The Kindness Code - Episode 15 - What is The Kindness Code?

Working in residential childcare is incredibly rewarding, but it can also be emotionally demanding. In this episode, we explore the weight that comes with caring, why looking after ourselves and each other matters, and the importance of creating teams where people feel safe to ask for support. We also discuss the power of a good debrief and how reflection helps us process, learn and move forward together. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What Makes a Great Residential Childcare Practitioner?What makes someone really great at working with children in residential care? Is it experience, qualifications, or knowing exactly what to say?In this episode, we explore the qualities that make a truly therapeutic practitioner - from curiosity and consistency to humour, authenticity and the ability to repair when things don't go to plan.Children don't need perfect adults. They need safe, reliable adults who keep showing up, build relationships and genuinely care. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In this episode of The Kindness Code, we unpack what real progress actually looks like for children in residential care and why it's rarely the big, dramatic transformation people expect.It's a child brushing their hair after weeks of not managing it. Following a recipe for the first time. Sitting at the table for dinner. Attendance moving from 27% to 47% — not perfect, but a huge step for that young person.We also talk about something that doesn't get said enough: regression can be progression in disguise. When a child who's avoided therapy for months finally says yes — and then has a harder week afterwards…that's not a step back. That's them feeling safe enough to finally face what they've been carrying.Our job isn't to fix children. It's to hold them through the process and to notice the small, quiet wins that so easily get lost under one difficult moment. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The Kindness Code - Episode 17 - What does therapeutic care actually look like? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"Behaviour is communication."This week on The Kindness Code, we sat down with Rhiannon Hughes - raised in the care system across the UK and Spain, and now working to change it from within.She speaks openly about shame, loneliness, and the trauma of being taken into care as a child …..and how it was other children in care who first taught her empathy.She left as a teenager. Ran away. Built an independent life in Mallorca. Then made a choice: to let go of anger instead of letting it define her.That choice led to founding Residential Recruitment, and now Next Step Children's Care - a solo therapeutic home near Leicester and Derby for children with the most complex needs.Her message to every carer she recruits: patience, consistency, and genuine care aren't optional. They're the job. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the Kindness Code?This week we flipped the script. Chelsea Bailey took the mic and put me in the hot seat to talk about why I created the Kindness Code, and all about the podcast and the app. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

"I am who I am, and that's it. I like me. Me is okay."That's Louise Allen -Sunday Times bestselling author, foster carer, and founder of Spark Sisterhood, a charity supporting girls leaving care.A care leaver herself, Louise now spends her life giving other care-experienced girls what she never had: a nervous system training programme five years in the making, a charity that fills the support gap care leavers face, and a voice loud enough to challenge every assumption we make about "behaviour."Her line for anyone working with young people in care: the truth will always do. You don't have to sugarcoat it -you just have to stay. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The consensus in children's services is that foster care is preferable because it offers a family setting. But whose definition of family are we using?This episode challenges one of the most quiet assumptions in our sector. Across most of the world, children are raised by villages - by communities of consistent, loving adults. When a looked after child lives that reality, we call it institutional. It's time to change that. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Nobody taught them what they feel. because nobody ever sat with them and said: that feeling in your chest? That's anger. That one? That's sad. That one? That's love. That one? That's excitement. /Andy Baker made a point in this week's episode that I haven't been able to shake. If a child doesn't know they're getting angry…they can't stop themselves from hitting. If nobody described their emotions when they were small, they're not choosing to be dysregulated. They literally don't have the words or understand.He compared it to potty training. You wouldn't punish a child for accidents if they couldn't feel they needed the toilet. You'd watch for the jiggles. You'd help them connect the feeling to the action.That's what good residential care looks like. Watching for the jiggles.🎙️ The Kindness Code with Andy Baker — author of Targeting the Positive Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Four homes. Three schools. Two surnames. How does a looked after child answer the question "who are you?” - and what happens when nobody helps them figure it out?This episode makes the case that identity is one of the strongest protective factors we consistently underinvest in. We cover disconnection, why most life story work falls short, and the single question every professional can ask in their next visit that costs nothing and changes everything. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.