Britain’s Oldest Dominatrix: “It’s far more than whips and chains…”

Greetings hot people! On this week’s Just Us - Em has an update for us on her ADHD diagnosis journey. She also has an announcement… and an un-announcement for us! Meanwhile - Al’s become the symbolic leader for the world’s hot people. Has she finally managed to convince Em that it’s a valid complaint? We also dive into a topic that we’ve never spoken about in detail before… the gossip forum Tattle Life. After its owner was sued for defamation - he has now lost his right to anonymity - and the conversation about Tattle has hit the mainstream. We discuss the effect that it’s had on us, our friends - and how users of the site are feeling now…Do you want to get in touch… or are you willing to invigilate our IQ tests? DM us on Instagram or email us on [email protected]  We’re heading to Edinburgh for our biggest live show ever. We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets.Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we're stepping into the world of BDSM...We’re joined by the brilliant Sherry Lever, who is known professionally as Mistress Sofia. She is a 74-year-old grandmother who just so happens to be Britain’s oldest professional dominatrix.From the outside, the world of BDSM might seem intimidating… and we certainly had a lot to learn. But Sherry breaks down the myths for us, highlighting the importance of communication, consent and boundaries within her work, to reveal the more emotional side of being a dominatrix.She even introduced us to a very different kind of CBT (and it’s not the type your therapist offers...)As self-confessed members of the vanilla population, we came away from this conversation with our eyes opened and our assumptions challenged - we hope you find it as fascinating as we did!Follow @sherry_lever_ on Instagram You can read more about Sherry’s work at www.mistress-sofia.co.uk Sherry’s book From “The Mrs” to Dominatrix - is available now digitally and as an audiobookIf you'd like to get in touch you can email us on [email protected]  JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST LIVE SHOW EVER! We’re heading to Edinburgh for our biggest live show ever. We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets.Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, we take some time to show some major appreciation to Kesha, we discuss if we may *potentially* have low IQs and Em tells us about an important decision that she’s made this week! And we also discuss Sabrina Carpenter’s new album cover. Can we work out what her intentions behind the image were? Or do the intentions not matter when we consider it’s potential impact… Do you have a higher IQ than us and want to tell us your thoughts about Sabrina’s album cover? Email us on [email protected]  JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST LIVE SHOW EVER! We’re heading to Edinburgh for our biggest live show ever. We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets. Purchasing tickets may or may not increase your IQ. Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It’s time to start taking up space… This week, we’re joined by an icon of the internet and one of our favourite content creators - Megan Jayne Crabbe.Megan shot to fame under the handle BodyPosiPanda, becoming a leading force in the body positivity space online. Nearly a decade later, she has stepped away from that username and in this episode, she tells us why.We speak honestly about the pressures of online visibility, the toll it took on her self-esteem, and what it really means to show up as herself online. We also chat about the body positivity movement’s rise and fall, the Ozempic era, and why Megan believes we need radical authenticity. Megan’s new book We Don’t Make Ourselves Smaller Here is an insightful and empowering guide for dealing with adversity and embracing authenticity in all areas of our lives - encouraging us to exist as our biggest, most unapologetic and most whole selves. It’s out on Thursday 26th June - you can get your copy here!  Follow @meganjaynecrabbe on Instagram If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us on [email protected] JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST EVER LIVE SHOW - we'll be taking over Edinburgh's iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September 2025 for an evening of unfiltered chat, big laughs, and meaningful connection, live on stage. You can buy tickets at SIDTlive.com!Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we’re discussing the various dents in our skulls, the dramatic ways we came earthside and a Danny O’Donoghue jumpscare (trust me… it will make sense eventually) We also dive into the overwhelming rise of SkinnyTok on Instagram and TikTok - a trend which sees influencers and creators sharing weightless tips and tricks - reminiscent of the pro-anorexia content we saw online during our teenage years. We discuss the hashtag being banned, what it means for the way we look at our bodies and how we feel targeted by the algorithms. Is SkinnyTok getting to you? If you want to tell us about it - you can email us on [email protected]  JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST LIVE SHOW EVER! We’re heading to Edinburgh for our biggest live show ever. We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets.Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you’ve felt overwhelmed, confused or angry about the high-profile court cases going on at the moment… this is the episode for you. Today, we’re joined by criminal behavioural analyst and creator of The Crime Analyst podcast - Laura Richards. She came in to help us unpack and understand the media and public conversation around the high profile cases of Sean Diddy Combs, Blake Likely vs Justin Baldoni, Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard and Russell Brand. Laura trained at New Scotland Yard and the FBI Behavioural Analysis Units and is an international expert on domestic violence, stalking, sexual violence, homicide and risk assessment.Laura breaks down what’s happening inside these high profile courtrooms and with her expertise in coercive control, power dynamics and the criminal justice system, she helps us understand how these cases reflect misogyny, victim-blaming and institutional failure. We also explore how these stories are framed, how narratives are manipulated, and how society often protects the powerful at the expense of the vulnerable. Follow @crimeanalyst on InstagramFollow @laurarichards999 on InstagramIf you are curious about the ‘who dunnit’ and the ‘why dunnit’ and how and why victims become footnotes in their own murders, Laura’s podcast Crime Analyst is for you. You can listen here or on your favourite podcast platform. Find out more about Crime Analyst Squad here!For more resources visit: thelaurarichards.com and https://www.dashriskchecklist.com/JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST EVER LIVE SHOW - we'll be taking over Edinburgh's iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September 2025 for an evening of unfiltered chat, big laughs, and meaningful connection, live on stage. You can buy tickets at SIDTlive.com!If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Em’s back from her holiday… and a LOT happened while she was away. Be prepared to be witness to a very stressful succession of events…We also discuss the proliferation of celebrity hair extensions, Kylie Jenner’s apparent transparency about her cosmetic procedures and the complicated question of Bonnie Blue’s petting zoo. We want to know where you guys land on Bonnie Blue - send us a DM or an email on [email protected] We’re heading to Edinburgh for our biggest live show ever. We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets. We'll try our best to not get a puncture on the way...Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

In recent episodes, we’ve been discussing the disturbing rise in male violence against women and girls, and how technology is accelerating and amplifying these threats. From AI-generated deepfakes to the non-consensual sharing of intimate images, the digital world has created new frontiers for abuse and it’s more important than ever to talk about it.Today, we're continuing that conversation with presenter, women’s rights campaigner, and former model Jess Davies.Jess opens up about her personal experience of being a victim of image abuse multiple times in her life, including when she was a child. She talks about the long-lasting impact that trauma had on her sense of self, her career, and her relationships and how she has used that experience to become an advocate for women. Jess’s new book No One Wants To See Your Dick - is a handbook for survival in the digital world to help us understand and tackle online misogyny and question society's understanding (or lack of) when it comes to consent. You can buy your copy here!Follow @_jessdavies on Instagram Jess’s BBC documentary ‘Deepfake Porn: Could You Be Next’ was used to lobby the UK government to criminalise deepfake porn in the Online Harms Safety Bill. You can watch it here!JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST EVER LIVE SHOW - we'll be taking over Edinburgh's iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September 2025 for an evening of unfiltered chat, big laughs, and meaningful connection, live on stage. You can buy tickets at SIDTlive.com!If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This is possibly one of our most chaotic episodes ever. Expect animal noises, a little bit of sick and some absolutely outrageous claims… Join us to discuss Daddy Pig’s weaponised incompetence, a Krispy Kreme conspiracy and we also read a listener email which has reminded us that people actually listen to these conversations… We love reading your messages - if you want to get in touch you can email us on [email protected] JOIN US IN EDINBURGH FOR OUR BIGGEST LIVE SHOW EVER! We’ll be taking over the iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September. Head to SIDTLive.com for more information and to purchase tickets. We guarantee that buying tickets will ding your rewards centre. Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Women's healthcare is in crisis - and things need to change.Today’s guest is the legendary broadcaster Naga Munchetty - Naga is one of the UK’s most high-profile journalists known for her work on BBC Breakfast and BBC 5 Live. But behind her incredible career, Naga has been living with a debilitating condition: since her teenage years, she’s suffered from excruciatingly painful periods… so severe they caused her to vomit, faint, and miss out on everyday life.After being diagnosed with a condition called adenomyosis at the age of 47 - Naga made it her mission to advocate for better healthcare for women and in Naga’s new book It’s Probably Nothing she draws on her own experience of being dismissed, undiagnosed and misdiagnosed to explores the devastating outcome of decades of ingrained medical misogyny. It’s Probably Nothing: Critical Conversations on the Women's Health Crisis and What We Can Do About It is out now. You can buy your copy here!Follow @tvnaga on Instagram JOIN US FOR OUR BIGGEST EVER LIVE SHOW - we'll be taking over Edinburgh's iconic Usher Hall for one night only on 3rd September 2025 for an evening of unfiltered chat, big laughs, and meaningful connection, live on stage. You can buy tickets at SIDTlive.com!If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us on [email protected] Follow us on Instagram:@shouldideletethat@em_clarkson@alexlight_ldnShould I Delete That is produced by Faye LawrenceStudio Manager: Dex RoyVideo Editor: Celia GomezSocial Media Manager: Sarah EnglishMusic: Alex Andrew Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.