241. why you feel RESENTFUL (& how to stop)

#242🍿 watch on ⁠spotify⁠ & ⁠youtube⁠💌 ⁠ask me a question⁠ or leave feedback on the podcast!want to know why i started this podcast in the first place?! there’s a reason why i care so deeply about mental health, and why i believe so strongly that mental health recovery is possible.in this solo episode, i’m sharing my mental health journey with you, taking you through my recovery from severe depression and anxiety right from the start. i cover the highs and lows of my story, including how i went from being hospitalized for my mental health four times in one year to graduating as a psychology major and creating a new york times-recommended mental health podcast to help others who are struggling. my goal in sharing this is to let you know that if you’re struggling, you’re not alone. this episode is your personal reminder that if i can recover, then so can you.i talk about:• risk factors that led to me becoming severely depressed • how i realized i was depressed (key warning signs)• ways that my depression affected my quality of life • being hospitalized for my mental health + how that impacted me• aspects of depression we don’t talk about enough (burnout, validation, + more) • the biggest turning point in my mental health journey• a mental health belief that transformed my recovery for the better • going to a troubled teen industry program + that program’s effects on me• what inspired me to start this podcast!• mental health rules that i continue to live by todaymentioned:• ⁠mclean 3east• dbt wise mind skill• my troubled teen industry experience • dr. blaise aguirre episode☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok tags!⁠@shepersistedpodcast⁠⁠shepersistedpodcast.com⁠⁠[email protected]⁠ © 2025 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#241🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!here’s the truth: you cannot resent someone for a need you’ve never communicated. but most of our day-to-day frustration comes from exactly that — unspoken expectations, misunderstood triggers, and assumptions we never check.in this solo episode, i walk you through the exact rule, mindset shifts, and dbt skills i use to prevent resentment from silently wrecking relationships — with friends, partners, siblings, coworkers, anyone.by the end, you’ll know how to say what you need clearly, kindly, and confidently… without guilt, without drama, and without letting resentment build in the background.i talk about:• the “resentment rule” that completely shifts your relationships• why gen z is great at identifying triggers but avoids voicing needs• how resentment grows from assumptions — and how to stop it• how to actually use dbt’s dearman to make a clear request• why your ask must always have a yes/no answer• how to identify the real issue underneath irritation or hurt• the dbt check the facts skill and why it prevents so much unnecessary conflict• how to talk about needs without being passive-aggressive or avoidant• the fast skill for communicating boundaries without losing self-respect• how to stop people-pleasing while still protecting the relationship• exactly how to phrase a specific, doable change someone can make• when naming a trigger “tames it”… and when you actually need something to changementioned:• dbt interpersonal effectiveness worksheets☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2025 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#240🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!what’s really stopping you from finding love??! today’s guest is dr. molly burrets— a clinical psychologist and adjunct professor in the department of marriage and family Therapy at the university of southern california. her areas of expertise include couples therapy and women’s issues. in this episode, we discuss the unhealthy patterns that are holding you back from finding your soulmate and what you need to know to have a healthy, life-long relationship. we talk about:• how your life love can reflect the family dynamics you had growing up• self-biases and how those can impact your relationships • finding a life partner + common mistakes people make along the way• why people stay in unhealthy relationships (even when they know it’s unhealthy!) • figuring out what you’re looking for in a partner (do opposites really attract?!)• narcissism, gaslighting, and ‘therapy speak’ in romantic relationships • ‘pick me energy’ + how it can affect relationships long-term• stigma around being single as a woman in your late 20s and 30s • the ‘let them’ theory + if that actually works in relationships  • pros and cons to the ‘dating to marry’ approach • gen z’s dating patterns + if gen z is dating less than other generations • a piece of dating advice everyone in gen z should knowmentioned:• dr. burrets’ instagram• dr. burrets’ website• the let them theory☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

welcome to the mental health minis series! every other monday, we will feature a five-minute mini-episode with content from a past she persisted episode. this week’s guest is dr. angela duckworth– the rosa lee and egbert chang professor at the university of pennsylvania and faculty co-director of the penn-wharton behavior change for good initiative.in this mini-episode, we discuss how you can reverse engineer your life to set yourself up for success!to listen to the full episode, click ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠!⁠@shepersistedpodcast⁠⁠shepersistedpodcast.com⁠⁠[email protected]⁠ © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#239🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!what sets dbt apart + is it actually effective?! today’s guest is dr. maddy ellberger— the founder of downtown behavioral wellness, a therapeutic practice that utilizes cognitive behavioral therapy (cbt), dialectical behavior therapy (dbt), and mindfulness-based stress reduction (mbsr). dr. ellberger previously appeared on she persisted to discuss using dbt to improve therapeutic outcomes. in this episode, we discuss what sets dbt apart from other therapies! we also answer your most-asked questions related to all things dbt!we talk about:• why dbt therapists are so different from other types of therapists• disagreeing or breaking up with your dbt therapist • how dbt got known for its distress tolerance skills + why that’s problematic• radical acceptance + what that actually looks like in dbt• willfulness + signs that you’re being willful in your life • what to do if your loved one needs therapy but won’t go• parents who don’t understand their child’s mental health struggles • how to make better friends + have closer relationships using dbt• + so much more!mentioned:• maddy’s instagram• maddy’s tiktok• downtown behavioral wellness• maddy’s previous she persisted ep• my therapist’s book• marsha linehan’s dbt textbook☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2025 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#238🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!what’s causing your anxiety and how can you heal?!! today’s episode is a mental health mashup featuring expert advice from some of my favorite she persisted guests. i’ve compiled the most insightful tips and quotes from past episodes into your ultimate guide on how to navigate anxiety.in this episode, you’ll hear from a range of psychologists, therapists, professors, and best-selling authors on why so many of us struggle with anxiety and how we can begin to recover.we talk about:• defining anxiety + what happens in our bodies when we’re anxious• theories on why some people are more anxious than others• coping skills + tips for managing anxiety effectively• what happens when we cope ineffectively with our anxiety• popular misconceptions + stigma around anxiety• + so much more!listen to the full episodes:• anxiety, intergenerational trauma, + more• why you’re anxious + how to cope• anxiety 101: what we do wrong + facing our fears• a pediatrician’s take on gen z’s anxiety• a psychologist’s guide to facing anxiety in your 20s• the neuroscience of anxiety + trauma• how physical + mental health are connected• freeing yourself from stress + struggle• stopping self-sabotage + anxiety ☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

welcome to the mental health minis series! every other monday, we will feature a five-minute mini-episode with content from a past she persisted episode. this week’s episode is a solo where i break down where dialectical behavior therapy (dbt) came from + how it can help transform your mental health!to listen to the full episode, click ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠!⁠@shepersistedpodcast⁠⁠shepersistedpodcast.com⁠⁠[email protected]⁠ © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#237 🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!how gen z can lead with hope (even when it feels impossible)? today’s guest is amanda litman— the co-founder and president of run for something, a nonprofit organization that recruits and supports young leaders to run for state and local office. she has written two books geared toward the next generation of political leaders, was named one of the time next 100, and is currently a 2025-2026 obama foundation usa leader.in this episode, we discuss how gen z can become leaders in both the political arena and the workspace… and why this MATTERS! we talk about:• amanda’s political background + the different campaigns she’s been part of• how to get more involved in politics as a young person • gen z being politically active yet feeling hopeless about politics• coping with anxiety over politics + how to stay hopeful• an insider’s perspective what gen z political leaders are truly like • what gen z leaders are doing differently in the office• generational divides at work + how to navigate those• the four day work week + whether that helps or hurts productivity• dealing with workplace + political burnout • changes we hope to see that improve work life + the political landscape • staying optimistic about our society achieving a work-life balance • why we’re holding back from creating meaningful change + how to address this• tips for gen z on becoming better leaders mentioned:• amanda’s website• amanda’s instagram• when we’re in charge• run for something (book)• run for something (organization)☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2025 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

welcome to the mental health minis series! every other monday, we will feature a five-minute mini-episode with content from a past she persisted episode. this week’s guest is eileen kelly– a sex and dating writer for vogue magazine and host of the podcast going mental.in this mini-episode, we discuss what daily life can look like while receiving residential mental health treatment + advice on choosing a treatment option! to listen to the full episode, click ⁠⁠HERE⁠⁠!⁠@shepersistedpodcast⁠⁠shepersistedpodcast.com⁠⁠[email protected]⁠ © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.

#236🍿 watch on spotify & youtube💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!how can you break unhealthy cycles for GOOD?! in this week’s solo episode, i’m sharing the butterfly effect of mental health. i’m breaking down how your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors are all connected and the one simple step you can take to change your most problematic tendencies!i talk about:• what your emotions are really telling you • understanding how your emotions are impacting your choices• vulnerability factors when it comes to your mental health• the impact that feeling an emotion has on your body• consequences of avoiding or ignoring your emotions  • figuring out your mental health problem areas (unhealthy thoughts, behaviors, etc)• the butterfly effect model for fixing your mental health problem areas• how this model works in the real world (with a step-by-step example!)• an easy guide for trying this model yourself!mentioned:• emotion regulation dbt worksheets• chain analysis worksheets☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:1. leave a review on apple or spotify2. dm me a screenshot on instagram📲 bonus entries for story or tiktok [email protected]@shepersistedpodcast.com © 2020 SHE PERSISTED LLC. all rights reserved.