Ep 03: Healing made me a B*tch!

Your trauma didn’t ruin you — it rewired you.Every moment that broke you was secretly building you. The boundaries you learned to set, the empathy that deepened, the strength that kept you going — that’s your superpower.In this episode, we talk about how to stop seeing trauma as damage and start seeing it as design. The version of you that came out of the fire isn’t weaker — she’s wiser, sharper, and unstoppable.✨ You didn’t just survive it. You mastered it.

We don’t love The Summer I Turned Pretty just for the beach houses and love triangle—we love it because the characters’ flaws mirror our own. Belly, Conrad, and Jeremiah are all trapped in cycles of grief, insecurity, and self-doubt. This story hooks us because it’s not just about first love—it’s about learning how to get out of our own trauma, and what happens when we don’t. In this episode, I unpack each character’s wounds, their healing journey, and what they teach us about ourselves.

We grew up on half-ass love—parents who gave us crumbs of affection and called it love. But why are we still saying yes to the same scraps as adults?In this episode, I talk about the cost of settling, the way childhood patterns keep us trapped in “almost love,” and why you deserve more than bare minimum effort.This is your reminder: do not settle in love. Not in childhood. Not now. Not ever.

Growing up, I thought this was culture: girls must act small, be submissive, never divorce, never wear what they want.So I disconnected from my culture—believing it had no place for me.But now I see the truth: it wasn’t the culture itself, it was my family’s perception of it. And the hardest part? I miss being close to the culture I once ran from.In this episode, I share how family dynamics can twist our understanding of culture—and what it means to reclaim it on your own terms.

Guilt feels heavy—but what if it’s actually proof you’re changing? In this episode, I break down why guilt shows up when you start choosing yourself, and how it can be the first step toward real healing.And just like Rumi in K-Pop Demon Hunters—learning to carry your past without letting it define you is where true strength begins.

Talking about trauma isn’t easy—but avoiding it can quietly destroy your relationship. In this episode, I break down the 4 things you must keep in mind before opening up. These steps can be the difference between creating deeper intimacy… or watching your connection fall apart.If you’ve ever wondered how much is too much to share? or what if they don’t understand?—this episode will give you the clarity (and courage) you need.Because the truth is—your story matters. And the way you tell it might just change everything.

What would you have done?My wedding’s in six months. Dress paid for. Venue booked. His family calls me “future wifey.”There’s just one problem — I don’t love him. At all.Oh, and I’m also thinking about cutting off my toxic parents… which means I’d be completely, utterly alone.Another woman’s story? Her childhood trauma left her too scared to chase anything — because every time she tries, she hears her mother’s voice telling her she’s not good enough.We’re talking:🔥 Why women stay in relationships they don’t want🔥 The guilt of going no-contact with family🔥 How childhood trauma poisons ambition🔥 Choosing yourself — even if everyone hates you for itYou’re either going to relate… or you’re going to be mad. Either way, you’ll listen.

She’s not cold. She’s just healed.This episode is for anyone who's ever been called “too much” for setting boundaries, cutting off toxic family, or choosing peace over people-pleasing.In this raw and unfiltered episode, I’m talking about how healing turned me into the version of myself I used to be scared of — the one who doesn’t flinch, doesn’t chase, and doesn’t beg to be understood.We dive into:Why healing feels like losing everyoneThe rage that comes before the peaceBecoming emotionally unavailable… on purposeReclaiming your power when the world preferred you brokenIf people say you’ve “changed” since you started healing — good. You’re doing it right.This one’s not soft. It’s sacred rage in a mic.

What if my kids grow up... and hate me anyway?In this episode, I spiral — with style.I talk about the fear that haunts cycle-breakers, the anxiety of messing up even when we’re trying so hard to heal, and what’s helped me find peace even when I drop the ball.If you’re parenting without a blueprint, healing your inner child while raising one, or secretly terrified your kid will start their own podcast about you — this one’s for you.🖤 Slightly Healed, Mostly Unhinged — where we say the quiet parts loud.

Your parents aren’t perfect — and they’re not gods. In this raw and honest episode, we talk about breaking free from the guilt, control, and generational baggage many of us grew up with. It’s not about blaming mom and dad. It’s about healing, setting boundaries, and unlearning what hurt you. If you’ve ever felt silenced, shamed, or stuck trying to please your parents — this one’s for you.