#11 – Stop sabotaging your relationships, OK? | Lori Gottlieb

Queer dating coach Ariella Serur is on a mission to disrupt traditional dating advice. Why? Because online dating should exciting, not exhausting. In addition to being a dating coach, Ariella is currently receiving a Graduate Advanced Certificate from Columbia University's School of Psychology in Sexuality, Women, and Gender with a concentration in LGBTQ Issues. Today, she's here to talk about how queer daters can courageously navigate the dating landscape without feeling overwhelmed. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

As, comedians and hosts of the hit podcast “Girls Gotta Eat,” Rayna Greenberg and Ashley Hesseltine are experts at going beyond the surface and really connecting with people. So today, they’re going to help us ditch the boring small talk and get to the good stuff. Let’s learn from Rayna and Ashley about how we can make conversations with our dates actually fun and juicy. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

Today I'm joined by Kimmy Seltzer, a competence therapist, authentic dating strategist, and host of the hit podcast: The Charisma Quotient. Today, we're going to talk about flirting.   This is a not-so-secret way for me to get better at flirting. I'm in a relationship. However, I don’t think it matters if you're dating or in a relationship - you can always get better at flirting to spice up your dating life or your relationship. And Kim is the perfect person because she runs a multitude of learning workshops, like last weekend’s Hawaii immersion class. Kimmy Seltzer is an image expert, dating coach, and matchmaker. She helps clients all over the world to unveil their most beautiful selves. Whether it’s updating your image or transforming your dating life, her philosophy is simple: work from the inside-out to achieve your goals and boost your self-confidence. This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

I am really excited to have an amazing dating coach with me here today. Damona is not only a renowned dating coach who regularly shares her dating expertise on media outlets like the LA Times, the Washington Post, and the Drew Barrymore Show. She also has an amazing podcast as well, which is now just celebrated its 350th episode.  One thing that I think is very unique about her, compared to other dating coaches that I've interviewed, is that she has spoken extensively about race and dating. Damona grew up in a family of interracial marriage; a white Jewish father and African American mother, who also have different religious backgrounds. This is a topic that influenced and shaped her. This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

Today I'm joined by author, podcast host, and dating coach Evan Marc Katz, who focuses his expertise on how to help strong, successful women find a lasting relationship that fits them best. Alexa, play “Single Ladies” and let’s get into it.  This is “Save the Date,” a dating survival kit from Coffee Meets Bagel. In each episode, our Chief Dating Officer Dawoon Kang will sit down with a guest expert to tackle some of your most burning dating questions and explore what it takes to ultimately reach your goals: going on great dates that lead to a lasting, serious relationship. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

Today, I'm really honored to have Anna Sale, creator of the hit podcast from WNYC Studios called “Death, Sex & Money,” with me here today. In her podcast as well as her new book, “Let's Talk About Hard Things,” she dives deeply into subjects that are really hard to talk about, but we need to be talking about more: death, sex, money, family, and identity. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

How we can approach the topic of sex with confidence and comfort? Shadeen Francis is a licensed psychotherapist, media personality graduate professor, and author whose expertise spans the domain of sex therapy, emotional intelligence, and social justice. Let’s get into it. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

We’re joined by Dr. Morgan Anderson, a clinical psychologist, relationship coach, and host of the “Let's Get Vulnerable” podcast. Love that: let's get vulnerable. Today, we’re not only going to talk about attachment styles, we're going to dig into how your attachment style could be making or breaking your dating life. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

Today’s interview features two dating coaches turned dating sociologists, Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. Yue and Julie are the hosts of Dateable, one of the top podcasts about dating, love, and sex. Even though we’ve been at it for a little while, we’re all still figuring out how to date during COVID-19. So let’s talk practical tips, from texting to video chats, and dig into why now is actually a pretty great time to be dating. http://coffeemeetsbagel.com

We all know what we want in our dating life: to be in a great relationship. But what is stopping us from having that? There could be a lot of factors, but a major one could actually be us getting in our own way. Lori Gottlieb is a psychotherapist and author of not one but two New York Times best-selling books: “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” which is currently being adapted as a TV series, and “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough.” http://coffeemeetsbagel.com