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Are You Building Toward What You Want or Running From What You Don't? [Ep. 382]

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If your latest business decision is being driven by frustration, resentment, burnout, or fear, you might be building away from your past instead of toward the business you actually want. In this episode of The Real Truth About Business podcast, I’m talking about the difference between making decisions to escape something that isn’t working and intentionally creating what comes next. For service-based entrepreneurs, those emotions are valuable information, but they shouldn’t become your entire business strategy. After 9 years of experience, I’ve seen how easily one difficult client, an underpriced offer, or a frustrating sales process can trigger a complete change without enough thought about the desired outcome. Sustainable business growth requires more than knowing what you don’t want. You need a North Star that defines what you’re building toward. We’re talking about pricing strategy, capacity, boundaries, offers, your sales process, and how to use facts from the past without allowing your past experiences to dictate your future.

What You'll Learn:

  • How to recognize when you're making business decisions from resentment, fear, or frustration
  • Why knowing what you don't want isn't enough to create an effective business strategy
  • How to turn past experiences into useful data instead of letting them dictate your future
  • What to consider before changing your pricing strategy, offers, boundaries, or sales process
  • How to define the capacity, profitability, clients, and business model you actually want
  • Why your North Star should guide strategic planning as your business evolves

Episode Highlights:

[00:00] Introduction: Why mindset is one of the hardest parts of business

[01:30] Are you moving away from something or intentionally toward something?

[03:00] Using resentment, frustration, burnout, and fear as information

[04:00] Client example: When undercharging creates resentment

[06:30] Why knowing what you don't want isn't enough

[08:00] Stop letting your past self build your future business

[09:30] Turning capacity and lifestyle goals into an actual strategy

[11:00] Making sales process decisions from intention instead of frustration

[12:30] Facts over emotion when making business decisions

[14:00] Why you can't create a plan without knowing the destination

[15:30] Making intentional investments based on where you're going

[16:30] Wrap-up: Build toward your evolving North Star

Key Takeaways:

Your Past Gives You Data, Not Your Destination

There’s a big difference between making a decision because you’re trying to get away from something and making a decision because you’re intentionally moving toward something.

Maybe you're resentful because you've been undercharging, so you decide to completely change your pricing.

Maybe you're exhausted because clients have too much access to you, so you remove nearly all access from your next offer.

Maybe something didn't sell, so you decide you're never offering it again.

Something may absolutely need to change.

But before you make the change, ask yourself: What am I actually trying to create here?

Your past gives you data. It gives you facts. Use those facts to make decisions based on where you're going, not simply what you're trying to avoid.

Resentment Is Information, Not a Business Strategy

Resentment is information.

Frustration is information.

Burnout is information.

Fear is information.

A red-flag client is information.

I'm not telling you to ignore any of it. I'm telling you to figure out what that information is showing you.

I recently spoke with a potential client who was resentful about longtime clients paying significantly less than what she felt her current work was worth. She wanted to honor their existing pricing, and that was a choice she was making.

But if she wasn't going to change their pricing, we couldn't build her entire future strategy around being resentful about the past.

The bigger question became: What do you actually want on the other side of this?

Stop Letting Your Past Self Build Your Future Business

If every decision is based on something you never want to experience again, your past is still controlling your business.

You might change the offer.

You might change the price.

You might put different boundaries around it.

You might package everything differently.

But if you're still operating entirely from what happened before, you're not actually building forward.

This is where desire and intention matter.

What do you want the offer to look like?

How do you want to deliver it?

Who do you want to work with?

How much do you want to make?

What capacity do you want?

What profit margin are you working toward?

Now we have something we can actually build a business strategy around.

“I Don't Want This” Isn't Enough Information

If you tell me, “I don't want to work this much anymore,” I understand what you're moving away from.

But I still don't know where we're going.

Do you want to work 25 hours per week?

Do you want to stop working by 4:00 because your kids are home?

Do you want fewer one-to-one clients?

Do you want a group program because you no longer have capacity for individual delivery?

Those answers give us direction.

Inside the Focused Visionary Framework, your Pricing, Pipeline, and Sales strategies have to support that direction.

Once we know what you're building toward, we can determine the offers, capacity, customer journey, lead generation, and sales process required to get there.

Don't Burn Down a Strategy Because You Didn't Like How You Were Doing It

Maybe you're completely over sales calls.

Your immediate reaction could be:

“I'm never doing another sales call again.”

But is that actually what your future business needs?

Maybe you don't hate sales calls. Maybe you hate having unqualified people on your calendar.

Instead of eliminating them completely, you could change the process.

Have conversations in the DMs first.

Create a qualification process.

Require an application before someone gets on your calendar.

Be more selective about who gets a call.

The lesson from your past doesn't have to be, “I'm never doing this again.”

It can be, “I'm going to do this differently, and here's how.”

Facts Over Emotion Doesn't Mean Ignoring Emotion

I talk about facts over emotion constantly, but that doesn't mean emotions don't matter.

They do.

If you're frustrated because clients have too much access to you, there may be a legitimate fact underneath that frustration.

Why do they have too much access?

Did you create unclear boundaries?

Is the communication channel the problem?

Do you actually enjoy being accessible but need to structure that access differently?

For example, I want my clients to have access to me. But I don't want client conversations mixed into my personal text messages, so I use a separate messaging platform.

The solution isn't necessarily removing access.

The solution is understanding the actual problem and creating something better.

Ask Yourself Which Direction You're Moving

Here's the reframe I want you to use:

Am I making this decision to get away from something, or am I making this decision because it's moving me toward something I want?

Sometimes the answer will be both.

That's okay.

Just get very clear on the second part before you make the decision.

Resentment might show you that something needs to change. It shouldn't necessarily decide what you change it into.

You Can't Create a Strategy Without a Destination

Imagine telling me you want to take a road trip and the only information you give me is:

“I know I don't want to go to Georgia.”

Okay.

Where are we going?

Tennessee?

South Florida?

Somewhere completely different?

Knowing where you don't want to go doesn't give us enough information to create the route.

Business strategy works the same way.

If you only know what you don't want, you don't have a destination to build toward.

That's why your North Star matters.

Your North Star can evolve as your business and life change. But you need a direction before you start changing offers, pricing, marketing, or investing money into another solution.

Build the Next Version From Desire and Intention

Before you hire another coach, change your messaging, rebuild your offer suite, or invest money trying to fix something, ask yourself what you're actually trying to create.

What do you desire?

What does the next version of your service-based business need to look like?

What income does it need to generate?

What capacity do you want?

What kind of clients do you want to serve?

Then create the strategy.

Your past experiences matter. Learn from them.

But don't let your past self build your future business.

Use the information you've gained to intentionally build toward what you actually want.

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