#117 So You Married Your Lust… How’s That Going?

We explore why marriage is not dating, why friendship beats chemistry for the long haul, and how discernment keeps couples from preventable heartbreak. Shellie R. Warren shares raw stories about porn, intimacy, birth, grief, and the everyday habits that make or break love.• putting healthy before happy as a marriage filter• friendship and lifestyle fit as the core of lasting unions• six months of premarital counseling focused on childhood and intimacy• grief, standards, and choosing not to settle• doula work, Black maternal health, and teen mom advocacy• radical transparency in writing about sex and mistakes• porn’s programming effect and unrealistic expectations• preparation for first-time sex and compassionate education• values, purpose, family dynamics, and compatibility• improvement versus change and ending the parent-partner trap• discernment when mind, body, and spirit do not alignIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

What if you could tell in under 90 seconds whether a date shares your core values—or if your communication styles will keep clashing no matter how hard you try? We sit down with business coach and trainer Joe Kavanaugh to unpack BANK, a four-code framework that decodes values fast and reframes dating from guesswork to clarity. Instead of vague chemistry tests, you get a practical way to read tendencies—Blueprint, Action, Nurturing, Knowledge—and tailor your approach without faking who you are.Whether you’re tired of wasting time on mismatched dates or simply want fewer arguments and more connection, this episode gives you tools you can use tonight. We also share a free link to get your personalized report and explain how to read someone quickly and kindly on a first date. Ready to speak the right language for the right person and choose compatibility with confidence? Hit play, subscribe for more straight talk on sex, dating, and psychology, and share this with a friend who needs a better way to spot a match.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

What if the health of your relationship depends less on finding the “right person” and more on becoming your truest self? That’s the lens we bring to a frank, generous conversation with conscious relationship coach, intuitive guide, and author LaShawn McCrary. We explore why inner work is the starting line for aligned love, how to tell compatibility from true alignment, and what it takes to build a relationship where both partners feel safe enough to be fully seen.We also highlight LaShawn’s two books. I Am Not An Option is a call to own your truth in dating—if you want marriage, say it, and let misaligned partners pass. Before We Go Any Further is a pre‑engagement workbook that guides couples through the conversations most skip: division of labor with kids, money expectations, boundaries around social media, conflict styles, and long‑term goals. You’ll leave with questions that protect your future, language for asking your partner for what you need, and a compass for building agreements instead of assumptions.If this resonates, share it with someone you care about, hit follow to get new episodes, and leave a quick review telling us one hard conversation you’re ready to have. Your story might help someone else choose a braver love.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

What if the fastest path to honest intimacy starts with a character, a costume, and permission to play? We sit down with clinical sexologist and author Dr. Stephanie Hunter Jones to unpack how role play, cosplay, and power dynamics can help couples move beyond shame, reconnect with desire, and build durable trust. We talk through the nuts and bolts of power dynamics in long-term relationships and how they quietly shape feeelings and emotions. From sexual anorexia as a form of control to erectile dysfunction’s emotional roots, we explore the biology-psychology-relationship triad and offer practical next steps.Connect with Stephanie’s work, including Beyond the Costume and resources at StephanieHunterJones.com, and remember—authenticity often starts with a little make-believe.Enjoyed the conversation? Follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review so more people can find frank, stigma-free sex and dating education.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We dig into why dating feels so hard, especially in LA, and how personal clarity can change the outcome. Anna Yoo shares how journaling turned bad dates into insight, community, and a healthy relationship grounded in clear values.• LA dating culture, trust gaps, and vulnerability • Journaling as a tool for patterns and clarity • Men’s commitment mindset as a relationship stabilizer • Women’s need for safety to access vulnerability • Shifting from looks to character and values • Faith, shared priorities, and compatibility tools • Practical reflection after dates to spot red flags • Taking a break to reset habits and standards • Building community to voice hard truthsIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We explore how Argentine Tango turns relationship theory into something you can feel, using roles, consent, and feedback to rebuild trust and restore harmony. Linda Sutton shares why following can be more empowering than leading and how couples can sense alignment in the body before words.• Tango as a working model for partnership• Roles as equal in value, different in function• Following as permission, amplification, creativity• Trust and doubt as physical sensations• Lead, then follow your lead feedback loop• Pure following to expose and fix unclear leads• Real‑time repair through body signals and breath• Power struggles reframed as role confusion• Practical ways to practice connection at home• Access to workshops, coaching, and virtual optionsIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as well. Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We explore how the body stores shame and trauma, and how cycle awareness, somatics, and microdosing create a kinder path to healing. Leslie Draffin shares personal stories on PCOS, PMS, herpes stigma, and practical tools that restore safety, desire, and self-trust.• defining womb mysticism as science plus the sacred• PMS as feedback and pain relief through small changes• working with grief and shame after hysterectomy or menopause• microdosing to soften the default mode network• somatic practices that start with sensation, not thoughts• cervical dearmoring as advanced fascia release• recommended reads for accessible somatic healing• the SHIFT method: journal, breathe, move• moving through sexual shame and herpes stigma• speaking truth when safe and readyIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellhttps://lesliedraffin.myflodesk.com/microguideSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We look at how self-love turns adversity into fuel for authentic connection, and why heart-centered honesty is the antidote to dating fatigue. Jonathan Aslay shares practical tools for midlife relationships, slow-burn chemistry, and redefining rejection as misalignment.• divorce, job loss, identity collapse and recovery through therapy and spirituality• choosing love over fear as a daily practice• self-love as boundaries, truth with kindness and inner child care• reframing rejection as misalignment and sovereignty in dating• intuition, early red flags and avoiding victim mindset• midlife challenges of blending lives beyond the parenting blueprint• radical honesty, pre-qualifying compatibility and better questions• slow-burn chemistry versus instant spark and app-driven impatience• coaching programs, YouTube and the What Would Love Do? podcastIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

We sit down with sex therapist Skyblu Cutchie to explore how to let pleasure lead, drop pressure, and build desire you can actually feel. We share practical tools for communication, emotional connection, and making good sex start long before the bedroom.• common complaints couples bring to sex therapy• person‑centered and developmental lenses in practice• training the “what do I want” muscle outside the bedroom• modeling touch and solo exploration as education• spontaneous vs responsive desire and why scheduling helps• pleasure without pressure and handling no with grace• removing orgasm and penetration as goals• linking emotional intimacy to sexual desire• daily pleasure rituals to fill your cup• clear, kind communication for better sexIf you love this episode, be sure to tell your friends about it and rate it as wellSend us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077

Dating doesn’t need more tricks—it needs better fundamentals. We sit down with Sharp Game, the creator behind Love Can’t Wait, to pull apart the universal relationship principles he learned while traveling the world in the Navy and coaching millions online. Across cultures and personalities, three forces keep showing up: grounded leadership, mutual respect, and a felt sense of safety that lets people be themselves. When those are present, dates are lighter, conversations are clearer, and attraction grows without posturing.Sharp Game also breaks down the myths that hold men back. Assuming an attractive woman has it “all figured out” keeps too many guys from saying hello. The “nice guy” problem isn’t kindness—it’s manipulation disguised as generosity, with early gifts and performative sweetness that don’t match real character. We cover why many men benefit from marrying after 35. Finally, we explore why you should take words with a grain of salt and read consistency over declarations—people often soften truths to spare feelings, and interest shows up in behavior.If you found this conversation useful, subscribe, share it with a friend who needs a reset, and leave a quick review to help more listeners find the show.Send us a textSupport the showThanks for listening!Check out this site for everthing to know about women's pleasure including video tutorials and great suggestions for bedroom time!!https://for-goodness-sake-omgyes.sjv.io/c/5059274/1463336/17315Take the happiness quiz from Oprah and Arthur Brooks here: https://arthurbrooks.com/buildNEW: Subscribe monthly: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1805181/support Email questions/comments/feeback to [email protected] Website: https://straightfromthesourcesmouthpod.net/Instagram: @fromthesourcesmouth_franktalkTwitter: @tamarapodcastYouTube and IG: Tamara_Schoon_comic Want to be a guest on Straight from the Source's Mouth: Frank Talk about Sex and Dating? Send Tamara Schoon a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/17508659438808322af9d2077