You’re Not Here to Fix Everyone | S04.E16

In this episode of Small Medium at Large, Rebecca answers listener questions about boundaries, over-functioning, and the deep exhaustion that comes from always being the helper. She speaks directly to empaths, Enneagram Nines, and anyone who struggles with guilt, people-pleasing, or the urge to fix and save others—especially family members and children. Rebecca explores why setting boundaries can feel destabilizing, how to stay grounded when others react strongly to your growth, and how to step out of over-responsibility without abandoning love. Through spirit-led guidance and practical tools, she reminds us that boundaries aren’t about pushing people away—they’re about coming back to ourselves and creating healthier, more honest connections.Key TakeawaysBoundaries are an act of love, not punishment. You can care deeply about someone and still choose distance if the relationship is harming your well-being.Over-empathy often turns into over-responsibility. Just because you can carry something doesn’t mean it’s yours to carry.Guilt doesn’t mean you’re doing it wrong. Discomfort is often a sign you’re breaking old patterns, not failing at love.You are responsible to others, not for them. This is especially important when releasing the need to fix, save, or heal loved ones—including your children.Spirit can help you stay aligned. Inviting guidance, noticing body signals, and practicing energetic release can help you recognize when you’re slipping back into over-functioning.Books mentioned in this episode: What’s Your Heaven? by Rebecca Rosen Boundary Boss by Terry Cole Too Much by Terry ColeProgram mentioned:9 Lives: The Spirit of The Enneagram — Rebecca and her brother’s Enneagram program designed to combine spiritual insight with deep self-discovery work.

If you’re the one everyone turns to — the strong one, the reliable one, the empath, the fixer, the helper — this episode is for you. Rebecca and her dear friend Katie Burke dive into what Rebecca calls the helper wound: the quiet pattern of overgiving, over-functioning, and putting everyone else first until you’re drained, resentful, or disconnected from yourself. Together they unpack why so many intuitive, caring people fall into this cycle, how it shows up in everyday life, and how to start healing it without closing your heart. Through personal stories, spiritual insights, and practical tools, this conversation helps you understand why you feel the way you feel — and how to finally create boundaries, listen to your own needs, and give from a place of fullness instead of exhaustion.

In this episode, Rebecca opens the space for a rare and powerful channeled transmission from the Trinity — a collective of higher-consciousness beings connected to divine source. Unlike mediumship, this channeling brings through universal wisdom meant to support anyone navigating awakening, alignment, and the shift into higher consciousness. The Trinity speaks directly to listeners about remembering their inner authority, releasing old programming, embracing the new earth frequency, and reclaiming their light. This message is an invitation to reconnect with your I AM presence, trust your soul path, and step into a more aligned, authentic way of being.

In this Q&A episode, Rebecca takes on some of the most tender questions she receives—from healing after abusive or absent parents to cutting ancestral cords, reparenting yourself, and supporting teens on their own inner journey. She explains what happens on the other side when our parents were deeply wounded and harmful in this life, and how we can very slowly and safely let in their spiritual support—without bypassing our pain or erasing what happened. Rebecca also walks through generational trauma, how to recognize patterns that didn’t start with you, and how to work with intention, ritual, and your spirit team to help heal the line. You’ll hear a grounded introduction to inner child work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), simple ways to start reparenting yourself day-to-day, and how to know where to even begin when it feels like everything needs healing. If you’ve ever wondered how to feel less alone with your story and more supported by spirit, this conversation is for you.

Rebecca sits down with her dear friend Gabrielle “Gabby” Bernstein to explore how Internal Family Systems (IFS) can help us pause, realign, and lead from Self—our calm, clear, compassionate inner guidance. They unpack the language of “parts” (managers and firefighters), why no part of us is “bad,” and how spiritual reparenting, journaling, and daily check-ins can transform codependency, people-pleasing, and over-functioning into presence, creativity, and faith. You’ll hear practical steps to build spiritual fitness, strengthen your intuitive channel, and move from fear to love—especially in uncertain times.Five Key Takeaways:IFS in plain English: We all carry “parts”—protector patterns from childhood (managers & firefighters). Healing is befriending them so Self-energy (calm, clear, courageous, compassionate) can lead.No bad parts: Addictions, control, people-pleasing, and dissociation are exhausted protectors trying to keep us safe. When they feel your compassion, they relax and transform.The Four-Step Check-In: 1) Choose to check in, not check out. 2) Get curious (where is it in the body? what thoughts/sensations?). 3) Compassionately ask the part, “What do you need?” 4) Check for the “C-qualities” of Self. Rinse and repeat.Spiritual fitness = clear channel: As protectors soften, intuition strengthens. Self-energy opens creativity, childlike joy, and clearer guidance from spirit and your guides.Reparenting in practice: Weekly IFS therapy, simple daily check-ins, and journaling (“let it out”/“rage on the page”) are grounded ways to move from codependency to sovereignty and stay steady in shifting times.

In this Q&A, Rebecca breaks down how to support others without absorbing their emotions, why “observe, don’t absorb” is a non-negotiable for empaths and recovering codependents, and the daily practices that keep your field clear. She walks you through simple energetic hygiene—blue-light deprogramming, salt baths, grounding, breath, sound—and offers fast resets you can use anytime. You’ll also learn how to spot and release draining energetic cords, set loving boundaries (hello, golden bubble), and embody the frequency of light so you naturally elevate the people around you.5 Key Takeaways:Observe, don’t absorb: Compassionate detachment lets you be present without carrying someone else’s pain.Daily energetic hygiene matters: Try blue-light deprogramming, salt baths, grounding, breathwork, sound, and smudging.Sound for quick clearing: Tuning forks, singing bowls, humming/chanting, or 432/528 Hz tracks can rapidly reset your field.Cord cutting + re-patterning: Release draining attachments, replace the underlying belief, set boundaries, and call your energy back.Be the light: You don’t have to convince anyone to “ascend”—your steady, loving presence is the invitation.

Rebecca and energy healer Jakki Leonardini-Smith unpack what it means to be a sensitive soul—and how to actually care for your energy. They explore the four kinds of sensitivity (emotional, energetic, sensory, intuitive), why regulation and self-awareness go hand-in-hand, and simple tools to “call your energy back,” set compassionate boundaries, and shift from shadow to light. You’ll learn a color-based practice (gold, green, royal blue, neon blue, and copper) to cleanse, fill, and focus your field—plus a five-minute daily routine you can use anytime to get grounded, connected, and protected.Key points:Observe, don’t absorb: First ask, “Does this energy belong to me?” If not, send it out and call your energy back.Self-care = self-aware: Fragmentation from over-absorbing creates anxiety; centering restores coherence and calm.Quick reset: Three deep breaths + the declaration “Any energy not mine must leave now” can instantly shift your state.Color medicine:Gold (divinity/love) to fill; Green (creative earth) to expand; Royal Blue to purify; Neon/Electric Blue for clarity; Copper/Earth to ground.Bonus: Christ-force “blue flame” for strength, forgiveness, and steady boundaries.5-minute daily practice: Run a golden rod down the spine, create a golden vortex to clear, call your energy into a golden sun (then orange to purify), say your name three times, and set a simple intention for the day.

In this Q&A episode, Rebecca Rosen shares spirit-led insight on some of life’s hardest emotional lessons—grief, forgiveness, and maintaining your light. She offers practical spiritual tools to help you honor your grief, regulate your nervous system, and choose light even when others around you are struggling. With real-life stories and grounded guidance, Rebecca reminds us that we are all spiritual beings navigating a human journey, and that peace, joy, and forgiveness are always within reach when we invite Spirit in.5 Key TakeawaysGrief isn’t linear—waves of sadness can return as new layers of healing arise. Let yourself feel them fully so they can move through you.Ask Spirit for signs—inviting divine communication can shift you quickly from pain into gratitude and hope.Regulate your nervous system—yin yoga, sound healing, or time in nature can help restore balance and open your connection to Spirit.Hold your vibration—choose to observe, not absorb, the energy of others; remember, light has the power to uplift shadow.Practice forgiveness—use the Ho’oponopono prayer (“I’m sorry, please forgive me, thank you, I love you”) to clear guilt and open your heart.

In this solo episode, Rebecca reframes “selfish” as sacred, making the case that real self-care is energetic responsibility—not ego. She shares how depletion shows up (irritability, resentment, leaks in our energy) and offers simple daily practices to refill your cup, strengthen boundaries, and reconnect with your true self so you can live—and give—from alignment.Five key takeawaysSacred selfishness ≠ ego: Choosing yourself first is devotion to spirit within and benefits everyone around you.From depletion to devotion: Burnout is a signal; daily micro-rituals (even 5–10 minutes) keep your cup full.Energetic hygiene basics: Try “run your energy,” shower-as-light cleanse, cord cutting with Archangel Michael, and a golden bubble of protection.Boundaries without guilt: If it’s not a full-body yes, it may be a sacred no—or a pause. “Pause, feel, respond” > people-pleasing.Solo soul time: Nature walks, journaling, and meditation recharge your “soul battery” and make intuition clearer.

In this episode Rebecca opens as a conscious channel for the Trinity — a unified stream of higher-consciousness guidance — and shares a clear, gentle transmission about remembering our divine nature, shifting out of ego-driven struggle, and choosing an easier, higher timeline. The Trinity invites listeners to daily practices (prayer, attunement, sound, movement, color) that help the body and consciousness receive light codes, release density, and step into more flow, joy, and discernment. Listen with your heart as much as your mind; this episode is both a soothing reminder and a practical nudge to start and end each day by claiming your I AM presence.✨ Stay connected between episodes. Receive Rebecca’s latest channelings, Spirit-led messages, and tools for creating Heaven on Earth—delivered straight to your inbox. 💌 Join the community at RebeccaRosen.com/newsletter