How sex on screen really works - with the intimacy coordinator behind Normal People, Sex Education and I May Destroy You

Let’s talk about sex… Today, we’re speaking to Ita O’Brien - the intimacy coordinator behind the intimate scenes in Normal People, I May Destroy You, Bridgerton, It’s a Sin, Sex Education and more…After training as an actor, dancer and movement coach - Ita created the ‘Intimacy On Set Guidelines’ - which protects actors and performers during scenes that involve nudity or sex. Her work pre-dates the Me Too movement but was bought to public attention in the wake of the Weinstein scandal. Ita explained why her work is so vital, why having an intimacy coordinator benefits everyone on set, and how creating realistic sex has a positive impact far beyond the actors on set...Ita’s book Intimacy guides us through how she helps actors create authentic sex scenes, and how we can use those techniques to rebuild a deeper and healthier connection with our bodies, create a safe space for exploration, and rethink how we navigate sex and intimacy in our own lives and in society as a whole. The book contains behind-the-scenes insights, practical exercises and guidance to help us communicate boundaries and navigate everyday relationships. You can get your copy here!Find out more about Ita's work at https://www.intimacyonset.com/ Follow @itaobrien_ on Instagram Follow @intimacy_on_set on InstagramIf you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Guys!!! The goose is getting fat - according to Al...Today we discuss fully getting into the Christmas spirit - and the morality and mythology of elf on the shelf!Em tells us about her passion for Super Bass, Faye reveals the secret hiding in her notes app and we present the defence for overthinking…Would you like to get in touch? Email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

How comfortable are you with nudity? Today, we’re speaking to Helen Berriman - who has been a naturist for the last four years - after reluctantly being introduced to it by her husband. Helen explained the difference between naturism and nudism, she ran through all the practicalities with us and debunked the misconception that naturism is about sex.We spoke about how being naked can have a huge positive impact on our body image - and the transformational effect being a naturist has had helping Helen to heal from past trauma. We also confront our personal concerns around safety - and consider our own boundaries when it comes to nudity. Listen to Helen’s podcast - British Naturism: Women In FocusRead more about British Naturism here - https://bn.org.uk/Support the Women in Naturism campaign hereFollow @helen.berriman on InstagramFollow @british_naturism on InstagramIf you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome back to another Just Us - in this week’s episode the SIDT Team has been bitterly divided by the ‘how often should you clean your bedsheets?’ debate… we also reveal that Alex is in fact *fussy* - and Em’s once again feeling overexposed… Do you have any whacky suggestions about how Al can learn to enjoy doing her duvet cover? Or would you be interested in watching a livestream of her attempting to strip the bed? Email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

You asked - so we answered… Jameela Jamil is back on the podcast. Jameela is an actor and activist - she’s unapologetic and she’s not afraid of being disliked. There are very few people in Hollywood who speak out so openly, loudly and passionately about social justice, so we spoke to Jameela about why she feels equipped and compelled to speak out, and why others may not do the same… even when they know they should. We also spoke to Jameela about the death of the body positivity movement, the Ozempic Era and her view on celebrities glamourising the return of ultra-thinness as the mainstream beauty ideal. Be prepared to get angry, impassioned and ready to fight back... If you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In a week marred by awkward greetings - we find out what happened when Em went to parliament and Alex reveals Tommy’s new passion. Meanwhile - Em’s deeply engrossed in her knitting project and Al has a dark TikTok to share with us. It's also time to celebrate a HUGE milestone - as we’ve reached 7 million downloads! We love all of you for being here and we apologise for how many existential spins we might have sent you on…Do you have an awkward for us? Email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Emma Barnett is a broadcaster, journalist and author who we admire hugely. She is one of the BBC’s most high-profile journalists who is currently part of the presenting team on BBC Radio 4’s Today programme - as well as previously hosting Women’s Hour and Newsnight. Alongside her incredible broadcasting career, Emma has also become a powerful advocate for women’s health - having chosen to speak up about her very difficult IVF journey as well as struggling with both endometriosis and adenomyosis. Emma told us about why she chose to bring her private reality into light to advocate for women’s health and to disrupt the assumptions that we may hold about ‘serious’ news presenters. We also spoke to Emma about interviewing Kate Bush, what happened when she called out Rory Stewart for lying on air and why she is concerned about women feeling the need to be liked all the time. Experiences that have reshaped lives. Bold questions, unexpected truths, lots of tea... Emma Barnett invites you into her world for deeply human conversations. You can listen to episodes on BBC Sounds HERE. New episodes of Ready to Talk with Emma Barnett are available every Friday on BBC Sounds.Follow @emmabarnett on InstagramIf you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Em’s back from Costa Rica! She’s come home with an entirely new perspective and a passion for journaling (she may or may not have found herself) Meanwhile - Dave’s had a brush with the law in M&S and Al has been deeply, deeply humbled in the garden centre! Are you capable of journaling without imagining that it will one day be published? Tell us how on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we’re continuing our exploration of friendship with the brilliant Michelle Elman. We spoke to Michelle about how friendship is not taken seriously - and female friendships in particular are trivialised. Michelle gave us practical advice on how to operate in a world where the odds feel stacked against our friendships - where they seemingly have to battle with social media, our adult responsibilities and our romantic relationships. Our conversation covers everything from confrontation to ghosting - so if you feel like you need help being a better friend, or if you want to navigate a friendship break up - this is the episode for you. Follow @michelleelman on InstagramMichelle’s new book Bad Friend: Why Friendship Breakups Hurt and How to Heal is available nowIf you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We’re back with another Just Us and today we’re unpacking the pure, unadulterated embarrassment of the clear bag - and Al has a new obsession fresh out of 2017!Meanwhile - we’ve discovered that Boy Alex may have some things to learn about the mechanics of periods and Em has been on a spiral (stay tuned for the live re-enactment)Can you help Em out of her existential spiral? Email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Elliott MckayVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.