Navigating Relationship Dynamics in Modern Love

Today on Sex Advice for Seniors, I’m speaking with Dr. Tammy Nelson, a sex and relationship expert, psychotherapist, author, and host of The Trouble with Sex. Tammy joins me from Los Angeles to talk about her book Open Monogamy, a title that grabbed me immediately. We explore what “open” and “monogamy” can mean today, why relationship agreements are no longer one‑size‑fits‑all, and how couples can navigate changing needs, fantasies, jealousy, and long‑term desire with honesty, integrity, and transparency.In an era where traditional relationship models are being challenged, Dr. Tammy Nelson’s concept of “open monogamy” is gaining traction. This innovative idea invites couples to explore their commitments openly, redefining what monogamy means in today’s world. I’m curious to know - what does commitment mean to you?00:00 Introduction to Open Monogamy02:32 The Concept of Open Monogamy05:31 Navigating Relationship Changes08:17 Communication in Relationships11:03 Defining Monogamy and Non-Monogamy14:01 Jealousy and Relationship Dynamics16:33 The Role of Appreciation in Relationships19:35 Fantasies and Their Impact on Relationships22:26 Conclusion and Key TakeawaysYou can find Dr. Tammy Nelson here.Browse Dr. Tammy Nelson’s eBooks here.Unlock even more pleasure, clarity, and confidence in your intimate life by becoming a paid subscriber. You’ll gain full access to every weekly blog, the complete archive of 150+ expert-led podcasts, the private chat room for candid Q&A, and my 32‑page guide Sex Toys and Supplements for Thriving in Later Life. If you’re ready to deepen your knowledge, explore new possibilities, and feel fully supported on your journey, upgrade today only £6.99/month or £49.99/year. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had the pleasure of speaking with the remarkable Dr. Susan Campbell—psychologist, relationship coach, and author of Getting Real, The Couple’s Journey, From Triggered to Tranquil, and many more. Susan is in her 80s and in a loving relationship with a partner also in his 80s, and we had an open and wonderfully honest discussion about what sex, intimacy, and connection look like in our later years. She shared how she met her partner online in their mid‑70s, what makes their relationship thrive, and how they’ve both redefined pleasure as their bodies continue to change with age.Susan’s approach to intimacy is warm, playful, and I enjoyed our conversation immensely. We talked about how scheduling “love dates,” using mirrors, dancing, experimenting with new erogenous zones, and finding humour in the realities of ageing all help keep things fun and sensual. She reminded me that sex doesn’t have to mean penetration to be satisfying - it’s about staying curious, laughing together, and remaining open to new ways of giving and receiving pleasure. She even confessed that her orgasms are better than ever at 84, which gives all of us something to look forward to!What struck me most about Susan is her combination of wisdom and vulnerability. She spoke beautifully about accepting physical changes, supporting a partner through cognitive decline, and finding meaning and intimacy even as we experience loss. Her philosophy is all about honesty, compassion, and embracing life as it is — laughter, limitations, lust, and all. It’s truly inspiring to see what intimacy in your 80s can look like when you stay connected through communication, humour, and love.00:00 Introduction to Aging and Sexuality02:40 Navigating Online Dating in Later Life05:32 The Evolution of Intimacy and Sexuality08:04 The Importance of Communication in Relationships10:47 Building Confidence and Resilience in Dating13:45 Exploring Sexuality Beyond Penetration16:15 The Role of Humor and Playfulness in Intimacy19:07 Addressing Vulnerability and Loss in Aging21:48 Intentionality in Sexual Relationships24:26 Exploring Alternatives to Penetrative Sex27:08 Creative Approaches to Intimacy29:46 The Power of Vulnerability and Honesty in RelationshipsHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I had a blast talking with Lauren  Elise Rogers, a certified holistic sexuality educator and embodied intimacy coach based in West Virginia. Lauren introduced me to a fascinating idea she calls weeding our sexual gardens—a powerful metaphor for examining and removing outdated sexual beliefs that no longer serve us. Through her gentle guidance, she led me through an exercise that explores the sexual and relational messages we absorb at ages 7, 14, and 21, helping us understand how those early “seeds” continue to shape our adult desires and choices.Lauren also shared her deeply personal journey from growing up in a conservative, evangelical environment to reclaiming her body, pleasure, and autonomy after leaving a difficult marriage. Her transformation is remarkable - from purity rings and religious shame to running SexEd4U, a global coaching practice focused on informed, ethical, and joyful sexuality. Our conversation touched on everything from pleasure as an antidote to pain, to how parenting and relationships evolve after midlife, and why empty nesters often rediscover who they really are.What resonated most for me was Lauren’s message that pleasure has no age limit and no moral hierarchy. As she beautifully put it, it’s not about what we do with our bodies but about knowing we deserve choice, consent, and joy at every stage of life. By “weeding our sexual gardens,” we can cultivate new beliefs that let our intimate lives flourish—whether we’re single, partnered, or still figuring things out.You can find Lauren here:Chapters00:00 Welcome and Introduction to Sexual Gardens03:09 Exploring Sexual Beliefs and Personal Growth12:03 Navigating Relationships and Parenting Dynamics21:04 The Importance of Informed Decision-Making in SexualityHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sit down with writer Angela Burk, author of The Real Girl’s Guide to Over 55s. Angela and I first connected on Substack, and it was great to finally chat about her journey as both a writer and a woman redefining life after 50. She told me how the idea for her book actually began decades ago, when she was 35, and how rediscovering those old notes after retiring inspired her to start again, this time exploring transformation, self-discovery, and pleasure from a midlife perspective.Angela was wonderfully candid about her own sexual awakening. She spoke about learning to understand her body, discovering self-pleasure in her 40s after her divorce, and how finding a caring, open partner helped her reclaim her desires without shame. I really related to so much of what she shared - especially how exhausting it can be to write and reflect deeply on these topics while living them. We also talked about how difficult it can be for women of our generation to have open conversations about sex and the body, given how little information and support we had growing up.What be both share a belief that pleasure doesn’t have an expiration date. We talked about women in their 50s, 60s, and beyond who are finally finding the language and courage to talk about sex, menopause, and libido without embarrassment. We agreed that doctors often downplay these issues, and that we have to become our own advocates. Our conversation reminded me that reclaiming pleasure, at any age, is important and possible because desire doesn’t retire.You can find Angela here.00:00 Introduction to Substack and Its Community01:42 The Birth of The Real Girl’s Guide04:21 Reclaiming Sexual Power After 5010:16 The Impact of Upbringing on Sexual Awareness14:55 Exploring Pleasure and Self-Discovery19:20 The Importance of Communication in Relationships24:14 Navigating Sexuality in Later Life32:01 The Ongoing Journey of Sexual EmpowermentHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Marie Morice, whom I have met in real life! She’s a clinical sexologist and advocate for sexual health, and we spoke about the importance of sexual justice and its intersection with ageing, pleasure, and health. With World Sexual Health Day as a backdrop, we explore the theme of sexual justice—ensuring everyone, regardless of age, gender, or ability, has access to sexual health, autonomy, and pleasure.Marie shares her insights on societal stigmas around older adults’ sexuality, the unique challenges faced by LGBTQIA+ individuals and those with disabilities, and the critical need for intersectionality in sexual health advocacy. We also discuss the impact of climate change on women’s reproductive rights, access to healthcare, and the harmful chemicals present in intimate products.Marie has recently designed Pleasure Atelier workshops, to help midlife and older women reclaim their relationship with pleasure and wellness, introducing them to innovative sex toys and emphasising the importance of embracing fun and pleasure in everyday life.For more information, visit Marie’s work at the Women’s Environmental Network or join her Pleasure Atelier workshops.00:00 Introduction to Sexual Health and Justice02:45 Understanding Sexual Justice05:54 Barriers to Sexual Health for Older Adults08:44 Cultural Perspectives on Sexual Health11:28 The Impact of Climate Change on Sexual Health14:16 Access to Sexual Health Services17:08 The Role of Pleasure in Sexual Health19:43 Advocacy for Women’s Health Products22:42 The Pleasure Atelier and Reclaiming PleasureHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

Sarah Ward helps people get undressed — literally and emotionally.As a Certified Sexologist and Somatic Sex Coach, she guides clients to reconnect with their bodies, reclaim their pleasure, and shed shame rooted in religious and cultural conditioning.Before this, Sarah spent a decade as a wardrobe stylist and art director, with over 5,000+ photo shoots under her belt, to help clients feel confident fully clothed. Now, she helps them feel even better in their own skin.During this episode we explored the complexities of intimacy, communication, and sexual desires, particularly for older adults. We talked about the challenge of asking for what one wants in the bedroom, which I suspect, isn’t solely a problem of the Boomer and beyond generation, but is challenging at any stage of adult life! We also spoke about the impact of hormones on libido, and the importance of trust and safety in relationships. Our conversation also delved into the concept of erotic blueprints, which is Sarah’s area of expertise, and how understanding different desires can enhance sexual experiences. Ultimately, it all boils down to the need for open communication and the courage to explore fantasies without fear.Links:* Website: www.sarahward.co* Blog: * Social media: www.instagram.com/sarahward.coAs a FREE gift, Sarah invites you to download The Sensual Embodiment Guide, which is a 12-page ebook with an audio practice that listeners can use to help reconnect with their sensual selves. Why Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires.Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource.For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life:What You’ll Get as a Subscriber:* Exclusive Content: Every week, I share personal stories, erotic experiences, podcast highlights, sex toy reviews, or fresh perspectives—all behind a paywall for subscribers only.* Practical Resources: Receive a free copy of my book Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, packed with tools to enhance your pleasure.* Private Access: Join a private chat community where you can ask me (or other members) personal questions in a supportive, judgment-free space.* Advocacy in Action: Your subscription helps me advocate for sexual pleasure in later life, from speaking at events to distributing practical guides like Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life. Together, we can smash those final taboos around aging and intimacy.Why Our Readers Love It:* “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”* “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”* “Straight non-judgmental information that relates to my needs.”By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life.Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age.Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this enlightening episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I am joined by Dr. Rebecca Lahann, a licensed psychologist and certified sex therapist, to discuss the multiple challenges that older people experience in their quest for pleasurable sex, from physical limitations and hormonal shifts to the impact of medications. Dr. Lahan shares her insights on fostering emotional connection, adapting to physical changes, and debunking myths about ageing and libido.We also discussed the rising rates of STIs among older adults, the importance of communication, and the need for education on sexual health in senior living and retirement communities. Touching on LGBTQ+ experiences and non-traditional relationships, this episode emphasises the importance of redefining intimacy and exploring sexuality authentically at any age.Dr. Lahann offers practical advice, including safe practices, accommodations for physical limitations, and the role of healthcare professionals in supporting older adults’ sexual health. For more resources, visit Dr. Lahann’s website at drrebeccalehann.com.00:00 Introduction to Seniors and Sexuality01:50 Understanding the Impact of Aging on Sexuality05:37 The Role of Medications in Sexual Function08:19 Debunking Myths About Seniors and Sex11:10 Fostering Emotional Connection and Intimacy12:59 Adapting Sexual Practices for Physical Limitations16:31 Hormonal Changes and Their Effects on Sexuality18:32 Addressing STIs in Older Adults20:58 Supporting LGBTQ+ Seniors in Sexual Health24:39 The Need for Broader Sexual Health Education27:33 Future Directions in Sexual Health for SeniorsHi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast.Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Thousands of people are saying, I’m so grateful Suzanne has taken on one of the big taboos because I wouldn’t have the confidence to do it. If you’d like to support me talking about sexual pleasure in later life, hit subscribe.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.”Subscribe now and discover why desire never retires. Sexy stories, stimulating podcasts, great deals on products to support your sexual health. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I welcome back Michelle Jermy, psychotherapist and founder of The Yoni Therapist, to discuss her groundbreaking work on women’s sexual health, low libido, and the often-overlooked relational aspects of desire.Michelle shares her mission to help clinicians and patients better address issues like low libido, pain during penetration, and the pressures many women feel to “perform” sexually. While current clinical tools like the Female Sexual Function Index, which I have never heard mentioned previously, focus on biomedical factors, Michelle emphasises the need to explore relational and emotional dynamics. She is developing a new toolkit to help clinicians ask deeper, more relevant questions, such as, “Do you feel pressured to have sex to maintain your relationship?” or “Do you know what brings you sexual pleasure?”The conversation highlights how women’s sexual health is often dismissed or under explored in clinical settings. We discussed the importance of clinicians adopting a more expansive view of sex—not just focusing on penetration, but including a full spectrum of intimacy and pleasure. Michelle also stresses how understanding basic wellness factors, such as sleep, mental health, and physical touch, is essential for restoring desire. We tend to think of libido as purely driven by hormones, but as we discussed in this episode and I have discussed in previous conversations with doctors such as Lauren Streicher MD, it’s much more complex than that!Michelle’s upcoming research project aims to train clinicians and provide tools for better addressing women’s sexual health concerns. For patients, she advocates for proactive communication with healthcare providers, even suggesting template letters to help women articulate their needs confidently.It’s so important that we normalise conversations about women’s pleasure and sexual health, in order to bridge the gap between patients and clinicians.Why Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires.Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource.For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life:What You’ll Get as a Subscriber:* Exclusive Content: Every week, I share personal stories, erotic experiences, podcast highlights, sex toy reviews, or fresh perspectives—all behind a paywall for subscribers only.* Practical Resources: Receive a free copy of my book Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, packed with tools to enhance your pleasure.* Private Access: Join a private chat community where you can ask me (or other members) personal questions in a supportive, judgment-free space.* Advocacy in Action: Your subscription helps me advocate for sexual pleasure in later life, from speaking at events to distributing practical guides like Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life. Together, we can smash those final taboos around aging and intimacy.Why Our Readers Love It:* “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”* “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”* “Straight non-judgmental information that relates to my needs.”By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life.Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age.Subscribe now and rediscover why desire never retires.Let’s help smash one of the final taboos. Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors and discover why desire never retires. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

In this week’s episode of Sex Advice for Seniors, I sat down with Sabrina Baldini, a TED speaker, sex educator, and self-proclaimed “geriatric millennial,” to explore how ADHD impacts sex, relationships, and intimacy. As someone diagnosed with ADHD herself, Sabrina provided fascinating insights into how neurodivergence shapes sexual behavior and emotional dynamics. And, if you’ve ever wondered whether you may have ADHD, then this conversation may turn out to be a real eye opener!ADHD often manifests as extremes, hyperfocus or complete disinterest, which can significantly impact sexual experiences. Sabrina explained how people with ADHD may experience intense bursts of desire or crave novelty to stay engaged. This drive for dopamine can lead to risky behaviours, but it can also be channeled into creative ways to keep sex exciting, such as role play, sexting, or trying new activities.We discussed the challenges of mismatched sex drives, emotional regulation, and rejection sensitivity, which are common for people with ADHD. Sabrina highlighted how kink can be a powerful tool for those with ADHD, as its structure and clear boundaries provide a sense of safety and reduce the risk of failure. From brats and power dynamics to playful exploration, kink offers an outlet for creativity and novelty while fostering connection.Sabrina also illuminated the broader need to redefine sex as more than just penetration. By expanding our understanding of intimacy and pleasure, we can create more fulfilling connections… whether or not ADHD is part of the equation.This conversation was a real eye opener for me and if you’re curious about the intersection of neurodivergence and intimacy, I encourage you to have a listen! Whether you’re neurotypical or neurodivergent, Sabrina reminds us to stay curious, playful, and open to exploring what works for you and your partner.You can find Sabrina’s website here.00:00 Introduction to ADHD and Sex Life02:46 Understanding ADHD and Its Impact on Relationships05:33 Neurodivergence and Sexual Health08:23 The Role of Novelty in Sexual Engagement11:20 Authority Dynamics in Sexual Relationships13:57 Hyperfocus and Its Effects on Sexual Experience16:54 Navigating Rejection Sensitivity in Relationships19:45 Kink as a Tool for ADHD and Sexual Exploration22:43 Defining Sex and Intimacy25:35 Conclusion and Final Thoughts on ADHD and SexualityWhy Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors? Because Desire Never Retires.Hi, I’m Suzanne Noble, author of the bestselling The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir, and passionate advocate for sexual pleasure at every age. If you’re curious about improving your intimate relationships as you age, then Sex Advice for Seniors is your ultimate resource.For just £6.99/month, you’ll unlock a wealth of benefits designed to inspire, educate, and empower you to live a more fulfilled, pleasure-filled life:What You’ll Get as a Subscriber:* Exclusive Content: Every week, I share personal stories, erotic experiences, podcast highlights, sex toy reviews, or fresh perspectives—all behind a paywall for subscribers only.* Practical Resources: Receive a free copy of my book Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life, packed with tools to enhance your pleasure.* Private Access: Join a private chat community where you can ask me (or other members) personal questions in a supportive, judgment-free space.* Advocacy in Action: Your subscription helps me advocate for sexual pleasure in later life, from speaking at events to distributing practical guides like Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life. Together, we can smash those final taboos around aging and intimacy.Why Our Readers Love It:* “Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”* “I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”* “Straight non-judgmental information that relates to my needs.”By subscribing, you’re not just accessing valuable content—you’re joining a movement to challenge outdated taboos and celebrate the joy of intimacy at every stage of life.Let’s keep the conversation going. For just £6.99/month (or £49.99/year), you can help ensure that the right to pleasure and connection doesn’t end with age.Subscribe now and rediscover why desire never retires.Let’s help smash one of the final taboos. Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors and discover why desire never retires. Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe

On this week’s episode, I covered a topic I’ve never covered before: pegging. So strap onto your strap-on, this is going to be an out there ride! Joining me was Luna Matatas, a Toronto-based sex and pleasure educator with 15+ years of experience in kink, anal play, and Femdom. Luna’s expertise and humour made this conversation both fun and very spicy.Pegging, in simple terms, is when a cisgender woman uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate a cisgender male partner. Beyond the physical act, it explores vulnerability and gender role subversion, which many find deeply thrilling. Or not. When it comes to pegging, my personal experience is that it’s like Marmite - the sticky brown stuff that the British love to put on their bread that tastes of beef stock. It’s personal whether you love it or loathe it. (Maybe that’s not quite the right analogy but I’m certain you know what I mean). And same goes for pegging. I know men whom became obsessed after a pegging session and a bigger group that think that any form of anal play means they are almost certainly gay.My personal opinion is that exploring our errogonous zones is one of life’s greatest pleasures so why should bums be off limit? However, when it comes to pegging, there are a few ground rules that make the whole experience much more pleasurable.Here are Luna’s practical tips:* Preparation Matters: Start small, warm up with external stimulation, and always use plenty of lube. As Luna says, “If you think you have enough lube, add more.”* Communication is Key: When bringing up pegging, focus on the feelings or desires behind the fantasy. This opens the door to mutual exploration without pressure.* Aftercare is Essential: Emotional and physical check-ins post-pegging are vital. Whether it’s cuddling, talking, or a warm bath, aftercare helps everyone feel grounded.We also discussed how societal attitudes toward pleasure and masculinity are shifting, with younger generations embracing curiosity and shedding shame.This conversation was a reminder to stay curious and open to new experiences. Luna was an absolute hoot, and I can’t wait to have her back to dive into more topics like Femdom. Until next time, take care and remember: desire doesn’t retire! 00:00 Introduction to Pegging and Its Appeal02:51 Understanding the Mechanics of Pegging05:38 The Emotional Aspects of Pegging08:28 Power Dynamics in Pegging11:19 Communication and Consent in Pegging14:20 Tools and Techniques for Pegging17:08 Building Confidence in Pegging19:47 Aftercare and Recovery22:50 Societal Changes and Attitudes Towards PeggingYou can find Luna Matatas here.Hi, I’m Suzanne, author of the bestseller ‘The Butcher, the Baker, the Candlestick Maker: An Erotic Memoir,’ pleasure seeker and curious about ways to improve our intimate relationships as we age.Each week, I delve into a different aspects of sex, dating and relationships with an expert which I bring to you via the Sex Advice for Seniors podcast. Once a week, I write or invite a guest to write a more personal story, which could be in the form of an erotic experience, a sex toy review, podcast highlights or perhaps a new perspective, typically behind a paywall.Alongside this Substack, I advocate for the right to sexual pleasure in later life through speaking engagements, attending conferences and other events, which your subscription helps to pay me to attend and to distribute printed booklets of ‘Sex Toys for Thriving in Later Life.’Let’s help smash one of the final taboos. Subscribe to Sex Advice for Seniors and discover why desire never retires.Being a subscriber has multiple benefits for you:* Receive my book, ‘Sex Toys & Supplements for Thriving in Later Life’* Join my private chat where you can ask questions of a personal nature* Helping to contribute to the conversation around sex and sexual health in later lifeI’m grateful for each and every subscriber that pays £6.99 or £49.99 per year so do consider taking a subscription if you have the means to do so.Hey, but don’t take it from me. Here’s what others say about Sex Advice for Seniors:“Not enough older voices talking about sex. Are we just supposed to dry up and fade away?”“I enjoy staying abreast of new ideas and learning new ways to please my wife.”“Straight non judgmental information that relates to my needs.” Get full access to Sex Advice for Seniors at www.sexadviceforseniors.com/subscribe