
How to Deal with a Fear-Based Leader with Kate Lowry
Fear-based leadership is on the rise, impacting an estimated 60-70% of organizations today. Understanding how these leaders operate—and learning strategic ways to protect your power and well-being—can help you move from just surviving to truly thriving, even in challenging workplaces.
Kate Lowry is a CEO coach, venture capitalist, and author based in Silicon Valley. Her expertise on fear-based leaders comes from growing up in a hierarchical family and working in startups, private equity, management consulting, and big tech companies like McKinsey, Meta, and Insight Partners. She is the author of Unbreakable: How to Thrive Under Fear-Based Leaders. In her free time, she enjoys writing comedy and music, and cuddling her service dog, Annie.
In this episode, Kate shares the science behind how power can corrupt and diminish empathy in leaders. She explains why fear-based leaders often feel deeply insecure and use control and manipulation as their main tools.
What you will learn from this episode:
- Understand the neurological science proving that absolute power corrupts absolutely and how positions of authority affect empathy centers in the brain.
- Learn to identify fear-based leaders through their characteristic behaviors and how they make you feel.
- Discover tactical strategies for navigating, surviving, and ultimately thriving under difficult leadership while maintaining your power and well-being.
"If you understand how they think and how they make choices, you can almost always predict what they're going to do."
– Kate Lowry
Valuable Free Resource:
- Pre-order Unbreakable: How to Thrive Under Fear-Based Leaders - Available now on Kindle, print edition releasing October 28, 2025
Topics Covered:
02:35 – Fear-based leaders as bullies: understanding their deep insecurity and how they motivate through fear
05:06 – Fear-based leadership in families: Kate's personal experience growing up in a household modeled after a dictatorship and how it prepared her for corporate environments
10:24 – Myths about fear-based leaders: debunking the illusion of their power and understanding the concept of fealty and orbit
12:38 – Coping with fear-based leaders: protecting your energy, maintaining multiple identities, and the "gray rock" strategy
16:24 – Fear-based leadership in workplaces: the rising trend from 3 in 10 to 7 in 10 managers and why you're not alone
Key Takeaways:
"Fear-based leaders are really deeply insecure, and they try to motivate with fear." – Kate Lowry
"You should never share what you actually care about. Even the smallest details about your life, your hopes, your dreams, all of that will be used against you if you actually share it." – Kate Lowry
"If fear-based leaders see you as a non-entity, if they think that you're just a sheep amongst the herd, you actually have a lot of freedom to do what you want." – Kate Lowry
"If you feel like you're going from bad workplace to bad workplace, it's not just you. A lot of people are dealing with this. It's just a very different set of rules. And once you learn the rules, you can protect yourself." – Kate Lowry
Ways to Connect with Kate Lowry:
- Website: https://www.katelowry.com/
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/katherinejlowry/
- Substack: https://katelowry.substack.com/
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- Website: https://www.sarahebrown.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrSarahEBrown
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sarahebrownphd
- To speak with her: bookachatwithsarahebrown.com
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