Episode 358: The Preschool of Horsemanship—It Starts with Curiosity

The earliest lessons in a horse’s life often echo through every stage that follows—and understanding them can transform how you work with horses of any age. In this first episode of the Preschool of Horsemanship series, Stacy Westfall shares what her foal Whisper taught her about curiosity, space, and timing, and how those same principles apply whether you’re leading, lunging, or riding. What begins as a foal’s natural curiosity becomes the key to creating willing, connected responses throughout a horse’s lifetime. Key takeaways: – Curiosity is the foundation of learning for both horse and rider – Stepping back can spark more engagement than stepping forward – Recognizing push, neutral, and draw energy reveals unseen conversations – The earliest lessons aren’t about control—they’re about invitation This episode helps you recognize how curiosity and draw energy influence every interaction—so your horse begins to look to you, not away from you—building clearer communication and connection at every stage of horsemanship.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores how the challenges of age and physical effort intersect with the stories we tell ourselves. From running a 10K at 51 to coaching riders of all ages, she reveals how separating mental resistance from physical reality opens new possibilities—both in the saddle and in life. Key takeaways: – The body presents real challenges, but the mind often adds hidden limits – Physical strain can reveal the power of choosing a different story – Decision points become clearer when you separate thoughts from facts – Growth is possible at every decade, but only if you keep asking what’s possible This episode examines how aging, physical effort, and mindset weave together. It’s for anyone who has felt the tug-of-war between body and belief and wants to see how shifting perspective can change what feels possible.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall unpacks three key topics that shape both riding and life: goal setting without overwhelm, success defined from within, and the mindset you bring before the moment begins. Key takeaways: What it means to set a goal without letting it take over your thinking Why measuring success goes beyond ribbons, scores, or outside opinions How the mindset you choose beforehand shifts the entire experience Why concentrated moments magnify lessons already present in daily rides This episode examines how compressed experiences reveal the deeper patterns in horse and rider, offering lessons that carry far beyond a single ride.

What makes some riders succeed where others stall out? In this episode, Stacy Westfall unpacks Tony Robbins’ model of state, story, and strategy and shows how lasting progress comes from more than just finding the right plan. She explains how success often depends on the unseen layers that shape choices in the arena and beyond. Key takeaways: – Chasing strategies while ignoring state and story leads to frustration and stalled progress – The story you tell yourself directly colors how you interpret and apply strategy – Your emotional state sets the tone for both your ride and your horse’s response – Shifting state and story first allows the right strategies to actually work This episode examines how the interplay of state, story, and strategy influences both horse training and personal growth. Strategy gives you the steps, story gives you the meaning, and state gives you the power to use them.

When riders add layers of communication, the line between offering support and making a correction can blur. In this episode, Stacy Westfall shows how the same physical aids—pick up, guide, release—can create very different experiences for the horse depending on the rider’s intent and timing. Key takeaways: – What makes steady support feel so different from a late correction – Why the same aid can either build confidence or create tension – How horses reveal whether they’re guided or corrected – What riders must notice to make guidance clear This episode explores how horses interpret the difference between guidance and correction, and what that means for riders who want to communicate with more clarity, reduce tension, and build trust.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores how a simple cue system can evolve into a conversation with your horse. Through real examples from her own riding and her students, Stacy shows how anticipation, contradictions, and “mistakes” often signal effort and learning rather than resistance. Key takeaways: What looks like a problem may actually be proof your horse is trying to apply what you’ve taught Anticipation isn’t something to eliminate, but a tool that can reveal missing pieces in your cue system Strengthening one cue often exposes weaknesses in another—this is part of balanced communication Viewing feedback from your horse as part of a loop transforms training into a two-way conversation This episode examines how shifting your perspective—allows you to recognize effort, guide balance, and deepen the connection with your horse.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall explains how survival riding develops, why it often goes unrecognized, and what keeps riders stuck in that cycle. Drawing on stories from her own childhood as well as patterns she sees in adult riders, Stacy reveals the two main roots of survival riding and why avoiding the uncomfortable work only makes the problem grow. Key takeaways: – Survival riding often begins with not knowing what you don’t know, leaving riders unprepared for escalation – Guilt and fear in adult riders can keep them from practicing the very skills that would prevent runaway moments – Short-term safety choices can mask long-term gaps in communication and control – Building advanced skills creates readiness and dissolves the need for “white-knuckle” riding This episode examines how survival riding shows up, why it persists, and how skill-building replaces scraping by with confidence. It’s especially relevant for riders who recognize moments of barely holding it together and want to move toward deliberate, prepared riding.

When things are “kind of working,” it’s tempting to stay the course—even if you’re not fully satisfied. In this episode, Stacy Westfall explores the hidden resistance that keeps riders from making changes, even when they know it could improve safety, connection, or performance. Drawing from examples across different riding levels, Stacy reveals why rocking the boat feels harder when nothing is terribly wrong…and why that’s exactly when change matters most. Key takeaways: – Feeling dissatisfied but resisting change often comes from fearing the discomfort it will create—both for you and your horse – Small, untracked “1% improvements” can mask backward steps if you’re not measuring progress over time – Avoiding disruption at home can lead to bigger problems when surprises happen on the trail or in the show ring – Off-season is the best time for deliberate skill-building, even if it temporarily disturbs your “polished” picture This episode examines the mental and emotional side of choosing change—especially when it means creating short-term resistance for long-term gain. It’s for riders who want to move beyond “good enough” and step into deliberate, measurable progress with their horses.

In this episode, Stacy Westfall offers three distinct ways to think about how horses learn to handle surprise. Drawing from her experiences with horses like Willow, she explains how layered training builds connection, responsiveness, and the ability to recover quickly when the unexpected happens. Key takeaways: A horse’s recovery depends on the quality of connection already built through shared attention What may feel like micromanagement at first becomes the seamless responsiveness of an experienced team Rhythm teaches predictability, but random prepares the horse for real-life surprises Horses can be trained to handle inconsistencies—not by avoiding them, but by making them part of the conversation This episode examines how training shapes a horse’s response to the unexpected—and how your mindset, habits, and choices all play a role in what unfolds next.