of you, and how learning to have your own back is what finally lets you show up open, calm, and ready for the right person.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/t5uE9eFC4bs?si=9S-DtaVJ7KZKhNFF

It’s not your looks, your age, or your circumstances, it’s your attitude. And that’s actually great news.In this episode, Lama breaks down the specific mindset that separates the people who get married from the ones who stay stuck, why showing up with entitlement or desperation both push the right people away, and what it looks like to carry yourself in a way that makes someone actually want to commit.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/YuaQy-ZQmvg?si=nzaaOfikmPQc0WrD

Trusting Allah doesn’t mean sitting back and waiting, and taking action doesn’t mean you don’t trust Him.In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually looks like to hold both at the same time, why leaning too hard on either side keeps people stuck, and how to take real steps forward while staying grounded in the belief that Allah is the one who makes it happen.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/JLaGq2cO-s8?si=kw-s2XL0Y5a7v5Ql

The more you think about it, the further away it feels. That’s not a coincidence.In this episode, Lama breaks down how overanalyzing quietly kills attraction, why the brain’s attempt to protect you from getting hurt is actually the thing keeping you single, and how to get out of your head and into a place where real connection can actually happen.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/LgMqaU0pJe0?si=M4UGzfWw4PRwiRLh

Indecision isn’t a personality trait; it’s a fear response. And it’s costing you more than you think.In this episode, Lama breaks down why so many people struggle to make decisions in the marriage process, how to tell the difference between genuine uncertainty and fear-talking, and what it actually looks like to make a clear, grounded decision without waiting for a sign that may never come.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/YF2jcwOgwrY?si=7tOL6teFeFUnjNWu

If every time things get real you find a reason to walk away — this episode is for you.In this episode, Lama breaks down how avoidant patterns show up specifically in the decision-making stage, why the “ick” feeling isn’t always a red flag, and how to slow down enough to tell the difference between genuine incompatibility and your nervous system doing what it always does.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you’re looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/35lupAV7bEE?si=AaQrzw0_w1AejduA

In this masterclass, Lama walks through the complete Love Movement method from start to finish, the mindset, the inner work, the practical steps, and the spiritual foundation that ties it all together, so you can finally stop going in circles and start moving forward with clarity and intention.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/U8Lz6bNwwdk?si=7S_XGOiuPG824Hxy

A loving man doesn't just appear, he shows up for a woman who knows how to receive love.In this episode, Lama breaks down what actually draws a genuinely loving man in, why the way you see yourself determines the kind of love you accept, and how becoming someone who can receive love without sabotaging it is the real work that changes everything.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/VxvXSvnewxU?si=gfht0_TZgg-0hP89

Falling for who someone could be instead of who they actually are is one of the most painful mistakes you can make in this process.In this episode, Lama breaks down why so many people stay in situations that aren't working because they're attached to potential, how to see someone clearly for who they are right now, and why accepting reality, even when it's disappointing, is what actually moves you closer to the right person.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/8M83yU84T1A?si=Aq4a3KazSFpSSBgS

Not every talking stage is created equal, and the ones that go nowhere all have something in common.In this episode, Lama breaks down what a talking stage that actually leads to marriage looks like, how to show up with clarity and standards from day one, and why knowing what you're looking for before you start is what separates the conversations that go somewhere from the ones that waste your time.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.Watch this episode on YouTube → https://youtu.be/2LKKEbd9Ldk?si=ZCRGHEDclkRJkgxn